FabSwingers.com forum: Asian men

By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I've seen this posted in a bad tempered way before, so I'd like one to avoid that if possible

I'm interested in the specifics of this as a very biased observer

There really are a large number of posts which specifically exclude Asian men but a large number particularly interested in black men.

Are these down to specific good and bad initial experiences? Racial stereotypes about cock size? Is it experience of a particular geographical location or (deep breath) social background?

I'm just interested so don't shout at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think social background.

nobody promotes asians as sexy anywhere, except chinese women and even they are stereotyped in a poor light from a female perspective.

also a lot tend to be religious and are very much against being sexual or objectified, catholic nuns have been sexualised somewhat but no other religion has.

and please don't take offence at this as i have nothing against asian people at all and do meet them if i fancy them but integration hasn't happened really between communities. like you will get a service from asian people and that is about it. many have not taken on our culture, which is totally fine obviously, but when it comes to promiscuous sex you are not gonna get many opportunities to meet someone asian, therefore kind of keeping them out of mind when you think of someone as sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about skin colour, it's about culture. People generally associate Asian men with a culture that thinks a wife at a swinging club is a free prostitute. You only need a significant minority to ruin it for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't judge anyone by colour or background we judge them as individuals works for us

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

True. There are very few Asian men in porn. Certainly compared to the tsunami of BBC output!

However, religious/conservative/non-integrated individuals are not, I assume, going to be on this site so I would expect not to be a consideration.

I do think that not integrating at all is alright really, but that is a whole other topic that can get very shouty very quickly!

If Asian men aren't an obvious choice that doesn't imply that they'd be excluded. I don't think I've ever seen oriental men ever being specified...

"i think social background.

nobody promotes asians as sexy anywhere, except chinese women and even they are stereotyped in a poor light from a female perspective.

also a lot tend to be religious and are very much against being sexual or objectified, catholic nuns have been sexualised somewhat but no other religion has.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Is that experience on or off the site? Are they any more crude in percentage terms than white British men? I understand that most on the site are less than gentlemanly. Is it just more noticeable because it's easier to assess a relatively small number of interactions with Asian men?

"I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting. "

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By *heffcouple77Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

Our experience is as in early this morning demanding that we ring him sorry we like to social first

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

However, I can see what you mean about a sexist culture but is this, again worse than for white men? Is it just more natural to filter and forget about similar behaviour from them as you're more habituated to it?

"It's not about skin colour, it's about culture. People generally associate Asian men with a culture that thinks a wife at a swinging club is a free prostitute. You only need a significant minority to ruin it for everyone. "

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Off fab and in personal experience... alot has to do with the attitude and behaviour some asian men portray.. as said above a small minority spoil it for everyone.

Peoples own personal experience can then also dictate what they will do or not do in future. A bad experience can put one off..

Asian men like other race will be for some.. not for others and for some couldnt care less of race, creed, or ethnicity.

Yes I do agree that there are alot of profile quoting asians.. ultimately it is what it is

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I've always found that that makes for more opportunities too

"We don't judge anyone by colour or background we judge them as individuals works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer? "

How can you possibly have the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

How can you possibly have the answer

Because if someone asks you a question about your opinion then you are the only person in the world that does have the answer

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Perception and experience however unrepresentative is reality I guess.

Not to exclude the fact that it's perfectly valid not to find certain physical characteristics not sexually attractive. I don't see that as racist in any way.

"Off fab and in personal experience... alot has to do with the attitude and behaviour some asian men portray.. as said above a small minority spoil it for everyone.

Peoples own personal experience can then also dictate what they will do or not do in future. A bad experience can put one off..

Asian men like other race will be for some.. not for others and for some couldnt care less of race, creed, or ethnicity.

Yes I do agree that there are alot of profile quoting asians.. ultimately it is what it is"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

How can you possibly have the answer

Because if someone asks you a question about your opinion then you are the only person in the world that does have the answer

Go on then, let's hear your 'opinion'

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Go on then, sock it to me

"I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer? "

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it. "

You obviously do though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it. "

I would like to hear your thoughts too

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Easy tiger! I'm a grown-up and there's no intention to offend

"Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

You obviously do though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Easy tiger! I'm a grown-up and there's no intention to offend

Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

You obviously do though

It wasnt aimed at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting. "

Totally agree

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I know. I don't think anyone's having a go on here. It's all rather civilized, so I'm happy for anyone to say anything because nobody is intending to cause offence and I'll happily assume that anything that can be interpreted as such is unintentional. Otherwise there's no way to get at peoples' real thoughts.

