FabSwingers.com forum: why you men not getting any from your partner/wifes?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably shit in bed and she's getting it somewhere else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both good answeres

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By *ea_CoffeeCouple
over a year ago

Near Kettering

Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

They are both so tired and they are neglecting each others needs so they can repeat the cycle of everday life all the time yearning for the other to show them some attention are but too affraid of rejection and too tired tired to try themselves.

Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Just a thought

Yet the men can muster enough time and effort to join a swinging website, arrange and meet another woman for sex? Perhaps if he put that same effort into his home life and helping out, his sex life would improve tenfold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

they're just telling you that to justify them being here and because they think they're more likely to get a ride out of it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "
mostly because they are lying.

My exs bit on the side came to tell me about them.. told me it was my own fault for denying him sex.... so showed her the video from the day before.. and told her that we had sex a lot. She wasnt happy and got quite cross at me which I found rather amusing...

So most men ive met that say that.... they are telling porkies

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By *pices69Couple
over a year ago

Gravesend

Some women are far more into sex than others.

Had a colleague tell me the other day, after ten minutes of sex, she gets bored. Should have seen her face when i told her, clearly, she was doing it wrong.

Irrespective, there is a spectrum between 'can never get enough' and 'id rather cuddle my cat'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

They are mostly lying to get into your knickers

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By *umbrian coupleCouple
over a year ago

Nr Carlisle

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By *umbrian coupleCouple
over a year ago

Nr Carlisle

I can relate to tea coffee's reply.. this was us about 7 months ago... but found ourselves again. With the help of fab. U get stuck in a rut...family kids..etc...making up for it now tho...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a single guy

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By *ea_CoffeeCouple
over a year ago

Near Kettering

"I can relate to tea coffee's reply.. this was us about 7 months ago... but found ourselves again. With the help of fab. U get stuck in a rut...family kids..etc...making up for it now tho...xx"

Thank you.

We could all make more efforts to capture our partners intrest but life is never black & white.

I of course hate the idea cheating and would not do it but it is worth bearing in mind with this type of thread that it takes 2 people to make the effort and not its not always the husbands fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Totally agree actually a honest man!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just have a higher sex drive than others

My marriage was sexless because my ex wouldn't have sex with me, it happens to women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naughty, what a waste, his loss I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Modern day pressures at technology often gets in the way to social media ect I myself mr turn Off at about 10 pm ,Mrs often usually much later and then to knackered lol apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both good answeres

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

Usually the wives or girlfriends haven't gone off sex altogether, they've just just gone off sex with their partner. And usually the person who claims to be missing out is lying. Everyone knows that, we just decide whether to go along with it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Superb...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

This

Bloody amazing response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

*applause*

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why??

They are mostly lying to get into your knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people just have a higher sex drive than others

My marriage was sexless because my ex wouldn't have sex with me, it happens to women too

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And mine no longer fancies me sexually. She's told me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Just a thought

What if the male does the majority of house chores, cooking , tending to the children, and working full time? Just saying, its not unheard of for males to take on a majority of the family workload.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Just a thought

What if the male does the majority of house chores, cooking , tending to the children, and working full time? Just saying, its not unheard of for males to take on a majority of the family workload.

Then it's doubtful they'll have the time or energy to be looking on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are selfish and the wife is bored of faking it/asking for things that she enjoys.

They are naturally promiscuous. To quote my ex who I had to virtually bribe to have sex 'men get bored of sex with one person after three months'.

They have unresolved issues in their relationship.

Body issues. Confidence.

He's let himself go and she no longer fancies him.

Loads of reasons. Or, they are lying to get a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep sending these shit in bed losers my way then, it's where some of my finest orgasms have come from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ppl get bored u have to spice it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every relationship is different and to generalise is pretty poor!! We all have our good points and bad points, I believe from my own experience some people are just not very sexual!! Whether it's to do with body confidence or mental state some people don't have that sexual passion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps their wives simply lost interest in sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "
they are really. They just say that for a sympathy shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's some very angry people around!

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Just a thought

Valid points.

Continued rejection leads to resentment.

Once that's set in... you're basically fucked.

No pun intended.

It seems most long term relationship's go stale in the bedroom eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

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angry or truthful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try having a curry everyday and then someone offered u chips you'd love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

angry or truthful?

I'm thinking bitter.

Very, very bitter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people I know put shockingly little thought into 'long term compatibility' when choosing a wife. They generally proposed due to inertia and social pressure after x many years in a relationship that wasn't bad enough to end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or just turned off by lying. If it does it for you, fair play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of people I know put shockingly little thought into 'long term compatibility' when choosing a wife. They generally proposed due to inertia and social pressure after x many years in a relationship that wasn't bad enough to end.

Or choosing a husband! Geez.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

angry or truthful?

I'm thinking bitter.

Very, very bitter."
who's sounding bitter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or just turned off by lying. If it does it for you, fair play. "

This is all based on a made-up scenario featuring people who aren't real right?

Or did I miss the bit where I should get really righteous and angry?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

angry or truthful?

I'm thinking bitter.

Very, very bitter. who's sounding bitter?"

ooh meeee.

