FabSwingers.com forum: Too sensitive

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been told that taking offence to someone deleting and not replying after sending a pic

(not cock)

After we chatted nicely for a few days

That I'm too sensetive

Am I ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. Sorry. Assuming you're messaging single women, they/we get a lot of messages. It's nothing personal.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It would be nice to get replies, explanations and the rest.

But more often than not, you won't

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"It would be nice to get replies, explanations and the rest.

But more often than not, you won't

This

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

It's not ignorant to ignore a random messages but if you have been talking for a while and they just delete without a message saying not interested...well that used to be called ignorance. Call me old fashioned...

Online brings the worst out in people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people."

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Yeah, We get dead ended. I think it's a shame because surely if it happens often enough that will reflect on how you approach people in the first instance? Go into a convo expecting constantly to be ignored or blocked it will eventually start to be portrayed within your initial message..

Sometimes I look at the ladies "Why are rejected guys arseholes" threads from the other side, thinking well if you sent 30-50 messages over x weeks/months & they were read/unread - deleted how would it sit with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been told that taking offence to someone deleting and not replying after sending a pic

(not cock)

After we chatted nicely for a few days

That I'm too sensetive

Am I ? "

Send a face pic with your first message, saves unnecessary chat if there's no attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been told that taking offence to someone deleting and not replying after sending a pic

(not cock)

After we chatted nicely for a few days

That I'm too sensetive

Am I ?

Send a face pic with your first message, saves unnecessary chat if there's no attraction."

I did

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No.

Online brings the worst out in people."

Exactly. Yes, if they've been chatting they should let you know 'Sorry, I don't want to take this any further' - but you need to try not to take offence cos it's going to happen a LOT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we are all guilty of not responding to every single message that we could respond to, thus leaving people in the position the OP finds himself in. I guess this is part of life then?

Nobody can tell the OP that they are being oversensitive or not. However it's for the OP to ask himself whether it's healthy to get upset about the situation and what they can do to move on.

If I was the OP I'd try to forget it, and message the user back again in a few days asking what they thought of the pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try message everyone be it saying no thank you etc.... unless they have blatantly not read anything then I just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, We get dead ended. I think it's a shame because surely if it happens often enough that will reflect on how you approach people in the first instance? Go into a convo expecting constantly to be ignored or blocked it will eventually start to be portrayed within your initial message..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response "

I'd say that type makes up at least a third of the males on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to always reply if we can even if it's a no thank you but each to their own

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response "

No, he's just separating 'they decided no and didn't tell me' from 'I've taken offence'.

They are responsible for THEIR behaviour, but only you are responsible for your OWN emotional reaction.

Say they are wrong to go without a word if you like, just don't take offence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response

No, he's just separating 'they decided no and didn't tell me' from 'I've taken offence'.

They are responsible for THEIR behaviour, but only you are responsible for your OWN emotional reaction.

Say they are wrong to go without a word if you like, just don't take offence. "

Hehe

It seems to work too

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

So at what point MUST you give a reason for killing a conversation.

Loads of reasons why they might have done it but again nobody is obliged to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So at what point MUST you give a reason for killing a conversation.

Loads of reasons why they might have done it but again nobody is obliged to do anything.

You are right

No one is abliged

However

What about simply being polite ?

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See it as a positive OP. Would you want to have sex with someone ignorant?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See it as a positive OP. Would you want to have sex with someone ignorant?"

Probably haha

It's a good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not to too sensitive.

I'd love everyone to fall at me feet with overwhelming feelings that they want to sexually please me. But they don't.

I'd love cleverly phrased replies that don't hurt my feelings when I say hello. But I don't get those.

Your not sensitive, your just unrealistic. Get used to it, not everyone buys me a drink in a pub, but those that do are my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you had sent a face pic with the first message you wouldn't have become so attached.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No your not to too sensitive.

I'd love everyone to fall at me feet with overwhelming feelings that they want to sexually please me. But they don't.