I'm just so lovely really

"Easy tiger! I'm a grown-up and there's no intention to offend

Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

You obviously do though

It wasnt aimed at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know. I don't think anyone's having a go on here. It's all rather civilized, so I'm happy for anyone to say anything because nobody is intending to cause offence and I'll happily assume that anything that can be interpreted as such is unintentional. Otherwise there's no way to get at peoples' real thoughts.

I'm just so lovely really

Easy tiger! I'm a grown-up and there's no intention to offend

Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

You obviously do though

It wasnt aimed at you

Fair enough, it's a shame people have to hide their 'opinions'

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"We don't judge anyone by colour or background we judge them as individuals works for us

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

So again, could you be a bit more specific. Attitudes in the outside world, in clubs, on the site?

One bad experience? Many? How similar are the proportions with other ethnicities?

Does one bad experience right off all Asian men? Is that the same with white men?

"I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting.

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We re not a racist country however our political elite have asked us to embrace a lot in a short period of time ,history tells us we will adjust given time in the meantime op you re having fun so must be doing something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge anyone's attraction on their race it's about features and that certain something . There are good looking people in every race /culture and assholes in every race /culture too.

I will say that if anyone messages us and feels they need to mention their race in order to 'promote' themselves then it's an immediate delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just so lovely really

Easy tiger! I'm a grown-up and there's no intention to offend

Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

You obviously do though

It wasnt aimed at you

Fair enough, it's a shame people have to hide their 'opinions'

Then why say "How can you possibly have the answer"

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

That's because I'm extremely nice except under the appropriate circumstances when I'm extremely filthy

"We re not a racist country however our political elite have asked us to embrace a lot in a short period of time ,history tells us we will adjust given time in the meantime op you re having fun so must be doing something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get the opposite, The wife is Thai, South Asian, WE get blocked becasue some women dont like asian women , dont know if they are jelouse of there small firm brown body's, also WE get some people with twisted ideas about Thai women too, believe me racism is alive and well in this Country.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

So some people find it easier not to extrapolate the behaviour of a few to everybody. I wonder why that is? Probably a multi-factorial answer to that!

"I don't judge anyone's attraction on their race it's about features and that certain something . There are good looking people in every race /culture and assholes in every race /culture too.

I will say that if anyone messages us and feels they need to mention their race in order to 'promote' themselves then it's an immediate delete "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before fab I had no interest in Asian men, like you say down to stereotyping all and seeing things happen where I work. However I've met two Asian guys off fab one I saw for two years, very professional and an absolute charmer with manners and respect. So I learnt available lesson, I'm an inverted coconut and you shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush and personally I prefer circumsized cocks too xx

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we play with quite a few Asian guys in clubs, in 11 years of going to clubs I've seen bad behaviour off a small number of Asian guys but plenty of the same off other guys too.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

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By *andSfitCouple
over a year ago

London

Anyone can behave poorly Asian black or white so you can't say it's down to people being certain colours, if Asian,white or black ain't your thing I thinks it's better to be honest and just say.

We had an awkward encounter at a club with a couple theyears seemed well up for playing so we went into a room but the lady didn't seem to want to play with the darker half of this couple.

We play with everyone as long as respect is shown both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just so lovely really

Easy tiger! I'm a grown-up and there's no intention to offend

Go on then, sock it to me

I never assumed that it was colour. Most Caucasians spend lots of money to get my skin tone

Do you want the perfectly honest, non-politically correct answer?

I'll PM you, don't need idiots thinking I give a shit what they think of it.

You obviously do though

It wasnt aimed at you

Fair enough, it's a shame people have to hide their 'opinions'

Then why say "How can you possibly have the answer" "

Why hide your 'opinions'

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Is that experience on or off the site? Are they any more crude in percentage terms than white British men? I understand that most on the site are less than gentlemanly. Is it just more noticeable because it's easier to assess a relatively small number of interactions with Asian men?

I get crude messages from white guys all the time.

I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting. "

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

The majority or the majority in West Yorkshire whom you've met?

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

To generalise (yes I understand the irony!) those with the strongest prejudices are those least exposed to those they object to.

The more people you meet from different backgrounds the more apparent it becomes that the idiot:nice ratio is fairly constant!

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"The majority or the majority in West Yorkshire whom you've met?

Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"

They dont handle rejection well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is. Alot of asian guys dont do socials or interact and some have no manners. I have heard the horror stories from swingers. I am like WTF. Was at a swingers party a few years back. Even tho i am asian i had no problems interacting with others but this one guy did not interact just watched. Then he thought he could join in on a 4sum. I soon showed him the door with the organiser. Then he calls me a bounty bar lol...