I'm really, really angry at all the ANGRY people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because if someone tells you that they no longer find you attractive enough times, in the end you believe them. And you end up avoiding going to bed at the same time and if you can, sleep separately. But sex doesn't a marriage make. Love can exist without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

angry or truthful?

I'm thinking bitter.

Very, very bitter. who's sounding bitter?

ooh meeee.

I'm really, really angry at all the ANGRY people

"
pmsl. OK then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because if someone tells you that they no longer find you attractive enough times, in the end you believe them. And you end up avoiding going to bed at the same time and if you can, sleep separately. But sex doesn't a marriage make. Love can exist without it. "
a sexless marriage can be hard though lol. No pun intended.

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By *anklerMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

I don't get sex or a bj at home because I'm Single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

angry or truthful?

I'm thinking bitter.

Very, very bitter."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get sex or a bj at home because I'm Single

According to this thread's logic: why are you single, cos you can't get a girlfriend? Why would any woman want that?

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By *VK_RugbyCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

Incompatible sex drives is another answer, we enjoy a healthy sex life together and do indulge in full swap occasionally but me (male) has a very high sex drive, my good lady has what she calls a normal sex drive (I think it's low to be fair) but she doesn't have a problem with me playing alone occasionally to give her a break lol

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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That's interesting...

Also makes me think about a conversation I was having with a friend last night.

He basically told me he had a child with his partner because she really wanted one.

He's indifferent to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's interesting...

Also makes me think about a conversation I was having with a friend last night.

He basically told me he had a child with his partner because she really wanted one.

He's indifferent to it.

Yup, my friend told me "this girl I've been dating is great, she's well educated, sweet, very prim and proper" and I said "but mate, you love slutty types". He'll be bored shitless of her in 6 months. He's dating the girl his mother thinks he should date, not the type he actually likes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That's interesting...

Also makes me think about a conversation I was having with a friend last night.

He basically told me he had a child with his partner because she really wanted one.

He's indifferent to it.

yep! This is why I would be up front from day one about what I'm interested in in every aspect of my life if I ever dated again (god forbid) I don't have time to waste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's interesting...

Also makes me think about a conversation I was having with a friend last night.

He basically told me he had a child with his partner because she really wanted one.

He's indifferent to it.

yep! This is why I would be up front from day one about what I'm interested in in every aspect of my life if I ever dated again (god forbid) I don't have time to waste."

It amazes me how many guys are frustrated with their sex life and you say:

"So when you got married, did you honestly expect to just have sex with her for the rest of your life?"

"No"

"Do you think it might have been an idea to mention that to her then?"

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By *anklerMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

"I don't get sex or a bj at home because I'm Single

According to this thread's logic: why are you single, cos you can't get a girlfriend? Why would any woman want that? "
just haven't found the woman I'm looking for.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Just a thought

Well said!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Get a lot (okay some) messages from ladies on here must be because the men are playing away...

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

Because she see's sex as a chore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

And this is why I have been separated for 5 months!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

Can't explain anyone else's situation but mine: my wife isn't particularly interested in sex, works long hours, does a stressful job and is happiest when simply relaxing with a hot bath, duvet, a glass or two of wine, a cuddle and a early night.

With kids it's even harder to have the time, energy, enthusiasm and opportunity.

I remember once last year, for a nice suprise, I took a day off work to do all the cleaning, washing, ironing and other weekend jobs, and got the kids packed off to in-laws; so we had no jobs to do and the weekend to ourselves.

Had a lovely relaxing weekend, but still no sex.

If you add have 17 years of examples like that, plus spending so many weekend evenings up alone due to different sleep patterns, Christmas Eve, Christmas and New Year nights alone for the same reason, that's why I'm on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or may be she is lying about not wanting sex and is fucking someone else and is happy to let the husband feel he is being demanding. My favourite is hubby at home doing the right thing working all hours and looking after the kids as she needs a break and she is on her girls night or even supposedly down the gym but is in fact shagging her regular or any passing guy.

It works both ways amongst the sexes l have known many good guys been screwed over literally without knowing it until someone tells them what is going on or she is caught out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or may be she is lying about not wanting sex and is fucking someone else and is happy to let the husband feel he is being demanding. My favourite is hubby at home doing the right thing working all hours and looking after the kids as she needs a break and she is on her girls night or even supposedly down the gym but is in fact shagging her regular or any passing guy.

It works both ways amongst the sexes l have known many good guys been screwed over literally without knowing it until someone tells them what is going on or she is caught out."

Statically speaking, there is no significant difference between the number of husbands who are unfaithful and the number of wives. They report having different motivations and women are generally better at hiding it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can't get it on and create a song sexual connection with their partner, then I'm doubtful they can satisfy me, so I leave well alone x if they say they want some extra fun on the side I'm more likely to consider them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Oh that's right, because the cheating partner doesn't really want to leave. Oh the kids! We're staying for the kids. Yeah, and the washing and the ironing and the cooking and the cleaning. Because it's too damn easy to have their cake and eat it.

