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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham

some friends and i recently arranged a social in Worcester. Just a drink in a local pub/club, a chance to get to know people locally and 'network'. Had a great time but something struck me as we collated the guest list.

we had over 60 people on the list (not bad for only the 2nd time the event had been arranged) but out of them there was only 2 or 3 single females.

i would have thought that the opportunity for single females to meet a group of like minded people in a completely non threatening non pushy environment would have been a great idea so what is it that keeps single females away from the socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly again the numbers game. Plus couples are probably less nervous going than singles as they can always chat to each other without looking awkward. Single men will attend plenty too, even if only one in five would be up for it thats a hell of a lot and most need to get themselves known to have any success, whereas a woman could just say "wanna fuck?" and have success of a sort....

Plus more women are nervous about approaching others to talk than men, as during the formative years when learning about approaching the oppossite sex, men are still assumed to do most of the work, and lessons are hard to relearn....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, it doesn't appeal to me. I like to be "social" with a group of friends, of my choosing, or where I know at least a few of the people attending.

Meeting couples, single men in that kind of setting would just leave me cold.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

probably 2 times...

1) they don't want to go on their own..be that a fear of not knowing people or being jumped on... which brings me to no.2

2) the same misconception that couples seem to have in the fact they will be jumped on by single men......

in a purely social enviroment, in the 6-7 years i have been in this, i have never seen single guys be the biggest group of attendee's (that is with and without the aid of couples trying to gerrymander lists...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe the chams BBW one is an oddity then always seem to get a good take up of single gals asking to come

its great to see so many feeling comfortable enough to come on their own

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham

what does gerrymander mean??

i can see the whole not wanting to go on their own thing i guess and i know that not everyone like social parties for one reason or another but i just find they are a great way of removing some of the pressure people can feel when meeting new people as if you dont like one person you can go and chat to others and mingle a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe the chams BBW one is an oddity then always seem to get a good take up of single gals asking to come

its great to see so many feeling comfortable enough to come on their own "

With BBW socials though first time attending women who are concerned about their weight will feel more at ease as the very name suggests that being a larger lady is the norm at such events, as well as suggesting there will be enough other single women there for them to have a rapport and chat with. At a normal gathering most single women may be concerned that there will be none of their contempories to talk to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what does gerrymander mean??

i can see the whole not wanting to go on their own thing i guess and i know that not everyone like social parties for one reason or another but i just find they are a great way of removing some of the pressure people can feel when meeting new people as if you dont like one person you can go and chat to others and mingle a bit "

I think socials are a great idea too, after all for first timers its a no-pressure environment, where you can do as little or as much as you like with no expectations.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Myself and swingershaz both are single bi fems organised a social in a function room of tease2 hotel. No single men turned up (ones that did had coupled up for the night) and we had lots of single females.come. Not enough couples i guess. But for every couple there was a single fem in theory for each with no sibgle males except the well known and respected harry jones.

The next one we are arranging is going to be on a friday night when the sibgle men can enter the club if they wish so see what the balance is like on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have loved to go but i had a company dinner and couldn't make it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe the chams BBW one is an oddity then always seem to get a good take up of single gals asking to come

its great to see so many feeling comfortable enough to come on their own

With BBW socials though first time attending women who are concerned about their weight will feel more at ease as the very name suggests that being a larger lady is the norm at such events, as well as suggesting there will be enough other single women there for them to have a rapport and chat with. At a normal gathering most single women may be concerned that there will be none of their contempories to talk to?"

fair point

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My reasons for not going to that sort of social is because they make me uncomfortable. We all know that single women are often what everyone is looking for, so that can feel a bit daunting for me. If I come to a social I want to be able to be social and have a chat and a drink with people. I don't want to be some sort of object for couples and single blokes to queue up for because I'm one of the three single girls there. I want people to want to meet me because they like me and find me attractive, not just because it's slim pickings and I'll do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My reasons for not going to that sort of social is because they make me uncomfortable. We all know that single women are often what everyone is looking for, so that can feel a bit daunting for me. If I come to a social I want to be able to be social and have a chat and a drink with people. I don't want to be some sort of object for couples and single blokes to queue up for because I'm one of the three single girls there. I want people to want to meet me because they like me and find me attractive, not just because it's slim pickings and I'll do! "

