FabSwingers.com forum: I think some people confusing sex with swinging!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou "

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be."

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

I think OP is correct. A single girl and a single guy having sex one on one are not swinging. A married woman and a single guy would be if they have the husbands consent. If they don't, it's just cheating.

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By *edonisticbikerUKMan
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

"I think OP is correct. A single girl and a single guy having sex one on one are not swinging. A married woman and a single guy would be if they have the husbands consent. If they don't, it's just cheating. "

But if it's not swinging for singles where do fuckbuddies come into it is that swinging?

And surly that means if you have a married women with a single guy with husbands consent that's the woman swinging the guy having sex, but that means you have two people doing the same act with each other but by definition do two different things I don't think that's even possible (boom) my head hurts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different strokes for different folks .

Swapping doesn't do much for us as I would far rather watch my wife flirting , finding a connection , and treating a meet as a very naughty first date . Lots of eye contact , first kiss , touching , stroking and real lust .

The reality is the key . The more they feel the passion rising , the better the meet . If they really feel it so strongly and it goes the whole way , all the better . But the build up can be just as horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single woman who is on here because I enjoy having sex with others..

I wouldn't class myself as a swinger though .... or even a swingle (hate that word lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if it's not swinging for singles where do fuckbuddies come into it is that swinging?

I don't really understand why that confuses you to be honest.

Fuck buddies are not swinging. If they were, the majority of people in this country would be 'swingers'.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerdsCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I alway thought swinging was basically a couple including others in their sex life in some way. Or even sexual activity with more than two people at the same time. But it seems have to now become a kinda catch all for everything really, which is why people are getting confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I alway thought swinging was basically a couple including others in their sex life in some way. Or even sexual activity with more than two people at the same time. But it seems have to now become a kinda catch all for everything really, which is why people are getting confused.

If the people involved are happy with what they do , and know what they want it's all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh goody; we haven't had a thread which dictates what swinging is for ages. Had a quick scan and it would appear that I still have failed to rise into the exclusive higher echelons of being a 'Real Swinger', although I have now learnt a couple of new generalisations that once again preclude membership into the lofty club that hadn't occurred to me or been preached at me previously.

One can sit on the side lines and aspire.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou for taking your time to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But if it's not swinging for singles where do fuckbuddies come into it is that swinging?

I don't really understand why that confuses you to be honest.

Fuck buddies are not swinging. If they were, the majority of people in this country would be 'swingers'. "
I share the same opinion.Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers are couples that wife swaps, us singles just shag around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know what swinging was relly when i joined, but yeah i think a lot of men join this free site to get sex and aren't interested in sharing.

Although most of the men i've met actually do like the idea of sharing and enjoy it if i fuck other guys before or after them and are up for 3sums. I think they'd enjoy being swingers but are more into 1 on 1 as they're shy or not that comfortable in group situations. Honestly. Some have met couples and enjoyed that too, most haven't been to a club.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

I think some of the posts that have followed this have supported my opinion. Swinging might well be a word and many words in our fine language have several meanings. Swinging is also an activity with many variables. In other words many things to many people. At the end of the day it is no big deal, if you find what you are looking for on this site then it is swinging. Oops there's another meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who gives a shit who calls it what because never will everyone agree

Just enjoy it in all it's forms from one on one to a full blown orgy to the stuff in between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who gives a shit who calls it what because never will everyone agree

Just enjoy it in all it's forms from one on one to a full blown orgy to the stuff in between

I agree, as long as I get my cock sucked by lovely ladies who cares what it's called

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

Then you would agree everybody who is having sex is a swinger? All my friends and colleagues are swingers because they having sex with their partners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

Well I disagree - we can't exclude single people from the swinging world, and there's a whole spectrum of different relationships out there. Are you saying only married people can swing for instance? What about fuck buddy "couples" for that matter? What happens when there's two single males and a single female and they all like playing with one another?

It's much better to start defining it in positive terms such as respect, friendship, fun and having a liberal attitude to things.

I am not saying I'm right, but I am contributing because I do agree with the first paragraph I quoted, and rather sit back and be apathetic I wanted to express what swinging means to me.

