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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!"

Not only here, all my fkin life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've led her to believe you're single over a long period of time (even if not explicitly but by never offering anything to suggest otherwise) then I can understand why she might cease comms once the truth has been 'outed'.

Many people on here want to make their own choices about meeting attached people. Loads of us are attached - many openly attached people get meets, I choose to declare early in my profile so people can make an informed choice from the outset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think if you're not single you should state this on your profile otherwise you are deceiving people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally honesty is a must nothing can bite you in the ass later down the line..... Although for other reasons a bite on the ass can be pleasurable

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Next you'll be saying you're not actually straight??...honesty is always the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People should have the right to make informed choices. Whilst not advertising my situation I'm always honest. If people chose to walk away that's their choice. (que - wa wa it's easy for you you're a woman!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like most are dishonest i would never willingly meet married or attached its cheating and i wouldnt want it done to me.

The answer to keeping your mouth shut is no as you should put it on your profile so an informed choice can be made.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You weren't too honest, you were too deceitful and just got caught. People don't like being lied to, whatever your circumstances just be straight about it.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

Getting fed up with

married...who turn into single men / women .

single ...who are married men / women,

smoking non smokers,

fake ages,

fake or old photos,

..be honest and put on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm it's best to say you're not single right at the start if you're in a relationship....nothing more disappointing to discover that a bloke isn't single when you've been getting on really well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been too honest in the past and probably put people off. Not to do with me being attached or not, just other things!!!

There are just some things people on here just don't need to know. It's not a dating site, it's hooking up for sex. I tell people very little about myself, it's no one else's business!!!

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"Getting fed up with

married...who turn into single men / women .

single ...who are married men / women,

smoking non smokers,

fake ages,

fake or old photos,

..be honest and put on your profile. "
this is very true .but still some genuine people on here .it just takes a bit of trawling through .and if you go to clubs .you dont ask lots of questions you play with who you fancy .be more harmful if this was a dating for wedding other half.site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have fab names and when you meet Dave becomes a Colin. We always give our real names from first introduction via message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Too honest' is an interesting take on beibg deceitful and then the truth coming out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused... How is that too honest? You were chatting, getting along well, and only then she finds out? You should have told her from the offset, or better yet, put it on your profile.

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By *atie ShayTV/TS
over a year ago

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Bet you wish you'd not opened your mouth and posted this thread now

But in answer to your question - yes absolutely! Can't think of an occasion on here but plenty at work lol

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!"

Dunno about 'too honest' - it seems like you are saying that you weren't honest at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can anyone be to honest? If your attached then you should state it on your profile

She obviously feels like you lead her on and quite frankly I would have done the same as she did

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting points of view on this.

Just wanted to clarify, I actually truly thought I'd told her at the start of my situation as I always do. It turned out I hadn't and I only realised when she made a chance remark.

Then I told her and.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I state that I'm married on my profile and I have not had any meets at all. I sometimes wonder if deception sometimes pays

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!"

Your definition of "honest" differs to mine!

Attached people get meets as they state it from the off, allowing others to make an informed choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I state that I'm married on my profile and I have not had any meets at all. I sometimes wonder if deception sometimes pays"

Not in the long run. You may be able to worm your way into a women's bed but to what end? Just to get your kicks? If you're married and cheating then there are women out there that find it acceptable and even places dedicated to extra marital affairs, however to say you're single while married and playing without her knowledge will, in my experience, end badly for you.

Don't get me wrong though, I'm not berating your choices or actions. I just find its better to be honest from the outset. That way everyone knows where they stand.

Jx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes I state that I'm married on my profile and I have not had any meets at all. I sometimes wonder if deception sometimes pays"

I don't meet married men because I don't play nice. If they want to meet me it's their business how they explain the "property of Miss Vee" temporary tattoo on their arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty all the way.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

in my experience it doesnt pay to be too honest, and one thing i hate is nosy people. I dont ask people questions about their private life anymore on here because i think they prefer it that way and so do i. I am only on here for sex, unless they like to talk about dogs or walking in the countryside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually think ( only my personal opinion) that honesty is the best policy. At least everyone knows from the ourset where they stand

Kinky

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Sometimes I wish I'd lied about my age as 50 is a cut off for many on here...

