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By *oggingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

How open are you? do people know you swing? friends, famiy etc...

I'm very sex positive, nudity etc isnt a taboo for me. My friends know im promiscous and swing go o clubs and parties etc few family im in touch with know, mainly sister and aunty (aunty swings) I spent time in holland and they have a much better attitude to sex. ut i think things are slowly changing here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great to be open but I don't think I'd have to guts to be public about it good on you though I'm not ashamed about it but feel people don't really need to know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Told my best mates and a few people at work know but the UK attitude to sex isn't very forgiving so I wouldn't tell many more people about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ogging coupleCouple
over a year ago

Derby

Absolutely no way our family and friends know..they'd be so shocked..

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I have told two friends.

Everyone else...it's just TMI

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking for me I would not broadcast it very far however I would not lie and if the topic comes up At work I discuss it openly. There are a couple of people at work who know and others that have known over the years. I don't think they will have gossiped but I don't know for sure. Close friends and family are different and we do not discussed it that close to home. Mr Classy

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By *oggingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paul has told 2 friends- one his best friend and the other a friend who was disclosing information so he disclosed information back.

I almost told a friend once but I decided not to at the last minute as wasn't sure what her reaction would be.

I do feel for couples it's harder as it goes against the tradition of a married couple, people don't understand open relationships.

In saying all this though I have started to see some single men alone and meet in public for drinks etc, if I was seen by someone I know (which is a concern of mine) I would rather that they knew Paul and I have a open relationship than them think I am cheating on him, thus I would be open and tell them in that event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tell anybody, not sure why I would discuss my sex life with family and friends

Some people are to open and I think they like to get a reaction out of telling others, some seem to like as many people as possible to know what they are upto

I saw a couple in a club once that i knew and they told everybody they saw me there, they didn't see any problem with that, this is why I never meet local guys because I don't want to be walking down the street and be pointed out by somebody I met to their mates

Personally I don't understand why anybody would want others to know where they are meeting their sexual play mates and what they are upto, but that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would love to be more open about what we do, Mia has often said she wants to tell friends and family that she is bisexual but I guess it's just taking that first step and the unknown of people's reactions.

But as it stands it's our dirty secret. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc"

For me its not a case of being ashamed its more discretion and privacy

A woman I work with once was talking about a swingers club I go to regular, she was saying she was interested to see what it was all about

I've been going to said club for many years but I wouldn't have dreamed of saying....oh yeah I go there....and carried on giving her information about the place, because to me that would be inappropriate as i have to work with this woman and I don't want her or anybody else she may have told knowing I go, not because I'm ashamed of going but because my private life is just that....private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very select few of our closest friends know but that's about it

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend

My best friends - three or four, know everything, other friends know about the crossdressing etc. Family, not so much. The friends that knew were totally unfazed by it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"How open are you? do people know you swing? friends, famiy etc...

I'm very sex positive, nudity etc isnt a taboo for me. My friends know im promiscous and swing go o clubs and parties etc few family im in touch with know, mainly sister and aunty (aunty swings) I spent time in holland and they have a much better attitude to sex. ut i think things are slowly changing here..."

I don't feel the need to discuss my private/sex life with family or friends. I wouldn't trust people who aren't discreet: if they feel the need to share the minutiae of their lives with everyone, they'd share mine.

I don't see the correlation between being open minded and discreet. Do people share their bank detail information? How many times they take a dump during the day? So why the details of your sex life?

Really, who cares?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't tell anybody, not sure why I would discuss my sex life with family and friends

Some people are to open and I think they like to get a reaction out of telling others, some seem to like as many people as possible to know what they are upto

I saw a couple in a club once that i knew and they told everybody they saw me there, they didn't see any problem with that, this is why I never meet local guys because I don't want to be walking down the street and be pointed out by somebody I met to their mates

Personally I don't understand why anybody would want others to know where they are meeting their sexual play mates and what they are upto, but that's just me

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I hate those types that think because they tell the world their every bodily function, that they think it's ok to tell the world about people they see at clubs. It's totally disrespectful and rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How open are you? do people know you swing? friends, famiy etc...

