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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

..... no show. So annoying haha. I had been talking with this person for a while, we had arranged to meet, I was actually SO bloody excited, and then.... nothing. Not even a text to say they'd changed their mind.

Now I understand why women here say time wasters are such a problem! I am well gutted, I can only imagine what it's like if this sort of thing happens often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well was it a girl who stood you up?

No doubt people will claim it was a man in disguise, as if women never do stuff like that.

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By *antasticMrsFoxMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"..... no show. So annoying haha. I had been talking with this person for a while, we had arranged to meet, I was actually SO bloody excited, and then.... nothing. Not even a text to say they'd changed their mind.

Now I understand why women here say time wasters are such a problem! I am well gutted, I can only imagine what it's like if this sort of thing happens often."

Hope you were not to but out or went out of your way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... no show. So annoying haha. I had been talking with this person for a while, we had arranged to meet, I was actually SO bloody excited, and then.... nothing. Not even a text to say they'd changed their mind.

Now I understand why women here say time wasters are such a problem! I am well gutted, I can only imagine what it's like if this sort of thing happens often."

Report and block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well was it a girl who stood you up?

No doubt people will claim it was a man in disguise, as if women never do stuff like that.

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It was a female lol. If there was a disguise involved, it was a really good one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Hope you were not to but out or went out of your way "

I bought wine and cancelled plans, but that's nothing really. It could have been a lot worse!

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By *exaddicts77Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

We had two 'no shows'... One single fem and one couple... (Once it involved booking a hotel by us) When we put a warning about fem she went off her head threatening that she will report us as she was waiting 30mins! ( probably in the car as we were in the pub for 2h with only members of staff on premises lol) It's easier for a couple as we still enjoyed our time out together haha but it's also frustrating... We have learnt our lesson and now our first meets are always social so we don't keep our hopes high and if the person won't show it's just a nice evening out X M

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"..... no show. So annoying haha. I had been talking with this person for a while, we had arranged to meet, I was actually SO bloody excited, and then.... nothing. Not even a text to say they'd changed their mind.

Now I understand why women here say time wasters are such a problem! I am well gutted, I can only imagine what it's like if this sort of thing happens often."

There do seem to be quite a few posts about it,sorry to hear this hope you reported them to admin op.

Don't let it put you off,on my olf profile i was stood up once but met lots of good people,including jack

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get cold feet especially if they don't really know u the initial excitement wears off and fear takes over just chalk it up to experience op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well was it a girl who stood you up?

No doubt people will claim it was a man in disguise, as if women never do stuff like that.

It was a female lol. If there was a disguise involved, it was a really good one!"

Sorry. I had to go back home for clean drawers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brush it off as never meant to be. Move forward, when you do meet I'm sure you'll forget all about the heartless did who did this to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Report and block"

Lol well they've either blocked me or deleted their profile :P

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By *r Greys AnatomyMan
over a year ago

Llandudno

Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well was it a girl who stood you up?

No doubt people will claim it was a man in disguise, as if women never do stuff like that.

It was a female lol. If there was a disguise involved, it was a really good one!"

Did they have verifications from a meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case .. "

That sounds awful, shit!

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By *r Greys AnatomyMan
over a year ago

Llandudno


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case ..

That sounds awful, shit!"

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By *r Greys AnatomyMan
over a year ago

Llandudno


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case ..

That sounds awful, shit!"

I know, like you I was all excited with anticipation .. And this is not the only one, I have many similar stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case ..

That sounds awful, shit!

I know, like you I was all excited with anticipation .. And this is not the only one, I have many similar stories. "

Makes for a killer wank at the end of the night though

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry to hear that OP but at least the advice you've taken on board from previous threads seems to be getting you closer to that elusive first meet

You seem like a really down to earth guy and real gent, so don't let it deter you keep positively trying the way you are and I'm sure you'll have success

Best of luck to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case ..

That sounds awful, shit!

I know, like you I was all excited with anticipation .. And this is not the only one, I have many similar stories. "

Sorry to hear that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its never fun. I've had no shows galore and even had a couple of fake addresses so when I showed up either the place didn't exist or the person answering the door wasn't who I was expecting and they weren't expecting me.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Its never fun. I've had no shows galore and even had a couple of fake addresses so when I showed up either the place didn't exist or the person answering the door wasn't who I was expecting and they weren't expecting me."

Thats why it might help to meet socially first ,somewhere public

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op some people really have too much time on their hands. Be cautious next time if you wish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op some people really have too much time on their hands. Be cautious next time if you wish."

I was, and this person seemed completely legit, hence the letdown. Thanks for the advice though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op also had the bad experiences of turning up to a meet to find it was an ex boyfriend getting revenge by posting his ex gf details on fab and pretending to be her and also talking ages to a lady arranging a meet booking day off work travel to meet for her to not show not answer messages or calls then disappear off site like I say chalk it down to experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happen to me lastweek two. Let down again.then you ask why we say time wasters on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Hope you were not to but out or went out of your way

I bought wine and cancelled plans, but that's nothing really. It could have been a lot worse!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case .. "

Why would people do that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 3/4, I'm hoping I've worked out how to avoid them now. Never stood anyone up. It's gutting though. I'm sure 2 were fake profiles in retrospect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people get a kick from turning people on but then when reality sets in and there is a chance of a physical meet they can't handle it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people get a kick from turning people on but then when reality sets in and there is a chance of a physical meet they can't handle it"

This. This is it 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Edgy it happens that's life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Edgy it happens that's life"

Yup, and I'm sure it will happen again. But if I let it put me off that woul just be stupid!

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By *r Greys AnatomyMan
over a year ago

Llandudno


"Yes, I've been stood up many many times. One occasion i was chatting to a couple who lead me on. I went out of my way to cancel other stuff and got ready, drove miles to the hotel they said they were at, and waited for them to text me their room number when they were ready.. I sat in the hotel car park and waited for an hour.. So I text them back and asked if they were ready... And all I got back was "Not today thankyou"... Arghhh I think single men get treated dreadfully. I think we can all accept we are treated as second class citizens to some point due to the nature of the site and supply and demand....and I know not all are like that, but these experiences are outweighing the good ones in my case ..

Why would people do that?? "

I think what happens is they see a better option. These couples that do weekends away, I think message many men to cover all angles, then just take the one they think is best... This has happened to me a few times.

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