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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester

I do worry on here, I haven't had sex with a hundred ladies. I am very good with my hands and mouth but I do get anxious before meeting a lady on here that I may not have porn star skills. Am I alone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I get it all the time. When we meet anyone I'm always anxious and it can be a real erection killer.

That's why I like repeat meets, because the anxiety diminishes each time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do worry on here, I haven't had sex with a hundred ladies. I am very good with my hands and mouth but I do get anxious before meeting a lady on here that I may not have porn star skills. Am I alone.."

Why should you worry about that?

Everyone gets nervous prior to a meet up, it's only natural.. a build up of butterflies is a good thing IMO

But the only reason you would worry about having porn star skills would be if that's what you had promised

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Do people look for porn star results,I certainly don't?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest...we are initially meeting strangers.. even if you have had a social meet first.. and there's always the fear of under performing or not being good enough.. especially if you have read the persons or the couple's veris which are usually so great a lot is at stake to compete against!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Going by your verifications I don't think you have anything to worry about.

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I do worry on here, I haven't had sex with a hundred ladies. I am very good with my hands and mouth but I do get anxious before meeting a lady on here that I may not have porn star skills. Am I alone.."

Nerves are natural in this situation, so accept that and don't dwell on it too much. Your verifications are great and you clearly know what you're doing and give pleasure to your play partner. I always work on the basis that the lady cums first. If she's happy then I'm happy. Remember, have fun

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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"Going by your verifications I don't think you have anything to worry about."

Haha but none mentioned the sex part : )

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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"I do worry on here, I haven't had sex with a hundred ladies. I am very good with my hands and mouth but I do get anxious before meeting a lady on here that I may not have porn star skills. Am I alone..

Nerves are natural in this situation, so accept that and don't dwell on it too much. Your verifications are great and you clearly know what you're doing and give pleasure to your play partner. I always work on the basis that the lady cums first. If she's happy then I'm happy. Remember, have fun "

Haha thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not ashamed to admit that I sometimes get performance anxiety which makes things not work

I find having a chance to really get to know the other person and slowly building up to playing helps instead of everything being rush rush.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I for one would refuse to meet a man who claimed to have porn star skills. They have no concept of foreplay, just bang away for hours at angles that are best for the camera, spit, say really stupid things and generally put me right off.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I do worry on here, I haven't had sex with a hundred ladies. I am very good with my hands and mouth but I do get anxious before meeting a lady on here that I may not have porn star skills. Am I alone.."

You're not alone OP. Remember you get a lot of your information about others on here just from what you read. And I'd take a lot of that with a pinch of salt. It does appear at first glance that everyone here's a sexual master looking for fellow sexual masters to have the greatest sex that there's ever been. As you'll have noticed, everyone's a great kisser. All women give the greatest blowjobs...ever. And the place is full of men who can make women squirt just by looking at them. It's mostly just self-aggrandizing bullshit. People are just trying to sell themselves the best they can I guess and probably just get a bit carried away.

Thankfully God (ha!) made this whole sex malarkey pretty simple to pick-up and do. So don't worry if you haven't got a degree in it, it'll turn out you're probably not that different to anyone else when it comes to actually doing it. The people on here (regardless of how many people they've had sex with) are no different than anyone else. Getting to know someone a little beforehand instead of just rushing into things can help.

When it comes down to it, there'll either be a connection and compatibility and it'll be fun or there won't be. Sex should be fun. If it's not fun then it'll be crap. If it's fun then it'll be great. The whole technicalities of sex won't really matter then. Remember, it takes two to tango. Try and enjoy the moment more than thinking about the other persons sexual cv and their self-appointed sexual prowess. I'd have thought anyone expecting pornstar-type qualities in a partner a little naive and frankly immature. You can only ever be yourself remember

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I do worry on here, I haven't had sex with a hundred ladies. I am very good with my hands and mouth but I do get anxious before meeting a lady on here that I may not have porn star skills. Am I alone..

You're not alone OP. Remember you get a lot of your information about others on here just from what you read. And I'd take a lot of that with a pinch of salt. It does appear at first glance that everyone here's a sexual master looking for fellow sexual masters to have the greatest sex that there's ever been. As you'll have noticed, everyone's a great kisser. All women give the greatest blowjobs...ever. And the place is full of men who can make women squirt just by looking at them. It's mostly just self-aggrandizing bullshit. People are just trying to sell themselves the best they can I guess and probably just get a bit carried away.

Thankfully God (ha!) made this whole sex malarkey pretty simple to pick-up and do. So don't worry if you haven't got a degree in it, it'll turn out you're probably not that different to anyone else when it comes to actually doing it. The people on here (regardless of how many people they've had sex with) are no different than anyone else. Getting to know someone a little beforehand instead of just rushing into things can help.

When it comes down to it, there'll either be a connection and compatibility and it'll be fun or there won't be. Sex should be fun. If it's not fun then it'll be crap. If it's fun then it'll be great. The whole technicalities of sex won't really matter then. Remember, it takes two to tango. Try and enjoy the moment more than thinking about the other persons sexual cv and their self-appointed sexual prowess. I'd have thought anyone expecting pornstar-type qualities in a partner a little naive and frankly immature. You can only ever be yourself remember"

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