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By *aughty alex 99Man
over a year ago

gosport


"For me personally honesty is a must nothing can bite you in the ass later down the line..... Although for other reasons a bite on the ass can be pleasurable "

Ermmm so I kinda want skittles badly now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I think if you're not single you should state this on your profile otherwise you are deceiving people."

Totally agreed! A guy done the same to me! And I said good bye! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I think if you're not single you should state this on your profile otherwise you are deceiving people."

I agree

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Personally, I think if you're not single you should state this on your profile otherwise you are deceiving people.

I agree"

I totally agree with what your saying but at the end of the day it's a Swingers site.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Sometimes I wish I'd lied about my age as 50 is a cut off for many on here... "

I find 60 is a cut off too but it isn't really a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, no, I find honesty overrated.

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth


"Sometimes I wish I'd lied about my age as 50 is a cut off for many on here...

I find 60 is a cut off too but it isn't really a problem"

I know what you mean different avenues open up but wow some of those younger ladies

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Personally, I think if you're not single you should state this on your profile otherwise you are deceiving people."

Absolutely

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Sometimes I wish I'd lied about my age as 50 is a cut off for many on here... "

It's not really..

S

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth


"Sometimes I wish I'd lied about my age as 50 is a cut off for many on here...

It's not really..

S"

Apart from for you then?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Sometimes I wish I'd lied about my age as 50 is a cut off for many on here...

It's not really..

S

Apart from for you then? "

Probably a few more than just me I would have thought, but then i'm not a single guy, but I was 54 when we first joined so dunno what it would have been like if I was 44..

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next you'll be saying you're not actually straight??...honesty is always the best policy."

I have had a few chats on here that went exactly like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I tend to be honest all the time and stick to my guns as far as my thoughts and beliefs are concerned and it's served me well so far x

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

You can either be honest or not. There is no such thing as 'too honest'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is being too honest when someone asks you if you like their new haircut and rather than tell a white lie to spare their feelings, you tell them it looks fucking awful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!"

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin "

Reported for what reason?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I have said things about myself and lifestyle which have caused ladies to decide not to meet me.

I do not feel that is being too honest. If something about me is a deal breaker, it is better to know sooner rather than later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been honest and straight talking, sometimes it's not always appreciated.

Sometimes it's got me into bother, but my view is this.

You will always know where you stand with me.

If I think you're a cunt, I'll tell you, if I think you're funny, I'll tell you, if I think your bum does look too big in that? I'll tell you.

Why lie about it at all? I mean what does lying get you in the long run? I never understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting points of view on this.

Just wanted to clarify, I actually truly thought I'd told her at the start of my situation as I always do. It turned out I hadn't and I only realised when she made a chance remark.

Then I told her and.....!"

People most probably won't believe you on this one but if you are so honest as to tell anyone you message you are not single..... why not just have it on your profile to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin

Reported for what reason? "

Just got carried away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin "

If we're reporting people for that now, I've got an extensive list of people who've messaged me trying to meet, after they've spouted off all over the forums about how cheating is terrible. I think he should have been upfront too but it's hardly something to report to admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin

If we're reporting people for that now, I've got an extensive list of people who've messaged me trying to meet, after they've spouted off all over the forums about how cheating is terrible. I think he should have been upfront too but it's hardly something to report to admin "

I think she was joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin

If we're reporting people for that now, I've got an extensive list of people who've messaged me trying to meet, after they've spouted off all over the forums about how cheating is terrible. I think he should have been upfront too but it's hardly something to report to admin

I think she was joking "

Ah fair enough. My list is still real though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I think if you're not single you should state this on your profile otherwise you are deceiving people."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing against married guys. Have been known to play with 1 or 2 but nothing worse than clicking with someone who u thought was single and when the time comes to meet they announce they are married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!

