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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? " Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past......." interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past......." just want to add the fun before hand to me is socialising we even discussed my time of here what id been up to I have played with her with other couples and single guys who really enjoy the social side of sex to, I find if the company is really right the sexual high is so much higher afterwards than when its not really there .  | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... just want to add the fun before hand to me is socialising we even discussed my time of here what id been up to I have played with her with other couples and single guys who really enjoy the social side of sex to, I find if the company is really right the sexual high is so much higher afterwards than when its not really there . "I wasn't disagreeing with my friend. Sorry if it came across that way. I suppose in a confused way I was trying to explain why the 'high' can be more than a club. Though there must be the right chemistry and social interaction in a club too | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me "interesting why can't fantasy and reality mix . as a assertive male I have taken a sub of mine out for a meal stayed in my assertive zone through the whole meal and then taken her back to the hotel delivered a total assertive evening of debauched fun the first time I ever got a sub into her sub space was by playing with her in this way. | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me "This is fantasy for me too but it doesn't preclude social niceties. I don't play "nice" and play at home with constraints etc, so my playmates need to feel secure. Drink/dinner is all part and parcel of the experience for my playmates and I. The last one on one meet I had was 2013...He's snoring beside me.  | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me
This is fantasy for me too but it doesn't preclude social niceties. I don't play "nice" and play at home with constraints etc, so my playmates need to feel secure.
Drink/dinner is all part and parcel of the experience for my playmates and I. The last one on one meet I had was 2013...He's snoring beside me. "so you got him into a one to one situation bashed him over the head some three years ago and your still toying with him . bloody hell that's one long play date in my opinion no wonder he's having a sleep  | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me
This is fantasy for me too but it doesn't preclude social niceties. I don't play "nice" and play at home with constraints etc, so my playmates need to feel secure.
Drink/dinner is all part and parcel of the experience for my playmates and I. The last one on one meet I had was 2013...He's snoring beside me.
so you got him into a one to one situation bashed him over the head some three years ago and your still toying with him .
bloody hell that's one long play date in my opinion no wonder he's having a sleep " | |||
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" ... Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? " Yes. The chemistry and spark makes it all a million times better. 
Probably why I'm not keen on swinging alone. With a partner it was totally different. The anticipation and build up and sharing the experience.
But when you meet the right person and share fireworks.... | |||
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" ... Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Yes. The chemistry and spark makes it all a million times better.
Probably why I'm not keen on swinging alone. With a partner it was totally different. The anticipation and build up and sharing the experience.
But when you meet the right person and share fireworks.... "I knew you'd get it scarlet great minds think alike and when they disagree the just fuck it out  | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me
This is fantasy for me too but it doesn't preclude social niceties. I don't play "nice" and play at home with constraints etc, so my playmates need to feel secure.
Drink/dinner is all part and parcel of the experience for my playmates and I. The last one on one meet I had was 2013...He's snoring beside me. "I shall rephrase.. I like to go out for dinner, and sleep beside my partner at home.. I don't on a meet, I like that to be quite raw, the fantasies I live out are very much based around my BDSM interests, and things like a meal just don't fit with that.. I don't walk in and walk out, I just save the coffee and pleasantries until afterwards | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me
This is fantasy for me too but it doesn't preclude social niceties. I don't play "nice" and play at home with constraints etc, so my playmates need to feel secure.
Drink/dinner is all part and parcel of the experience for my playmates and I. The last one on one meet I had was 2013...He's snoring beside me.
I shall rephrase.. I like to go out for dinner, and sleep beside my partner at home..
I don't on a meet, I like that to be quite raw, the fantasies I live out are very much based around my BDSM interests, and things like a meal just don't fit with that..
