FabSwingers.com forum: New partner and sex discussions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been seeing my girlfriend now for about 5 months. Always thought sex would be quite boring (compared to what I've been up to in the past). However, it's only recently that we got onto talking about 3somes and anal sex. I love both and been lucky to have ex partners that have been happy to explore their sexuality too. This ones taking longer than normal, but definitely worth it. Just not sure when I should mention my previous swinging and the idea of going back to liberty elite for a night.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When you think it's right, we don't know how your relationship works so any advice we give would be hopeless. If God forbid I was single I would discuss my past and future hopes very early on in any relationship I thought might get serious so if I was in your position I would be talking round about now if hadn't already done so but I'm not you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a question but does she know you're on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No she doesn't. I don't actively seek out people from here for meets anymore, just like a look around. She knows I've been to swingers club and had an active sex life previously. This site is more a bit of window shopping at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been seeing my girlfriend now for about 5 months. Always thought sex would be quite boring (compared to what I've been up to in the past). However, it's only recently that we got onto talking about 3somes and anal sex. I love both and been lucky to have ex partners that have been happy to explore their sexuality too. This ones taking longer than normal, but definitely worth it. Just not sure when I should mention my previous swinging and the idea of going back to liberty elite for a night. "

Id be more worried that your finding a new sexual relationship boring...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not saying I'm finding it boring, just expected it to be. It's obviously getting better as we spend more time getting to know what each other enjoys. My partner was previously in a very long relationship so playing catch up now.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sooner you're honest the better. It will blow up in your face if you don't get it out in the open early on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not saying I'm finding it boring, just expected it to be. It's obviously getting better as we spend more time getting to know what each other enjoys. My partner was previously in a very long relationship so playing catch up now....."

Maybe it is a little odd that you find or expected to find it boring and what is peaking your interest is the talk of threesomes and your need to be on here 'window shopping'. Will the next stage be the 'how can I talk my partner into swinging' thread.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

You should have a good idea. How to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sooner you're honest the better. It will blow up in your face if you don't get it out in the open early on

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say be open about your feelings and thoughts. It will reward you in the long run.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We got around to talking about our previous experiences fairly soon after we'd met, which led on to the idea of swinging; we tried it and have been doing it ever since. It's good to be open about what you want sexually right from the start, we think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had been with my boyfriend about four months when we started discussing sex toys and he asked me if I wanted to know what his 'thing' was ....

He then explained that he likes mmf (straight) and the thought of me filming myself with other guys for him . I'd never done anything like that before . I agreed to try it he set up this profile and here we are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We had a good chat the other night and I had explained most of my past. I'll let her bring bring it up again and see where it goes. She seemed very curious of my threesome and although she's not into girls too much, would prefer a ffm and see how it goes. X

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"We had a good chat the other night and I had explained most of my past. I'll let her bring bring it up again and see where it goes. She seemed very curious of my threesome and although she's not into girls too much, would prefer a ffm and see how it goes. X"

Personally I think you are being very selfish and only thinking of your wants! If she is straight, why on earth would you think she would be interested in a FFM? Or even expect her to think about it?

Some men just make me go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think he means she prefers the idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I think you are being very selfish and only thinking of your wants! If she is straight, why on earth would you think she would be interested in a FFM? Or even expect her to think about it?

Some men just make me go

I think you missed my point. I'm not going to push her into anything and just let her bring up the subject if she's interested. In discussing a 3some, she said she would prefer ffm rather than a mmf. Purely because she doesn't want two cocks, but happy to go along with the other girl. Hope that clarifies my comments.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that you should be reserving any future discussion about your sex life with your partner now. You obviously want to open it out to include other people and you enjoy window shopping but (in my opinion) you need to have your relationship central to all this rather than as one of the elements.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think that you should be reserving any future discussion about your sex life with your partner now. You obviously want to open it out to include other people and you enjoy window shopping but (in my opinion) you need to have your relationship central to all this rather than as one of the elements."

I agree nicecouple51, all future discussions will be held with my partner and see how things go. I was assuming that quite a few people that get together after using this site either go back to being in a vanilla relationship or enhance their relationship (at some point). It's always nice to get other people's opinions. Cheers all !!

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