FabSwingers.com forum: Preferences

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive noticed lately a lot of people asking if people like or don't like something and why... yet when people give an answer either different from whats seen as the norm.. or different to what the Op thinks its open to sometimes scathing comments.

Its like kissing... most people seem to think that its essential and call those that arent into it cold.. and they cant seem to grasp that while its a turn on for some.. its a turn off for others.

Same with racial preferences.. some have them.. some dont care ...

Same with straight. Bi or curious

Liking bdsm..

All are preferences yet so easily turned into being bigoted or odd...

Ive been into this lifestyle a long time... ive explored and tried many things along the way.. decided what i like and dont..

So why cant we be more accepting that some people like some things and not other's..

There is no rhyme or reason for some thing's.. but i see it the same as food preferences..

Like i like hot chocolate but detest chocolate milkshake... same thing really yet one I really like... it makes no sense but there you go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agreed! Also why should we justify why we don't like A or B? Sometimes doesn't have any particular reason! I don't like full stop!We are all different and opinions are divided!Also I find that everything is an offence!Or discrimination!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Cum one, cum all, says I.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I like coffee sweets but never drink coffee!

I respect the decisons that others make. Every day is a school day on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely that's the whole point of being on this site! Live learn and enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own is our view X Respecting others is the name of the game X

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

It's because people can't see past their own point of view. While you don't have to agree with it would be nice for a change if people appreciated others comments/views or at least that they have a comment/view

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"It's because people can't see past their own point of view. While you don't have to agree with it would be nice for a change if people appreciated others comments/views or at least that they have a comment/view"

Pretty much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are things on here that make my toes curl and even a bit sick but then when I'm getting whipped in clubs I see people actually gasping and looking quite shocked and I'm like what's the big deal....we are all different x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word 'preference' seems to be a very popular word in swinging. But I also feel it's taken on a different meaning than what 'preference' means in regular life. For example if someone has a preference for oranges versus apples, I would take that to mean, when faced with a choice between an apple and an orange the individual is more likely to choose the orange before they prefer oranges. It does not mean however they that they would never eat apples ever, and sometimes they may even like a change.

However in swinging, certain attributes/features/characteristics seem to be totally outruled, but yet described as a preference. For example, if a man were to say he prefers woman with large breasts, does that mean he will only play with women of said description, and smaller breasted women are outruled? Or does it mean when faced with a choice, he will deviate towards the bustier ladies, but will happily enjoy playing with a smaller breasted lady if he finds her attractive or if he fancies a change? Probably the latter.

But when someone says they don't what to play with someone, eg of a particular race because it's their preference, it often seems to be a hard and fast rule, as opposed to just preferring something.

There are attributes prefer in a man, but I don't outrule someone who doesn't possess all those attributes (and if I did my requirements would be somewhat unrealistic). There are also things that are out of the question, when I choose a sex partner, but I wouldn't describe something that is out of the question as a preference, because I think that's an inaccurate use of the word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all very odd people!

That should make us fantastically valuable as individuals, rather than something to be saddened by.

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London

It depends how the question is asked and responded to.

I'm interested in why people may have certain kinks and sexual preferences. I find it interesting and in some cases arousing.

That is not the same as demanding a justification which implies that they're doing something wrong.

However, I have noticed that many people don't read the words or understand their meaning and just answer the question that they want to see. Usually angrily.

I'm perfectly content though

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