FabSwingers.com forum: The thrill is in the chase?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it?

Do guy's tend to lose interest once they know it's no longer a challenge?

Once goal is achieved is it a case of, onto the next one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it?

Do guy's tend to lose interest once they know it's no longer a challenge?

Once goal is achieved is it a case of, onto the next one? "

Personally, no.

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

Yes. I get turned on by the chase!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problem is I never actually ever catch 'em. If I ever do then I'll let you know!

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

The chase the best thing

Once caught game over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it?

Do guy's tend to lose interest once they know it's no longer a challenge?

Once goal is achieved is it a case of, onto the next one? "

Depends I guess from one person to another. But for me this is spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the type of attitude I try to avoid. That's why a strict vet needs to tale place, I don't want to be somebody's one off, I would rather be their regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it?

Do guy's tend to lose interest once they know it's no longer a challenge?

Once goal is achieved is it a case of, onto the next one? "

Many say they're not like this however actions speak louder than words

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"This is the type of attitude I try to avoid. That's why a strict vet needs to tale place, I don't want to be somebody's one off, I would rather be their regular

Absolutely. I think that chaps who like 'the chase' might be the ones who haven't got the balls to actually meet you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thing I've got my running shoes on...

Ready?

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Enjoyed chasing in my youth... now its too much hard work. Prefer simple things in life now. Simple straight forward meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is the type of attitude I try to avoid. That's why a strict vet needs to tale place, I don't want to be somebody's one off, I would rather be their regular

Exactly

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Absolutely. I think that chaps who like 'the chase' might be the ones who haven't got the balls to actually meet you!!!

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"This is the type of attitude I try to avoid. That's why a strict vet needs to tale place, I don't want to be somebody's one off, I would rather be their regular

Well said!!

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Is it?

Do guy's tend to lose interest once they know it's no longer a challenge?

Once goal is achieved is it a case of, onto the next one? "

Story of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind is a powerful item, caress and flirt with it, it pays dividends,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think its the thrill of chasing its the buzz of the social side thinking does he does she etcc,??

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

The buzz of the chase is quite addictive but bored of it now. Prefer FBs or FWBs.

Unless we've mutually agreed it's a one off, I won't verify silly penises who disappear anymore

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

I won't lie the chase is good but, like someone previously stated, it all depends on how good the catch is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't lie the chase is good but, like someone previously stated, it all depends on how good the catch is.

And what if this scenario was reversed, and she was the one feeling less than impressed how would that make you feel?

I do think that this is a big game for some people/guy's and an extension of their lad's pub antics.

Not saying that you are like that, just didn't want to start another post.

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By *appy_hedonistMan
over a year ago

Islington

There is a thrill in the chase - surely everyone gets excited and a little nervous meeting someone new.

But if you're compatible and enjoy each others company then why would it stop there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold my hand up, I am guilty of this.

The chase is the best part, being curious of what it will be like or having something you shouldn't have (i.e another mans wife) is what brings me here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it?

Do guy's tend to lose interest once they know it's no longer a challenge?

Once goal is achieved is it a case of, onto the next one? "

With women I'd agree that this fits me. I can remember when I was pulling in nightclubs I used to pull one woman, then start thinking about pulling another one whilst kissing the first

After leaving a few to many women behind emotionally I have calmed down a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is definatley one of the thrills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just fellas. There are ladies that switch off once you agree to meet too.

Perhaps it is more fantasy than fulfillment for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The chase the best thing

Once caught game over"

Not at all... catch, struggle "let" them break free & hunt again.... ??

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

"I won't lie the chase is good but, like someone previously stated, it all depends on how good the catch is.

And what if this scenario was reversed, and she was the one feeling less than impressed how would that make you feel?

I do think that this is a big game for some people/guy's and an extension of their lad's pub antics.

Not saying that you are like that, just didn't want to start another post. "

Good point well made, we all have feelings and should do unto others...Im certainly not opposed to the the hunter becoming the prey (to carry on the analogy) but I suppose that if the leg work is done appropriately by all then desires and expectations should be met or surpassed during said chase and ultimate catch. Preparation from all parties is necessary but there are no guarentees of anything in life and certainly not on FAB.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I like the chase very much

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

There is a certain thrill to the chase. You only get the 'firsts' once after all.

But for me the chase isn't the goal, neither is the catch. It's finding someone that's a good sexual match and developing great sexual understanding.

Sex really does get better the better you know someone, and the more comfortable you are together. So although that initial thrill is gone, you're left with something better.

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

"My problem is I never actually ever catch 'em. If I ever do then I'll let you know! "

Are you confusing Fab with Pokemon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like fishing... go for the 'big one' and when you eventually catch it, you take a pic and put it back in the water and wait a few months, with any luck you may catch it again... only this time it's bigger.

We both prefer regular with just a few, more than one offs with loads of different people.

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

"It's like fishing..."

You wonder what the problem is.

Is it the size of my rod? Am I using the right bait? Maybe my tackle needs adjusting?

The whole time you are sitting there completely on your own, looking absolutely fucking ridiculous.

And if any of your mates find out about your pastime you can absolutely guarantee that you are going to get the piss taken out of you.

Welcome to the life of a single bloke on Fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously using the wrong sort of tackle! Haha

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By *tillwaterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

psychologically speaking, we want what we can't have (e.g. forbidden fruit), the more something/someone is unattainable the higher the desirability rate. As soon as the person/object is obtained / available the desirability rate drops and we lose interest.

Common rule: the harder something is to obtain the higher the pleasure received when attained. However the easier to lose interest in as the 'chase' out weighs the prize

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