FabSwingers.com forum: sending messages

By *ice guy 44 OP Man
over a year ago

wrexham

i think its nice to get a reply form you ladys even if im not your type i sent 7 today and had some nice replays better than just seeing it deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

I like to reply to messages even if its a no thanks, but saying that, after over a year on here it gets god dam anoying, when its obviouse they aint read ya profile. So if its a one liner like wanna meet or similar i just cant be arsed to reply no more like i used to. I i know they have read profile and put more than a couple of lines in message we ALWAYS reply even if it is a no thanks xxx, like you say manners cost nothing, but then neither do manners in a message. Works both ways i guess xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

You may think it rude, I wouldn't. If anyone contacts me that is outside my stated location, age etc I delete without a second thought.

If someone meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them I always right with a nice message saying "thanks but no thanks".

Why would I get into correspondence with a 20 year old from Glasgow when I was meeting I was looking for 45+ from London?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to reply to messages even if its a no thanks, but saying that, after over a year on here it gets god dam anoying, when its obviouse they aint read ya profile. So if its a one liner like wanna meet or similar i just cant be arsed to reply no more like i used to. I i know they have read profile and put more than a couple of lines in message we ALWAYS reply even if it is a no thanks xxx, like you say manners cost nothing, but then neither do manners in a message. Works both ways i guess xxx"

My point of view too. Some people just assume because they've written a "well crafted" message they're owed a reply, even if it's obvious they haven't read your profile and they're not what you're looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

So you reply to all the junk mail you get through the post then do you?????????

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont reply, if someone sends me a well thought out message and they meet my criteria but im not interested then i will reply. Otherwise i dont reply. Couldnt care less if people think im rude or not. Would sooner be exchanging messages with friends and people i am interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont reply, if someone sends me a well thought out message and they meet my criteria but im not interested then i will reply. Otherwise i dont reply. Couldnt care less if people think im rude or not. Would sooner be exchanging messages with friends and people i am interested in"

*Nods in agreement*

Ooops, just noticed I've written "right" instead of "write" before the spelling police comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say i'm guilty of deleting the ones which just say hi, or show blatantly that they are copy and pastes.......originality may take effort but surely its worth it?

persistant offenders just get blocked lol

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By *ice guy 44 OP Man
over a year ago

wrexham

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

So you reply to all the junk mail you get through the post then do you?????????"

how do you no its junk mail and the mail that comes through post you pick it up look at it then bin it if it said send back and you will no longer have it think most would

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

It would be nice to receive any messages! Let alone have the luxury of deciding to just delete with out reading! lol

Flood gates now opened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

To be honest, i dont think its true that women get tons of mail per day; in reality i suspect that the majority are from friends and possible meets. The problem with replying to messages with a no thanks, it ends up with an exchange of messages which is totally pointless and a waste of my time if they dont fit any of my preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spot on....manners cost nothing.

so in future would people please ask me in advance before sending me any well crafted messages.

this will save me being forced to read messages that are from unsuitable guys/couples/girls and thus avoid the need to feel i owe anyone a thanks but no thanks

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By *anderer2018Man
over a year ago

Bangkok

I never expect a reply it's nice if I get one and I reply to any mail I receive but I dont take it personally! I only send messages to people if I am in their age ranges etc unless it is just a quick polite message re their pics or something but I will normally point out that I am aware that I am not in their area/ age range etc and an not expecting a reply! If the ratio of men to women was different then I might expect a reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

You may think it rude, I wouldn't. If anyone contacts me that is outside my stated location, age etc I delete without a second thought.

If someone meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them I always right with a nice message saying "thanks but no thanks".

Why would I get into correspondence with a 20 year old from Glasgow when I was meeting I was looking for 45+ from London?!!

megabus to london or vice versa cheap hotel or be accomodated, chippy and a shag....distance is no object lol even to a non driver...if yer worth it lol

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"so in future would people please ask me in advance before sending me any well crafted messages.

but isn't asking in advance asking the very question that might get ignored?

Better to send the question and not expect a reply. Then if one is returned, it's a bonus.

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over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

You may think it rude, I wouldn't. If anyone contacts me that is outside my stated location, age etc I delete without a second thought.

If someone meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them I always right with a nice message saying "thanks but no thanks".

Why would I get into correspondence with a 20 year old from Glasgow when I was meeting I was looking for 45+ from London?!!

megabus to london or vice versa cheap hotel or be accomodated, chippy and a shag....distance is no object lol even to a non driver...if yer worth it lol"

Chippy and a shag? *swoons*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chippy and a shag? *swoons*

Fuck, i'd get u a few pickles too!!