This sums up pretty much how I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My reasons for not going to that sort of social is because they make me uncomfortable. We all know that single women are often what everyone is looking for, so that can feel a bit daunting for me. If I come to a social I want to be able to be social and have a chat and a drink with people. I don't want to be some sort of object for couples and single blokes to queue up for because I'm one of the three single girls there. I want people to want to meet me because they like me and find me attractive, not just because it's slim pickings and I'll do! "

well of the single gals that go that have chatted to us after the event have never suggested that they felt objectified by either the couples or guys and have never indicated that they felt that anyone was interested in them for any other reason than their attractiveness, i have never known of anyone feeling it was a slim pickings scenario

makes me sad you would feel uncomfortable as it would of been lovely to of see you at one one time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My reasons for not going to that sort of social is because they make me uncomfortable. We all know that single women are often what everyone is looking for, so that can feel a bit daunting for me. If I come to a social I want to be able to be social and have a chat and a drink with people. I don't want to be some sort of object for couples and single blokes to queue up for because I'm one of the three single girls there. I want people to want to meet me because they like me and find me attractive, not just because it's slim pickings and I'll do!

This sums up pretty much how I feel."

Oh I hardly think anyone approaching either of you with the intention of having some wonderfully corrupt pleasure would do so purely because there were slim pickings and "you'd do". I imagine their motives would be that you were deliciously fuckable in the extreme and that not to try and pleasure you and be pleasured would be a crime...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe the chams BBW one is an oddity then always seem to get a good take up of single gals asking to come

its great to see so many feeling comfortable enough to come on their own

With BBW socials though first time attending women who are concerned about their weight will feel more at ease as the very name suggests that being a larger lady is the norm at such events, as well as suggesting there will be enough other single women there for them to have a rapport and chat with. At a normal gathering most single women may be concerned that there will be none of their contempories to talk to?"

By your thinking, if I attended a Caribbean social I'd feel at ease because everyone was from the same ethnic group. Now does that really make sense to you?!! Do you honestly believe that because I'm a large woman, meeting a group of equally large women will put me at ease?!!

I've been the only woman and the only black person in a room of over 100 men - and enjoyed every minutes as they were all trade unionist and we had something in common to talk about, so it was easy to strike up a conversation with them.

A room of large ladies with nothing in common but our size would be hard work for me as I'm not really interested in small talk.

God, I sound a right bundle of laughs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But that is the whole point of socials to meet like minded people have a giggle with no strings and no pressure I love them and its a great way to put names to faces. I chat to most of you in the forums and its a great way to meet in person and have made some great friends through the socials including brightbabe and _ruity.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

No fear, no nerves, been there, tried it.... it's just not my preferred method of finding new playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to a few socials since being on a single profile. It was great, plus I had the added bonus of going with my girlie and her man. Once am in the place I tend to see very little of my girlie as am off socialising. I just go for the fun of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some friends and i recently arranged a social in Worcester. Just a drink in a local pub/club, a chance to get to know people locally and 'network'. Had a great time but something struck me as we collated the guest list.

we had over 60 people on the list (not bad for only the 2nd time the event had been arranged) but out of them there was only 2 or 3 single females.

i would have thought that the opportunity for single females to meet a group of like minded people in a completely non threatening non pushy environment would have been a great idea so what is it that keeps single females away from the socials?"

im a single female and i love the social meets but i do not drive so its very hard for me to get to them as they always so far away

And being a single mum i dont always have the money to book trains and hotels as it can get very expensive and my kids always seem to have something else to spend my money on lol

so i very rarely do social meets but not because i dont want to

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Oh yeah that reminds me of another reason.... I can't be arsed with stopping in hotels just so I can have a couple of drinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can be expensive, i can easily spend £100+ on trains and hotels for a social night and thats before you sit in a pub all night buying drinks

So ok i could pull and get a shag for my money but then i can pull in chams for a fiver or on here and get a hotel down the road and split costs, i know its not ALL about money but it is someting you have to consider

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"some friends and i recently arranged a social in Worcester. Just a drink in a local pub/club, a chance to get to know people locally and 'network'. Had a great time but something struck me as we collated the guest list.

we had over 60 people on the list (not bad for only the 2nd time the event had been arranged) but out of them there was only 2 or 3 single females.

i would have thought that the opportunity for single females to meet a group of like minded people in a completely non threatening non pushy environment would have been a great idea so what is it that keeps single females away from the socials?

im a single female and i love the social meets but i do not drive so its very hard for me to get to them as they always so far away

And being a single mum i dont always have the money to book trains and hotels as it can get very expensive and my kids always seem to have something else to spend my money on lol

so i very rarely do social meets but not because i dont want to "

Naughty I know the feeling. I will often team up with a gentleman friend for the night and share the cost of hotel rooms. But your right that it does add up when you factor in train fare or bus/taxi.

That is why in some ways I have began planning socials with swingershaz as I know when I havent got the kids ands can then save up to cover hotel etc.