I'm very sex positive, nudity etc isnt a taboo for me. My friends know im promiscous and swing go o clubs and parties etc few family im in touch with know, mainly sister and aunty (aunty swings) I spent time in holland and they have a much better attitude to sex. ut i think things are slowly changing here...

I don't feel the need to discuss my private/sex life with family or friends. I wouldn't trust people who aren't discreet: if they feel the need to share the minutiae of their lives with everyone, they'd share mine.

I don't see the correlation between being open minded and discreet. Do people share their bank detail information? How many times they take a dump during the day? So why the details of your sex life?

Really, who cares?"

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We only have one friend that knows about our lifestyle and only because he used to be a swinger himself. Apart from that, we keep our privacy. It reduces the risk of idle and potentially damaging chit chat. M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 people know - both are male. I felt they'd be more accepting than my female friends.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc"

Why assume it's shame? For me it comes under too much information!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. "

This pretty much sums it up for me too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't tell anybody, not sure why I would discuss my sex life with family and friends

Some people are to open and I think they like to get a reaction out of telling others, some seem to like as many people as possible to know what they are upto

I saw a couple in a club once that i knew and they told everybody they saw me there, they didn't see any problem with that, this is why I never meet local guys because I don't want to be walking down the street and be pointed out by somebody I met to their mates

Personally I don't understand why anybody would want others to know where they are meeting their sexual play mates and what they are upto, but that's just me

"

You're not alone...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc

For me its not a case of being ashamed its more discretion and privacy

A woman I work with once was talking about a swingers club I go to regular, she was saying she was interested to see what it was all about

I've been going to said club for many years but I wouldn't have dreamed of saying....oh yeah I go there....and carried on giving her information about the place, because to me that would be inappropriate as i have to work with this woman and I don't want her or anybody else she may have told knowing I go, not because I'm ashamed of going but because my private life is just that....private "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're quite open about most things. Most of our close friends and family know that we're into BDSM and swinging. We don't shout it from the rooftops but it's not really something that we have an issue telling people about

MrsD xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't advertise it to anyone, a few people have suspected something.

As of yet, no one has come out and asked me about anything, but I'll be honest about it if they do

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't advertise it to anyone, a few people have suspected something.

As of yet, no one has come out and asked me about anything, but I'll be honest about it if they do "

Would you tell someone who asked how much money you earn? How much savings you had? How many times you'd been to the GUM clinic?

Not having a go, just curious as to where people draw the line at their privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (fem) have 2 friends who know, the reason they know is because a long time ago I was on here as a single fem so they were my safety people, knew when and where I was meeting someone just in case. Apart from that none of my friends or family knows.

With Mr, quite a lot of his close friends and family knows, but quite a few are on here, or have been, themselves

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Just my partner... Will maybe tell others in time butbit concerns our se life so I doubt it for now xx

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Had a strange experience a few years ago. We went to a friends "very up market" weddding just outside Manchester. After the wedding reception, we decided to finish off the evening in a local swingers club. Went to the bar only to find the Brides maid of honour standing there looking gorgeous and semi naked! She wasn't shocked at all, as she quite rightly pointed out, she was single and swinging was her chosen lifestyle. We often wondered if she mentioned our meeting to our friends or not!

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

We have a few close friends who know we swing.

One very close friend we told was unshocked, and admitted she and her partner have swung a few times too.

Hubbys closest female friend knows, and we have swung with her and her partner.

However we would never tell family, not sure they'd understand the "why would you" aspect of swinging!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't see it as a lifestyle, it's a very small part of our life and nobody but the people we meet knows.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

i dont tell people they just find out.

anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We like to keep it to ourselves s our sex life is nobodies business but ours.

