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By *ason_silver OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You count them

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If someone followed me wanting this and that, that would be the end of that then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I alwais have a final kiss goodbye at the door

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Sometimes I want to cuddle a bit afterwards, sometimes I'm happy if they leave straight away. I just go with the flow.

The ones that start talking about kids and marriage are unlikely to last though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I alwais have a final kiss goodbye at the door

Me too, through the letterbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I alwais have a final kiss goodbye at the door

Me too, through the letterbox

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Yes, the post woman never rings twice lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Tbh if somebody upped and left I'd be a bit miffed! I don't expect any fluffiness from my meets but I do like a bit of light refreshment after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like op is a panda

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

If it's no strings you cut them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone wasn't the type to at least hang around for a chat and kiss I'd probably not get as far as fucking them. I'm one of those fluffy types who likes a bit of personality and interaction with my sex toy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh if somebody upped and left I'd be a bit miffed! I don't expect any fluffiness from my meets but I do like a bit of light refreshment after

Totally agree....and don't invite back for a repeat!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

For me, my meets include a friendship, so yes I would expect some interaction afterwards and a kiss before leaving is expected.

If you want purely fuck and go meets, then you should be upfront about it, but just seems very cold and clinical to me, so would be a no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, my meets include a friendship, so yes I would expect some interaction afterwards and a kiss before leaving is expected.

If you want purely fuck and go meets, then you should be upfront about it, but just seems very cold and clinical to me, so would be a no from me

This.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

NSA doesn't mean fuck & run for us, it's more "Please don't get us involved on your possibly messy life too much cos we have one of our own thanks

" Get up & go would not be seen as NSA, just bloody rude..

Defo need some chat/drink/wind down time..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm ambivalent to this one. Sometimes I like a coffee and chat, at other times I want them gone as soon as possible, even with the same person it'll depend on my mood.

Likewise with playmates, sometimes it's a quicky (between meetings) sometimes lunch.

Neither they nor I get "precious" either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Oh dear....

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"For me, my meets include a friendship, so yes I would expect some interaction afterwards and a kiss before leaving is expected.

If you want purely fuck and go meets, then you should be upfront about it, but just seems very cold and clinical to me, so would be a no from me

I agree

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I meet in clubs and in open rooms, I like group sex so me leaving will not stop my type of fun or theirs.

I would leave in a dignified and respectful manner but I certainly would not hang around. I will likely have a 90 min drive home in the early hours of the morning and idle chit chat is not for me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Oh dear...."

Oh oh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel like a hooker if a guy just upped and left immediately after sex. Chat and a cuppa/wine afterwards is part of the experience....

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By *ason_silver OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

oops

I was stretching the hypothesis.

Still being rather new I didn't know if I was being too clingy (at times I felt I was) or too separate (I did bugger off to the smokers room)

simply trying to get the right level of after analysis (gives me an idea for a thread)

- and you're the one that told every one it was you

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I alwais have a final kiss goodbye at the door

Me too, through the letterbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should always at least be able to chat and have a laugh around the sex. No woman wants to be made to feel like an unpaid hooker if you just cum and go. It's mutual fun so you shouldn't just be thinking about your physical needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone wasn't the type to at least hang around for a chat and kiss I'd probably not get as far as fucking them. I'm one of those fluffy types who likes a bit of personality and interaction with my sex toy

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I hate it when someone lingers... a quick thanks will surfice... however as my meets tend to all be at clubs it never seems out of place... but even on private meets ive been wanting them to leave.

The thing is on here you have to find people your compatible with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll throw in some laughing and crisps too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"You should always at least be able to chat and have a laugh around the sex. No woman wants to be made to feel like an unpaid hooker if you just cum and go. It's mutual fun so you shouldn't just be thinking about your physical needs"

Very "gallant" but not every woman wants to chat and a laugh or feel like an unpaid hooker.

Individuals differ and the trick is finding people who play like you rather than assume everyone does it your way.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I hate it when someone lingers... a quick thanks will surfice... however as my meets tend to all be at clubs it never seems out of place... but even on private meets ive been wanting them to leave.

The thing is on here you have to find people your compatible with... "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like 'coffee and biscuits' after our main course.

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By *ason_silver OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

see - this is what I was looking for - the two sides to the "swing-o-meter"

so how do you synchronize the two?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"see - this is what I was looking for - the two sides to the "swing-o-meter"

so how do you synchronize the two?"

On a person by person basis. There's no one size fits all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll throw in some laughing and crisps too."

