FabSwingers.com forum: Doms - what do subs think makes a good one?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is my first post on here so does that make me a forum virgin??

Been chatting to my Dom this evening and it got me wondering.

I've had a couple of Dom relationships over the past couple of years. I know what I think makes a Dom a good one but what do my fellow subs think???

And all you Doms out there .... no cheating and telling your subs what to say!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I had one , it was that he adored me .

I don't want another . Yes I like an alpha male but that's it now

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It sometimes appears a one sided relationship,

I suspect it's not.

Damn a wrong perspective,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from what i know its very much a 2 way relationship

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

what makes a good Dom?

listening, knowing whats going on with the sub by their voice, posture....ability to adapt to a changing situation

caring about what he is doing and taking pride in it.

ultimately ensuring everything is done safely and responsibly

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

A good relationship to the body and needs...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"from what i know its very much a 2 way relationship "

I think the best ones are. If there's communication and trust then both parties can get what they want. Trust is the most important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who learns and understands your body, and your limits. A person you trust immensely. And lastly, must enjoy domination as much as you enjoy submission

x Jas

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By *ightyandLeftyCouple
over a year ago

Funtown

"from what i know its very much a 2 way relationship

I think the best ones are. If there's communication and trust then both parties can get what they want. Trust is the most important thing. "

that's my thought too. Nx

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Pushing boundaries, knows when something is wrong, supports you emotionally, finds what you like and dislike, pays attention to your reactions during riskier play, introduces new things to you, socialises, discusses the lifestyle and feelings.

Not all Doms are the same but the one I knew could be different things to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chemistry.

Yes definitely need a good dollop of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chemistry.

Yes definitely need a good dollop of that!

Most definitely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pushing boundaries, knows when something is wrong, supports you emotionally, finds what you like and dislike, pays attention to your reactions during riskier play, introduces new things to you, socialises, discusses the lifestyle and feelings.

Not all Doms are the same but the one I knew could be different things to me."

Totally agree - I'm with my second Dom. I feel so much safer with him than with my first - and that's allowed me to expand my boundaries.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Not all Doms are the same but the one I knew could be different things to me.

Totally agree - I'm with my second Dom. I feel so much safer with him than with my first - and that's allowed me to expand my boundaries. "

That's good. I haven't found anyone else to make that commitment to yet. Trust is the big thing and not something I find easy to do.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Communication

Trust

Chemistry

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over a year ago

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