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Hi, I enjoy watching my wife with other guys, its such a turn on , I sometimes join in , and we go clubs for that to , plus meet of here with guys , no cheating invoked, all very happy but also try diff things. Like wife with other women. But not as often. Its what everybody is happy with.

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By *VK_RugbyCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

The word Swinging came from the USA California to be exact in the UK it started in the 70's and was originally called "Wife Swapping" .. It's evolved like everything else in the modern world it's many things to many people you just do your thing within it

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The french call swingers 'libertines' which seems to fit better to include singles and any other form of free fun.

The word 'swinger' always seems to bring up the debate being had, about who can be one or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou "

I'm not that bothered what it's called but............fancy a fuck?

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

Then you would agree everybody who is having sex is a swinger? All my friends and colleagues are swingers because they having sex with their partners?"

Sorry I fail to see where I said that. You are the one seeking a definition all I am saying is that there are many different opinions as to what constitutes swinging.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

It's much better to start defining it in positive terms such as respect, friendship, fun and having a liberal attitude to things.

I am not saying I'm right, but I am contributing because I do agree with the first paragraph I quoted, and rather sit back and be apathetic I wanted to express what swinging means to me.

So to play devil's advocate you would not say sex is an essential element to being a swinger. You could be asexual and still be a swinger if you had respect, friendship, fun and having a liberal attitude to things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

Then you would agree everybody who is having sex is a swinger? All my friends and colleagues are swingers because they having sex with their partners?

Sorry I fail to see where I said that. You are the one seeking a definition all I am saying is that there are many different opinions as to what constitutes swinging."
I never said you said that! I asked you something,when you said swinging have several meanings.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

Then you would agree everybody who is having sex is a swinger? All my friends and colleagues are swingers because they having sex with their partners?

Sorry I fail to see where I said that. You are the one seeking a definition all I am saying is that there are many different opinions as to what constitutes swinging.I never said you said that! I asked you something,when you said swinging have several meanings."

OK I see what you mean, it appeared to be a statement. No I do not think everyone who is having sex is a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" But just sex with a guy in my view isn't swinging right?

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I definitely think you've got a point there!

I once had a discussion with a married couple, good swinging friends of mine. We talked about that as a minimum swinging needs a couple to be actually that, swinging. And historically swinging started as Wife Swap.

Just consider yourself lukcy that you actually go to clubs as there will be more swinging going on in clubs that for example online or here on the forums!

Happy Swinging to you - and good luck with finding the more adventurous single blokes out there!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

call it what ever - it nsa sex and its fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou "

I dont class myself as a swingers

I'm a single woman meeting single men for sex

To me thats just two people having sex it dont need another label

Even when i meet for 3sums or do gang bangs i still don't see myself as a swingers, who am i swinging with? i just meeting by myself for sex

Everybody see's things different, some like the idea of living the 'swinging lifestyle' so will happily embrase the label where as i just see what i do for what it is

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou "

Then Black Temptation I'm confusing. Let's have sex.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Labels.... labels.....labels

But of course my opinion of a label is correct and you are all wrong

The only person who gets to define who they are as a label is them... no one else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oxford Dictionary Definition:

NOUN

1] (informal) A lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

‘one of the oldest swingers in town’

‘a wild swinger who parties late’

2] (informal) A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

‘a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping’

So - take your pick - if you really MUST put a label on it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to clubs, make friends enjoy a night out with adults, have a laugh and on occasions a bit of thr other. First and foremost is a good cheap fun night out. Sex is not at the top of the list.

If you want to call us swingers then go ahead. Whats in a name anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

It's much better to start defining it in positive terms such as respect, friendship, fun and having a liberal attitude to things.

I am not saying I'm right, but I am contributing because I do agree with the first paragraph I quoted, and rather sit back and be apathetic I wanted to express what swinging means to me.

Having a threesome is not necessarily swinging. About 40% of people try threesomes, most don't do it many times. Swinging is a much smaller group.

You can try and make a broad definition that pretends it's a mainstream activity, but that's just dillusional to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As other contributors have said why are people hung up on labels?

The English language evolves and words can have a core meaning and a wider meaning 'gay' being the classic.

