FabSwingers.com forum: Rude single males

By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

Well Bugs decided to fly solo again last night and we opend up our profile to the stampeding horde (160 views in under an hour) I was helping her sift through the messages we had and one stood out from the crowd of polite messages

"Hay can I fuck ur misses"

Now I'm under no illusion of the site. I've had crude messages before but I was just wondering does this line actually work for them? Would any women part of a couple be happy to accept that sort of an aproach?

I politely said no and that my "Misses" likes more polite messages and deserved to be treated with respect to which he replied.... "fuck you, your loss, I wouldn't fuck her anyway"

Oh dear that's just as well ??

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By *ingleguy1973Man
over a year ago

peterborough

I think it is his loss not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female, I usually just delete those type of messages, the abusive response isn't worth it.

Don't get disheartened though as there are some nice genuine guys on here it's just a case of ing them out

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You take your filters off, you risk getting messages from the more, um, unsavoury members on here. Just use it as another filter.

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"I think it is his loss not yours."

Probably the same sort of person that complains on here that they can't find any meets and what can they possibly be doing wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's worth a try surely. A site full of scantily clad women, some with their bits on show. Sex chat in profiles. No harm in asking and they will get a nice wank out of it if the answer is no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame some people ( not just men) think they can say what they like on any website and think it's acceptable. Unfortunately that's how it is , hopefully you just choose to ignore and block any unwanted messages.

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"You take your filters off, you risk getting messages from the more, um, unsavoury members on here. Just use it as another filter."

Oh I'm fully aware lol we had some lovely polite messages and a meet was organised eventually. Like I said I know taking the block off is a risk and sometimes worth taking but just wondering if these people actually get lucky with messages like that?

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"It's a shame some people ( not just men) think they can say what they like on any website and think it's acceptable. Unfortunately that's how it is , hopefully you just choose to ignore and block any unwanted messages. "

Oh blocked and deleted shortly after reading. Myself and Bugs had a little laugh about it too lol. Not bothered in the slightest just curious if this tact works? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is his loss not yours."

And it's a loss you should be celebrating by the sounds of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure if a woman sent a Hey, Can I fuck you? message to a single guy, 8 out of 10 times she'd get a positive response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have just blocked it for the spelling errors alone..

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

""fuck you, your loss, I wouldn't fuck her anyway""

Haha, then why did he ask in the first place? To call that a childish response would be an insult to children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even open mail that's clearly as shitty as that instant delete. Paul sometimes replys and toys with them though

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

""fuck you, your loss, I wouldn't fuck her anyway"

Haha, then why did he ask in the first place? To call that a childish response would be an insult to children."

I know, right

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"I don't even open mail that's clearly as shitty as that instant delete. Paul sometimes replys and toys with them though "

That's what I was doing lol. Gave us a giggle

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"I'm pretty sure if a woman sent a Hey, Can I fuck you? message to a single guy, 8 out of 10 times she'd get a positive response

8 out of 10.... Is this based on the fact that the other 2 men are Gay?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I'm pretty sure if a woman sent a Hey, Can I fuck you? message to a single guy, 8 out of 10 times she'd get a positive response

8 out of 10.... Is this based on the fact that the other 2 men are Gay?"

Nope, not this 1anyway.. I don't like fancy a fuck messages..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunatly I don't think the messages of "can I come and fuck" are all that standoutish - they are pretty common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've suggested many, many times on here over the years, multiple categories for single males - start dividing them into the ones who have proved themselves and those who haven't, which can then be filtered separately.

But still, why bother sifting the diamonds from the dirt eh, when you can just turf them all in together and leave anyone who's interested to dig in the shit for them.

Stay classy UK swinging scene

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We have done this before.

You have to take it as a godsend.

Usually they self deselect. The mistake was replying to someone you had no Interest in.

Just delete and move on.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Ps couples and single fems are also as likely to send one liners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've suggested many, many times on here over the years, multiple categories for single males - start dividing them into the ones who have proved themselves and those who haven't, which can then be filtered separately.

But still, why bother sifting the diamonds from the dirt eh, when you can just turf them all in together and leave anyone who's interested to dig in the shit for them.

Stay classy UK swinging scene

Ive always been under no illusions that there is nothing classy about any of this whatsoever...

...But then I viewed your profile

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I do take some pleasure in responding to such messages and asking if they would say that to me in a bar.

I usually get a profound apology and a request to start again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But still, why bother sifting the diamonds from the dirt eh, when you can just turf them all in together and leave anyone who's interested to dig in the shit for them.

Stay classy UK swinging scene

Ive always been under no illusions that there is nothing classy about any of this whatsoever...

...But then I viewed your profile

Eek I was trying be funny but that could come across offensive. None intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few tongue-in-cheek 'fancy a fuck' messages, from friends having a giggle.

If I received one out of the blue, I wouldn't take it seriously.

Might be a conversation starter though. If nothing else, it would make me laugh

I can't understand people getting nasty over a simple rejection though.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I do take some pleasure in responding to such messages and asking if they would say that to me in a bar.

I usually get a profound apology and a request to start again!

Yes, this

And then I tell them they blew it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But still, why bother sifting the diamonds from the dirt eh, when you can just turf them all in together and leave anyone who's interested to dig in the shit for them.

