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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I don't worry how others use the site, if their preferences exclude me I move on quickly to those who's preferences include me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has different needs and wants, I'm a single girl and I'm on here looking for sex, I wouldn't class myself as a swinger, I do just dabble occasionally. But I get better results from this site than plenty of fish because I'm not looking to date, I'm looking for sex x

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Some women like myself only like to play with couples in clubs or at parties so just use fab for one to one meets

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If you're single and wouldn't mind being in a swingers relationship surely a swingers site is where you're more likely to find it?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I don't worry how others use the site, if their preferences exclude me I move on quickly to those who's preferences include me "

Some people don't want to meet us because we are a couple.

Some don't want to meet us because I'm short, old, ugly and bald with dodgy teeth, a tiny todger and a moustache.

Swings & roundabouts I guess.

Mr ddc

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Oh I'd never thought of it as maybe a person who is in a relationship. Who then plays as a single as well. That would explain some of the single profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair if I was single this is the only place I would want to start a relationship, I think it's the best way to meet someone who's on the same wavelength as you

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"To be fair if I was single this is the only place I would want to start a relationship, I think it's the best way to meet someone who's on the same wavelength as you "

Yeah that makes sense I guess. Finding someone who is maybe open to the idea of including others in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty "

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Does it matter?

" swinging " is an outdated word anyway; it's just libertine sex with people who want to keep it " no strings" ( or not, if that's what they want).

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"Does it matter?

" swinging " is an outdated word anyway; it's just libertine sex with people who want to keep it " no strings" ( or not, if that's what they want).

"

Yeah we hate the term swingers. But much prefer dirty f**kers, pervy bastards or filthy t**ts. Anything is better really.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"But I get better results from this site than plenty of fish because I'm not looking to date, I'm looking for sex x"

Really hope all our single mates don't find this out!

"Keep it secret, Keep it safe!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't worry how others use the site, if their preferences exclude me I move on quickly to those who's preferences include me "

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"I don't worry how others use the site, if their preferences exclude me I move on quickly to those who's preferences include me

Some people don't want to meet us because we are a couple.

Some don't want to meet us because I'm short, old, ugly and bald with dodgy teeth, a tiny todger and a moustache.

Swings & roundabouts I guess.

Mr ddc"

???????? that genuinely made my laugh out loud! Their loss tho

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts"

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe guys/couples find it a "pain" that you are only seeking single women. You have your preferences....they have theirs. I don't see the difference, or the "pain". We all have our own desires.

Target those that match yours.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Im a single woman

.. and I want to meet single men .... because I dont want to meet an attached man ... simple .....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

some couples put us off with their entitlement and superior attitude towards singles, and slagging off, how some singles, use the site. do what you do, and live and let live...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not seeking a relationship or any form of dating but the site works well for me as an anonymous way to meet men aside from my regular life. Men is who I'm looking for.

I'm not sure I'd be meeting couples even if I was single. It all sounds far too complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!? "

You have a profile which excludes single men. Presumably a pain for single men looking for a couple (which I'm not not).

People have their preferences.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"Maybe guys/couples find it a "pain" that you are only seeking single women. You have your preferences....they have theirs. I don't see the difference, or the "pain". We all have our own desires.

Target those that match yours."

we're not only seeking single ladies...

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"some couples put us off with their entitlement and superior attitude towards singles, and slagging off, how some singles, use the site. do what you do, and live and let live..."

I apologize if I came across like that to anyone. That was not the point of the post. I was addressing my confusion and asking people to clear it up which I feel a few posts have done well for me.

"Peace & love peace & love"

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

When I play as a single lady I don't want a couple and all that entails. Single guys all the way and mmf is best for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we need, and it has been suggested quite a few times before, is a 'dating' option in both interests and the browse/search. That way no surprises if someone is looking for more in some way.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"some couples put us off with their entitlement and superior attitude towards singles, and slagging off, how some singles, use the site. do what you do, and live and let live...

I apologize if I came across like that to anyone. That was not the point of the post. I was addressing my confusion and asking people to clear it up which I feel a few posts have done well for me.