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By *oe the greekMan
over a year ago

Swindon

If I send a message and it gets deleted I just block, saves me messaging them again, you won't be everyones taste so if these ladies delete just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted I just block, saves me messaging them again, you won't be everyones taste so if these ladies delete just move on

find that a bit silly, why block if u have ur message deleted???-they just werent interested at that time, its taken me some years to eventually get some ppls attentions, despit the fact i messaged them two years ago then u finally meet up.blockings not the key, just keeping track of who u message ffs, way uve pointed that out looks like u send so many messages that u cant keep track of.remember multi-copyNpaste messagings really dont help yer battle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

You may think it rude, I wouldn't. If anyone contacts me that is outside my stated location, age etc I delete without a second thought.

If someone meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them I always right with a nice message saying "thanks but no thanks".

Why would I get into correspondence with a 20 year old from Glasgow when I was meeting I was looking for 45+ from London?!!

megabus to london or vice versa cheap hotel or be accomodated, chippy and a shag....distance is no object lol even to a non driver...if yer worth it lol"

Unless of course you dont fit the age.

And for me personally, i dont expect a man to travel miles to meet me, book a hotel etc if i cannot at some point travel to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so in future would people please ask me in advance before sending me any well crafted messages.

but isn't asking in advance asking the very question that might get ignored? "

they are asking in advance can i send you a well crafted message......so i can perv their profile and then say yes or no

and then i can delete without replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless of course you dont fit the age.

And for me personally, i dont expect a man to travel miles to meet me, book a hotel etc if i cannot at some point travel to them"

I did say IF yer worth it grey hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless of course you dont fit the age.

And for me personally, i dont expect a man to travel miles to meet me, book a hotel etc if i cannot at some point travel to them

I did say IF yer worth it grey hehehe"

its still irrelevent, i wont entertain meetin someone several hours drive BECAUSE i cannot travel to them, i think thats only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless of course you dont fit the age.

And for me personally, i dont expect a man to travel miles to meet me, book a hotel etc if i cannot at some point travel to them

I did say IF yer worth it grey hehehe

its still irrelevent, i wont entertain meetin someone several hours drive BECAUSE i cannot travel to them, i think thats only fair"

cancelled my megabus to u grey...shame cos they have free-wifi and I couldve wanked all the way down via chatroom or msn...will just take my refund and use it for a cheap £10 pro lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about putting the shoe on the other foot and all single guys stop messaging ladies/couples altogether? You'll soon start receiving messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted I just block, saves me messaging them again, you won't be everyones taste so if these ladies delete just move on

my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted I just block, saves me messaging them again, you won't be everyones taste so if these ladies delete just move on

my point."

strikes me as highly reactionary and childish blocking cos ur mails deleted, u'll be amazed at some ppls opinions changing of u later on esp if its for the good(with shagging included)-I ONLY block those that block me...and its great seeing them try to perv yer cam if u have a meet on cam with u...serves em right lol

but dont block someone whos just not interested in ur first mail ffs-they may wanna bump into u later if they see or hear good things about u!-it happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted I just block, saves me messaging them again, you won't be everyones taste so if these ladies delete just move on

my point.

but dont block someone whos just not interested in ur first mail ffs-they may wanna bump into u later if they see or hear good things about u!-it happens!"

i think some may block to stop them sending another mail to that person in the future and looking a pest.

only an observation.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

why is it bad manners not to reply? no where on here does it say you have to replie to every message you get .in fact they even cover this with in the frequently asked questions.

why should i answer a message from someone who obviously not read my mail ,or who doesnt fit what im looking for even though they may think they do? also the one liners or crude messages ,i make it plain that i wont respond .so if they still message why should i waste time replying to them in any form ?

the biggest reason i wont reply to every message i get is plain and simply i dont wish to have to justify my decision when the guy wont take a polite thanks but no .you get the but why ? ohh ill get a hotel ,i can drive and pick you up,cant you make exception to what im looking for,cant we talk about it ... ect ect . so i dont intend to open that can of worms and delete ones that arent what im looking for for what ever reason .this means i can spend my time and efforts speaking to the people I WANT TO and not in ping pong mails saying no .

i do reply to the messages that catch my attention weather its that id like to talk further or a polite decline . i certainly wont be dictated to that i HAVE to answer every mail. demanding that i get a replie to every mail i send is what i consider bad manners .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" u'll be amazed at some ppls opinions changing of u later on"
i've met men who've emailed me a few times but i've deleted or said no previously. Sometimes when you've got a few messages you miss someone who you'd spot if they were the only person in your inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so in future would people please ask me in advance before sending me any well crafted messages.

but isn't asking in advance asking the very question that might get ignored?

they are asking in advance can i send you a well crafted message......so i can perv their profile and then say yes or no

and then i can delete without replying

lol yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" u'll be amazed at some ppls opinions changing of u later on i've met men who've emailed me a few times but i've deleted or said no previously. Sometimes when you've got a few messages you miss someone who you'd spot if they were the only person in your inbox. "

ur gettin 100 mails a day from me cos yer stunning, and if u block me am making a new profile up lol!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless of course you dont fit the age.