I'd love cleverly phrased replies that don't hurt my feelings when I say hello. But I don't get those.

Your not sensitive, your just unrealistic. Get used to it, not everyone buys me a drink in a pub, but those that do are my friends.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Agreed politeness costs nothing.

But again it's each individuals preference how the interprate the conversation.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response

No, he's just separating 'they decided no and didn't tell me' from 'I've taken offence'.

They are responsible for THEIR behaviour, but only you are responsible for your OWN emotional reaction.

Say they are wrong to go without a word if you like, just don't take offence.

Hehe

It seems to work too "

Ah well, maybe you just irritated your chosen one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you had sent a face pic with the first message you wouldn't have become so attached. "

I did

And halfway up this thread you'll see I told someone else the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did you send a pic of then to make her delete the message?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What did you send a pic of then to make her delete the message?"

My face

Asking for trouble I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mountain mole hill comes to mind, Just move on dwelling on it never makes it easier!! We have all been rejected for no reason!! Maybe it might be they have been to busy to reply, Or they decided to move on for whatever reason. That's why it's never good to put all your eggs in one basket, Sometimes you meet people other times you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people."

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people.

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid"

It's very telling you are ok with people who are rude and ignorant darling

Thank you for your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people.

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid

It's very telling you are ok with people who are rude and ignorant darling

Thank you for your thoughts "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What did you send a pic of then to make her delete the message?

My face

Asking for trouble I know "

I'm confused. You said you were chatting nicely for a few days and then you sent a face pic and she deleted the message and didn't reply. I said to send a face pic with the first message to prevent endless chatting with someone who wasn't attracted to you and you said you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people.

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid

It's very telling you are ok with people who are rude and ignorant darling

Thank you for your thoughts "

I bet she is reading this now and thinking 'phew'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people.

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid

It's very telling you are ok with people who are rude and ignorant darling

Thank you for your thoughts

I bet she is reading this now and thinking 'phew'

Ad hominem.

You give women here a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people.

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid

It's very telling you are ok with people who are rude and ignorant darling

Thank you for your thoughts

I bet she is reading this now and thinking 'phew'

If you'd like to stick to the subject matter instead of taking cheap shots

That would be just lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been told that taking offence to someone deleting and not replying after sending a pic

(not cock)

After we chatted nicely for a few days

That I'm too sensetive

Am I ? "

this is why i prefer to send face pics straight away

nothing worse than chatting to a guy and getting on really well only to find a few days later there is no attraction between us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.

Thank you

Frightening that such ignorance is accepted here and it's 'OK'

Online brings the worst out in people.

its very telling that you ignored the ones that said 'yes' first...

so you didn't turn out to be what she was looking for? it happens and with women outweighing men by a considerable majority it is par for the course, I'm afraid

It's very telling you are ok with people who are rude and ignorant darling

Thank you for your thoughts

I bet she is reading this now and thinking 'phew'

If you'd like to stick to the subject matter instead of taking cheap shots

That would be just lovely "

I think you will find I am, in a roundabout way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are too sensitive.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Yeah.

Take offence how?

Did you send one of those 'you are just like all the other women on here fake and up your own arse' messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP carry on being as sensitive as you like, it's not up to anyone else to tell you you're wrong for being a certain way. What you will find though is that te more sensitive a person is to that kind of thing, the less positive an experience they are likely to have on this site as unfortunately it can get a bit cut throat at times.

Personally if I'd been chatting to someone for a few days then all of a sudden they didn't reply I'd probably be slightly

too, but would recover quickly and find my next victim hehe.

Oh and for the record, Im kinda disagreeing with TT's comment but still think he's great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At what point is someone allowed to decide that they don't want to take the conversation forward without you taking offence?

This is a blatant 'I'm with you ladies aren't I great' response

No, he's just separating 'they decided no and didn't tell me' from 'I've taken offence'.

They are responsible for THEIR behaviour, but only you are responsible for your OWN emotional reaction.

