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Ever fallen in love with a FWB?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

About 10 years ago I was seeing a married girl who was about my age. The connection was there from our first meet and it wasn't long before she started saying she loved me during sex. I passed it off as one of the excited things people say but don't mean while fucking, but when we talked about later she said it was true. It made me happy to hear it as I was falling for her too.

Long story short we became like a couple, spending weekends away and becoming more and more couple-y. I still don't know how her hubby believed she was visiting uni friends every other weekend but he did. After a year or so I ended things, wanting either a real relationship (she wasn't willing to leave hubby) or to cool it off and see others (she wanted me all to herself). It was a painful break up but we eventually became friends.

I just wondered if anyone else has had any experiences like this and how it worked out for you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, I haven't but I think all our experiences make life richer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've fallen for a FWB and also had one fall for me. Both were unmitigated disasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.....a complication i wouldn't tolerate and there is zero chance of that ever happening too because of the way i do things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.....a complication i wouldn't tolerate and there is zero chance of that ever happening too because of the way i do things."
just this for me to and aptly put !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No.....a complication i wouldn't tolerate and there is zero chance of that ever happening too because of the way i do things."

Ever since it happened to me I've made sure to keep these experiences purely sexual and have been successful over the years! It is a complication that doesn't help anyone here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a lady on here fall for me, I did start to get feelings for her myself but told her at the time is wasn't the best for us both

I took a few steps back, but she started to take more forward and I had to end it there, she didn't take it too well started to become a bit of stalker

Shes not on the site anymore

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Yes, we've been married 18 months now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.....a complication i wouldn't tolerate and there is zero chance of that ever happening too because of the way i do things.just this for me to and aptly put !"

It probably helps having a husband who fulfills all my emotional needs. The sex i have on here is just the cherry on top of an already delicious cake. The connection i have with my long term regular partners is a completely different thing to the connection i have with my husband. I know not everyone is capable of compartmentalising like that and it might even seem heartless to some but it's necessary. Otherwise i wouldn't be able to meet long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just once but i called it off before i went to far

I've been doing this about 14 years now and never fallen for anybody, im quite a level headed person but one guy juts got me, it was about 5 year ago, i met him initially at a mutual friends house party, we got on very well and met again privatly the following weekend, after several meet i could feel i was getting unacceptable feelings for him so i stopped seeing him

It was one of the hardest things i have ever done but i knew it had to be done, i mailed him telling him i could no longer meet him, my heart sank as i hit the send button but i knew it was the right thing to do no matter how much it hurt, he asked why i just said things move on, its swinging nothings forever, he called and text me several times after asking if he had done something wrong or if he had upset me i just said no i just felt it was time to find other people to meet, after a while i just stopped reply to his messages and he stopped sending them

I felt really sad because i didnt like the thought of him thinking he had upset me but i couldnt tell him the truth

He still now after all this time drops me a little hi how are you message on here

The thing is falling for somebody you meet for no strings sex isnt what its all about, i didnt feel i could tell him the truth because i didnt feel i had the rights to dump that on him and put him in that situation, but we are only human and we cant always control our feelings but we can control how we act upon them

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think emotional involvement with a FWB should necessarily be regarded as a complication. Not by virtue of its nature alone, at least.

When you're seeing someone who's already attached, or are yourself only seeking a purely physical arrangement, then, granted, it's surplus to requirements. Potentially dangerous, even.

Personally, I consider it to be an essential part of the dynamic I share with a fuck buddy.

Don't get me wrong, I don't expect a monogamous, romantic commitment, but I certainly care about them in a different way compared to my other friends who I'm not sleeping with, and, in my experience, that connection only ever serves to enhance the sex.

As long as both parties are honest about what they want and how they're feeling, then I don't see a genuine cause for trepidation about it. I've had a serious relationship naturally develop with a fuck buddy before in the past, and it was wonderful, but, then again, I was never adverse to that happening.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Yes I fell head over heels in love with,a married woman,she was a lot younger than me we used to hold hands when we were together,and we got on so well together,she had the hairiest fanny I've ever seen,it must have been six inches long,it was so soft I loved getting my face in there it was heaven.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree there has to be chemistry and a connection, otherwise you may as well just be wanking. I like to feel emotionally connected to someone while we're playing, but when we're not together I don't expect to be in constant contact or anything. I don't think you should completely disconnect when it comes to sex, that just makes it all a bit icy and sterile I think.

There's nothing wrong with looking into your partner's eyes, smiling and kissing them passionately while you have sex, it doesn't have to mean you want to be with them every minute of every day, it's just an appreciation of them at that moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree there has to be chemistry and a connection, otherwise you may as well just be wanking. I like to feel emotionally connected to someone while we're playing, but when we're not together I don't expect to be in constant contact or anything. I don't think you should completely disconnect when it comes to sex, that just makes it all a bit icy and sterile I think.