And for me personally, i dont expect a man to travel miles to meet me, book a hotel etc if i cannot at some point travel to them

I did say IF yer worth it grey hehehe

its still irrelevent, i wont entertain meetin someone several hours drive BECAUSE i cannot travel to them, i think thats only fair

cancelled my megabus to u grey...shame cos they have free-wifi and I couldve wanked all the way down via chatroom or msn...will just take my refund and use it for a cheap £10 pro lol"

Shrugs shoulders and wanders off to put the kettle on

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By *oe the greekMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I only block to stop me sending another message as I don't want to appear a pest, there is nothing malice in it I just don't want these ladies to think I'm harrassing them by winking and messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only block to stop me sending another message as I don't want to appear a pest, there is nothing malice in it I just don't want these ladies to think I'm harrassing them by winking and messaging.

dunno if uve noticed theres a history of who u message or wink lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

You may think it rude, I wouldn't. If anyone contacts me that is outside my stated location, age etc I delete without a second thought.

If someone meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them I always right with a nice message saying "thanks but no thanks".

Why would I get into correspondence with a 20 year old from Glasgow when I was meeting I was looking for 45+ from London?!!

megabus to london or vice versa cheap hotel or be accomodated, chippy and a shag....distance is no object lol even to a non driver...if yer worth it lol"

That would be a block as my profile said local only, no hotel under any circumstances, let alone a flee pit.

Not a man alive worth travelling the length of the country for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i someone deletes a mail i send without reply i just block them.

its rude.

and before women start going on that they get tons of mail a day.

yes i know that.

but manners cost nothing.

You may think it rude, I wouldn't. If anyone contacts me that is outside my stated location, age etc I delete without a second thought.

If someone meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them I always right with a nice message saying "thanks but no thanks".

Why would I get into correspondence with a 20 year old from Glasgow when I was meeting I was looking for 45+ from London?!!

megabus to london or vice versa cheap hotel or be accomodated, chippy and a shag....distance is no object lol even to a non driver...if yer worth it lol

Chippy and a shag? *swoons*

After the mega bus, chippy and Tizer: rain check on the shag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who moans about ladies deleting his message without the courtesy of a reply, then please, start replying to all your spams/unsolicited e-mails/posts before you finger-wag!

If I get an unsolicited PM, I would respond if I am feeling generous.

Tough if the sender does not like it! No skin off my little nose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted I just block, saves me messaging them again, you won't be everyones taste so if these ladies delete just move on

my point.

but dont block someone whos just not interested in ur first mail ffs-they may wanna bump into u later if they see or hear good things about u!-it happens!"

Now personally I don't think this approach is childish, but sensible. Blocks prevent you contacting people who've already turned you down so you're not a pest.

I block the creepy, stalker types that refuse to be ignored and can't believe you don't want their good loving.

I have little sympathy for the dozy mares who meet these creeps when the start threads about meets turning up at their homes, being beaten up...quelle surprise! Pushy guys: instant block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dunno if uve noticed theres a history of who u message or wink lol"

I actually trouble myself to remember ppls profiles I have to say, and again i've asked does it not show U when uve messaged someone.or when u winked ???

I have a blocklist too, but Ive never felt the need to block as my mail gets deleted, thats no indication that they will NEVER be interested-and singles cpls i know think its pretty stupid too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After the mega bus, chippy and Tizer: rain check on the shag!

lol stick yer tizer...am bringing IrnBru

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" why is it bad manners not to reply? no where on here does it say you have to replie to every message you get .in fact they even cover this with in the frequently asked questions.

the biggest reason i wont reply to every message i get is plain and simply i dont wish to have to justify my decision when the guy wont take a polite thanks but no ....... i certainly wont be dictated to that i HAVE to answer every mail. "

If Fab ever made it a rule that we HAVE to reply to unsolicited messages from people we are not looking to meet ..... the guys wouldn't get laid more! The site would simply go out of business (which would be a real shame).

So guys, stop whinging about 'manners', and think more about what YOU can do to make the Fab Experience better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i send a message which is deleted almost immediately im only annoyed at myself for wasting my own time and choosing the wrong profile to message...yet again

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