"Peace & love peace & love""

why are you confused..people use this place as they want to, within the rules. what one person is looking for may not be what another is looking for.. reading profiles helps so do the filters and the block button, all tools to help you have the experience you want here and the same freedom applies to everyone else. thats what makes it a diverse community, if we were all the same it would be pretty boring...x no offense taken i was merely stating why some singles are put off some couples x

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"why are you confused..people use this place as they want to, within the rules. what one person is looking for may not be what another is looking for.. reading profiles helps so do the filters and the block button, all tools to help you have the experience you want here and the same freedom applies to everyone else. thats what makes it a diverse community, if we were all the same it would be pretty boring...x no offense taken i was merely stating why some singles are put off some couples x"

I was confused as to why a swingers site would be a better site to join if I was a single looking for vanilla (none swinging) sex. That's all really.

Thank you to all the posts that helped explain this

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree and disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I'm a single so would you say you can only be a swinger if your a couple and this isn't a place for me unless I meet couples? I don't meet couples but if I did I'd be more interested in fucking the male while the lady watches.

Just because physically I'm not swapping doesn't mean I'm not into swinging dynamic. It has more depth than just wife swapping and fucking couples.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"why are you confused..people use this place as they want to, within the rules. what one person is looking for may not be what another is looking for.. reading profiles helps so do the filters and the block button, all tools to help you have the experience you want here and the same freedom applies to everyone else. thats what makes it a diverse community, if we were all the same it would be pretty boring...x no offense taken i was merely stating why some singles are put off some couples x

I was confused as to why a swingers site would be a better site to join if I was a single looking for vanilla (none swinging) sex. That's all really.

Thank you to all the posts that helped explain this

Xxx"
look i swing or am poly or whatever label you want to stick on me, alot of people use this site as a 'sex site' they even call it that..thats what they use it for, you call it a swinger site, but what you feel is a swinger, may not be someone elses definition. some believe singles cant be swingers anyway, seriously alot of people have alot of different associations, perceptions, their own rules and they all expect to be understood by everyone else. the only thing to do, is to focus on what you want, what you express and concentrate on the demographic/ activities, you want to associate with...xx

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

This confuses me too as I have had lots wanting dates and single 1 on 1s but not then wanting to party and play with others which was I thought swinging was tbh.

I guess this site is clearly for sexual play most of the time so I get it now.

I guess everybody swings amd sees swinging a little different too.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I'm married, only looking to meet men and straight. So meeting a couple isn't on my to do list as I don't play with women and a FFM does nothing for me. A MMMf on the other hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a swinger but im also looking for a relationship really want to find a swinging girlfriend thsts my plan thats why im on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on Plenty of Fish.

I'm on here too.

I pay my money just like all other site supporters and I'll use the site how I wish. My profile says what I want and anyone who doesn't like that is feel to scroll past.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm not on a dating site because i'm not looking for a relationship or to date.

Although many people on dating sites are just looking for sex i find it's just more honest on here, very few people here are looking for more.

I'm not after deep and meaningful, been there and done that, i'm after hot and horny. This is the best place to find that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!"

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not on a dating site because i'm not looking for a relationship or to date.

Although many people on dating sites are just looking for sex i find it's just more honest on here, very few people here are looking for more.

I'm not after deep and meaningful, been there and done that, i'm after hot and horny. This is the best place to find that."

Yes it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on a dating site because I enjoy this lifestyle.

What about all the couple's looking for threesome's gangbangs etc? Where do you think they find these like minded often single individuals?

If only there was a website where they were readily accessible ..... Oh hang on

You talk about it being a pain, yep I thought that reading you post.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such "
no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I guess they aren't searching for couples in that case, so untick looking for them.

To be fair , half of Fab is on POF from what I can gather so i can understand why they use here too.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one.."

Seriously how can you say it's not a sex site just because its not marketed as one... Wake up

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"OP I'm a single so would you say you can only be a swinger if your a couple and this isn't a place for me unless I meet couples? I don't meet couples but if I did I'd be more interested in fucking the male while the lady watches.

Just because physically I'm not swapping doesn't mean I'm not into swinging dynamic. It has more depth than just wife swapping and fucking couples. "

Good point and I understand your attraction to the swinging dynamic. Also everyone who wants to be here belongs here.

I just wondered what singles would get out of a swingers site if they only ever wanted 1 on 1 sex?

But it's a great place to meet other singles it seems. Many people have now cleared this up for me.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"Im a swinger but im also looking for a relationship really want to find a swinging girlfriend thsts my plan thats why im on here"

Again a very good reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking this morning that the site seems to be more date orientated on the single women side.

