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We play seperately because of childcare - are we alone in this?

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By *otwifeandmr OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ryde

Hi we have to play alone because of childcare problems, whilst it is great fun especially when we tell each other what we have been up to, we have never met another couple who do this. Are we alone? and if so why is it so hard for him to find a girl but so easy for her to find a guy!!!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"Are we alone?"

No we play separate but for obvious reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we play alone now and again as i like diffrent things to john .... and also he runs his own offices and has to work alot and can be on call. Kids now at un and collage .. if it works well for you two why not xx lovely you tell each other i do john at times really turn him on Big time .

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

we also play alone aswell as together due to lack of sitters makes life a little easier at times so no your not totally alone in this

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

We also play seperate,for example this weekend i am off to chams.We do play together too,but it is hard to get childcare.

Why is it easier for fems,ask a single bloke lol

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"We also play seperate,for example this weekend i am off to chams.We do play together too,but it is hard to get childcare.

Why is it easier for fems,ask a single bloke lol "

I believe it may even be more difficult for the male half of a couple to get meets than a single male. Us single males can get accused of secretly being in a relationship, so if you really ARE in a relationship then I can imagine some people jumping to conclusions and ignoring an attached male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also play seperate,for example this weekend i am off to chams.We do play together too,but it is hard to get childcare.

Why is it easier for fems,ask a single bloke lol

I believe it may even be more difficult for the male half of a couple to get meets than a single male. Us single males can get accused of secretly being in a relationship, so if you really ARE in a relationship then I can imagine some people jumping to conclusions and ignoring an attached male."

Have to agree, the perception seems to be if a married man plays alone he's cheating even if he has the permission of his wife/partner where as this doesn't seem to be the case the opposite way around

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"I believe it may even be more difficult for the male half of a couple to get meets than a single male. ."

As a bi Male in a MM relationship, and although I have my partners blessing to meet females, I receive very few contacts from females requesting a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fascinating

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yes hubby and i do play separate .we found opposite problem he found a lovely lady to meet regular but difficult for me to find a guy . was seeing a single guy for afew years and worked very well for us .plus odd times could arrange nights away for the four of us .hope to get that again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

interesting to read this is.

enlightening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also play separately, Phil more than me. He turns me on when he comes home and tells me all about the fun he has had!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

not saying a word

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"We also play seperate,for example this weekend i am off to chams.We do play together too,but it is hard to get childcare.

Why is it easier for fems,ask a single bloke lol

I believe it may even be more difficult for the male half of a couple to get meets than a single male. Us single males can get accused of secretly being in a relationship, so if you really ARE in a relationship then I can imagine some people jumping to conclusions and ignoring an attached male.

Have to agree, the perception seems to be if a married man plays alone he's cheating even if he has the permission of his wife/partner where as this doesn't seem to be the case the opposite way around"

Very good comments,the fact is i'm a slut,which i why i like clubs,no names no pack drills just loads of sex.Kev likes to flirt and woo,to get to to know a woman.i do think assumptions are made about married ppl who play aone with permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all you peeps who can do that, then great. We could never play apart, same room the works, but that is us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby loves to hear what I have done and also imagine it and picture it! Im not interested in creating a friendship with the boys, its simply sex, so its mainly in clubs. I find one on one meets mean the male thinks he has to 'make luuuurve to the lady' which Im not interested in!

I have Hubby to make love to me, I want the meets to fuck me hard and fast!!

I think if playing on your own works for you, then go for it! The whole point of swinging is FUN!!!

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a fascinating thread so very informative.

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By *ooty and suuCouple
over a year ago

barnsley

we have been known to play seperatley

but prefer to play as a couple

but only play seprate with each others

consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We kinda go half way.... we meet alone most of the time, but master is always on cam... as I wouldn't play without that.

It works for us and to the op as long as it works for You, that's all that matters.

Katie. X

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By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

A couple that play together stay together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A couple that play together stay together"

Rubbish!!!!

A couple that are happy together, stay together - whether they play together, on their own or are simply voyeurs!!! How they play has no bearing on things, its where they are as a couple in the first place that matters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A couple that play together stay together

Rubbish!!!!

A couple that are happy together, stay together - whether they play together, on their own or are simply voyeurs!!! How they play has no bearing on things, its where they are as a couple in the first place that matters!