There's nothing wrong with looking into your partner's eyes, smiling and kissing them passionately while you have sex, it doesn't have to mean you want to be with them every minute of every day, it's just an appreciation of them at that moment."

This

There has to be chemistry. There has to be want and lust for each other. But love is a totally different ball game altogether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree there has to be chemistry and a connection, otherwise you may as well just be wanking. I like to feel emotionally connected to someone while we're playing, but when we're not together I don't expect to be in constant contact or anything. I don't think you should completely disconnect when it comes to sex, that just makes it all a bit icy and sterile I think.

There's nothing wrong with looking into your partner's eyes, smiling and kissing them passionately while you have sex, it doesn't have to mean you want to be with them every minute of every day, it's just an appreciation of them at that moment."

This ^ ^.

and for the last 4 years it has worked for me and my FWB. Keep it all in check and let go when together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes..and I've learned from it and wont make the same mistake again. We still see each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and left here and ended up in a relationship only to find after 14 months that's all it even was and she is a psycho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I fell head over heels in love with,a married woman,she was a lot younger than me we used to hold hands when we were together,and we got on so well together,she had the hairiest fanny I've ever seen,it must have been six inches long,it was so soft I loved getting my face in there it was heaven. "

Slight tangent but a thumbs up for amusement value

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I fell head over heels in love with,a married woman,she was a lot younger than me we used to hold hands when we were together,and we got on so well together,she had the hairiest fanny I've ever seen,it must have been six inches long,it was so soft I loved getting my face in there it was heaven.

Slight tangent but a thumbs up for amusement value

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Agreed! 6 inch long pubes? Craziness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my FWB Christmas 2014 that I love him, he doesn't love me though. He is just fking me until he meets a 24year old to look after him. Not an ideal situation for me XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I fell head over heels in love with,a married woman,she was a lot younger than me we used to hold hands when we were together,and we got on so well together,she had the hairiest fanny I've ever seen,it must have been six inches long,it was so soft I loved getting my face in there it was heaven.

Slight tangent but a thumbs up for amusement value

Agreed! 6 inch long pubes? Craziness "

If I was intent on fucking her but didn't want to flattened her pubes, my dick wouldn't reach the inside of her flange

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I fell head over heels in love with,a married woman,she was a lot younger than me we used to hold hands when we were together,and we got on so well together,she had the hairiest fanny I've ever seen,it must have been six inches long,it was so soft I loved getting my face in there it was heaven.

Slight tangent but a thumbs up for amusement value

Agreed! 6 inch long pubes? Craziness

If I was intent on fucking her but didn't want to flattened her pubes, my dick wouldn't reach the inside of her flange "

I don't know what this means. It could be because I'm d*unk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I told my FWB Christmas 2014 that I love him, he doesn't love me though. He is just fking me until he meets a 24year old to look after him. Not an ideal situation for me XXX"

Not ideal at all, you need to get out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About 10 years ago I was seeing a married girl who was about my age. The connection was there from our first meet and it wasn't long before she started saying she loved me during sex. I passed it off as one of the excited things people say but don't mean while fucking, but when we talked about later she said it was true. It made me happy to hear it as I was falling for her too.

Long story short we became like a couple, spending weekends away and becoming more and more couple-y. I still don't know how her hubby believed she was visiting uni friends every other weekend but he did. After a year or so I ended things, wanting either a real relationship (she wasn't willing to leave hubby) or to cool it off and see others (she wanted me all to herself). It was a painful break up but we eventually became friends.

I just wondered if anyone else has had any experiences like this and how it worked out for you?"

I had an ex whom was my fwb years after breaking up, first time we met up stirred up old feelings

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No I haven't. I got really fond of one but we were a couple by then.

When I realised it wasn't going to go anywhere I ended it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree there has to be chemistry and a connection, otherwise you may as well just be wanking. I like to feel emotionally connected to someone while we're playing, but when we're not together I don't expect to be in constant contact or anything. I don't think you should completely disconnect when it comes to sex, that just makes it all a bit icy and sterile I think.

There's nothing wrong with looking into your partner's eyes, smiling and kissing them passionately while you have sex, it doesn't have to mean you want to be with them every minute of every day, it's just an appreciation of them at that moment."

Totally agree! I have to say that I had two long term FWB that I loved even though I love my hubby so very much. It taught me that whilst I'll never love anybody as much as I love my husband, I can love others and it doesn't negatively impact my primary relationship. Unfortunately both of those have now come to an end but I'd be very open to it all happening again with somebody else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had similar but much less intense things with married women I've met off here.

Now if they had been single.......

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