And no, I wasn't cheated on. I left my husband because I wasn't getting the sex I wanted. I wasn't getting the sex I wanted because we weren't compatible. I still love him, very much, but there's no way I could've stayed with him and cheated on him, because apart from anything else, it would have prevented him from finding someone who could love him as he deserves.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them. "

Good point raised here by Lay Tiss. I feel that in the end that actually what I did. I came out one day and told her that I was seeing someone else and that our marriage was between 2 incompatible people. Of course it wasn't very nice at the time but after a few weeks the dust started to settle, She got out a bit and met other men and we settled our divorce amicably. We have 2 kids that have grown into strong independently financial men.

She is now with a man that gives her the things she like, foreign holidays, loads of dosh and seems happy when I see her and when we meet it's not too bad. I think we both knew we'd met too young and we just weren't right for each other.

In our case I feel divorce was the right thing to do.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

So many possibilities to answer this.

He's not making the effort.

She no longer wants sex.

The time they had alone has reduced due to work, kids, family.

Lack of communication etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long term illness can make sex unappealing.

Btw I do all the housework!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Savage but probably true

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

To be fair,we will never know what goes on behind closed doors .As others said ,you may hear that one persons side of it,but there are always two sides to a story.

I think you either met them and take them at face value,or just don't meet them.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them. "

What do you want, a medal?

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

Things change and people go through a lot in thier life. What was once good and sweet and fun can dwindle away as the result of things beyond the partners control. No matter how hard they try.

What do you do? Dump the love of your life becouse your not getting your end away? Is that all this person is worth?

No you replace the need you have and they will not/ can not fulfill and move on with your life together.

Sometimes its not about fresh fields and ego, but about a comittment to anouther person that means you are the one who needs to compromise.

Thats not justification thats just responsability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love reading these threads. Keep it up. Wonderful stuff!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or, if it's right and you're really lucky you persevere, you learn, you grow as a couple and even if it takes years you rediscover each other after kids, work and other distractons are gone. The grass ain't always greener on the other side. But, you do both need the same end goal otherwise, yup, love enough to let that someone go and be happy elsewhere.

Mr C

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal? "

What do you want, validation?

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By *est-coupleMan
over a year ago

Southwick (near Trowbridge)

"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Wisdom - well put x

Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love how when a thread asking something like this is posted all the amateur psychologists come out with their "_iews" about others never having met them, spoken to them or asking them a single question.

The image i have of some of the people on here is that they trawl through almost every post, looking for flaws in everyone (except themselves) waiting for those golden opportunities to pounce on anything said whenever they feel they can use what is said to "score a point" and demonstrate how much better than the poster they are.

I especially like the men on here who attack other men in some sort of effort to try to prove to the female onlookers how they are by far the most fuckable guy in town. lol

I really like the ladies who describe themselves as curvy who get the hump and attack others for how they look or what they say, even if what they say is "not into curvy people", FFS how much more polite can you be when saying "no fatties". lol

I love the couples who think they have life sorted because they get to fuck other people every night of the week even though they live in a council house in Peckham (sorry Peckham) and their photos show a fridge in the middle of the front garden, clothes all over the bedroom floor and dog pooh along a skirting board. (lovely!) lol

Most of all though it tickles me pink to see the posts, so many of which do nothing more than stereotype others and yet all written by people who must be unique because they have written the same profile as everyone else and answered the same few profile questions in almost exactly the same way as everyone else too!

Oh well, maybe i'm just on a mood because i've strained my groin (what the feck i'm doing on here with that injury i'll never know...guess you just can't keep a good man (or todger) down!)

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

Three little darlings 5,13,16 is the biggest problem it's not that we don't love each other but between 6.30am and 11.30pm it's always mum mum mum mum ,dad can I have some money it gets a bit draining for us both so she has face book and i have fab and maybe good sex once a month and wanking the rest of the time.

Hope that answer's your question xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im single and live alone

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Relationships can be extremely complex.

My ex used to withhold sex from me. She knew I wanted her. It didn't matter how annoyed, angry or upset I was, I still wanted her sexually. Women are different, if they're pissed off with you, chances are they won't let you near them. It drove me completely nuts in the end.

Sex became a power struggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal?

What do you want, validation? "

Feel free to tell me to fuck off, but do you think any of your compatability issues were foreseeable before you got married, with the benefit of hindsight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were talking about a power struggle that would be ironic wouldn't it?

After all doesn't "treat them mean...keep them keen" still apply?

What about "you have to be cruel to be kind"?

How about the whole "cuckold" thing?

The fact that there is a power struggle between a bloke and a strong woman could be a huge turn on for a guy, he might marry the cow because she won't fuck him??

Hmmmmmm

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

No, he doesn't want to shoot an elephant, that would be cruel. No he doesn't want a full time pet bunny (it could be hard work and costly) so what does he do? he goes to the pet shop to stroke a bunny for a bit and remember how much he liked his bunny before going home and settling down with Nelly again. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some disappointing responses on here in my _iew considering this is a swingers site.

I don't necessarily advocate cheating but I do advocate "each to their own"

There're a million reasons people (I stress "people", as women look elsewhere too when not getting sex etc in their relationship) would want to cheat. It seems very judgemental to offer *applause* for ramblings about "men being lazy whilst the female works etc etc".. or condemning those who cheat for not having the guts to just leave. Everyone's circumstances are different.