I don't walk in and walk out, I just save the coffee and pleasantries until afterwards "interesting putting a collar on your nipple clamps a butt plug love eggs insert then taking you out for a meal would be part of my normal dynamic with a sub .not all the time but part of the dynamic now and again . part of putting her mind in the right place for the real fun later ....I to never spend the night with a play partner unless I've took them away for the weekend . | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour " Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? "
This is how I conduct myself here. I love these types of highs, which means fuck and goes with strangers are a no no. It's never just about the sex for me. | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. " I don't my profile has fbw all over it and yes I have a emotional investment in my friendship which means I care about there wellbeing away from the sex . but that's natural behaviour for me I care about my male friends wellbeing to and I don't sleep with them. its about giving freely regardless of the cost to you . when you can get your head around that fact and except the fact you care with all the connotations that come with that in my opinion one is truly free to explore the friendship . | |||
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"Afraid not, I do a social meet first, but the idea of a meal is too close to reality, and this is fantasy for me
This is fantasy for me too but it doesn't preclude social niceties. I don't play "nice" and play at home with constraints etc, so my playmates need to feel secure.
Drink/dinner is all part and parcel of the experience for my playmates and I. The last one on one meet I had was 2013...He's snoring beside me.
I shall rephrase.. I like to go out for dinner, and sleep beside my partner at home..
I don't on a meet, I like that to be quite raw, the fantasies I live out are very much based around my BDSM interests, and things like a meal just don't fit with that..
I don't walk in and walk out, I just save the coffee and pleasantries until afterwards
interesting putting a collar on your nipple clamps a butt plug love eggs insert then taking you out for a meal would be part of my normal dynamic with a sub .not all the time but part of the dynamic now and again .
part of putting her mind in the right place for the real fun later ....I to never spend the night with a play partner unless I've took them away for the weekend ." | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. I don't my profile has fbw all over it and yes I have a emotional investment in my friendship which means I care about there wellbeing away from the sex . but that's natural behaviour for me I care about my male friends wellbeing to and I don't sleep with them. its about giving freely regardless of the cost to you . when you can get your head around that fact and except the fact you care with all the connotations that come with that in my opinion one is truly free to explore the friendship . " Have you got an extra y chromosome? You sound very nurturing. Keep this and integrity and you'll be a pretty amazing person | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. I don't my profile has fbw all over it and yes I have a emotional investment in my friendship which means I care about there wellbeing away from the sex . but that's natural behaviour for me I care about my male friends wellbeing to and I don't sleep with them. its about giving freely regardless of the cost to you . when you can get your head around that fact and except the fact you care with all the connotations that come with that in my opinion one is truly free to explore the friendship . " Yes I agree. | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. I don't my profile has fbw all over it and yes I have a emotional investment in my friendship which means I care about there wellbeing away from the sex . but that's natural behaviour for me I care about my male friends wellbeing to and I don't sleep with them. its about giving freely regardless of the cost to you . when you can get your head around that fact and except the fact you care with all the connotations that come with that in my opinion one is truly free to explore the friendship . Have you got an extra y chromosome? You sound very nurturing. Keep this and integrity and you'll be a pretty amazing person "I don't know about being a amazing person as for the extra y chromosome may be I come from a one parent family raised by my mum had to be her little man from a very young age . this and other things do mean I think differently from others I used to think it was a curse being different but then I realised it was only a curse if I allowed myself to think it was . | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. I don't my profile has fbw all over it and yes I have a emotional investment in my friendship which means I care about there wellbeing away from the sex . but that's natural behaviour for me I care about my male friends wellbeing to and I don't sleep with them. its about giving freely regardless of the cost to you . when you can get your head around that fact and except the fact you care with all the connotations that come with that in my opinion one is truly free to explore the friendship . Have you got an extra y chromosome? You sound very nurturing. Keep this and integrity and you'll be a pretty amazing person
I don't know about being a amazing person as for the extra y chromosome may be I come from a one parent family raised by my mum had to be her little man from a very young age .