"
very true xxxx well said.

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By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"A couple that play together stay together

Rubbish!!!!

A couple that are happy together, stay together - whether they play together, on their own or are simply voyeurs!!! How they play has no bearing on things, its where they are as a couple in the first place that matters!

"

Obviously just your opinion and no reason to RUBBISH ours

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

We have thought about playing alone, but we are not sure it would work for us. We like to see and hear eachother having sex. Maybe there will be a time we will but we sure aint gonna rush into it. But if we was in the position where we couldnt get sitters for the kids then maybe we would go down that route rather than miss out on fun altogether. We do like the idea of telling eachother what we did on a meet, but then we change our minds and put playing seperate on the back burner.

But play how you want, and dont listen to anyone else, its your life , your marrage xxxxx Hpaay swinging xxx

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"A couple that play together stay together

Rubbish!!!!

A couple that are happy together, stay together - whether they play together, on their own or are simply voyeurs!!! How they play has no bearing on things, its where they are as a couple in the first place that matters!

Obviously just your opinion and no reason to RUBBISH ours "

sorry but have to say there are meny cpls who start swinging and that ends there realationship ! if your realationship isnt 100% rock solid then swinging will just blast open any cracks in it ! there are couples and you know through chatting that one partner is just doing it to keep the other happy ! that is never going to work and will eventually drive them apart or off with another person . been on the scean afew years and seen the carnage caused .not just beacause they swung but swung for wrong reasons , swinging was the catalyst that ended their relationships ! the other person made very valid points to your post and honestly if you think that "play together stays together " works for every couple than im afraid thats very nieve.

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By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Seems like we touched a nerve or two. Did you just agree with us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I played with part of a couple once, arranged through the hubby. Was great, I got to take photos / videos so he could enjoy later in the day

Understand why this isn't everyone's cup of tea of course

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"A couple that play together stay together

Rubbish!!!!

A couple that are happy together, stay together - whether they play together, on their own or are simply voyeurs!!! How they play has no bearing on things, its where they are as a couple in the first place that matters!

very true xxxx well said. "

Yup,swinging splits far more than it brings together,what matters is honesty ,openess and trust.

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By *igco51Man
over a year ago

lockerbie

i have a fb consent to play alone if any of u women want to play give me a shout

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

same reason, child care, more Franchine than me, just the way the scene is, but we do have regular ppl we play with so it works for us, but we do prefer playing together

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't think we could ever play on our own we love watching each other get fucked its so hot, plus i (andy) would prob not get much fun well no were is near the amount zoe would get lol. males are a dime a dozen.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Seems like we touched a nerve or two. Did you just agree with us?"

my veiw was very plain. nothing at all to do with touching a nerve , just pointing out the facts the nievity of your statment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t really see the point on 1 on 1 meets when you can do that with your partner, sometimes I do wonder if some swinging couples actually have a sex life with their partner, notice I said some, especially when you see the strops in the forums when they’ve been let down, you’d think they’d just make a night of it themselves and laugh it all off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we had to play alone, no matter what the reason, we'd simply not do it. Playing just isn't that important to us .....

Each to their own though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we had to play alone, no matter what the reason, we'd simply not do it. Playing just isn't that important to us .....

Each to their own though "

Yep, pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple

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By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Don’t really see the point on 1 on 1 meets when you can do that with your partner, sometimes I do wonder if some swinging couples actually have a sex life with their partner, notice I said some, especially when you see the strops in the forums when they’ve been let down, you’d think they’d just make a night of it themselves and laugh it all off "

Done exactly that more than once due to time wasters, but then that's the advantage of being a couple in love

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

some folks soft swing ,others only same room .some like separate room ,some enjoy dogging .theres no right or wrong way of swinging just what suits that person/couple and fits in their life and what they are comfortable with .

we started out purley just meeting as a cpl with other couples .we had little interest and oppertunity came to meet with single people we got on very well with .just made sense for us to take that direction . it worked well for us as could meet regular as no issue with sitters and still arrange nights away for the 4 of us ...best of both worlds !!! not everyones cup of tea but as i say is perfect situation for us.end of the day hubby and i are perfectly comfortable and happy with playing together and alone and thats all that matters .