I get it that you want to feel comfortable with the person, but I don't want to date, I'm looking for sex as I don't have time for a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I'm a single so would you say you can only be a swinger if your a couple and this isn't a place for me unless I meet couples? I don't meet couples but if I did I'd be more interested in fucking the male while the lady watches.

Just because physically I'm not swapping doesn't mean I'm not into swinging dynamic. It has more depth than just wife swapping and fucking couples.

Good point and I understand your attraction to the swinging dynamic. Also everyone who wants to be here belongs here.

I just wondered what singles would get out of a swingers site if they only ever wanted 1 on 1 sex?

But it's a great place to meet other singles it seems. Many people have now cleared this up for me. "

I get filthy sex, I'm quite kinky and am looking for like minded people. It's easier to find men on here that won't run a mile when you mention I'm a masochist and submissive. Can't really walk into a bar or similar and say hey dude wanna piss on me if you get me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking this morning that the site seems to be more date orientated on the single women side.

I get it that you want to feel comfortable with the person, but I don't want to date, I'm looking for sex as I don't have time for a partner."

I've never been on a date, pure sex only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I'm a single so would you say you can only be a swinger if your a couple and this isn't a place for me unless I meet couples? I don't meet couples but if I did I'd be more interested in fucking the male while the lady watches.

Just because physically I'm not swapping doesn't mean I'm not into swinging dynamic. It has more depth than just wife swapping and fucking couples.

Good point and I understand your attraction to the swinging dynamic. Also everyone who wants to be here belongs here.

I just wondered what singles would get out of a swingers site if they only ever wanted 1 on 1 sex?

But it's a great place to meet other singles it seems. Many people have now cleared this up for me.

I get filthy sex, I'm quite kinky and am looking for like minded people. It's easier to find men on here that won't run a mile when you mention I'm a masochist and submissive. Can't really walk into a bar or similar and say hey dude wanna piss on me if you get me "

I'd reply with "Hold on let me order another quick pint so I got a full bladder"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I'm a single so would you say you can only be a swinger if your a couple and this isn't a place for me unless I meet couples? I don't meet couples but if I did I'd be more interested in fucking the male while the lady watches.

Just because physically I'm not swapping doesn't mean I'm not into swinging dynamic. It has more depth than just wife swapping and fucking couples.

Good point and I understand your attraction to the swinging dynamic. Also everyone who wants to be here belongs here.

I just wondered what singles would get out of a swingers site if they only ever wanted 1 on 1 sex?

But it's a great place to meet other singles it seems. Many people have now cleared this up for me.

I get filthy sex, I'm quite kinky and am looking for like minded people. It's easier to find men on here that won't run a mile when you mention I'm a masochist and submissive. Can't really walk into a bar or similar and say hey dude wanna piss on me if you get me

I'd reply with "Hold on let me order another quick pint so I got a full bladder" "

Trust you! But do you get my point? X

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such "

And yet there are many forms of relationship formed here too - many people that do not just want a cold hard shag. As long as everyone is open about what they want there is room for all.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"I'm not on a dating site because I enjoy this lifestyle.

What about all the couple's looking for threesome's gangbangs etc? Where do you think they find these like minded often single individuals?

If only there was a website where they were readily accessible ..... Oh hang on

You talk about it being a pain, yep I thought that reading you post.

"

Sure the pain you felt wasn't the point of the post flying over your head?

If you enjoy the lifestyle and your looking to hook up with couples then your on this site to swing surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much rather see single men looking for casual sex than married men cheating on their partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a pain in the arse for me when I get messaged by swinging couples who are only looking for single women,when I want a single man. Why can't couples stick to swinging with other couples and leave us single people alone,to get on with our sex lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ones who's wives don't consent I meant. I read the post wrong, apologies.

For me I like the idea of being with a couple but I find it a scary world and I'm not quite confident enough just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not on a dating site because I enjoy this lifestyle.

What about all the couple's looking for threesome's gangbangs etc? Where do you think they find these like minded often single individuals?

If only there was a website where they were readily accessible ..... Oh hang on

You talk about it being a pain, yep I thought that reading you post.

Sure the pain you felt wasn't the point of the post flying over your head?

If you enjoy the lifestyle and your looking to hook up with couples then your on this site to swing surely? "

So,a single person looking for a couple is a swinger,but a single person looking for another single person is looking for a date?

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Think I'm starting to see that I should be thinking as fab as a general sex site and not a swingers site.

In my defence it is called fabswingers but I guess it evolved into a lot more.