Say they are wrong to go without a word if you like, just don't take offence.

Hehe

It seems to work too "

Perhaps actually think about the point that TT and FM make rather than this response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes....It's a swingers site....it's not real life x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah.

Take offence how?

Did you send one of those 'you are just like all the other women on here fake and up your own arse' messages."

No dear

Glad to see you've moved on from 2 years ago

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By *uicyfruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth

Yep. Definitely oversensitive.

You can tell that from the fact that a lot of your replies to people who disagree with you are dripping with condescension and sarcasm.

You got rejected, shit happens, move on. If it troubles you that much, then this site probably isn't for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been told that taking offence to someone deleting and not replying after sending a pic

(not cock)

After we chatted nicely for a few days

That I'm too sensetive

Am I ? "

Yes.

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you asked a question.

You've argued with everyone who didn't post what you want to hear.

Is that why you got blocked?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I would suggest not going to work so that you can reply otherwise you'll get a delightful message calling you a timewasting retarded c***

Such wonderful people on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A good mix of _iews

The usual righteousness about but to be expected

If I wish to add a comment to something I disagree with

That's my call

It's a forum is it not

People do get pissy don't they

I'm amused by it

I said nothing about blocking yet it gets mentioned

I ask for opinion

I got a few

That's healthy

Site not for me?

Thanks but again that's my call

Love and peace people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you said something they didn't like or the conversation just dried up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you said something they didn't like or the conversation just dried up."

Given the OP's posts above, that's unlikely. He seems utterly lovely, eloquent, thoughtful and caring.

Only explanation is that it was a man with a fake profile and you've had a lucky escape.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"It would be nice to get replies, explanations and the rest.

But more often than not, you won't

This ^^^^^^

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Op you are sooooo soooooo sensitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op u are actually correct to feel annoyed . But this is Fab , this is where the ladies have the upper hand .

But in my opinion majority of people are polite on here . Those that are not arnt worth bothering with anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life gets in the way.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"What did you send a pic of then to make her delete the message?

My face

Asking for trouble I know

Thats how I read it too

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By *bsolute LibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

There are several first message outcomes round these parts....

Random not even reading profile or short pointless message ignoring fact we both exist, even with pics...likely delete

More sensible message which involves at least reading profile, but ultimately not for us....a reply back wishing good luck and thanking for message

Good message involving reading profile and following up for good reason...likely response and chatting and keeping in mind for ongoing contact and maybe meet if we all get along

There's another category...the one which involves a message that is human and delightful, regardless of looking to meet, where we can chat and enjoy communication. These are messages where it's nice to converse with people through some shared wit or understanding. The people may live too far away, or not what either side are 'looking for', but it's nice to be in touch. I'm hoping you all know what I mean by that.

It does get to the point where a 'great pics' or a 'want to meet' or a slightly longer but still rudimentary message will be deleted though...

That's our tuppence worth right there

Good luck all

Ray

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"Been told that taking offence to someone deleting and not replying after sending a pic

(not cock)

After we chatted nicely for a few days

That I'm too sensetive

Am I ? "

Not sure how sensitve you are or if things taken personally. When you email someone, they open then delete it tells you all thats needed know. Leave it there, dont give a fuk about it.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got dead ended here recently after a week of chatting. We'd swapped pics and vids, so she had seen my face and body, but when I suggested meeting she quickly said she doesn't usually go for slim guys so isn't sure. Then why was she sending me dirty messages and complimenting my pics?? Sure enough, after that she started ignoring me.

You know what I did? I deleted her details and moved on without demanding an explanation or sending her any abuse!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"What did you send a pic of then to make her delete the message?

My face

Asking for trouble I know

Thats how I read it too

Me three.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Yep. Definitely oversensitive.

You can tell that from the fact that a lot of your replies to people who disagree with you are dripping with condescension and sarcasm.

You got rejected, shit happens, move on. If it troubles you that much, then this site probably isn't for you "

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