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How to get my misses to get more involved..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering the best way to get her involved in the swinging and webcam scene. We already do it but its not as often as I would like. Or am I bad for liking it so much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no persuading her to just because you like it. Have an open discussion about it and gauge her opinion. If it's not what you want to hear, leave it at that.

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By *ames121XXXMan
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Just wondering the best way to get her involved in the swinging and webcam scene. We already do it but its not as often as I would like. Or am I bad for liking it so much?"
Talk to her and explain how you feel

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Have you tried discussing it with her?

Be prepared for the possibility that she is already perfectly happy with the level of activity you currently enjoy, ad might find more to be uncomfortable.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

"How do I get my hubby to get less involved"

That's the likely forum title your 'misses' could post too. In other words, you want more, but she might not want more, possibly less or even feel it's at the right level. Only she knows on that score. So, a compromise is where the solution is usually found, after discussing it together and at the right time. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks like you have a good time as a couple already. Don't push her beyond her comfort zone if she doesn't want to go there - you're already in a great place compared to many attached men who would love to have a partner join them for swinging. Enjoy what you have - go gently in terms of suggesting more involvement - you know her better than anyone in terms of how much suggesting / influencing you can achieve without making her do more than she really wants. This should be fun for you both - don't make it a chore otherwise it'll be counterproductive.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love pasta....Mr A doesn't....we don't eat pasta that much.....I wish we had it more often but that's life x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The key to knowing your partners reasons for anything is communication with them. It's difficult because when you love someone you want to please them and this can lead to doing things you're not entirely comfortable with if the other person is determined to persuade them to their way of thinking. Tact and sensitivity is required along with a willingness to compromise after all some of the pie is preferable to none of the pie.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Just wondering the best way to get her involved in the swinging and webcam scene. We already do it but its not as often as I would like. Or am I bad for liking it so much?"

Not bad for liking it so much but perhaps bad for wanting to coerce your wife into getting involved in something she may not be too interested in. In our view swinging shouldn't be about pressuring anyone to do what they don't want to do - that's a form of bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some of the comments are missing a point.

Swinging is not a 'normal' activity that most people will engage in by default. The default for most people is that 72% of men and 78% of will get married, 60-70% of them will suffer some form of infidelity during the marriage and 43% of them will divorce.

That default sucks in my opinion and swinging takes away any pain from infidelity. In fact it turns it into a positive.

However, your natural comfort zone will be mainly influenced by the default norms of society. So sometimes you do need to be pushed outside that comfort zone. The real question is how hard you push. There's obviously a negative point which is basically forceful / emotional blackmail. Needless to say, that's wrong. But to assume people are going to be naturally comfortable with swinging and just need the idea to spark in their head is a bit niave for most cases.

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