I do love the diverse mix of people and learning peoples' turn ons and kinks fascinates me.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

No one can please everyone, all of the time.

I'm sure I annoy people as I have a social meet first and often don't go further than that. That's because I'm picky and often find I'm not attracted to someone in person. So some may see me as a single trying to get a date, and then not actually have sex.

I'm not really kinky so I disappoint a lot of people there.

And when I try and pull in a nightclub, everyone seems to be into dating and not sex! When I was single and went clubbing, I was into dating so all the guys wanted sex.

And there's a LOT of single guys on here who just want a shag. But when I mention I'm married (and my husband is fully aware and happy about me playing as a single) they panic a bit. Umm... this is a swingers site, not a dating site. What do they think swinging is? I play alone so there's no pressure for them to meet my husband or do anything with him.

With Fab, as with life, no one is ever happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing cool about being a swinger. It's sex with people you aren't in a relationship with,nothing else.

I'll meet couples with a man,but not on my own,so for the purpose of this site I'm just here for single men.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"I'm not on a dating site because I enjoy this lifestyle.

What about all the couple's looking for threesome's gangbangs etc? Where do you think they find these like minded often single individuals?

If only there was a website where they were readily accessible ..... Oh hang on

You talk about it being a pain, yep I thought that reading you post.

Sure the pain you felt wasn't the point of the post flying over your head?

If you enjoy the lifestyle and your looking to hook up with couples then your on this site to swing surely?

So,a single person looking for a couple is a swinger,but a single person looking for another single person is looking for a date?

"

No a single person looking for another single person is looking for a 1 to 1 or sex basically?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one..

Seriously how can you say it's not a sex site just because its not marketed as one... Wake up "
many people use this site for many things..look around you...the swinger scene is just as much about the social as the sex, clubs are as much about the social as the sex. maybe some just do it for a shag, but those arent the majority here. most want a connection, feel attracted to and communicate with prospective sex partners..so its not a sex site, its a swingers site, one which some people may want to have sex with you. theres no entitlement to sex here. calling it a sex site is misleading...is your perspective, not everyone's and not the site marketing...its people coming on here who expect instant sex, that dont do so well..people are constantly telling them its not instashag, so i feel the majority feel as i do...im wide awake, thanks all the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would probably find what you want on 3 some sites. Or in clubs on couples and single women only nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!"

Exactly this! On here you know people are after the sexual side. The amount of normal "dating" sites where people are only after sex but can't be truthful is amazing! On here you know what the expectation is. I don't use here as a dating site but if I met someone on here that could provide more then it would be an added bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one..

Seriously how can you say it's not a sex site just because its not marketed as one... Wake up many people use this site for many things..look around you...the swinger scene is just as much about the social as the sex, clubs are as much about the social as the sex. maybe some just do it for a shag, but those arent the majority here. most want a connection, feel attracted to and communicate with prospective sex partners..so its not a sex site, its a swingers site, one which some people may want to have sex with you. theres no entitlement to sex here. calling it a sex site is misleading...is your perspective, not everyone's and not the site marketing...its people coming on here who expect instant sex, that dont do so well..people are constantly telling them its not instashag, so i feel the majority feel as i do...im wide awake, thanks all the same x"

If it wasn't marketed as a sex site it wouldn't have all the options it does. The only thing pertaining to swinging is the name. The site encompasses everything there is about legal sex between adults. People join here with expectations,including couples looking for bi women. You shouldn't become annoyed because other people's expectations are different from yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women like myself only like to play with couples in clubs or at parties so just use fab for one to one meets "
this makes good sense the site is many things to meny people

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one..

Seriously how can you say it's not a sex site just because its not marketed as one... Wake up many people use this site for many things..look around you...the swinger scene is just as much about the social as the sex, clubs are as much about the social as the sex. maybe some just do it for a shag, but those arent the majority here. most want a connection, feel attracted to and communicate with prospective sex partners..so its not a sex site, its a swingers site, one which some people may want to have sex with you. theres no entitlement to sex here. calling it a sex site is misleading...is your perspective, not everyone's and not the site marketing...its people coming on here who expect instant sex, that dont do so well..people are constantly telling them its not instashag, so i feel the majority feel as i do...im wide awake, thanks all the same x

If it wasn't marketed as a sex site it wouldn't have all the options it does. The only thing pertaining to swinging is the name. The site encompasses everything there is about legal sex between adults. People join here with expectations,including couples looking for bi women. You shouldn't become annoyed because other people's expectations are different from yours. "
i think you are the one becoming annoyed...im just sitting here with my cup of tea, its not worthy of getting annoyed about..happy shagging x

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one..

