FabSwingers.com forum: New relationship

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This may seem an odd question and is aimed at the single people out there. If you met someone who was not a swinger and fell in love. Would you tell them about your interest in swinging or keep it to yourself and stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not single but I've never had any involvement in swinging before . Met Mr and he had previously , we were discussing other sexual things and he brought it up and here we are

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Honestly is always the best policy.. If you lie you have to remember it and keep it up.

If you omit to tell someone someone something it normally catches up on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When Mr and I met one out first conversations went like this:

Him, you have to be open-minded to be with me

Me, why

Him, because I've done swinging before and enjoy it

Me, look at my fab profile.

True story and we are getting married next month

I think honesty is the best policy, tell them and if they back off you probably know it wasn't the right situation anyways I less your willing to give it all up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person. I had a 6 month relationship away from here, I just hid my profile and didn't meet whilst with him. He thought I was sweet and innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When Mr and I met one out first conversations went like this:

Him, you have to be open-minded to be with me

Me, why

Him, because I've done swinging before and enjoy it

Me, look at my fab profile.

True story and we are getting married next month

I think honesty is the best policy, tell them and if they back off you probably know it wasn't the right situation anyways I less your willing to give it all up

Great story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would have to say something.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"This may seem an odd question and is aimed at the single people out there. If you met someone who was not a swinger and fell in love. Would you tell them about your interest in swinging or keep it to yourself and stop."

This was always just a no strings distraction and not a way of life. If I'd met someone I'd walk away without a backwards glance.

As it is I met my other half here. He knows I was married I know he wasn't...who, what, where we didn't see the point in dissecting. Sometimes one of us will mention something an ex did, but it's appropriate to what's happening at that moment, in context and funny.

I don't think you need to bear your soul...unless you want to continue doing your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When Mr and I met one out first conversations went like this:

Him, you have to be open-minded to be with me

Me, why

Him, because I've done swinging before and enjoy it

Me, look at my fab profile.

True story and we are getting married next month

I think honesty is the best policy, tell them and if they back off you probably know it wasn't the right situation anyways I less your willing to give it all up

Great story

Thanks, we think it's perfect because we found each other and can enjoy life together, including this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When Mr and I met one out first conversations went like this:

Him, you have to be open-minded to be with me

Me, why

Him, because I've done swinging before and enjoy it

Me, look at my fab profile.

True story and we are getting married next month

I think honesty is the best policy, tell them and if they back off you probably know it wasn't the right situation anyways I less your willing to give it all up

Great story

Thanks, we think it's perfect because we found each other and can enjoy life together, including this

Exactly, I really don't understand people that would give up something they enjoy just to be with someone when there are 7bn+ people on the planet to choose from. How that doesn't lead to resentment is beyond my understanding of the human condition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told the guy I'm dating earlier today. He saw no issue in it whatsoever

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I would tell them, C is a permanent fixture in my life so they would need to be accepting of a poly relationship

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"I told the guy I'm dating earlier today. He saw no issue in it whatsoever

He's a good and very lucky man!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell them. If they were someone who I wanted a relationship with then there would be unconditional love respect trust and honesty... Which means that we would not judge each other on our past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told the guy I'm dating earlier today. He saw no issue in it whatsoever

He's a good and very lucky man!!

I'm the lucky one, trust me!

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"I told the guy I'm dating earlier today. He saw no issue in it whatsoever

He's a good and very lucky man!!

I'm the lucky one, trust me!

Well I'm happy for you and I wish you both all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told the guy I'm dating earlier today. He saw no issue in it whatsoever

He's a good and very lucky man!!

I'm the lucky one, trust me!

Well I'm happy for you and I wish you both all the best

Thanks lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are very lucky Ava xx

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

I've had a few relationships where I felt honesty was the best policy.... they started off well but but soon descended into mistrust even though I stopped playing the moment I began dating them.

Now I think silence is golden on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to meet and fall in love, I don't see the point in having a major discussion on the fact that I was on a swinging site. I'm not the type to discuss past lovers, they are gone, and I wouldn't personally want to hear about his past conquests either. It would have been before I met him, so of no consequence in my opinion. It's not that I'm ashamed or embarrassed. I just don't find it would be relevant to what we had. I know some like to talk about their past loves and all that. But it's not for me, personally.

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By *ason_silverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I have no intention of getting into a relationship at the moment - but if I did - by accident say...

I think I would probably stop going to the clubs for a month - but then tell her I had stopped going to the clubs for a month - and that this was part of me as I am at the moment.

Things change - where it went from there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few relationships where I felt honesty was the best policy.... they started off well but but soon descended into mistrust even though I stopped playing the moment I began dating them.

Now I think silence is golden on the subject"

What makes you think you missed out on anything just because those relationships fizzled out?

If they won't trust you, they won't trust you. If it wasn't swinging it would have been something else. Some people can't help but project their insecurities on to others. Generally they don't make the best life partners...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few relationships where I felt honesty was the best policy.... they started off well but but soon descended into mistrust even though I stopped playing the moment I began dating them.

Now I think silence is golden on the subject

What makes you think you missed out on anything just because those relationships fizzled out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Monogamy is not for me. So if Paul and I ever separated i would stay single or find someone from the swingers community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have thought about this a few times, I would hide my profile for a bit and lurk the forums, then when comfortable that the news won't freak her out i'll break it to her, maybe start with trying to learn eachothers fantasies and go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have thought about this a few times, I would hide my profile for a bit and lurk the forums, then when comfortable that the news won't freak her out i'll break it to her, maybe start with trying to learn eachothers fantasies and go from there"

Bollucks to that, blurt it out on the first date - you can't get a little bit pregnant

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

" If I was to meet and fall in love, I don't see the point in having a major discussion on the fact that I was on a swinging site. I'm not the type to discuss past lovers, they are gone, and I wouldn't personally want to hear about his past conquests either. It would have been before I met him, so of no consequence in my opinion. It's not that I'm ashamed or embarrassed. I just don't find it would be relevant to what we had. I know some like to talk about their past loves and all that. But it's not for me, personally. "

I agree.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

This is exactly how I am.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I told my ex when we first started dating that I was a swinger. She wasnt put off and was a bit intrigued but she didnt want to do it. That was fine and I didnt meet anybody else for the 2 years we were together. When I returned to Fab I met Miss on here and am well happy.

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