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Put "xxxx" on the subject line - does this work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

a load of pish

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I never bother although my code phrase is "Steve we both are gagging for you" so even if the content of the message says 'get lost', the title looks very welcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First rule of fab, never message anyone with a "code word"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a load of pish"

How uncanny, that's exactly what I ask anyone who messages me to write

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"a load of pish

How uncanny, that's exactly what I ask anyone who messages me to write "

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"First rule of fab, never message anyone with a "code word"..."

Why not?

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?"

Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?

Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked."

So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First rule of fab, never message anyone with a "code word"..."

Yep, bugger that for a lark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile and mention the codeword if there is one, but it doesn't seem to improve my low batting average!!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?

Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.

So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really....."

If that's the only thing they've picked up on from our profile then yes. Ours contains all the info that anyone needs to get in touch and take things further but when the heading is correct but the message is along the lines of...

How are you finding the site?

How are you?

Can we meet in 20 mins?

xxx

?x

All the above are direct quotes from the last few scintillating messages we've received since yesterday and yes they do get ignored unless I'm in a funny mood then they either get a stupid or sarcastic reply. Those that do as we ask get a polite and personalised 'thanks but no thanks' type of reply if they're not for us. The others get a reply that always leaves an opening for a reply that could take things further and then it's up to them. Our profile is here so that people can read it and then choose to meet us as long as they're who we're looking for. If people choose to ignore what we write (apart from the code word) then why should we do anything different with the unsolicited mail that appears in our inbox?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?

Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.

So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really.....

If that's the only thing they've picked up on from our profile then yes. Ours contains all the info that anyone needs to get in touch and take things further but when the heading is correct but the message is along the lines of...

How are you finding the site?

How are you?

Can we meet in 20 mins?

xxx

?x

All the above are direct quotes from the last few scintillating messages we've received since yesterday and yes they do get ignored unless I'm in a funny mood then they either get a stupid or sarcastic reply. Those that do as we ask get a polite and personalised 'thanks but no thanks' type of reply if they're not for us. The others get a reply that always leaves an opening for a reply that could take things further and then it's up to them. Our profile is here so that people can read it and then choose to meet us as long as they're who we're looking for. If people choose to ignore what we write (apart from the code word) then why should we do anything different with the unsolicited mail that appears in our inbox?"

Can't say fairer than that! Is that all some people can be bothered to write?

I write based on profile etc....if I get lumped in with people like that then no wonder I get very little back!!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?

Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.

So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really.....

If that's the only thing they've picked up on from our profile then yes. Ours contains all the info that anyone needs to get in touch and take things further but when the heading is correct but the message is along the lines of...

How are you finding the site?

How are you?

Can we meet in 20 mins?

xxx

?x

All the above are direct quotes from the last few scintillating messages we've received since yesterday and yes they do get ignored unless I'm in a funny mood then they either get a stupid or sarcastic reply. Those that do as we ask get a polite and personalised 'thanks but no thanks' type of reply if they're not for us. The others get a reply that always leaves an opening for a reply that could take things further and then it's up to them. Our profile is here so that people can read it and then choose to meet us as long as they're who we're looking for. If people choose to ignore what we write (apart from the code word) then why should we do anything different with the unsolicited mail that appears in our inbox?

Can't say fairer than that! Is that all some people can be bothered to write?

I write based on profile etc....if I get lumped in with people like that then no wonder I get very little back!!"

Tis the way of Fab sometimes. I'm not kicking single guys either as there are similar couples and females that do the same and being an 'equal opportunities'couple we don't treat them any differently. Unfortunately with so many more single guys behaving like that it does tend to skew our _iew somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First rule of fab, never message anyone with a "code word"..."

Ooh, I had no idea! Must have missed this one out during orientation.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

You're right OP. It's so easy to scan the secret magic word.

I ask for folk to read my profile, most don't and that's obvious in how they approach.

I'll never message anyone who demands one. Get off your pedestal

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"You're right OP. It's so easy to scan the secret magic word.

I ask for folk to read my profile, most don't and that's obvious in how they approach.

I'll never message anyone who demands one. Get off your pedestal "

We don't demand one and we do reply to folks that don't use it but only when the message and profile interest us. We're all different and we all use Fab the way we want to...It works for us and that's all we care about. There's plenty of room on our pedestal for fellow Fabbers that see things the way we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about probability, a concept your average member struggles with. For the record, our experience is that messages with the code word are well above average in quality and accordingly much more likely to get a reply.

We pretty much reply to all that use the code word, unless someone has clearly skim read the profile to find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're right OP. It's so easy to scan the secret magic word.

I ask for folk to read my profile, most don't and that's obvious in how they approach.

I'll never message anyone who demands one. Get off your pedestal

We don't demand one and we do reply to folks that don't use it but only when the message and profile interest us. We're all different and we all use Fab the way we want to...It works for us and that's all we care about. There's plenty of room on our pedestal for fellow Fabbers that see things the way we do."

So if you delete some messages which do include the code word, and respond to some which don't, depending on whether you like the message or not, what's the point in it?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

It does always make me want to reply deliberately using the wrong word, just to see what happens.

We guarantee sex with anyone who uses our secret codeword. We've never had to 'pay out' yet...

Mr ddc

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?

These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?"

I use to have a code word, Evian, people use to think it was "Naive" backwards (just had a bottle of water)

I don't have it now, but was a way of at least filtering to see if people even put the effort in to get past my pictures and at least attempt to read or skim my profile.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Adhering to a profile code does garantee a response let alone a meet.

I respond to a profile because I like it not and to confirm to those requirements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might put "block and delete" as our code word/phrase, I wonder how many people will fall for it? Ess

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I think it depends what the rest of the content of the profile is like. If the profile has interesting content then it isn't such a terrible thing.

However, the request to add a specific line in a message or in a reply to a "DO NOT CONTACT ME IF/IF NOT" profile simply doubles the unattractiveness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops are we meant to have a phrase?

Makes no difference for me.. any (almost) message received is always fun, we just hope that our profile has been read

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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have a paragraph stating if you've read so far yadda yadda phrase in the title & so on.

But in the paragraph before hand if they have read the profile they'll have read to ignore using the phrase. Makes it easy to see who just skims for the phrase.

Not that it makes much difference, haha

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

if you have to put a phrase/word in a title to show you have read a profile then if it's yor profile your probably not interested in anyone anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We might put "block and delete" as our code word/phrase, I wonder how many people will fall for it? Ess"

I totally would! What a loop.


"I have a paragraph stating if you've read so far yadda yadda phrase in the title & so on.

But in the paragraph before hand if they have read the profile they'll have read to ignore using the phrase. Makes it easy to see who just skims for the phrase."

... but then you can only identify who's skim-read. Those who have read entirely or not at all fall in the same category, what's the use of that? heh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair we have messaged people who ask for a code word and never used it and still had replies and meets,because the message probably caught their attention... My point therefore is if you are not going to stick to your own rules why have them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to scan a profile before messaging, and rarely look at them in depth. Code words sometimes work for me, but sometimes they don't. I've also messaged people with code words on their profile that have messaged back, apparently not expecting people to use code words. I've also had people insisting that I used code words.

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

I don't mind using a codeword if it seperates me from the rest and if couples of singlr ladies feel it s out timewasters. Presonally though i always read the profiles and try to make any first message reflect what I've seen, admittedly i often look at the pics before i read the text but im only human

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