- Some people are just horny and want other partners but aren't in an open / swinging relationship.

- Some people may share a close bond with their partner but don't share the same sex drive / preferences etc. Doesn't mean they should necessarily end things.

- Some may even be a full time carer for their partner and due to illness can't have sex and thus they look elsewhere..

The reasons are endless so to just prattle on about all men being heartless / lazy / gutless etc seems very short sighted and judgemental.

If you don't wish to get with a guy / girl that is cheating on their partner or you suspect to be cheating.. don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

You know how this is going to end don't you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a lovely relaxing weekend, but still no sex.

Perhaps if you did that once a week, instead of once a year? You'd find less of a reason to be on Fab?

Food for thought!

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By *ockman3858Man
over a year ago

didcot

Hi my Mrs had lost her mojo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a lovely relaxing weekend, but still no sex.

Perhaps if you did that once a week, instead of once a year? You'd find less of a reason to be on Fab?

Food for thought!

Lord Scar.. he perhaps just wants to be on Fab and thus that alone is a good enough reason.

Food for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal?

What do you want, validation? "

No, not at all. Which is why I haven't sought to set out my specific circumstances as though they are proof that everyone should act the same way as me and make the same decisions as me in some sort of smug, self satisfied quest for approval. I couldn't give a shit what people who don't know me and never will think about behaviours and actions they don't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a lovely relaxing weekend, but still no sex.

Perhaps if you did that once a week, instead of once a year? You'd find less of a reason to be on Fab?

Food for thought!

Lord Scar.. he perhaps just wants to be on Fab and thus that alone is a good enough reason.

Food for thought.

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some disappointing responses on here in my _iew considering this is a swingers site.

I don't necessarily advocate cheating but I do advocate "each to their own"

- Some people are just horny and want other partners but aren't in an open / swinging relationship.

- Some people may share a close bond with their partner but don't share the same sex drive / preferences etc. Doesn't mean they should necessarily end things.

- Some may even be a full time carer for their partner and due to illness can't have sex and thus they look elsewhere..

The reasons are endless so to just prattle on about all men being heartless / lazy / gutless etc seems very short sighted and judgemental.

If you don't wish to get with a guy / girl that is cheating on their partner or you suspect to be cheating.. don't.

Especially the last part. Just don't. It doesn't need to be accompanied with a side of "I did this, look at me, aren't I so much more worthy than you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people just have a higher sex drive than others

My marriage was sexless because my ex wouldn't have sex with me, it happens to women too

Thats so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a lovely relaxing weekend, but still no sex.

Perhaps if you did that once a week, instead of once a year? You'd find less of a reason to be on Fab?

Food for thought!

Seriously what is with the battle to be the best shirley valentine here?

Neither of us do any cleaning, ironing or other drudgery because we both make more than the minimum wage at our jobs. Therefore, we'd both rather work an extra hour a week at work and pay someone else to do it.

It's also better for the economy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LordScar you look German!?

That could explain the bitterness in your posts toward other blokes?

Don't get your panties all twisted matey, just remember we didn't all vote to leave you in the referendum and after we're gone you'll be flogging us just as many BMW's as you did before.

I'm not 100% convinced about the nationality but shall be padlocking my towel to the deckchair just to be sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bang on! We are finding it hard to get consistently good cleaners though!

Boo Hoo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LordScar you look German!?

That could explain the bitterness in your posts toward other blokes?

Don't get your panties all twisted matey, just remember we didn't all vote to leave you in the referendum and after we're gone you'll be flogging us just as many BMW's as you did before.

I'm not 100% convinced about the nationality but shall be padlocking my towel to the deckchair just to be sure!

Proof than any fab post can turn into a Brexit post!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bang on! We are finding it hard to get consistently good cleaners though!

Boo Hoo!"

It seriously is!! Half the fuckers on tree of gums don't turn up either. You just can't get the help these days... it's almost as if people don't even like cleaning when they are getting paid to do it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bang on! We are finding it hard to get consistently good cleaners though!

Boo Hoo!

Mine is Bulgarian and she's wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The proof is in the pudding...however make it good old yorskshire pudding...none of that foreign muck! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LordScar you look German!?

That could explain the bitterness in your posts toward other blokes?

It's called being a "White Knight" - it improves your chances of getting laid by gullible women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The commute might bugger up her earnings if she's starting on the minimum wage for Bulgarians in the UK which i beleive is 35p per hour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bang on! We are finding it hard to get consistently good cleaners though!

Boo Hoo!

Mine is Bulgarian and she's wonderful

We had a wonderful local student for a while. She advertises on CL and after a few weeks you said "gosh I'm so relieved about you guys, you're the only normal people to reply to my advert - everyone else was a pervert"

Oh if only you knew my dear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The commute might bugger up her earnings if she's starting on the minimum wage for Bulgarians in the UK which i beleive is 35p per hour?

If she has to leave, I will be even more furious about Brexit than I already was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only white knight i know of had a lance that was substantially longer than 10" so he might be onto something with the ladies! lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow it would seem this is a touchy subject for a lot of you!