Seriously how can you say it's not a sex site just because its not marketed as one... Wake up many people use this site for many things..look around you...the swinger scene is just as much about the social as the sex, clubs are as much about the social as the sex. maybe some just do it for a shag, but those arent the majority here. most want a connection, feel attracted to and communicate with prospective sex partners..so its not a sex site, its a swingers site, one which some people may want to have sex with you. theres no entitlement to sex here. calling it a sex site is misleading...is your perspective, not everyone's and not the site marketing...its people coming on here who expect instant sex, that dont do so well..people are constantly telling them its not instashag, so i feel the majority feel as i do...im wide awake, thanks all the same x

If it wasn't marketed as a sex site it wouldn't have all the options it does. The only thing pertaining to swinging is the name. The site encompasses everything there is about legal sex between adults. People join here with expectations,including couples looking for bi women. You shouldn't become annoyed because other people's expectations are different from yours. i think you are the one becoming annoyed...im just sitting here with my cup of tea, its not worthy of getting annoyed about..happy shagging x"

I was talking to the OP. Nothing on here annoys me. I'm having sex with some sexy single men.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"You would probably find what you want on 3 some sites. Or in clubs on couples and single women only nights. "

If you know any good threesome sites let us know

We love fab as well clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty

I was thinking about this too... So many guys say to me I'm looking for a FB or FWB someone to attend clubs with etc etc... I think to myself if I wanted a "relationship"

I'd use a dating site, swinging is for people that like to swing why would you want a FWB or FB when there's so many gorgeous guys on here to play with.

Also wonder about the guys that write " not looking to sleep my way through the site just looking for 1 special person"

Wtf is that all about go join plenty of fish if that's what you're looking for.

#yourenotaloneinyourthoughts

At least most people on here don't pretend to want a relationship when all they want is a shag, that happens a lot on dating sites. And this is a much better place to find sex while you're looking for a relationship elsewhere!

I respect the people that are honest and say they only want sex... Cling ons are a pain in the arse... It's a sex site treat it as such no its a swinger site, that some people use it to hook up for a shag is fine, but its not a sex site, because its not marketed as one..

Seriously how can you say it's not a sex site just because its not marketed as one... Wake up many people use this site for many things..look around you...the swinger scene is just as much about the social as the sex, clubs are as much about the social as the sex. maybe some just do it for a shag, but those arent the majority here. most want a connection, feel attracted to and communicate with prospective sex partners..so its not a sex site, its a swingers site, one which some people may want to have sex with you. theres no entitlement to sex here. calling it a sex site is misleading...is your perspective, not everyone's and not the site marketing...its people coming on here who expect instant sex, that dont do so well..people are constantly telling them its not instashag, so i feel the majority feel as i do...im wide awake, thanks all the same x"

Sorry lovely I wasn't being rude I guess everyone has their own opinion on what they think this site is... As for the social side for me that's just to get a face to face to confirm that when I turn up at their house or a hotel they won't be 10 years older and twice the size of their pics. But that's just me didn't mean to sound mean x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would probably find what you want on 3 some sites. Or in clubs on couples and single women only nights.

If you know any good threesome sites let us know

We love fab as well clubs. "

My 3 somes wouldn't be something you would be interested in but there are some if you Google them. We aren't allowed to name other websites on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A single woman looking for a single male??

I call bs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeming how this site is one of the only sites of it's kind that you do not have to pay to use, I can somewhat understand why singles come here looking for one on one play with other singles. Playing with couples and groups isn't for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im on here for 2 reasons one is nsa sex the other is a fwb who i can regular meet for said nsa and to meet other people with as part of a swinging couple im not looking to date just someone i can have fun with be it one off or with a regular partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Redhead and I met on here, both of us had singles profiles and got together through pure chance, it happens more often than you would think. We see things the same way and view including others in the same way. Try finding that on POF!

I would class singles as swingers, I think it's more about attitude than circumstance. Personally I don't agree with couples 'ring fencing' the term swingers, swingers can be couples or singles it entirely depends on the person

Beard

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty "

I believe in each to there own OP .

For me there's is no right or wrong way to be on a site like this .

In fact I think its best to be totally honest when putting yourself out there not only about what your like but also truthful about what your looking for .