Where single people have sex with multiple partners in a deliberate lifestyle manner was always seen as a liberated lifestyle that fell within the sphere of swinging along with couple swinging. Single swinging was exclusive because most young people did not have their own homes, couples did. As in thr phrase ' the swinging sixties' only a small exclusive category could do the 'free love'thing. If you think about it both lifestyles were seen as immoral. The difference is society has become more relaxed about single people having multiple partners (well not so for women) but has not moved in relation to couples.

In the end it is a false and irrelevant distinction which is normally resolved in fab by the phrase 'not meeting single men' but will meet single women.

As in the fetish world the only people meeting an exclusive category coincidentally always tend to be the people putting forward the opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To all the people saying "why do we need labels?" - because that's what words are. We label things so we can communicate with a common understanding. If you make the definitions broad enough then you start talking like politicians and nobody can understand a damn sentence that you say.

Also, why is it a problem for the OP to ask a question about labels anyway? If labels annoy you then go join a kiss, fuck, avoid threads

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Labels allow people to categorise and make quick judgements.

In terms of swinging it's not too critical as people will still check as to whether you are a couple or single person. So not too relevant..

But when people say don't be hung up on labels I'm sure they would be if their meet said they practiced safe sex, only to find out that their meet was not hung up on labels and to them it meant engaging in bareback sex but not juggling chainsaws at the same time.

Words have meaning, saying they don't is ignoring basic communication principles.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm definitely with those who view swinging as sex involving more than two people. Whether there is a single person involved or not, the act itself is still swinging. One to one meets are just NSA sex.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"To all the people saying "why do we need labels?" - because that's what words are. We label things so we can communicate with a common understanding. If you make the definitions broad enough then you start talking like politicians and nobody can understand a damn sentence that you say.

Also, why is it a problem for the OP to ask a question about labels anyway? If labels annoy you then go join a kiss, fuck, avoid threads

TFFT.

Labels are what let you buy a tin of tomatoes at the supermarket and a tin of pedigree chum for your dog.

I'm glad there are labels.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Swinging is what one does on a swing; sex is on a bed; endof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was in a relationship I found a huge turn on ,my partner fucking someone else,not certainly behind my back!

But swoop wasn't my thing!Actually the whole process was draining as the selection of the couple,set the ground rules etc,but was fun in the end.

Now when I go to a club as single , I enjoy watching couples,relax in the Jacuzzi and peeping another people having sex and banter very rarely I play.

Here the guys focus in one to one sex and they not open to explore new avenues!

I know takes time to visit clubs etc! But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?

Sorry if isn't perfect English I am foreigner.Thankyou

Swinging is many things to many people but most of all it is what you want it to be.

Sorry to sound harsh but that's patently nonsense. Words only have meaning so far as they have a common understanding. If everyone defines swinging differently then the word ceases to be useful.

No that is not swinging that is an affair. It has been happening for centuries.

The definition of swinging that some people have a hard on for involves two people of a different sex married in the eyes of God and the Law having heterosexual sex with the lawfully wedded partner of a similar couple. Once you get away from that definition the term swinging becomes inclusive. However that definition is not correct see extract from the Urban Dictionary that says it can be done in a couple but does not need be. The point is the pursuance as lifestyle of sex outside of an established couple.

Swinging

A lifestyle of non-monogany where sexual relations occur outside the established couple. Swingers tend to refrain from romantic attachments with their outside partners, thus differentiating themselves from PolyAmorists.

(apologies to Josie no swings used).

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Let you and I put this to the test, Ozzz. There is a swing and also a bed at AbFab. Next Saturday? Purely for the sake of scientific research

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let you and I put this to the test, Ozzz. There is a swing and also a bed at AbFab. Next Saturday? Purely for the sake of scientific research

xxx"

