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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we've had awkward meets where too much booze was a factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep , it happened a few times early on .

So we no longer visit people's homes very often and avoid clubs .

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

There seems to be no end of couples who have to do this to play, drink I mean. As we don't drink we get sort of fed up of people staggering about in clubs.totally unattrctive

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

On my first meet, I was slaughtered! But that was all about 1st time nerves and Dutch courage and the only time it's ever happened. Since then I will sometimes have a drink while playing but it's usually just the one (Mrs Wembley!), I want to remember my meet and savour the moments....

On one occasion (a particularly good one as it happens), it was a full house cos all the girls turned up and we'd had a great time, tidied up after and everyone slowly drifted away until there was just myself and another left. We chatted and chatted and chatted, without realising I'd drank nearly 2/3's of a bottle of vodka... and was completely sober because I was engrossed in the conversation. All the same, when I realised I did apologise but my companion just said 'don't worry, you take it well'. All the same, think it just gives off bad vibes and the wrong impression.

I'm even thinking of Staying Sober for October!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a couple of drinks....it's good to socialise, especially if meeting forcfirstvtime. But I've refused to play several times with ladies/couples who have gone overboard on the alcohol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink on meets or club visits because I found it dulled the senses and ruined my experience when play did happen, if we visit a club Mrs l might have a glass of wine or 2 but that would be it, there is nothing turns me off more than d*unk people, if we attend an organised social we will both drink as we are there to have a drink and a giggle and would arrange any play plans for another time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?"

No Ain't happened to Me and I Ain't Meeting with anyone else from Fab or off Fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had loads of problems with d*unk people at clubs and parties... wont play with anyone that needs a drink to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your the guy we've been meeting, nice to put eyes to a name .

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

It wouldn't happen with me. I very rarely drink, 2-3 times a year if that. I find drinkers a huge turn off and i would just walk if my meet got pissed. One or two drinks may be ok depending if it altered their behaviour or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There seems to be no end of couples who have to do this to play, drink I mean. As we don't drink we get sort of fed up of people staggering about in clubs.totally unattrctive"
this is a turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't play with people who seem to have had too much to drink. Afternoons are swingers clubs are good, cup of tea and we are all in the mood!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?"

OK buddy do you really think you should be posting this in a open forum people have feeling you know .

Secondly no one forced you to meet or play with them did they .

Who you play with is as much a reflection of you as it is them on the first meet you must have seen all this behavior or hints at it so why did you play in the first place .

I can only speak for myself here but if I make the mistake of playing with the wrong type of people for me I would not go dishing them in a forum because like I said who I play with is also I reflection of my judgement and my tastes .

The mind boggles as to why some one would dish play partners publicly in my book and my opinion its very very bad manners at the least to do such a thing as well as disrespectful .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't drink on meets or club visits because I found it dulled the senses and ruined my experience when play did happen, if we visit a club Mrs l might have a glass of wine or 2 but that would be it, there is nothing turns me off more than d*unk people, if we attend an organised social we will both drink as we are there to have a drink and a giggle and would arrange any play plans for another time"

We played with a couple whilst d*unk. Worse experience ever. Never again.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I wouldn't play again if I was uncomfortable the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sara likes a few drinks to relax chat and an excuse for flirting ( if we meet a guy in a pub/bar ) Sam will stay 100% sober for obvious reasons.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i rarely drink, and i don't play with people who are d*unk..there's a difference between a couple of glasses of wine or a beer and being d*unk..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?

OK buddy do you really think you should be posting this in a open forum people have feeling you know .

Secondly no one forced you to meet or play with them did they .

Who you play with is as much a reflection of you as it is them on the first meet you must have seen all this behavior or hints at it so why did you play in the first place .

I can only speak for myself here but if I make the mistake of playing with the wrong type of people for me I would not go dishing them in a forum because like I said who I play with is also I reflection of my judgement and my tastes .

The mind boggles as to why some one would dish play partners publicly in my book and my opinion its very very bad manners at the least to do such a thing as well as disrespectful .

Take your high horse and piss off .

No because at the end of the day he's publicly dishing play partners which is a complete no no and you dam well know it is .

"

Ahhh bollocks, he's talking about an experience and not named anyone or this would obviously have been closed or deleted. End of discussion. High horse ---------- that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?

OK buddy do you really think you should be posting this in a open forum people have feeling you know .

Secondly no one forced you to meet or play with them did they .

Who you play with is as much a reflection of you as it is them on the first meet you must have seen all this behavior or hints at it so why did you play in the first place .

I can only speak for myself here but if I make the mistake of playing with the wrong type of people for me I would not go dishing them in a forum because like I said who I play with is also I reflection of my judgement and my tastes .

The mind boggles as to why some one would dish play partners publicly in my book and my opinion its very very bad manners at the least to do such a thing as well as disrespectful .

Take your high horse and piss off .

No because at the end of the day he's publicly dishing play partners which is a complete no no and you dam well know it is .

"

Maybe , just maybe they may read this and learn its a big no no to get pissed up to play ?

Not one poster has said they are happy to play with d*unk playmates so who knows ...

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Perhaps if someone has to be d*unk in order to do something maybe they shouldn't be doing it at all???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has to be under the influence of any substance to the point where they are pissed or otherwise inebriated then that tells me they don't really want to play. I'm all for a bit of drink myself but not so my judgement is affected..it's not safe either.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?

OK buddy do you really think you should be posting this in a open forum people have feeling you know .

Secondly no one forced you to meet or play with them did they .

Who you play with is as much a reflection of you as it is them on the first meet you must have seen all this behavior or hints at it so why did you play in the first place .

I can only speak for myself here but if I make the mistake of playing with the wrong type of people for me I would not go dishing them in a forum because like I said who I play with is also I reflection of my judgement and my tastes .