From my own experience it could be that they don't find their wives/girlfriends attractive anymore. Im not saying I agree, that's just the excuse Ive had put to me in the past.

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over a year ago

"The commute might bugger up her earnings if she's starting on the minimum wage for Bulgarians in the UK which i beleive is 35p per hour?

If she has to leave, I will be even more furious about Brexit than I already was."

The Japanese are working on a robot that can clean your house. It should be ready before Brexit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruby...

put on your outfit and come clean for me! lmao

I'll leave you alone...until you've got the duster in your hand then you can tickle my fancy!

lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The commute might bugger up her earnings if she's starting on the minimum wage for Bulgarians in the UK which i beleive is 35p per hour?

If she has to leave, I will be even more furious about Brexit than I already was.

The Japanese are working on a robot that can clean your house. It should be ready before Brexit happens. "

Phew. I really don't want to have to learn how to use the Dyson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow it would seem this is a touchy subject for a lot of you!

From my own experience it could be that they don't find their wives/girlfriends attractive anymore. Im not saying I agree, that's just the excuse Ive had put to me in the past."

But that begs the question why people like that go around proclaiming a life long commitment!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LordScar you look German!?

That could explain the bitterness in your posts toward other blokes?

It's called being a "White Knight" - it improves your chances of getting laid by gullible women. "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

They are playing this game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy it after Brexit and we'll probably have negotiated better terms with Japan.

We'll get them for £100 and LordScar will be paying through his German nose after Mrs Merkel and her buddies have negotiated their cut

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow it would seem this is a touchy subject for a lot of you!

From my own experience it could be that they don't find their wives/girlfriends attractive anymore. Im not saying I agree, that's just the excuse Ive had put to me in the past.

But that begs the question why people like that go around proclaiming a life long commitment!? "

Good point if you work out the answer could you let me know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an epiphany to realise we're all only on Fab for the simple reason that we don't clean and cook often enough for other people!

I now realise the error of my ways and I trust you all will too.. if anyone wants me, I'll be cleaning and cooking for other people for the sole purpose of meeting my sexual urges.

Ta'ra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my case my wife lost her sex drive during the menopause, hrt could possibly help but she doesn't want the cancer risks, it's her body and I respect her decision and would never force the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a new cleaner try out a few weeks ago. Later while cutting some cheese on the side a pube appeared!!!

EErruugghhhh! If you have to use the same fecking cloth to do the kitchen side and the toilet do the fecking side first you dirty cow!!!

She has not been invited back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

Because I haven't got a lady at home!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

epiphany..i used to have one of those but Rolf Harris could get a better tune out of his...hold on...

i think it was a stylophone but good luck with practising the epiphany anyway!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's some very angry people around!

angry or truthful?

I'm thinking bitter.

Very, very bitter.

I'm not sure if it's bitterness just more the fact that alot of people have been that partner that's been cheated on. I try and see both sides of the story but I have to say my vision is a bit squewed because I know first hand how much it hurts. I think that's all it is really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow it would seem this is a touchy subject for a lot of you!

From my own experience it could be that they don't find their wives/girlfriends attractive anymore. Im not saying I agree, that's just the excuse Ive had put to me in the past.

But that begs the question why people like that go around proclaiming a life long commitment!?

Good point if you work out the answer could you let me know?

When social pressure and inertia trumps common sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the problem is with this bit..."i do solemnly declare"...i reckon most people don't have a clue what it means.

If they said "for the rest of my life i will never shag another woman", look at another woman with thoughts of "i wonder what it would be like to shag her" or "fuck me look at the arse on that" or "shit those tits are huge"...i reckon the number of marriages would shrink significantly!

The game's not working out so.."change the rules"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Or another scenario: husband has full time shift job, also runs a business employing 4 blokes, does the shopping, cleaning, looks after the child or taking her to school, doctors etc, sorts the washing, fixes the cars, pays for everything, wife work part time and does fuck all else except spend spend and fucking spend. And not interested in sex since the birth of the child. Hmmmm. Well I didn't sleep around. I fucked the fat lazy cunt off and found a hard working sexy woman with my own morals and work ethic. Like someone else said. People have different sex drives, it's when those who think they have got what they want then turn off the tap and use sex as a weapon that piss me off. And sadly there are plenty of guys on here who have fallen into that miserable situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Yes many (obviously not all) women in this country implicitly feel it's OK to use sex as a weapon, but my question is why the guys can't spot that character trait before they get married? I've had ex girlfriends like that and I could spot the attitude a mile off so I got out quick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

conjugal rights?

Maybe the girl using sex as a weapon before marriage is a turn on but the guy assumes that "conjugal rights" means she has to fuck him whenever and wherever he says after they're married?

I'd sign up to that one! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LordScar you look German!?

That could explain the bitterness in your posts toward other blokes?

Don't get your panties all twisted matey, just remember we didn't all vote to leave you in the referendum and after we're gone you'll be flogging us just as many BMW's as you did before.

I'm not 100% convinced about the nationality but shall be padlocking my towel to the deckchair just to be sure!

Don't worry mate, there's a few other single guys who aren't funny either!