Stay classy UK swinging scene

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"Well Bugs decided to fly solo again last night and we opend up our profile to the stampeding horde (160 views in under an hour) I was helping her sift through the messages we had and one stood out from the crowd of polite messages

"Hay can I fuck ur misses"

I politely said no and that my "Misses" likes more polite messages and deserved to be treated with respect to which he replied.... "fuck you, your loss, I wouldn't fuck her anyway"

Oh dear that's just as well ??"

Oh no, sounds like just the person you were looking for as well. I think you might have dented his fragile ego with your reply.

It is a shame there are so many of this type on here, they really do ruin it for so many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But still, why bother sifting the diamonds from the dirt eh, when you can just turf them all in together and leave anyone who's interested to dig in the shit for them.

Stay classy UK swinging scene

Ive always been under no illusions that there is nothing classy about any of this whatsoever...

...But then I viewed your profile

Eek I was trying be funny but that could come across offensive. None intended.

I understood what you meant, thankyou, I was rather flattered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

despite restarting my profile after a break, I'd never dream of responding like that.I kept my reputation and cared for it...many single guys do.

And yes , that can I fuck your wife line does work for certain people..and to be honest, theres a lot of husbands who'd prefer that if they are seeking single men(if they are in charge of the profile mainly), so it comes down to :-

a)do I flatter the wife with sweet words of how hot she is..?-as assuming its the male half answering..most likely not what he wants to hear.

b) tell the husband I'm interested in fucking his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really grim messages are thankfully fairly rare but when they are grim they excell at the level of stomach churn and do make you question your own prescence on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our messages come from single guys and i have to say the polite genuine guys outnumber the douchebags by far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"despite restarting my profile after a break, I'd never dream of responding like that.I kept my reputation and cared for it...many single guys do.

a)do I flatter the wife with sweet words of how hot she is..?-as assuming its the male half answering..most likely not what he wants to hear.

b) tell the husband I'm interested in fucking his wife

No matter what they say or do there's still someone for everyone. You can't win with everyone. Sometimes they will get lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These messages work on my couples profile.

Male half likes to see me used so it doesnt matter how we get the there. Whether it's polite or not

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By *kindofmagicXXXMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I would never message like that. Always try and be polite. Got a big thing for manners. Unfortunately not too successful with that approach either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners cost nothing and my blocked list grows longer by the day.

The crude approach does nothing for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always polite, never rude, never nasty. Still gets me nowhere but i am who i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners and being polite are apparently going out of fashion.

A site user messages me, "I've read your profile, you seem just what I'm looking for, your veris are lovely. Can I see a face pic please"

I reply, "thank you I'd be delighted, please find attached"

And then I'm blocked immediately. No explanation. No ta for the pic. No nothing. That's just fucking ignorant. End of.

I'm stopping being nice and polite.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

It has never worked with me, but...

I have used the fancy a fuck line myself, and it worked. With a long time friend in a club, would never use it with someone I didn't know.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I'm stopping being nice and polite."

Ah, cos it is your time of the month I take it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These messages work on my couples profile.

Male half likes to see me used so it doesnt matter how we get the there. Whether it's polite or not"

exactly what I was saying, your other half just wants to know that the guy messaging is capable of giving you a good seeing to..he most likely wont be interested nicey nicey chitchat etc

I personally hate prolonged conversation with a male half(in person it is fine with the other half is there), but I'm not gonna sit discussing tv,football,golf,fishing..or what am gonna do to the wife. To me it's a case of if the other half is interested and you think I'm ok..lets talk about a meet.simple.

and to the OP I'd agree the response you got was unwarranted of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd even hazard a guess that if more and more single guys are just resorting to rude, that's because it's behaviour that's encouraged in some way, whether by reward (it works) or by the fact it's provoked in some way.

As a student of behavioural economics, I look for why people do things. Obviously men are all pigs, but more and more this becomes a problem, it's in response to a stimulus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good manners and being polite are apparently going out of fashion.

A site user messages me, "I've read your profile, you seem just what I'm looking for, your veris are lovely. Can I see a face pic please"

I reply, "thank you I'd be delighted, please find attached"

And then I'm blocked immediately. No explanation. No ta for the pic. No nothing. That's just fucking ignorant. End of.

I'm stopping being nice and polite."

Why be something you're not just because a minority that don't comply with how you expect then to behave annoy you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single female, I usually just delete those type of messages, the abusive response isn't worth it.

Don't get disheartened though as there are some nice genuine guys on here it's just a case of ing them out

Nice single guy here

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I don't get what your beef is OP. Isn't that what you're both on here for other men to fuck your wife etc? Or you prefer they ask more politely even though when it comes down to it that's what it means? so why would it bother you how someone asks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some messages are slightly random but we get some really good ones too. I also think message quality reflects the time of day, pub chucking out time , they can be a bit

but we've got used to that now.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Block and report...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

There is a lot of, shall we say, not very aware people of both sexes, just align your values.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Block and report..."

Report for what?

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"Most of our messages come from single guys and i have to say the polite genuine guys outnumber the douchebags by far."

We're also finding this

I'm not disturbed or annoyed by this persons comment. Amused at most. Was just wondering if it acruelly worked and would people be happy letting their SO in the hands of someone who can't even sell themselves properly (don't mean to compare it to a meat market howe've when your looking for one person and you get multiple messages first impressions count)

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