FabSwingers.com forum: To judge or not to judge?

By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

Does anyone read a profile before looking at the pictures (apart from seeing main profile pic i guess).

Ive always found it better to do this so that you dont bias your brain into liking/disliking them before you have listened to their brain talk.

Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always look at the whole profile and see whether who we are looking at fits what we are looking for

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I look at the face pic first.

If there's no attraction, what they write in their profile won't change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile first then I perv at the photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

photos first for me..

no point chatting if no initial attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would always look at the whole profile while having a good perve too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean there's more to profiles than photos?

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"I always read the profile first then I perv at the photos

A man after my own heart !

Ive always found it more amusing to read first and decide if i like them. . Then seeing their pictures is like a lottery of but do i find them sexually attractive to my tastes?

Im sure you sir have plenty of perving over your pics hah

Fabstud in full effect no doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone read a profile before looking at the pictures (apart from seeing main profile pic i guess).

Ive always found it better to do this so that you dont bias your brain into liking/disliking them before you have listened to their brain talk.

Any thoughts?

as to the thread header, everyone judges, to a certain extent...

its only human nature

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By *inston80Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

"Would always look at the whole profile while having a good perve too. "
this

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Does anyone read a profile before looking at the pictures (apart from seeing main profile pic i guess).

Ive always found it better to do this so that you dont bias your brain into liking/disliking them before you have listened to their brain talk.

Any thoughts?

as to the thread header, everyone judges, to a certain extent...

its only human nature"

Yea i hear you. . Impossible not to have an opinion on someone i guess.

I think im deffo of the camp that a sexy brain far outweighs how much i fancy them in their pics.

Sounds like virtue signalling i know. . But some of my best meets have been with people i wouldnt usually approach in a bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the pictures first.

Then the profile, if the profile is funny, even if the person is what I would consider plain, I would find them attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me. "

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos for me first, then user name then profile. It's all in the face for me if I don't find them facially attractive Then there is no point in going further. Then they have to be able to engage my mind before I'll even consider a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me. "

A stupid or crude user name puts us off straight away!

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

A stupid or crude user name puts us off straight away!"

So FannyDestroyer doesnt do it for you??

*giggles*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos first, if there's no initial spark of attraction the all the brilliant profile text in the world won't sway us.

It's a fantasy thing, and the fantasy is very visual for us.

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the profile pic has a WOW factor in my opinion then I go straight to pics (never message because they're probably out of my league) but I try and always read the profile first and see what they're about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

And if I'm not getting lots of messages (i don't) then I'm not fit as fuck? Was that your judgement? Anyway, Who says we shouldn't judge? You can't go through life not making judgements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

I think it's more that I know I put zero effort into my profile text so I don't really expect other people to have done either

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

And if I'm not getting lots of messages (i don't) then I'm not fit as fuck? Was that your judgement? Anyway, Who says we shouldn't judge? You can't go through life not making judgements."

Was just a question. . . Hah theres no right or wrong answer im afraid !

If you came to the forums looking for factual definitive answers. . You will be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

And if I'm not getting lots of messages (i don't) then I'm not fit as fuck? Was that your judgement? Anyway, Who says we shouldn't judge? You can't go through life not making judgements.

Was just a question. . . Hah theres no right or wrong answer im afraid !

If you came to the forums looking for factual definitive answers. . You will be disappointed."

I'm just trying to understand the logic in what you're saying that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You mean there's more to profiles than photos?

Dirty sod

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

And if I'm not getting lots of messages (i don't) then I'm not fit as fuck? Was that your judgement? Anyway, Who says we shouldn't judge? You can't go through life not making judgements.

Was just a question. . . Hah theres no right or wrong answer im afraid !

If you came to the forums looking for factual definitive answers. . You will be disappointed.

I'm just trying to understand the logic in what you're saying that's all."

You say you dont get lots of messages but i bet you get a fair amount.

We cant all have the busy inbox that some people have on Fab, including me of course.

Im sure you ignore some peoples messages to you. .and fkr the record i though you had a good profile.

Deffo someone i would engage if at a bar.

Im sure you do alright on here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I see the avatar,

Check age preferences

Whether they meet smokers

Read profile

Then have a proper look at pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Username, avatar, location, age and height. Then profile text. If no face pic I won't reply , works for me

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username, avatar, location, age and height. Then profile text. If no face pic I won't reply , works for me "

Where in tarnation is sparkle city? Hah

Ahem . .suit picture on profile ahem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username, avatar, location, age and height. Then profile text. If no face pic I won't reply , works for me

Where in tarnation is sparkle city? Hah

Ahem . .suit picture on profile ahem"

A suit isn't compulsory but it helps also being 6ft does too

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username, avatar, location, age and height. Then profile text. If no face pic I won't reply , works for me

Where in tarnation is sparkle city? Hah

Ahem . .suit picture on profile ahem

A suit isn't compulsory but it helps also being 6ft does too

Ahem 6ft3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love to read a profile. After all you can excite the senses via the mind and there are some brilliant profiles on here ...of course if there is an enticing face pic it adds a tick, however even then, if they have no charisma or imagination- it has put us off a few ppl

Currently talking to a 58yr old guy who isn't necessarily all that in the looks dept, however he more than makes it up with his imagination- gone to the top of our "to meet" list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

but its exactly what you did...

as I said, its human nature

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Username (if it's something gross, they're out); height; photos; profile text. That's how my routine goes and it works for me.

Well i guess being fit as fuck lends you tonhaving a large choice in your inbox.

I guess a structured routine is needed in your case Rubes.

And anyone not "fit as fuck" doesn't?

Hey hey

If your getting lots of messages clearly you are 'fit as fuck' in some sense to the rght people.

You shouldnt judge !

(See what i did there? Kept the convo on topic. .yay ! lol)

but its exactly what you did...

as I said, its human nature"

Of course its human nature.

Not sure who you are arguing your point with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"photos first for me..

no point chatting if no initial attraction

Same for us, attraction is top of our list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i always read about them the have a look x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

One of the first things I check is location and accommodation status, then I'll look at the pics to see if there's an initial attraction. If all is good I'll then read the profile but even ifs a bit crap I'll possibly send a message anyway. It's really difficult finding people who can accommodate fairly close by

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"One of the first things I check is location and accommodation status, then I'll look at the pics to see if there's an initial attraction. If all is good I'll then read the profile but even ifs a bit crap I'll possibly send a message anyway. It's really difficult finding people who can accommodate fairly close by

How tragic !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always profile first.

However some times the one line of a profile isn't enough to hide the pictures (unfortunately /) fortunately

Dreams

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By *xploringThisWorld OP Man
over a year ago

collier row

"Always profile first.

However some times the one line of a profile isn't enough to hide the pictures (unfortunately /) fortunately

Dreams "

I just broke my routine and oogled your pics first hah

Oh my days. . Cute handcuffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read the profile first then I perv at the photos

A man after my own heart !

Ive always found it more amusing to read first and decide if i like them. . Then seeing their pictures is like a lottery of but do i find them sexually attractive to my tastes?

Im sure you sir have plenty of perving over your pics hah

Fabstud in full effect no doubt.

I don't like those that jump straight to pictures without having a read into who this person is. A profile says a lot about its owner

I have my fair share of people perving

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Scoot down to profile details, check for age matches, non-smokers, sexuality prefs;

Scoot back up and read profile thoroughly, being utterly judgemental along the way.

Look down at the pictures. Perve the boobs and stockings and bums if there are any.

We're much more likely to approve or not based on profile text than face pics. Isn't it fully how polarising this is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the words first. That helps me decide if I'm going to get to enjoy the person/people in the pics

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