That way your not leading anyone on or playing games with those you come into contact with .

At least the site members your post is talking about are being honest about their preferences and tastes which is all anyone can ask of another in your dealings with then on here in my opinion .

I like a bit more than a meet and fuck I enjoy good conversation I like to laugh and enjoy the company of those I'm looking to engage in recreational sex with .

For me its a healthy mixture of physical attraction sparkling conversation and sexual compatibility that makes for a enjoyable sexual experience .

If all I wanted all the time was a fuck and go experience I'd use a professional for that kind of experience because if you only want business like sex you may as well use someone who's business its is to deliver such a experience .

Like I said early each to their own how others choose to use the site and go about their sex life's is totally up to them .

I just wish them all the best and hope they find a satisfactory sexual experience with a compatible fellow site user .

As for me I will use this site in a way that works for me and I will go about my business on here and off of here in a way that works for me .

Just like others are doing the trick is to find others with a similar outlook to site life life in general and sex as you .

Like I said earlier the only way that can happen is if site users are being totally honest and open with other site users .which is what the site users this post is aimed at are doing so I don't see where the problem is OP .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on here a year looking for singles only. I'm not a swinger and wanted sex only with single people, that's what i like doing, meeting single men and not married ones or ones in relationships - even if it is consensual with their partner.

I didn't want a relationship or to meet attached men.

You don't sound ranty but do sound bitter about not betting a fuck lol.

Why you looking for single women if you're in a relationship? You thinking of leaving your partner for someone single? That's how you make it sound with your logic.

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By *exedUp_GamerNerds OP   Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"I was on here a year looking for singles only. I'm not a swinger and wanted sex only with single people, that's what i like doing, meeting single men and not married ones or ones in relationships - even if it is consensual with their partner.

I didn't want a relationship or to meet attached men.

You don't sound ranty but do sound bitter about not betting a fuck lol.

Why you looking for single women if you're in a relationship? You thinking of leaving your partner for someone single? That's how you make it sound with your logic."

No not bitter at all I just wanted to clear something up.

Not sure how you got that logic though from a couple on a swingers site looking for another couple or single lady to swing with? Somehow you have determined that we want to split up and run off with other singles?

Keep working on you logic also give the word swinging a quick google.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was and still am here for sex, but as it's not terribly forthcoming, I faff about on the forums instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Redhead and I met on here, both of us had singles profiles and got together through pure chance, it happens more often than you would think. We see things the same way and view including others in the same way. Try finding that on POF!

I would class singles as swingers, I think it's more about attitude than circumstance. Personally I don't agree with couples 'ring fencing' the term swingers, swingers can be couples or singles it entirely depends on the person

Beard"

Agree with this.

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By *sym45Man
over a year ago

JE2

Well said madam ! Honesty.Short+sharp ! Always the best way to communicate !

There are far too many "dreamers" on here.Carl x

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By *21ke1Man
over a year ago

london

Personally i'm not really looking for a relationship, but i wouldn't exactly turn one down, I'm mainly here to chat to people in the rooms, and possibly meet people,

I've had a bit of interest from couples that i've turned down, simply because i don't think it'd be good for them and me while i've not met any couples yet, i'd prefer to find a understanding couple first, which means i'm being picky as all hell..

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Redhead and I met on here, both of us had singles profiles and got together through pure chance, it happens more often than you would think. We see things the same way and view including others in the same way. Try finding that on POF!

I would class singles as swingers, I think it's more about attitude than circumstance. Personally I don't agree with couples 'ring fencing' the term swingers, swingers can be couples or singles it entirely depends on the person

Beard"

when I was single I would have classed myself as a swinger as I was open to the idea of that's type of relationship. Now I'm in one, we rarely play with others, but knowing the option is there is enough for me

I initially joined fab to meet men and couples. If a couple had met me would that make them swingers even if some people saw me as a non-swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on here a year looking for singles only. I'm not a swinger and wanted sex only with single people, that's what i like doing, meeting single men and not married ones or ones in relationships - even if it is consensual with their partner.

I didn't want a relationship or to meet attached men.

You don't sound ranty but do sound bitter about not betting a fuck lol.

Why you looking for single women if you're in a relationship? You thinking of leaving your partner for someone single? That's how you make it sound with your logic.

No not bitter at all I just wanted to clear something up.

Not sure how you got that logic though from a couple on a swingers site looking for another couple or single lady to swing with? Somehow you have determined that we want to split up and run off with other singles?