Chin up though pal

I'm sure you'll get that first meet eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Sadly I didn't see it, my folks,family and friends did and told me so but I got married anyway. On the bright side I have a beautiful daughter who I see everyday so I guess I can't moan now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mate, let's pop to the clinic together one day and we'll compare results shall we? I'll be the confident one walking in without hesitation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has gone off sex for a number of reasons, some stemming from issues she is dealing with pertaining to events when she was younger.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Or they are both dead on their feet and have fallen into a negative cycle of forgetting how important intimacy is at home.

Just a thought

This

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

"Bang on! We are finding it hard to get consistently good cleaners though!

Boo Hoo!

Mine is Bulgarian and she's wonderful

Oh if only you knew my dear! "

So you have not shown her the French Maids Uniform you baught her yet then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes mate, let's pop to the clinic together one day and we'll compare results shall we? I'll be the confident one walking in without hesitation.

First it was nationality and now it's my sexual health? Didn't Mother ever teach you once you resort to direct personal insults you've lost the argument?

How funny you mention sexual health though? I had my all clear text just last week. The only reason you're confident, is because you actually haven't met anyone to have sex with. Not to worry pal, like I said, it'll happen eventually.

Now if you want to carry on being an insulting mate, we can take this to PM and leave the good folk to discuss the topic without subjecting them to you trying to be clever and me clearly proving you're not, how's that sound cupcake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bang on! We are finding it hard to get consistently good cleaners though!

Boo Hoo!

Mine is Bulgarian and she's wonderful

Oh if only you knew my dear!

So you have not shown her the French Maids Uniform you baught her yet then."

Waiting until Christmas so we can deduct the cost from her bonus. She'll understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes mate, let's pop to the clinic together one day and we'll compare results shall we? I'll be the confident one walking in without hesitation.

First it was nationality and now it's my sexual health? Didn't Mother ever teach you once you resort to direct personal insults you've lost the argument?

I can't understand why he's insulting you ? Just read the thread and it's seems unjustified. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

I read that and laughed out loud. My husband nicknamed me bunny, and when we met I was a nice little bunny. Happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get lots of messages that men just aren't getting sex, bj,hj at home. This seems to be a common problem.

Why?? "

They may just want to talk about it and get it off there chests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some disappointing responses on here in my _iew considering this is a swingers site.

I don't necessarily advocate cheating but I do advocate "each to their own"

- Some people are just horny and want other partners but aren't in an open / swinging relationship.

- Some people may share a close bond with their partner but don't share the same sex drive / preferences etc. Doesn't mean they should necessarily end things.

- Some may even be a full time carer for their partner and due to illness can't have sex and thus they look elsewhere..

The reasons are endless so to just prattle on about all men being heartless / lazy / gutless etc seems very short sighted and judgemental.

If you don't wish to get with a guy / girl that is cheating on their partner or you suspect to be cheating.. don't.

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes mate, let's pop to the clinic together one day and we'll compare results shall we? I'll be the confident one walking in without hesitation.

Not sure what you've got against the poster you're insulting but you're starting to sound petty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes mate, let's pop to the clinic together one day and we'll compare results shall we? I'll be the confident one walking in without hesitation.

Not sure what you've got against the poster you're insulting but you're starting to sound petty

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about your lady doesn't want to have sex with you because you've let yourself go a bit? Or a lot to be fair I've been married for 21 years with each other for 25 years, effort keeps the sex alive by one partner or both we have three kids I work shifts she also works if our sex live's drop off we work on it! We don't make excuses we certainly don't come on here to find what we're not getting at home and in my wife's experience if the guy says he's not getting it home then he's crap stop blaming each other and sort it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love how when a thread asking something like this is posted all the amateur psychologists come out with their "_iews" about others never having met them, spoken to them or asking them a single question.

I especially like the men on here who attack other men in some sort of effort to try to prove to the female onlookers how they are by far the most fuckable guy in town. lol

Oh well, maybe i'm just on a mood because i've strained my groin (what the feck i'm doing on here with that injury i'll never know...guess you just can't keep a good man (or todger) down!)

So so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal?

What do you want, validation?

Feel free to tell me to fuck off, but do you think any of your compatability issues were foreseeable before you got married, with the benefit of hindsight? "

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is in sexless marriage, and they have tried and failed to resolve the situation, they have 3 choices: leave and find sex elsewhere, stay and find sex elsewhere, stay and be celebate. It's an incredibly difficult decision.

I personally don't know what it's like to not want sex ever, and I've never denied my husband sex,even if I'm tired. There's been times in our lives when life has been incredibly busy and stressful for both of us, but we would not regard that as an excuse to not make love. It's true that life might get in the way of having a really good kinky session, but that can be resolved by arranging things like 'date' nights.

I've heard girlfriends of mine quite flippantly say that they have little cause for sex now, and that's always made me think 'be careful, if you are not having sex with your husband, somebody else is'.

As I said I don't know what it's like to never want to make love to my own husband. But if this was something I had suffered from, I really don't think I would be surprised if he found sex elsewhere. I mean if current stats are that 40% of men cheat at some point in time, I'm not naive enough to believe that I'm exempt from that fate. I would not have wanted him to leave me though. That would have been so much worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal?