My opinion to any male dont act like a Dick.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Just had an interesting experience of chatting to someone really turned on by me , physically attracted to me but eventually ending by saying that she doesn't usually find Asian men attractive. She essentially seemed to convince herself not to be interested.

Discuss

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"To generalise (yes I understand the irony!) those with the strongest prejudices are those least exposed to those they object to.

The more people you meet from different backgrounds the more apparent it becomes that the idiot:nice ratio is fairly constant!"

Yep I totally agree with this.

I like the fact that I live and work in a very multicultural place. This means that I have interacted with people from a wide range of backgrounds. Basically people are people ... good, bad and everything in between.

We both have friends and aquaitances who are Asian. Race in itself is not a factor when it comes to who we are attracted to.

I understand that bad experiences can colour a person's outlook, and think that is a shame.

Nita

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

My only experience of Asian guys was in a club when we were in a playroom, with a couple and they kept barging in, despite being told to ' go away'!They just seemed desperate to me ....

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"

that speaks for itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

that speaks for itself

Not all asian men are like that

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Just had an interesting experience of chatting to someone really turned on by me , physically attracted to me but eventually ending by saying that she doesn't usually find Asian men attractive. She essentially seemed to convince herself not to be interested.

Discuss

May I ask, would you be happy to share your wife with others?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

that speaks for itself

Not all asian men are like that

No of course they are not. We are just speaking from our own experiences and mean no disrespect to others.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Had a FB for 6 years, he was Asian. Loved what we had. Have interacted with some very rude and uncouth Asian men. Have also interacted with some very rude and uncouth White men. Can't say I've found a black man uncouth but maybe that's because I'm just focusing on their crotch LOL

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

that speaks for itself

Not all asian men are like that

And you are kinda cute, but too young for me, alas!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Had a FB for 6 years, he was Asian. Loved what we had. Have interacted with some very rude and uncouth Asian men. Have also interacted with some very rude and uncouth White men. Can't say I've found a black man uncouth but maybe that's because I'm just focusing on their crotch LOL"

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

But I know iam going to get hate but it seems from what I have seen Asian men mostly younger males do not know how to behave around ladies or in a club setting from trying to come in wearing hoodies to trying to square up to lads but I have also seen it in younger white males and then they moan why they are not 'gettin any pusssi' or why no one talks to you well if your sat in the club in the corner with your cap on and tracksuit on giving dead eyes to every one why would they want too?

But also with what I would say the none English speaking guys or very low English are more touchy after every one dresses down a few kurdish guys I have seen in diffrent clubs seem to behave like a pack of dogs following ladies up stairs or out side for a smoke even worse have seen a lady sat in a tub relaxing to have all 3 of them join her and try to start touching her then she told them off and got out

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think about negativity think positivity remember God" loves us all !!I have to keep reminding myself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

that speaks for itself

Not all asian men are like that

And you are kinda cute, but too young for me, alas!

Shucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

No, not a racist at all. I love the 'cunts come in every race colour' comment

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

Sounds fair enough to me, but you're obviously capable of not generalizing

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Discuss

May I ask, would you be happy to share your wife with others?"

Yes I would be, but she doesn't want to.

Before any other assumptions are ade; she's white, Dutch/English, works and is even allowed out by herself or with friends without my permission

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I have just been informed that:

Blacks have big dicks

Asians have small dicks

Whites have medium dicks

Everybody clear?

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

Definitely a culture issue as expressed earlier, being blunt , if that culture can't put my change from shopping in my hand , why would I be interested in anything else, poor example I know but honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just been informed that:

Blacks have big dicks

Asians have small dicks

Whites have medium dicks

Everybody clear?

[Looks down]

I think you may find that you are wrong in this occassion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a strange end to what could have been a positive thread

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Discuss

May I ask, would you be happy to share your wife with others?

Yes I would be, but she doesn't want to.

Before any other assumptions are ade; she's white, Dutch/English, works and is even allowed out by herself or with friends without my permission

ALLOWED??!!

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Discuss

May I ask, would you be happy to share your wife with others?

Yes I would be, but she doesn't want to.

Before any other assumptions are ade; she's white, Dutch/English, works and is even allowed out by herself or with friends without my permission

ALLOWED??!!

My sarcasm not signalled clearly enough?

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Definitely a culture issue as expressed earlier, being blunt , if that culture can't put my change from shopping in my hand , why would I be interested in anything else, poor example I know but honest

You mean that they wouldn't make physical contact because you were of the opposite sex?

