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By *andy muncher OP   Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

So do you single fems and cpls have a check list you go through before a possible meetup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in to do ? like beauty regime ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you single fems and cpls have a check list you go through before a possible meetup "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In what way?

Katie. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, but don't ask me what as I'm not saying. I don't want the men I arrange to meet knowing all the steps I take to ensure I stay safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont unless un sure about a profile or someone we talking to otherwise we r very laid back and just have fun

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"don't ask me what as I'm not saying"

Seems a bit selfish, why not publicise? it may assist others to use a similar formula

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"don't ask me what as I'm not saying

Seems a bit selfish, why not publicise? it may assist others to use a similar formula "

Go back and read the bit after - it says I don't want the men I meet to know the steps I take to protect my safety.

If I publicise then I'd have to change those steps to keep safe. Not rocket science.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"it says I don't want the men I meet to know the steps I take to protect my safety"

Why not?

It'll make them think twice should they have plans to take advantage of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not?

It'll make them think twice should they have plans to take advantage of you."

You obviously don't get it - them not knowing what I do to ensure I stay safe makes me safer. Good grief - how obvious does that need to be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it says I don't want the men I meet to know the steps I take to protect my safety

Why not?

It'll make them think twice should they have plans to take advantage of you."

Look at it this way: if she posted she got a friend to phone her half hour into a meet, if it was someone she didn't fancy she's say sorry my house alarm is going off I have to go. If she used that and was in a hotel with a meet he'd know she's lying and things get nasty!

I think she's wise not to share!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"You obviously don't get it - "

No, YOU don't get it, however


"what I do to ensure I stay safe makes me safer"

Whatever works for you is all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooops, that's a bit garbled, didn't read it back, but you get my meaning!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"I think she's wise not to share!"

We know there are some on here who don't think with the brain they were born with, I thought her advice may be beneficial to others, however, whatever she decides to post is her choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'll make them think twice should they have plans to take advantage of you.

Look at it this way: if she posted she got a friend to phone her half hour into a meet, if it was someone she didn't fancy she's say sorry my house alarm is going off I have to go. If she used that and was in a hotel with a meet he'd know she's lying and things get nasty!

I think she's wise not to share!"

Thank you! Someone who finally gets what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one thing for us you have to have been dead for @ least a month, anything else doesn't matter really

* gEts bAcK iN cOFfin * -|-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, YOU don't get it, however

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What don't I get? You are pressurising me to post my safety steps publicly to men I might one day meet. That could be men like you who might then harm me in some way.

I'm not an idiot so stop treating me like one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do you single fems and cpls have a check list you go through before a possible meetup "
would think most do

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"they just earned pride of place on my block list. "

That's the kind of comment one would expect from a child when beaten, however, it appears you always like the final say on most issues, be my gust, the threads all yours

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I do, but don't ask me what as I'm not saying. I don't want the men I arrange to meet knowing all the steps I take to ensure I stay safe. "

I think this is a dead sensible attitude, I'd be the same, your safety is paramount so why would you compromise it? Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"So do you single fems and cpls have a check list you go through before a possible meetup "

oh, and yes, we do, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do, but don't ask me what as I'm not saying. I don't want the men I arrange to meet knowing all the steps I take to ensure I stay safe.

I think this is a dead sensible attitude, I'd be the same, your safety is paramount so why would you compromise it? Z"

nods head in agreement x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this is a dead sensible attitude, I'd be the same, your safety is paramount so why would you compromise it? Z"

Thank you. Yet Bi_1_Get_1_Free thinks we're all idiots for taking responsibility for our safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this is a dead sensible attitude, I'd be the same, your safety is paramount so why would you compromise it? Z

Thank you. Yet Bi_1_Get_1_Free thinks we're all idiots for taking responsibility for our safety. "

It's a simple differing point of view. He's looking at it from a "it may help other women if you share" viewpoint, not from the perspective of a male with ill intent taking notes on how to get around a woman's safety "check" list.

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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

My checklist is simple:

Meet new people at a club or party first where you can see what you are getting into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a simple differing point of view. He's looking at it from a "it may help other women if you share" viewpoint, not from the perspective of a male with ill intent taking notes on how to get around a woman's safety "check" list."

That still doesn't make me an idiot. And insulting me like that is only going to ensure he goes on my "avoid with a very long bargepole" list.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"going to ensure he goes on my "avoid with a very long bargepole" list. "

You've a very high opinion of yourself if you think you had the remotest chance I was interested in you, blocking me will serve no purpose, I never was and never will be interested in you, your the opposite of what I find sexually attractive.

Please now leave my name out of this thread, you've stated publicly, you've blocked me, therefore, move on, and ignore my user name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

err....coming back to the original point, yes I have a check list.

And no, I am not gonna share

You either already meet what I am looking for, or else you don't.... in which case, I wish you the best of luck in finding what YOU are looking for! xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Bloody hell, is there any need for all that.

Please take time to read the rules before you post, as abusing people for posting something you don't like isn't allowed.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm


"they just earned pride of place on my block list.

That's the kind of comment one would expect from a child when beaten, however, it appears you always like the final say on most issues, be my gust, the threads all yours "

grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You certainly need some kind of security checklist. We only meet as a couple but if we're going to someone else's home or inviting people back to ours there is always a risk (bet your mother told you not to talk to strangers, well what we're doing is potentially one hell of a lot more risky than just talking if the person/s you're meeting aren't genuine like you and have some sort of ulterior motive). It's not necessarily the night of the meet that's the problem but once someone knows where you live you can't take that knowledge away from them...

It makes sense to take precautions (other than the obvious) - remember letting someone into your home means they know about your 42inch tv, state of the art home cinema or whatever and unlike other people you may meet socially who are likely to be friends or acquaintences of friends you're meeting someone whose surname and address you probably don't know and who may not even have given you their real name. (Luckily anyone wanting to pinch anything from our home would have to bring it in first!) We always try to meet socially once or twice before considering inviting anyone to our house, but that's the only precaution I'm going to tell you about...

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By *ominantPerv85Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Well, all I can say is that I would expect to be checked out before any meet anyway, subtly or not. I am open and honest, and certainly have no 'wrong intentions' etc, but it is important that everybody feels comfortable in order to have fun.

But, things work the other way round too. I have been setup before, and when going back to someones house, I don't know who could be there, or what could be planned..... That's the choice I make, and I can honestly say I find it all a little exciting But if I don't feel comfortable, then I get out of the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet in a public place first. I've already spoken with them by that point.

I meet them and if I'm happy master and I decide if it goes further...

But its always phone call. Social meet. Then if everyone's happy, we meet to play.

Katie. X

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