What do you want, validation?

You're very defensive for someone who's so sure they're right. Eg your attacking me for showing I have integrity.

All i see are excuses for cheating. Yes, no relationship is black and white and no relationship stays the same, but ffs, how much self entitlement must cheaters have. Noone has the right to sex at the cost of someone else.

Cheaters are making their partners live a lie. It's revolting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about your lady doesn't want to have sex with you because you've let yourself go a bit? Or a lot to be fair I've been married for 21 years with each other for 25 years, effort keeps the sex alive by one partner or both we have three kids I work shifts she also works if our sex live's drop off we work on it! We don't make excuses we certainly don't come on here to find what we're not getting at home and in my wife's experience if the guy says he's not getting it home then he's crap stop blaming each other and sort it out. "

A good relationship doesn't happen by chance, it happens because you both want it to and are both willing to put the effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I has ex-girlfriends where I told them point blank that "If you won't fuck me then I'll find someone that will". If they respond with "do that and I'll dump you" then you know to end to relationship then and there because they completely don't acknowledge the underlying problem.

There have been 4 major studies on the subject and they put the figure between 60-70% for men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

I read that and laughed out loud. My husband nicknamed me bunny, and when we met I was a nice little bunny. Happy days

Me too! Creased me up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

I read that and laughed out loud. My husband nicknamed me bunny, and when we met I was a nice little bunny. Happy days

The problems only start if Nelly realises her man's petting bunnies on the side. Then...

Nelly the elephant packs her trunk and says goodbye to the ...

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By *icpl81Couple
over a year ago

hednesford

"Some people just have a higher sex drive than others

My marriage was sexless because my ex wouldn't have sex with me, it happens to women too

Agree!! Thank god for divorce and fresh starts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a lovely relaxing weekend, but still no sex.

Perhaps if you did that once a week, instead of once a year? You'd find less of a reason to be on Fab?

Food for thought!

this.

There is clearly a lot of love for your wife as things are, do you not even feel a tad guilty that you fuck around with other women knowing you're marriage is good just without the sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" There have been 4 major studies on the subject and they put the figure between 60-70% for men and women. "

Well if stats are that high, then cheating is arguably normal. That mean that more than half the people we know in life have done it at some point: friends, work colleagues, family, partner. The mind boggles. Having said that, in some periods of history it has been totally acceptable for married people to have lovers as long as they were discrete and didn't allow it to affect their marriage. Current society comes across as quite puritanical, yet incredibly hypocritical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about some people get married, have a great time and then over the next 20-30-40 years things change?

How about their wife who used to be 8 stone and fuck like a bunny is now 20 stone and fucks like an elephant?

It's as simple as this guys...

he just wants to fuck a bunny again!

I read that and laughed out loud. My husband nicknamed me bunny, and when we met I was a nice little bunny. Happy days

The problems only start if Nelly realises her man's petting bunnies on the side. Then...

Nelly the elephant packs her trunk and says goodbye to the ...

He can play with all the fluffy bunnies he likes, as long as he comes back to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has mentioned a divorce as a solution for a sexlesss marriage.

Damn shame those cheaters don't care enough about their partners to let them also find someone who would actually love them.

What do you want, a medal?

What do you want, validation?

You're very defensive for someone who's so sure they're right. Eg your attacking me for showing I have integrity.

Cheaters are making their partners live a lie. It's revolting. "

I wasn't intending to sound defensive, if it's come across that way then I'll have to rethink my wording. "You're attacking me for showing I have integrity" - no, I'm challenging you for a nauseatingly self-congratulatory post. I don't actually know why people bother trying to explain their personal circumstances on these threads because they have no relevance whatsoever to someone else's relationship.

If you wish to deem me revolting that's absolutely fine, but, again, as I said - what do you want, a medal? Everyone to pat you on the back and tell you how brave and moral you are? What's the point of your post if not to say "look at me, this is what I did and if you don't do that you're revolting?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that too..reasons have been mixed - menopause is common one, followed by physical/mental illness, tiredness, weight gain, kids stuff or simply the case that partner has just lost interest for no reason.

It is very hard and I have been there before myself when my kids were young and I was simply too tired to do anything but crash out on the pillow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" There have been 4 major studies on the subject and they put the figure between 60-70% for men and women.

I would a million times over rather my husband quietly and discreetly fucked someone else and didn't bring it to my door than threw away our entire relationship out of some misplaced sense of "deserving better".

He probably has. I don't know. And I wouldn't know, because I know if he was going to do that he'd have the nous to do it properly and not embarrass me or upset our home life.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We still try to keep our marriage as exciting as we can, silly little things & gestures make all the difference & anyone who knows us will say we are like a new couple hands everywhere lol.

John meets quite a few ladies on here & through his job not because his sex life is non existent at home but because we both love sex hence why we swing, its an extra element in our sex life not a must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I would a million times over rather my husband quietly and discreetly fucked someone else and didn't bring it to my door than threw away our entire relationship out of some misplaced sense of "deserving better""

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have to read ScarFace's first post in this thread and you'll see that he starts off by being very insulting to a whole load of people he's never met based on his assumptions and narrow minded _iew on their lives and circumstances.