Keep working on you logic also give the word swinging a quick google."

Well basically if you think single women want to meet single men for relationships then you think single women want relationships...and you're looking for them so that's how you come across. Seemed pretty obvious to me.

Not trying to split up anyone, just saying that's how people look when others get presumptuous about them.

Maybe look for a woman from a couple instead, i kind of get why single women don't wanna meet couples or go off that idea.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I openly use this site as a dating site. And it works for me. I'm upfront about it and I also state at the start of conversations that I'm not a swinger.

I'll use the site however I want to. I prefer dating people off the swinging or fetish scene. So why would I want to go on a dating site... All they seem to want is an NSA fuck anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the people on here are also on a well known fishy site

I think people should use the site as they wish!

I wave in and out of what I want - at the moment I want to meet single men but on my old profile it was all about meeting couples.

I don't really care what it makes me!

A slut probably

x

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Whatever works people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty "
as a single guy I have always said that I will use this site for NSA fun but if something develops well thats even better, I don't look for a relationship on here I use pof and eharmony for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I openly use this site as a dating site.

I prefer dating people off the swinging or fetish scene."

As a general rule, people on Fab are more open about discussing sex.

Not in a 'what I want to do to you' kind of a way, either. In a meaningful, constructive way.

To my mind, it's as important an area of compatibility to explore with a potential partner as any other genuine interest.

In my experience though, whenever you pay the subject any mention on a vanilla dating site, you're immediately shut down as an insincere 'fuck boy', no matter how delicate your approach.

I prefer to chat with people who I know right off the bat are probably a little bit more comfortable taking their sexuality out for a walk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use a swingers site, because as a couple a dating site would be unsuitable. However many of my requirements from single men could be accused of being more appropriate on a dating site. I've often wondered what I would do if I were single. I would want the dating experience but with the NSA element. I would want the right to have as many lovers as I like, which is what I have now as a married woman. What I don't know is, if I were single, could I get away with having multiple partners on a dating site, or would exclusivity be expected. That was certainly my experience twelve years ago with dating sites, and this maybe the reason why many singles find Fab a better option. On the other hand I heard that these days there are casual dating sites in existence, where the NSA element is accepted. I don't know why some singles find a Fab meets their needs more than a casual dating site, but I'd be very interested to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get why singles and couples with singles profiles use Fab to arrange one on one meets with other singles or couples with singles profiles... heck we might even try that ourselves sometime to enjoy some kinky couplings. What seems more at odds with the ethos of Fab is singles who won't meet one half of a swinging couple as they're "attached"

This treatment of "attached" swingers as having the dreaded lurgy unfortunately suggests either a prejudice against swingers or a failure to grasp what "consent to play" means. Is this allergy backed up by experience? Do swinging couples really go doolally when they start playing separately? Or does this allergy come from more of a place of ignorance? An assumption that swingers are the same as cheaters or that they're liable to end in drama just like vanilla couples. It's just curious really... as the rest of us are quite happy playing with "attached" members of swinging couples. Perhaps it's more that some singles like to keep the option open that they may end up marrying someone they meet on here.

It seems like there are some legitimate reasons for this. All I'd ask, however, as one half of a swinging couple, is that if your own allergy ends up coming from a place of prejudice and ignorance you perhaps try to challenge that. You may be pleasantly surprised

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty "

I would love to date someone I meet here and eventually cultivate a LTR / life partnership. Most of the time blokes like to talk about it but don't want to execute. I know for a fact that I won't find someone suitable for me on a dating site. Monogamy is not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this happen to confuse anyone else?

It's just a bit of a pain especially when we are looking for single ladies, but find that they are only seeking single men!?

Wonder if it makes people feel a bit cool to have a profile on a swingers site yet not be a swinger in any way what so ever.

If your a single person and only looking for other singles is that not just dating and would maybe be better on a site like plenty of fish etc.

Hope that doesn't sound too ranty "

No, I think you are spot on there!

I'd like to say in my own defence that I started out in swinging going to clubs before I had heard of this site. And it was my new swinging friends that recommended this site to me so that we could stay in touch and organize when to meet up at parties or in clubs.

You are making a very valid point with this post, thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. I'm looking to be honest. Met some nice guys who are also relationship material but too far away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes im single and would love to meet a single lady whom i could potentially have a relationship with. What would be nice though and that is to actually receive a message from a female lol

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