this and other things do mean I think differently from others I used to think it was a curse being different but then I realised it was only a curse if I allowed myself to think it was ."She obviously did a brilliant job. I have met guys who have put themselves forward like you but then have been found as deceitful. C'est la vie sadly. | |||
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"Last night I had a play date . Now I know to some swingers the word date is a dirty word to describe a meet . i view all my regular or semis regular meets as dates even a date which is a quick hour of intense sex due to time constraints I.E meet me for lunch I really need a good seeing to by you to help me get through this crap week. Back to last night I picked her up from her place we drove out to local gourmet pub for a chat a drink and a meal . The conversation was so great so free sometimes a bit teasing a bit naughty that by the time it came to leave I was totally turn on not physically but most definitely mentally but that I mean I was on a natural high from having a great evening out with a great person . Drove her home and on the way said can I come in for five minutes she said yes with a knowing smile . Got back to her place at 10.30 roughly left at about 1.30 am totally on cloud nine from the whole nights entertainment . So my question is this I can play in clubs I can play with more or less strangers in a club environment or at a private party . but nun of that gives me in any way the kind of natural high as the fun above does .don't get me wrong clubs can be fun private parties to but the high they give me can not compare to the high a date like above gives me . Any couples or singles out there get where I'm coming from on this and do they get a higher high from the whole package then the sex instead of just sex….? Sex is just that, sex. To have a 'date' first is different. Different circumstances, different emotions. You commit more of your self when on a date as it's just the 2 of you concentrating solely on each other. So it's only natural that you feel a greater 'high'. This my friend is why we get 'attached' to other people. Hell I've even heard people call it love in the past....... interesting take but its the chemistry that's real its there whether sex is on the table or not so the sex is icing on a already great cake . I have no trouble with giving freely of myself as I don't fear emotional attachment to my friends to me its madness to fear that which is natural human behaviour Me too, but you cannot then claim 'nsa' in my view - emotions ARE strings. If that's what you want, and that's what you set out create, you have to accept it comes with duty of care to the same degree, otherwise you are just a player. I don't my profile has fbw all over it and yes I have a emotional investment in my friendship which means I care about there wellbeing away from the sex . but that's natural behaviour for me I care about my male friends wellbeing to and I don't sleep with them. its about giving freely regardless of the cost to you . when you can get your head around that fact and except the fact you care with all the connotations that come with that in my opinion one is truly free to explore the friendship . Have you got an extra y chromosome? You sound very nurturing. Keep this and integrity and you'll be a pretty amazing person
I don't know about being a amazing person as for the extra y chromosome may be I come from a one parent family raised by my mum had to be her little man from a very young age .
this and other things do mean I think differently from others I used to think it was a curse being different but then I realised it was only a curse if I allowed myself to think it was .
She obviously did a brilliant job. I have met guys who have put themselves forward like you but then have been found as deceitful. C'est la vie sadly."that's not me I say it as it in this fwb world if I commit . I commit one hundred percent to what is agreed upon the fact I care the fact I can be stubborn have a sense of self worth and a sense of self worth to those I interact with in my pursuit of pleasure means I really can not be any other way . I can honestly say this those who know me intimately would recognise me instantly from my forums posts alone and profile , no need for pictures they would know it was me .when my play partner from last night was reading my forum posts on here she could not stop smiling at me being me in the forums on here , | |||
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"Op I couldn't have put it better , with a regular friend the social interaction of dates & spending non sexual time together just heightens the sexual play to another level "you know something mis barker the high still hasn't worn off nearly 48 hours later | |||
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"Op I couldn't have put it better , with a regular friend the social interaction of dates & spending non sexual time together just heightens the sexual play to another level
you know something mis barker the high still hasn't worn off nearly 48 hours later "Long may your friendship continue - mine has for many many years.... & we both still get that High | |||
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"Op I couldn't have put it better , with a regular friend the social interaction of dates & spending non sexual time together just heightens the sexual play to another level
you know something mis barker the high still hasn't worn off nearly 48 hours later
Long may your friendship continue - mine has for many many years.... & we both still get that High "its three years old in November we are thinking about running a couples profile on here we stop that over a year ago when another couple we had great chemistry stop playing due to moving aboard for work | |||
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"Totally agree, we have to have chemistry with our play dates or it won't go further. Ive had meets where the spark was there and the chemistry was there right from the first second to the point of all my rules I set were broken and the night was amazing. To have amazing sex I believe you need something more than simple attraction " yes you just gel with some people and it has nothing to do with looks its something more that illusive spark of genuine friendship genuine chemistry . | |||
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"Totally agree, we have to have chemistry with our play dates or it won't go further. Ive had meets where the spark was there and the chemistry was there right from the first second to the point of all my rules I set were broken and the night was amazing. To have amazing sex I believe you need something more than simple attraction yes you just gel with some people and it has nothing to do with looks its something more that illusive spark of genuine friendship genuine chemistry ." | |||
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