White Knight i believe the phrase is?pretty either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White Knight i believe the phrase is?pretty either!"

I believe he said that's one scenario, your posts were insulting and personal to him. Big difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White Knight i believe the phrase is?pretty either!"

To be fair he did say it s one scenario!! Not gospel. I don't see why you had to insult him and get personal though about nationality and sexual health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear oh Dear, is calling someone a German really that insulting?

Don't fall out of your pram in all that panic will you?

I wonder if he'll ever grow big enough to be able to leave his minders at the door?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White Knight i believe the phrase is?pretty either!"

Yes I did read the description of a stereotypical 1950's marriage, where the wife does laundry, ironing, cooking, kids etc and husband comes in from work amd sits on his backside. Considering few marriages are like that these days, I actually assumed he was joking in that post.

I'm so greatful for my automatic washing machine and tumble drier, which means I have time to put my feet up occasionally - or even have sex.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and bye the way, do take the time to scan all the messages and let's see who starts getting personal, in addition who appears to be goading and who seems to be responding rather than instigating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear oh Dear, is calling someone a German really that insulting?

Don't fall out of your pram in all that panic will you?

I wonder if he'll ever grow big enough to be able to leave his minders at the door? "

It is when you're meaning it in a derogatory way, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and bye the way, do take the time to scan all the messages and let's see who starts getting personal, in addition who appears to be goading and who seems to be responding rather than instigating."

I'm sure there are loads, but it was yours that jumped out at me, you're not showing yourself in a good light by continuing this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear oh Dear, is calling someone a German really that insulting?

Don't fall out of your pram in all that panic will you?

I wonder if he'll ever grow big enough to be able to leave his minders at the door? "

I can't see why you feel the need? Does his handsome looks or popularity strike a chord maybe? He's a regular formite. I can't see him lnsulting you on any post. It's not really big or clever is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lady Tiss you're going on about it being a shame not all cheaters can follow your fine example of leaving your ex-partner because you weren't getting the sex you wanted.. you're applauding the guy who banged on about men just being lazy fuckers who don't contribute to household tasks and thus don't get the sex they so self righteously deserve and instead cheat..

With respect, what you (and your LordScar friend) are very much failing to appreciate is that literally every person / couple / situation is so very different. To have such an all-encompassing _iew based on what you personally have been through really shows a great lack of ability to appreciate others situations as being individual to them.

I know someone (gender irrelevant) who has a partner who experienced an accident resulting in brain injury. The partner is not able to have sex and they're affected cognitively. So my friend opts for option B; staying with partner and seeking sex elsewhere. My friend isn't lazy. My friend isn't gutless due to not leaving. If anything my friend is very hard working in caring for the person they love.

As people have mentioned above; circumstances (busy lives etc), menopause, impotence, illness (mental or physical), their upbringing etc etc all impact on people's ability to have sex and peoples decisions in terms of looking elsewhere for sex.

Not everyone should conduct their lives (or be judged as being lazy, gutless, arsehole cheaters) based on your experiences. My own experiences influence my values but I can still appreciate others circumstances and aim to do so from their point of _iew.

Kudos to you for leaving your ex-partner if you weren't compatible and I do hope you're now getting the sex you wanted.. but do bear in mind it's not always straightforward and others situations are likely very different. A divorce is one solution but not the only one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget the bit about padlocking my towel to the deckchair!

The bit that makes it obvious i'm joking which seems to be lost on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't forget the bit about padlocking my towel to the deckchair!

The bit that makes it obvious i'm joking which seems to be lost on you"

Again making a hidden reference to Germans!! Not clever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't forget the bit about padlocking my towel to the deckchair!

The bit that makes it obvious i'm joking which seems to be lost on you"

Stereotyping and insulting others isn't funny though is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White Knight i believe the phrase is?pretty either!"

I see you didn't have the decency to acknowledge my last reply to you. I didn't expect anything less to be fair. Yet still continue with the personal insults you pathetic little keyboard warrior.

To clarify though, I'm white British. Disease free and far more intelligent than you, even though you're ten years my senior

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario"

This is just one scenario but comes across to me that Lordscar is more of a feminist than Andrea Dworkin.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario"

This is just one scenario but comes across to me that Lordscar is more of a feminist than Andrea Dworkin. "

It's probably a very common scenario, i only have to lisren to my friends talk to know that. It also happens the other way around.

Different scenarios, and lots of others too.

I don't see why it was wrong to included them in a thread like this. Certainly doesn't being insulting to the poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt warrant being insulting - that should say

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Maybe because they're lazy bastards who take their wife for granted, and after holding down a job, looking after 2.4 kids, running a house, cooking tea, washing up and doing some ironing?

The last thing on their mind is to then pleasure the lazy cunt, who's been sat on his arse since he walked through the door and did nothing to help out his missus who's dead on her feet!

I mean, that's possibly one scenario

Same reason women can't spot that their bloke is an arse even though the rest of the world can.

It's called lust and clouds peoples normal logical behaviour.

Personally I think everyone should have a brain scan before getting married and if you are in lust then you should be deemed medically unfit to sign said contract.

Same as

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