The mind boggles as to why some one would dish play partners publicly in my book and my opinion its very very bad manners at the least to do such a thing as well as disrespectful .

Take your high horse and piss off .

No because at the end of the day he's publicly dishing play partners which is a complete no no and you dam well know it is .

Ahhh bollocks, he's talking about an experience and not named anyone or this would obviously have been closed or deleted. End of discussion. High horse ---------- that way."

Bollocks if they see this they will know who they are and my guess is when admin see this it will be shut down anyway .

There are social rules to consider to which are these.

If you have a problem with another you tell them you don't take it public unless your some sort of teenager who isn't grown up enough yet to know the difference between right and wrong behavior . .

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

I don't go pubbing & clubbing. A d*unk partner is a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps if someone has to be d*unk in order to do something maybe they shouldn't be doing it at all???"

'Maybe'!

It's got all sorts of consent issues and you won't want seconds of that!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Perhaps if someone has to be d*unk in order to do something maybe they shouldn't be doing it at all???

'Maybe'!

It's got all sorts of consent issues and you won't want seconds of that!"

To right consent for a kiss is not consent for a grope consent for a grope is not consent for a fuck .

Someone who is to d*unk to give consent should not be played with in my opinion for those reasons give me a minute and I will post a link to interesting article on consent .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps if someone has to be d*unk in order to do something maybe they shouldn't be doing it at all???

'Maybe'!

It's got all sorts of consent issues and you won't want seconds of that!

To right consent for a kiss is not consent for a grope consent for a grope is not consent for a fuck .

Someone who is to d*unk to give consent should not be played with in my opinion for those reasons give me a minute and I will post a link to interesting article on consent ."

Does it involve Ched Evans? If that case doesn't put you off fucking d*unk women then nothing will.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


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OK buddy do you really think you should be posting this in a open

Bollocks if they see this they will know who they are and my guess is when admin see this it will be shut down anyway .

There are social rules to consider to which are these.

If you have a problem with another you tell them you don't take it public unless your some sort of teenager who isn't grown up enough yet to know the difference between right and wrong behavior . ."

I can appreciate that you have strong _iews on what should or shouldn't be posted on the forum and you are entitled to that _iew however your tone in responding from the start comes over as aggressive and for that there's no need.

No one has been openly named. The OP has used an experience as a basis to see if other people have similar instances/thoughts.

I've seen real examples used in many threads.

I'm sure we can all share our p.o.v in a nice polite way

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

we at home now drinking.on our own,if we where fabbing would not drink.as it takes away from meet,but if some one needs a couple to let their dark side come out why not

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Perhaps if someone has to be d*unk in order to do something maybe they shouldn't be doing it at all???

'Maybe'!

It's got all sorts of consent issues and you won't want seconds of that!

To right consent for a kiss is not consent for a grope consent for a grope is not consent for a fuck .

Someone who is to d*unk to give consent should not be played with in my opinion for those reasons give me a minute and I will post a link to interesting article on consent .

Does it involve Ched Evans? If that case doesn't put you off fucking d*unk women then nothing will. "

no its a lesson in consent from a woman who runs swinging house parties in America good read though,

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/consent-explained_us_57acdedce4b0e7935e04755a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A glass of wine or a beer is ok I think but everyone is different if it doesn't feel right don't do it or back of, not complicated really is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/consent-explained_us_57acdedce4b0e7935e04755a"

Good read..thanks.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/consent-explained_us_57acdedce4b0e7935e04755a

Good read..thanks. "

glad you like it I'm very big on consent and respect because of my sexual preferences .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/consent-explained_us_57acdedce4b0e7935e04755a

Good read..thanks.

glad you like it I'm very big on consent and respect because of my sexual preferences . "

Read it before, great article.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I'll take a shot for courage

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK buddy do you really think you should be posting this in a open forum people have feeling you know .

Secondly no one forced you to meet or play with them did they .

Who you play with is as much a reflection of you as it is them on the first meet you must have seen all this behavior or hints at it so why did you play in the first place .

I can only speak for myself here but if I make the mistake of playing with the wrong type of people for me I would not go dishing them in a forum because like I said who I play with is also I reflection of my judgement and my tastes .

The mind boggles as to why some one would dish play partners publicly in my book and my opinion its very very bad manners at the least to do such a thing as well as disrespectful ."

Sorry you feel that way about my post. I didn't even say they are on Fab.

Frankly, if one took the high road on the forums, one can bash people all over the place for calling out others.

There's the post about people who shave pubes and people who don't, big boobs and small boobs, etc Etc

To everyone else who replied (politely) and stood up for me, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So your the guy we've been meeting, nice to put eyes to a name ."

hilarious response

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?

No Ain't happened to Me and I Ain't Meeting with anyone else from Fab or off Fab ."

Are you not meeting? Blimey! Why Didn't you say so?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

In reply to the OP.

No.

And on a personal level, the more I have to drink, the less I feel like shagging, so I tend to heavily moderate my intake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never drink on meets ...solely because I drive to my meets.

Met one who unfortunately was a little Tipsey. ..rather off putting, and a rather unpleasant smell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've played with a couple a number of times (not one of my verifications) and each time we've played, they've wanted to chat for hours on end during which they both get pretty d*unk and then they're ready to play.

At this point:

-I'm pretty tired

- he's borderline aggressive

- she's pretty much up for anything but is embarrassed about her body (for no good reason)

After our last session, I pretty much am done with them.

Anyone have a similar scenario?

No Ain't happened to Me and I Ain't Meeting with anyone else from Fab or off Fab .

Are you not meeting? Blimey! Why Didn't you say so? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not happy around d*unk people at the best of times - we wouldnt play if others were d*unk for instance at a club - unless we knew them really well

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