Either way I agreee that kids seem to have another way of spending the money that comes in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a busy social life already without adding in social events with strangers.

i did go to many socials in my fomrative years on sites such as this but i found them to be alot of expense effort for not alot of return

i prefer to meet one on one and in private i guess, it works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found this a very interesting thread. Seeing all sides and the pro and cons of a social. I have attended afew socials in the past but as a couple. So didnt have any reason to get nervous. Didnt go with any ideas of who we could jump. Just went to put faces to names. And have a laugh.

Im now on my own and was meant to go to the BBW. But for personal reasons couldnt make it. Im planning on going to the red white and blue social this sunday. And to be quite honest im bricking it.lol But its purely because i wont know a soul there.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I have found this a very interesting thread. Seeing all sides and the pro and cons of a social. I have attended afew socials in the past but as a couple. So didnt have any reason to get nervous. Didnt go with any ideas of who we could jump. Just went to put faces to names. And have a laugh.

Im now on my own and was meant to go to the BBW. But for personal reasons couldnt make it. Im planning on going to the red white and blue social this sunday. And to be quite honest im bricking it.lol But its purely because i wont know a soul there. "
You will within 5 mins of getting there so dont worry xxx

I see it slightly differently, i get lots putting their names down and its a good mix but guess what who are mostly no shows???!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do want to go to a fab social, its a little too late to go to the one this weekend but if there is one in August I am going. I may have to go on my own as my OH may be working, we are never sure, but I will go. I will also be nervous as I wont know anyone there either, but the alternative is never going to a fab social and I really want to do this

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"I have found this a very interesting thread. Seeing all sides and the pro and cons of a social. I have attended afew socials in the past but as a couple. So didnt have any reason to get nervous. Didnt go with any ideas of who we could jump. Just went to put faces to names. And have a laugh.

Im now on my own and was meant to go to the BBW. But for personal reasons couldnt make it. Im planning on going to the red white and blue social this sunday. And to be quite honest im bricking it.lol But its purely because i wont know a soul there. "

Don't worry, I only know 1 person and I can't even understand what he says to me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i went to this social

i felt at ease and happy till after the event ( which wasnt the fault of the hostess)

i would defo come to a social again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some friends and i recently arranged a social in Worcester. Just a drink in a local pub/club, a chance to get to know people locally and 'network'. Had a great time but something struck me as we collated the guest list.

we had over 60 people on the list (not bad for only the 2nd time the event had been arranged) but out of them there was only 2 or 3 single females.

i would have thought that the opportunity for single females to meet a group of like minded people in a completely non threatening non pushy environment would have been a great idea so what is it that keeps single females away from the socials?"

Single women do not have much problem getting a meet even the less attractive ones so probably don't need to attend socials to get familiar with people and get them to meet them. The phrase that pops into my mind is "if you have a hole they will come" Sad but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like going to socials to meet peeps, without any pressure to play.

For my first social, I contacted a few forums regulars who were also attending the event, and exchanged photos with them in advance, so that I knew what they looked like before the event.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Single women do not have much problem getting a meet even the less attractive ones so probably don't need to attend socials to get familiar with people and get them to meet them. The phrase that pops into my mind is "if you have a hole they will come" Sad but true. "

oh well its nice to know that even the less attractive women on here get meets

and i have never heard that phrase before - i think you made it up

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

Single women do not have much problem getting a meet even the less attractive ones so probably don't need to attend socials to get familiar with people and get them to meet them. The phrase that pops into my mind is "if you have a hole they will come" Sad but true. "

There's nothing 'sad' about it at all... it's fucking brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some friends and i recently arranged a social in Worcester. Just a drink in a local pub/club, a chance to get to know people locally and 'network'. Had a great time but something struck me as we collated the guest list.

we had over 60 people on the list (not bad for only the 2nd time the event had been arranged) but out of them there was only 2 or 3 single females.

i would have thought that the opportunity for single females to meet a group of like minded people in a completely non threatening non pushy environment would have been a great idea so what is it that keeps single females away from the socials?"

It must be the same thing that keeps them away from seeing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Single women do not have much problem getting a meet even the less attractive ones so probably don't need to attend socials to get familiar with people and get them to meet them. The phrase that pops into my mind is "if you have a hole they will come" Sad but true.

There's nothing 'sad' about it at all... it's fucking brilliant!

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I'll drink to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Single women do not have much problem getting a meet even the less attractive ones so probably don't need to attend socials to get familiar with people and get them to meet them. The phrase that pops into my mind is "if you have a hole they will come" Sad but true.

There's nothing 'sad' about it at all... it's fucking brilliant!