Do you think that this is typical of all Asians from all social, geographical and religious backgrounds from all parts of the country?

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

No, not a racist at all. I love the 'cunts come in every race colour' comment

Thanks but it true no matter who you are race or anything there are cunts in all sorts

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

Sounds fair enough to me, but you're obviously capable of not generalizing

Sorry to sound slow but what do you mean mate? I do hope I did not come off like a Nazi if so I am sorry and did not mean anything in a nasty way

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I have just been informed that:

Blacks have big dicks

Asians have small dicks

Whites have medium dicks

Everybody clear?

Well durrr every one knows thatt mate

also white people only eat fish and chips black people only eat rice and peas and Asian people only eat curry loll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And whatabout orientals and amazons oh and reds ?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have just been informed that:

Blacks have big dicks

Asians have small dicks

Whites have medium dicks

Everybody clear?

[Looks down]

I think you may find that you are wrong in this occassion.

Hee hee!

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By *uck princess and himCouple
over a year ago

washington

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over a year ago

"I have just been informed that:

Blacks have big dicks

Asians have small dicks

Whites have medium dicks

Everybody clear?

[Looks down]

I think you may find that you are wrong in this occassion.

Hee hee!

Crappy grammar. Meant on this occassion. Not in.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

let me clear my throat.

This is my take on the matter.

I like a certain physique and indeed prefer that over all else. I like my women to have a bit of flesh, a generous amount behind and an abundance of boobage.

I do not care what colour they are but somehow,naturally, that type of woman is predominantly african. A fair amount are white caucasian. A very slender percentage are Asian/ Oriental.

As a result, if I were to enter a room full of WILLING women

, I would be leaning in a certain way but it is what it is. I will NOT however go the extra mile to publish it by saying WHITES ONLY, BLACKS ONLY or ASIANS ONLY.

I would certainly not say things like NO WHITES, NO ASIANS or NO BLACKS either.

My final word on the topic is this: While I find it offensive to read stuff like NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, etc, I don t see any rules broken nor any laws abused. I say it makes browsing easier and quicker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is based on both swinging and real world dating. I would never dream if stating "no asians" etc, I'm potentially open to getting to know anybody.

BUT... And it's a big but... I do have preconceptions based on my own personal experiences. Black men who've approached me seem to be under the impression that us white girls are all BBC lovers (or just don't know what we're missing). They've been cocky, overly self assured, and they've treated me like they'd be doing me a favour. And the asian men who've approached me, like someone else has said, treated me like a free prostitute. It's like their view was asian women are to be respected and honoured, white women are slags to be used appropriately.

Like i say, i'd never say i'll never meet someone based on their skin colour. But because of previous experiences, i do have negative expectations when I'm approached by black or asian men. It's sad really, that the shitty behaviour of some ruins it for others.

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over a year ago

"My view is based on both swinging and real world dating. I would never dream if stating "no asians" etc, I'm potentially open to getting to know anybody.

Can't argue with that, in the sense that past experiences then sow seeds of doubt at the back of your mind and makes you wary.

We are human after all and bound to stereotype. Sad but true.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

Sounds fair enough to me, but you're obviously capable of not generalizing

Sorry to sound slow but what do you mean mate? I do hope I did not come off like a Nazi if so I am sorry and did not mean anything in a nasty way "

Not at all. I meant that you expressed yourself very well. You know that whatever you have experienced directly that does not mean that everybody with that background behaves the same way

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My wife and I have met some lovely Asian men, and she is open to meeting more.

However, in 13 years on the scene we have witnessed a fair few incidents on disrespectful behaviour and lack of understanding of boundaries. A disproportionately high number of these were Asian men.

Additionally, apart from Bollywood films perhaps, Asian guys are not depicted in the media as sexy or desirable.

My advice....be respectful, understand consent and there are ladies of all backgrounds who are open for fun with Asian guys.

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By *is_Collared_SubWoman
over a year ago

London

Asia is too big, you can't group Syrian, Jewish, Indian and Japanese cultures together.

With regards the Indian sub continent, here's my observation:

A massive amount of men, few couples and even fewer single women. This tells me that men from this region aren't happy to let others do to their wives, what they hope to do to the wives of others.

It is this double standard of behaviour coupled with the fact that they are typically far less alpha, that puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For once a thread that about asian men that didn't turn to shit.

There's a lot of generalisations made all the time about this kinda thing. But I think a majority of people don't want to play from personal experience but plenty because of race issues.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Cognitive bias.

