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Dating - Finding out on Vanilla dates if the girl is into the swinging world

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By *hrisgray OP   Man
over a year ago

Costa Del Sol

Hi everyone, interested to see what people's opinions are on this...

I've got to a stage where if I meet a girl and she is 100% not interested in having a spicier sex life (group, swinging world) that they aren't right for me haha. I just lose interest. Sad but true.

Just wondered how people find out early on if the girl/guy is into this without freaking them out haha.

All advice welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find my dating thread !!!!! Lots of us wanting lurve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that's sad. You are the way you. It's very important to have a partner who is sexually on the same wave length. You are being honest with yourself. If I were single I would only look for a partner who was on the scene. Otherwise I would've denying what I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dating profiles are very honest so I'm up front. They can make their choice based on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one dating site that is popular with people on the fet scene and also poly people. It's quite easy to meet people in there with a similar outlook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think that's sad. You are the way you. It's very important to have a partner who is sexually on the same wave length. You are being honest with yourself. If I were single I would only look for a partner who was on the scene. Otherwise I would've denying what I am."

It's frustrating, because it restricts your options, but not sad.

In answer to the question, I used to indirectly bring up slightly saucy subjects and gauge the reaction (e.g. nudism, bisexuality etc).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think id find vanilla sex boring now - love the buzz of what we do here - love playing with my ladies - id miss it way too much

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

What's wrong with freaking them out? Hey...I'm interested in you, can you handle x, plenty of y's, and z as well?

Better find out sooner rather than later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's wrong with freaking them out? Hey...I'm interested in you, can you handle x, plenty of y's, and z as well?

Better find out sooner rather than later."

Yeah - just hand them a tick box list at the start of the date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my dating profiles I state that I'm into swinging and kink.

It filters out people who aren't interested and catches interest of people who are wanting to try the scene or are already in it.

Also weirdos too.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Even the most tame of women can be tempted.

When i first got with Boo she was very innocent shall we say and even certain acts were a big no.

Trick is to be open and honest, find out their fantasies and show them how fun they can be....it does take time, it does take honesty. It also means compromise. Boo has had several threesomes, she loves anal and we are arranging her first girl, girl experience.

In her own words...if she could go back in time...she would give herself a slap and scream "DO IT!!!" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even the most tame of women can be tempted.

When i first got with Boo she was very innocent shall we say and even certain acts were a big no.

Trick is to be open and honest, find out their fantasies and show them how fun they can be....it does take time, it does take honesty. It also means compromise. Boo has had several threesomes, she loves anal and we are arranging her first girl, girl experience.

In her own words...if she could go back in time...she would give herself a slap and scream "DO IT!!!" lol"

this works both ways i might add

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond


"What's wrong with freaking them out? Hey...I'm interested in you, can you handle x, plenty of y's, and z as well?

Better find out sooner rather than later.

Yeah - just hand them a tick box list at the start of the date "

Exactly! and tally up the totals to see if you're compatible after all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it best to be open about it, if they run for the hills then it wasn't to be. Best to be honest rather than live with desires unmet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Date on fab.

Problem solved

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We met on a vanilla dating site and have ended up here. It can happen. Good luck.

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