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple"

Not really, we're a cpl, have been together 22 years this year, nothing and no one will replace him, just that sometimes one has a sexual desire that another person cannot provide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple

Not really, we're a cpl, have been together 22 years this year, nothing and no one will replace him, just that sometimes one has a sexual desire that another person cannot provide "

Couldn't he be a part of that though?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple

Not really, we're a cpl, have been together 22 years this year, nothing and no one will replace him, just that sometimes one has a sexual desire that another person cannot provide

Couldn't he be a part of that though?"

He is which is why we meet BI male / female couples, he's 100% gay, and therefore has NO sexual desire for female participation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple

Not really, we're a cpl, have been together 22 years this year, nothing and no one will replace him, just that sometimes one has a sexual desire that another person cannot provide

Couldn't he be a part of that though?

He is which is why we meet BI male / female couples, he's 100% gay, and therefore has NO sexual desire for female participation. "

That sounds more like you're both doing things together rather than you just meeting people on your own.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple

Not really, we're a cpl, have been together 22 years this year, nothing and no one will replace him, just that sometimes one has a sexual desire that another person cannot provide

Couldn't he be a part of that though?

He is which is why we meet BI male / female couples, he's 100% gay, and therefore has NO sexual desire for female participation.

That sounds more like you're both doing things together rather than you just meeting people on your own."

We meet as a couple, but play separately, I was merely replying to your comment:


"Yep, pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple"

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

If my wife wants to meet on her own i have absolutely no problem, love hearing about it and vice versa. neither of us have to "ask" for permission or tell each other in advance. what i find strange is that some couples require a phone call to the female partner to verify that the male can play alone, but never the other way round! at the end of the day you can supply a female friends number just to get the desired result if required, if you are "playing away"

Just a thought..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple

Not really, we're a cpl, have been together 22 years this year, nothing and no one will replace him, just that sometimes one has a sexual desire that another person cannot provide

Couldn't he be a part of that though?

He is which is why we meet BI male / female couples, he's 100% gay, and therefore has NO sexual desire for female participation.

That sounds more like you're both doing things together rather than you just meeting people on your own.

We meet as a couple, but play separately, I was merely replying to your comment:

Yep, pretty much defeats the whole purpose of being a couple"

That was aimed at the OP though, who only play alone, and in my opinion a couple that never play together defeats the whole purpuse of being a couple or having a couples profile

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"in my opinion a couple that never play together defeats the whole purpuse of being a couple or having a couples profile"

As a couple, it works for us, and that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"in my opinion a couple that never play together defeats the whole purpuse of being a couple or having a couples profile

As a couple, it works for us, and that's all that matters "

You're confusing me now they only play alone, you don't you two do both which is a bit different, obviously got our wires crossed somewhere.

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By *otwifeandmr OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ryde

Wow! Just read your profile! You two have given me - Mrs Us2 a whole new wealth of fantasis - grrrrr!!

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

we like to play together bu cnt always, so if she gets the chance to have a meet why not. we love to talk bout it after and why shes on the meet i love wondering wot shes up 2

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

What a bunch of judgemental bolocks yet again on here.

i pay with other ppl male or female because i want to,after 22 years together i am as much in love with kev as i have ever been.But our love is a meeting of souls,we do not see each other as possessions.Should we be unable to have sex with each other ever again our love would not diminish.

Sex is just a bit of fun,not the foundation of a relationship that some here seem to see it as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fascinating "

...it has everything but the horses...

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By *otswbabeCouple
over a year ago

north cornwall

people will do whatever they like and if it works for them great, if it doesnt they change it or separate, simples. personally not interested in one on one but whatever works for couples is good I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t really see the point on 1 on 1 meets when you can do that with your partner, sometimes I do wonder if some swinging couples actually have a sex life with their partner, notice I said some, especially when you see the strops in the forums when they’ve been let down, you’d think they’d just make a night of it themselves and laugh it all off "

Aaah, so I'm not alone then! It's something I've wondered too. Whenever I've read a whining post by a couple who've had to pay for a sitter, hotel etc and their meet hasn't shown, I've thought why not turn it into a date night? If they want time alone as a couple they'd have to pay for a sitter any way!