I'll drink to that "

Yep me too, when I next have that gorgeous tanned and toned 30 year old hunk stood in front of me I wont be crying into my lace hankie thinking, oh the justice, Im just a hole........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

** injustice even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No fear, no nerves, been there, tried it.... it's just not my preferred method of finding new playmates."

SNAP !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been to one (never been invited) and almost certainly wouldn't go for fear of being hassled for sex. I get hit on all the time on here by couples even though I'm not bi and don't want to see couples or women. Now I'm not saying that would happen at a social but I've been invited to group hotel meets and when I've declined for the exact same reason have been put under horrendous pressure to "just come along". No thanks. Am so glad there's now a filter on here to stop couples and women messaging me. And I don't have any trouble attracting single men on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to swinging clubs all the time, I wouldnt say that anyone gets hassled for sex. They may ask to play, they may put a sneaky hand out in a public room, but generally if you say no, then they go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go to swinging clubs all the time, I wouldnt say that anyone gets hassled for sex. They may ask to play, they may put a sneaky hand out in a public room, but generally if you say no, then they go away.

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This thread is about socials, not clubs.

I've never been to a club yet either. The guys I meet privately through Fab have often offered to take me but never do.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I go to swinging clubs all the time, I wouldnt say that anyone gets hassled for sex. They may ask to play, they may put a sneaky hand out in a public room, but generally if you say no, then they go away.

This thread is about socials, not clubs.

I've never been to a club yet either. The guys I meet privately through Fab have often offered to take me but never do. "

Well if you are worried about being hassled for sex at a social.... would you not be worried about being hassled when you're stripped off with a cock in your mouth in a swinging club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well if you are worried about being hassled for sex at a social.... would you not be worried about being hassled when you're stripped off with a cock in your mouth in a swinging club?"

No, because I'm well aware of the rules in place at clubs.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Well if you are worried about being hassled for sex at a social.... would you not be worried about being hassled when you're stripped off with a cock in your mouth in a swinging club?

No, because I'm well aware of the rules in place at clubs. "

There are no rules which stop people following you around and asking.... young men and couples.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'd love to go to socials but people keep arranging them for when I am away or on my period. just not fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are no rules which stop people following you around and asking.... young men and couples."

As I already said, I don;t go to clubs. And if I ever did I wouldn't go alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to go to socials but people keep arranging them for when I am away or on my period. just not fair. "

LOL!! They can just be social events you know!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"I'd love to go to socials"

We like socials, it's an opportunity for peeps to prove how gawjus they really are

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'd love to go to socials but people keep arranging them for when I am away or on my period. just not fair.

LOL!! They can just be social events you know! "

LOL forgot that. To be honest the Leeds one is when I am in Greece and the last Sheffield one I was in Weymouth. Its like someone checked my diary and picked the dates I can't do!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no need to be worried about being hassled at all - socials, clubs, messages whatever. You've got a tongue in your head, say no, and if the person continues then tell him to where to go more firmly. I think its very unlikely that someone will hold a gun to your head for sex at a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single fem, and when I was part of a couple (but still went and played alone) I love socials. Love to meet all the people I chat too, have a flirt, giggle and scope potential meets out.

Come on how else can u get numerous social meets done in such a short amount of time?

I must say though, ive had one or two incedents with men; single and part of a couple who think that because im alone, a shameless flirt both in chat and in person that they can grope and push themselfs on me.

But a firm telling off normally does the trick.

For my own saftey and because I just love thier company I usually go with a couple that are very close friends. Id advise any single fem to do the same too! But having attended a few now, id be happy to go alone.

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Myself and swingershaz both are single bi fems organised a social in a function room of tease2 hotel. No single men turned up (ones that did had coupled up for the night) and we had lots of single females.come. Not enough couples i guess. But for every couple there was a single fem in theory for each with no sibgle males except the well known and respected harry jones.

The next one we are arranging is going to be on a friday night when the sibgle men can enter the club if they wish so see what the balance is like on that one."

It had to happen single men are p***d off. They are getting the message that they are not wanted and that it is a couples dominated scene who are picky, always delaying and delaying finalising meets in case someone better comes along... I would think you can expect more and more of this.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Not sure about your post. I am not picky about finalising meets with men as i mostly meet single men. Its far from the case of not wanting them as i love meeting single men. I dont personally wait to see if something better comes along.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"It had to happen single men are p***d off. They are getting the message that they are not wanted and that it is a couples dominated scene who are picky, always delaying and delaying finalising meets in case someone better comes along... I would think you can expect more and more of this."

Well with that attitude I can see how it happens to you! Maybe a more detailed profile would help with your lack.

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