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By *isselvieWoman
over a year ago

____

Sex life and day to day life are separate, only way I can fully give myself over to the naughty side

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. "

Totally this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a father of five I don't advertise that I swing however my eldest daughter works at one of the social venues so she is in the know so to speak so my ex probably knows ect but some close friends ect wouldn't hide it if it came up in conversation the valleys are a small minded lot at times tho grrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister, mum, and a few very close friends know. It's not the lifestyle for them, but they respect my decision and my reasons. I still respect the privacy of those I meet obviously though, would never divulge details of meets or anything! I've found people are curious about it, but thankfully have been non judgemental and pretty accepting.xx

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

R's sons know, G's brother knows and a few of our vanilla friends know. We're not ashamed of our sexuality. We are also totally open about being naturists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family is as vanilla as a vanilla plant. But my friends know what I'm really like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only some friends know the truth, some close friends suspect and family are clueless hopefully

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Due to the media everyone in Clacton where we live know of our lifestyle & work & believe it or not we don't mind as family friends & people who live there don't give a hoot what we do.

We lead a normal life outside swinging / work so people are fine about our dark side lol, we get lots of people ask what swinging & adult industry is like because to newcomers it can be a titillating novelty compared to their hum drum lives.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"i dont tell people they just find out.

anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk."

Yes this is true & if you go on Google Images & put Fab Swingers dozens of pics will pop up so its only a matter of "when" someone will find out.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Mum knows, have posted it on Farcebook, super open.

I'm a firm believer in sex positivity and talk very frankly about it. If it encourages folk into open up their sexuality or even into swinging, groovy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't spoken about it to anyone to be honest. I'm not ashamed, hence the face pics. I just see it as my business. If someone were to find out, I would not be too worried. I just don't discuss my sex life with others.

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By *oggingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

sex positive is a term not heard enough in the uk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother knows and several of redheads friends know, some are on here too. It's good that people outside of fab know that way then if I die suddenly there's someone to come along and wipe my hard drive and smash my phone

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Our two close female friends know what we get up to and are fascinated! We took one to a local club once so she could experience the atmosphere and she loved it. The other is very keen to get involved.

We've been in groups where the topic has come up in discussion. After hearing some of our friends utterly slating swingers or people who openly love casual sex as being 'perverts and weirdos', we've chosen to keep our alter egos to ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont tell people they just find out.

anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk.

Yes this is true & if you go on Google Images & put Fab Swingers dozens of pics will pop up so its only a matter of "when" someone will find out."

seriously?

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"i dont tell people they just find out.

anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk.

Yes this is true & if you go on Google Images & put Fab Swingers dozens of pics will pop up so its only a matter of "when" someone will find out.

seriously?

"

Yep

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Following the search results, none of them actually come from this site though. They mostly seem to link to some granny dating site or xhamster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't advertise it to anyone, a few people have suspected something.

As of yet, no one has come out and asked me about anything, but I'll be honest about it if they do

Would you tell someone who asked how much money you earn? How much savings you had? How many times you'd been to the GUM clinic?

Not having a go, just curious as to where people draw the line at their privacy. "

I don't really have a problem with giving rough answers to those questions to friends.

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't walk round and say, hi my name is Charlie and I am a swinger. But most of my close family and friends know and some people from work.

I think it's alot more acceptable to move in these circles if you a man then a woman to people on the outside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

People are judgemental generally as a whole, Brits do have a Victorian prudish attitude to sex - not right I know, but there it is.

Fab life is a million years away from my day to day life with family and friendship and always will be.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I have absolutely no interest in any of my friends or families sex lives, so I assume, rightly or wrongly, that they would have no interest in mine. So I don't tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've definitely become more confident and open this year.

Not worth hiding, we're not ashamed of what we do.

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

None of my friends or family know what I get up to, apart from the friends I found out were on here too, lol.

There's actually a guy I work with who keeps making jokes about my sex life and I think is convinced I haven't had a shag since I split up with my last girlfriend two years ago. I just smile and think "if only you knew".

One day I'll tell him, just to see the look on his face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few my close friends know I swing and the odd family member but that's about it.. Not every one welcomes this lifestyle with open arms or minds!

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By *oggingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Ithink the coutry is becoming more accepting

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc

Why assume it's shame? For me it comes under too much information!

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I don't tell my family about every date I go on. So why would I go out of my way to tell them about people I have sex with. What is there to tell?

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

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