The impression I get that having sex with each other after the disappointment of a no show is the consolation prize!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my wife wants to meet on her own i have absolutely no problem, love hearing about it and vice versa. neither of us have to "ask" for permission or tell each other in advance. what i find strange is that some couples require a phone call to the female partner to verify that the male can play alone, but never the other way round! at the end of the day you can supply a female friends number just to get the desired result if required, if you are "playing away"

Just a thought..

"

Rather magnanimous of you considering you're here as a single male and your wife isn't playing due to ill health!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Don’t really see the point on 1 on 1 meets when you can do that with your partner, ..... "

Never mind..... one day the narrow bit of your imagination may just expand enough for you to think up a few reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing narrow minded about sharing the experience together, not all couples want to try and act like they’re single again or want to have an open relationship, and I’m not going to apologise for my opinion because it’s just exactly that, certainly not trying to tell anyone they cannot swing on their own, just stating its not for us and don’t see the point of playing alone when you can do it together

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Nothing narrow minded about sharing the experience together, not all couples want to try and act like they’re single again or want to have an open relationship, and I’m not going to apologise for my opinion because it’s just exactly that, certainly not trying to tell anyone they cannot swing on their own, just stating its not for us and don’t see the point of playing alone when you can do it together"

It's fine to say it's not for you.... there are plenty of things which are not for me. However, enough people on this thread and other threads have explained why they find it exciting and how it 'adds' to their own sex life. I found their comments quite easy to understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Master and I dont play together.. we have the most amazing experiences together.. However I play with others because it suits us..

Normally play times are while Master is away on business... and its a way we have fun during that time... Its kinda cyber with Master getting to see someone else with me.. its conplicated but it works greatly for us..

I would never have sex and then tell Master about it afterwards.. we tried it but hated it..

Although we kinda accept now that if we find a woman that Master actually thinks maybe worth it that a woman will not accept the way I play with the men.. as women just wont go on cam for me the way guys are prepared to for Master.. but in that case I will have the phone.. and listen and have photos ( if the other woman allows it)

But we have found that Master gets more watching me than he does physically having another..

I personally can not understand seperate room swaps.. or same room but swapping partners.. yet that obviously appeals and works for a lot of people..

But on the same.. I am sure others cant understand how I can enjoy having another man commanded to do whatever to me while my Master watches.. yet it certainly does it both for us ...

We are secure in ourselves, and dont partake in seperate room swaps because we would get no enjoyment from it.. not because we fear jealousy sneaking in...

We talk about every single play session, I keep a detailed journal and I write to my Master how everything was for me the day after ( or same day if not to late.)Then I normally get a review from my Masters point of view too.. So we discuss any possible issues instantly... sometimes we do things that dont sit right with me..

Like for me, being kissed while man is on top of me.. or actually to be fair being kissed during sex... ( I love to do it with Master however)

We constantly re evaluate what we want from a meet.. it used to be no chat before, in, and staight out the door.. now while we still do this on occassion.. we now have 2 guys that we meet regular and they come around before and I chat.. we all chat.. before and after..

Kissing after is limited to a goodbye kiss at the door though.. :D

So it takes all sorts and we all love different things..

But for me, a couple that can openly talk is the ones that will stay together..

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh to add the to the last post I made I meant that we dont play together swinging wise.. or at least not often.. basically because when we get time together we tend to be to busy to include others.. :D

We totally enjoy our time together.. and if a meet does not turn up.. we just have fun together.. and cross that person off the list.. :D

Katie.x

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By *otwifeandmr OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ryde

Wow! What a great response to our post, thank you guys and girls there was some really worth while stuff there, maybe we'll bump into one of you one day and be able to give you our thanks in person!! Happy swinging xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we the same as you woukd love to play alone as we cant find sitters and this means we may have to stop all together also seems l =wife gets 100 repleis where p=husband gets none or just cpls wanting mmf would be nice for him to get messages from women wanting to meet on there own with him oh well maybe something will come up or its over for us as l isnt playing less p is night all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe it may even be more difficult for the male half of a couple to get meets than a single male. .

As a bi Male in a MM relationship, and although I have my partners blessing to meet females, I receive very few contacts from females requesting a meet "

mmm....interesting...do you both play together

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