Some of those 'posh' hand cooked ones? Sea salt and balsamic vinegar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it when someone lingers... a quick thanks will surfice... however as my meets tend to all be at clubs it never seems out of place... but even on private meets ive been wanting them to leave.

The thing is on here you have to find people your compatible with... "

Agree. There's someone for everyone on here I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

oops

I was stretching the hypothesis.

Still being rather new I didn't know if I was being too clingy (at times I felt I was) or too separate (I did bugger off to the smokers room)

simply trying to get the right level of after analysis (gives me an idea for a thread)

- and you're the one that told every one it was you

XXX"

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By *ason_silver OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"see - this is what I was looking for - the two sides to the "swing-o-meter"

so how do you synchronize the two?

On a person by person basis. There's no one size fits all

Admittedly yes - but even the best therapist works from pre-aranged scales and levels.

I was just looking to work those out (before I need to see a psychiatrist)

think of this as a gathering of data

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find there's no way of knowing until it happens. People will say anything before they get a fuck, then afterwards it can all change.

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By *ustfunandgamesMan
over a year ago

st Albans / NSA fantasy fun

"I find there's no way of knowing until it happens. People will say anything before they get a fuck, then afterwards it can all change. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

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I don't think it reads like that at all.

He has been quite honest saying he thinks he was too clingy. It's a fair question and as can be seen by the replies, many people have very different opinions/ likes / dislikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

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I don't think it reads like that at all.

He has been quite honest saying he thinks he was too clingy. It's a fair question and as can be seen by the replies, many people have very different opinions/ likes / dislikes. "

You are right, I got defensive when my actions were portrayed as 'just walking away' when I clearly didn't

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I find there's no way of knowing until it happens. People will say anything before they get a fuck, then afterwards it can all change. "

As could be seen from the couples equal play thread, full swap guy finishes first so stops the play with his wife & takes her away mid fuck..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

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I don't think it reads like that at all.

He has been quite honest saying he thinks he was too clingy. It's a fair question and as can be seen by the replies, many people have very different opinions/ likes / dislikes.

You are right, I got defensive when my actions were portrayed as 'just walking away' when I clearly didn't

Agree I don't think he's put you in a bad light just felt a bit unsure of his own actions? Don't blame you getting defensive though, but for what it's worth I don't think he's meant it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

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I don't think it reads like that at all.

He has been quite honest saying he thinks he was too clingy. It's a fair question and as can be seen by the replies, many people have very different opinions/ likes / dislikes.

You are right, I got defensive when my actions were portrayed as 'just walking away' when I clearly didn't

Fucking hell, more drama than on Facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

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I don't think it reads like that at all.

He has been quite honest saying he thinks he was too clingy. It's a fair question and as can be seen by the replies, many people have very different opinions/ likes / dislikes.

You are right, I got defensive when my actions were portrayed as 'just walking away' when I clearly didn't

Agree I don't think he's put you in a bad light just felt a bit unsure of his own actions? Don't blame you getting defensive though, but for what it's worth I don't think he's meant it that way

Ok thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recent meeting made me wonder about the different levels of this particular style.

Two people both want NSA - They have sex - then one just walks away while the other ends up following them around for a bit hoping for a "goodbye conversation" or "final kiss".

They both essentially want the same thing - but get lost in the finer details.

How do you know how many strings to cut?

I didn't just walk away, you cheeky sod! We had a chat and a drink afterwards, then we watched other people play

I'm not bothered people know it was me. What I am bothered about is you make me sound like a bitch!

...

I don't think it reads like that at all.

He has been quite honest saying he thinks he was too clingy. It's a fair question and as can be seen by the replies, many people have very different opinions/ likes / dislikes.

You are right, I got defensive when my actions were portrayed as 'just walking away' when I clearly didn't

Fucking hell, more drama than on Facebook

I know - gloves came off for a moment there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just find those tuned into the way i like things done. It works great and i don't care how others do things.

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By *ason_silver OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

note for future - ideas that come from reality - then get processed and over-analyzed - need to be REALLY separated from the original reality

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over a year ago

"I find there's no way of knowing until it happens. People will say anything before they get a fuck, then afterwards it can all change.

As could be seen from the couples equal play thread, full swap guy finishes first so stops the play with his wife & takes her away mid fuck..

Which thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never know how to treat people on a meet! I just try to see what they want. I'm not adverse to an end of meet conversation, and talking might actually clarify what they want! lol

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