If you are attached and plan on declaring the fact at some point it may as well be at the beginning, as that way whoever it is you are chatting to can have the option to continue or not...

Dropping it into the conversation after a period of time will only reflect badly on you, as you have hidden the info, and been deceitful and led someone to believe you are definitely not what you appear to be...

Good on her for ending all contact... hope she blocked you too and reported you to admin

If we're reporting people for that now, I've got an extensive list of people who've messaged me trying to meet, after they've spouted off all over the forums about how cheating is terrible. I think he should have been upfront too but it's hardly something to report to admin

I think she was joking

Ah fair enough. My list is still real though "

Mine too but I bet it's shorter than yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty doesn't always pay. Depends on circumstances. This is a sex site, not a dating site. I personally don't see the need to divulge personal information to some random person you may only meet once. Only tell people what you are happy them knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you're in a relationship and playing alone without partners knowledge or consent it demonstrates how selfish and inconsiderate you are.

Not many potential players that appeals to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd been talking to a guy with a single profile and no mention of not actually being single, and then found out he's married, I'd block to. To be that's you being deceptive, ruins trust.

Obviously it's up to you what you chose to disclose, but far better imo to be honest and up front from the start, some won't meet people who are attached, some don't care, some look for it. You may get turned down for it, but could be missing meets who don't want un attached.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"

Why lie about it at all? I mean what does lying get you in the long run? I never understand it "

You sort of hit the nail on the head with "In the long run" Most guys aren't here for that, they are here for a fuck so on here lying could mean getting one or not getting one..

S

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Best to be honest on your profile, then people can make informed choices, that way , no one's time gets wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Why lie about it at all? I mean what does lying get you in the long run? I never understand it

You sort of hit the nail on the head with "In the long run" Most guys aren't here for that, they are here for a fuck so on here lying could mean getting one or not getting one..

S"

Yeah but there are people on here who actively seek cheats with the opinion they're likely to be more discreet about meeting, or that a cheat won't cause them any drama.

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

Not having a go, what you do is your business.

But other than being 'too honest', can you really call yourself honest at all given you said you wish you felt you mouth shut? It implies that had you known the effect of your honesty you wouldn't have been.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Honesty doesn't always pay. Depends on circumstances. This is a sex site, not a dating site. I personally don't see the need to divulge personal information to some random person you may only meet once. Only tell people what you are happy them knowing. "

Because I hope to meet more than once, to build a sexual rapport and to treat them as a person, not just as a service.

If somwthing about me would be a deal breaker for them, better they know early on. If I were to hide things, why should any lady trust me to have sex with her?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Was chatting to a lady on here over a period of time and getting on really well. She mentioned something about me being single and I was honest, corrected her and said I wasn't actually single, cue end of conversation, end of any naughty plans and her thinking I was the worst fella to ever walk this earth!

Has anyone on here been honest and thought afterwards that they wish they had kept their mouth shut?!"
f

Personally on line I think its best you just be open about home situation ,whether you have other regular play partners the lot .

That way your firmly putting the choice to play or not in the other persons court letting them decide armed with all the information they need to make a well informed choice .

This is how I roll in the sex meets world and its how I expect others to roll in there dealings with me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I know a girl who dumped her bf cos just as they were about to shag the first time he explained he likes to fart while shagging! That was the end apparently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better to say things than not to say them.

I bet we have all thought "I should a told a white lie" and all thought "I should have told the truth" at some point in our lives. There are certainly times where I have thought, why did'nt I keep my mouth shut! But there's also been lots of times where I feel I was not daring enough.

So general rules - Keep approaching people and not be shy, keep the conversation away from controvesal personal details and be honest in the first instance - it avoids a bust up later on.

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