Normally l am always available to conduct horizontal scientific research with you. However l am going to MSD in the evening with a friend, some rope and impact toys so l need to conserve my emotional and physical energy, even having the energy to walk after would help! lol.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Let you and I put this to the test, Ozzz. There is a swing and also a bed at AbFab. Next Saturday? Purely for the sake of scientific research

xxx

You could have just said "No"; I am a big girl now and can handle rejection

[ gets ready to key his car ]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The definition of swinging may be disputed by many and include multiple variations of what is regarded as genuine swingers but ultimately those couples that swing, often need the singles out there interested in the scene and judging by some of the responses above I don't think we would fall under the swingers catagory as we aproach swinging from a sexual point of view only. We do not want a build up or a connection. We don't want a social or a third in our relationship we just want a random person or persons to fulfil our sexual desires as a couple. More of a one night stand deal really or occassionally a few meets. We certainly don't want the whole flirting at the bar or eyes across the room thing. As long as everyone is truthfully what does it matter. If single guys say "hey I just want laid with no strings" then there will be takers for that, why not? They do not then have to be labelled as swingers. We often look for single guys (when we are in the mood)

*single guys please don't take that as an invitation to send a cock pic lol

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Why does it matter OP

lots of different people are on the same site

They are in lots of different combinations and want lots of different things. ...

Why does a label or definition make a difference as long as people are happy !?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter OP

lots of different people are on the same site

They are in lots of different combinations and want lots of different things. ...

Why does a label or definition make a difference as long as people are happy !?

Because language is more important than people's feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let you and I put this to the test, Ozzz. There is a swing and also a bed at AbFab. Next Saturday? Purely for the sake of scientific research

xxx

You could have just said "No"; I am a big girl now and can handle rejection

[ gets ready to key his car ]"

That's why l use a bicycle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter OP

lots of different people are on the same site

They are in lots of different combinations and want lots of different things. ...

Why does a label or definition make a difference as long as people are happy !?

Because language is more important than people's feelings. "

I am sorry but l have to disagree. Language moves to reflect what people feel. When non gender specific, racist or homophobic language was introduced people laughed now it is common, as is the use of language to create inclusivity. Take the bible that has been regularly revised to make the language accessible because languag use changes and the users have to feel they own it (despite being an atheist l still prefer the King James version, don't smirk Josie).

Unlike the French that have the Acadamie Francaise that moderates the French language in England language changes to reflect usage and not by an official organisation. I wince whenever l hear a pundit use 'massive' or 'massively', but that battle is lost.

However the truth of the matter will not change opinions.

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over a year ago

"Why does it matter OP

lots of different people are on the same site

They are in lots of different combinations and want lots of different things. ...

Why does a label or definition make a difference as long as people are happy !?

Because language is more important than people's feelings.

However the truth of the matter will not change opinions.

Interesting examples, thanks for your constructive point. What I meant was the human brain quadrupled in size over the period we evolved language. Other species did not. Without it, we literally would not be humans (there's a label there). So what I mean is, preserving the ability to communicate is more important than protecting the egos of a few snowflakes who can't stand to be put in a category.

As I said before, when words have no meaning, our brains with lose their power and we'll all sound like politicians.

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

"Oh goody; we haven't had a thread which dictates what swinging is for ages. Had a quick scan and it would appear that I still have failed to rise into the exclusive higher echelons of being a 'Real Swinger', although I have now learnt a couple of new generalisations that once again preclude membership into the lofty club that hadn't occurred to me or been preached at me previously.

One can sit on the side lines and aspire. "

Love it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Another definition from the Oxford Dictionary:

swinging

ADJECTIVE

informal

1 Lively, exciting, and fashionable.

‘a swinging resort’

‘the Swinging Sixties’

1.1 Sexually liberated or promiscuous.

1.1 would apply to singles on here I'd say?

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over a year ago

"But just sex with a guy in my vie isn't swinging right?"

I agree.

Although I wouldn't call us 'swingers' either. That sounds more like the 'lifestyle' type of thing, whereas we just like to fuck about from time to time.

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over a year ago

"Another definition from the Oxford Dictionary:

swinging

ADJECTIVE

informal

1 Lively, exciting, and fashionable.

‘a swinging resort’

‘the Swinging Sixties’

1.1 Sexually liberated or promiscuous.

1.1 would apply to singles on here I'd say?"

Great, so the overwhelming majority of people are swingers then? I guess swinging clubs are packed with millions of libertines every weekend and this site has over 10m users?

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over a year ago

If I'm having sex with a married man,with his wife consent,I don't consider either of us as swingers. It's two people having sex; it doesn't suddenly change into something different because the man is married and his wife knows he's having sex.

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