Based on perhaps very limited experience or hearsay people will often enter a given situation with a certain expectation. This expectation is very persistent. It is retained despite evidence to the contrary. It's the "computer says no" type of behaviour

That said, it does sound that there are some unhealthy attitudes from some younger Asian men, but still not clear if this is more frequent than from other ethnicities, just more apparent because they are from a smaller group.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Asia is too big, you can't group Syrian, Jewish, Indian and Japanese cultures together.

With regards the Indian sub continent, here's my observation:

A massive amount of men, few couples and even fewer single women. This tells me that men from this region aren't happy to let others do to their wives, what they hope to do to the wives of others.

It is this double standard of behaviour coupled with the fact that they are typically far less alpha, that puts me off."

You've stopped short of regional background, religion, family attitudes, education and which region of the UK someone is from.

I don't think that this sort of shorthand ever really works from a personality perspective. Physical attraction is another matter

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"let me clear my throat.

This is my take on the matter.

I like a certain physique and indeed prefer that over all else. I like my women to have a bit of flesh, a generous amount behind and an abundance of boobage.

I do not care what colour they are but somehow,naturally, that type of woman is predominantly african. A fair amount are white caucasian. A very slender percentage are Asian/ Oriental.

As a result, if I were to enter a room full of WILLING women

, I would be leaning in a certain way but it is what it is. I will NOT however go the extra mile to publish it by saying WHITES ONLY, BLACKS ONLY or ASIANS ONLY.

I would certainly not say things like NO WHITES, NO ASIANS or NO BLACKS either.

in general, but also to making browsing easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha a free prostitute do 'you' charge ?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The term Asian is too broad.

There are so many different cultures, beliefs and yes skin tones in the contitent that is cannot define accurately.

Myself, I am of Persian background, so strictly in Asia, but so different then what most people on here call Asian.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Now I have seen the good and the bad in a lot of different people

Asian black oriental white eastern Europe and middle eastern

So yes I sound like a racist and biggot but I have got on to the good guys I have met

One guy I know not that it matters but I think he is Bangladeshi and the most polite guy I have ever met very soft spoken and I think very shy but enjoys taking it all in as we all do

An older gent who is welsh who always very friendly and have to say has helped a close friend of mine when things got out of hand

An African guy who we always have a laugh with and if anything iam a bit jell as he always wears trainers in and I have to wear my shoes (he's a gym bunny and go's gym then the club)

But anyway cunts come in every race colour size and shape good and bad in every one just pointing out what I myself have seen

Please don't think iam a mini me Nazi

Sounds fair enough to me, but you're obviously capable of not generalizing

Sorry to sound slow but what do you mean mate? I do hope I did not come off like a Nazi if so I am sorry and did not mean anything in a nasty way

Not at all. I meant that you expressed yourself very well. You know that whatever you have experienced directly that does not mean that everybody with that background behaves the same way

Oh thanks mate sorry not the sharpist knife in the draw lol but I just wante to say what I had seen is all

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

You mean that they wouldn't make physical contact because you were of the opposite sex?

Do you think that this is typical of all Asians from all social, geographical and religious backgrounds from all parts of the country?"

You ask a question , I gave an honest response, from my experience , now you try to stigma my response, you presumed who ever was of opposite sex , or you presumed that this was her not him replying , , yes if someone doesn't have manners to atleast hand you correctly anything , then yes why would I go any further,

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over a year ago

West London

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over a year ago

West London

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting. "

Surely there's good and bad in every race. A lot of my colleagues always say to me I don't act Asian. I know they're complimenting me, but it's always baffled me. What is a typical Asian? My race doesn't define me

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

You mean that they wouldn't make physical contact because you were of the opposite sex?

Do you think that this is typical of all Asians from all social, geographical and religious backgrounds from all parts of the country?

I was surprised because that sort of behaviour is very conservative.

However, I was just asking another question. Do you think that's typical behaviour or do you think that it's the attitude of the community or an individual local to you?

I can add a smiley face if that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"
this is more true than some would like to admit

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over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop this is more true than some would like to admit

The problem is that not all asians are the same. There are Pakistanis, indians, bangladeshis etc.

It's the same way British could mean being from Ireland, scotland, wales or England. Not all brits are the same.

I hate being classified as 'asian' by people without looking further than just the skin colour.

Not all brown people have the same cultures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop this is more true than some would like to admit

The problem is that not all asians are the same. There are Pakistanis, indians, bangladeshis etc.

It's the same way British could mean being from Ireland, scotland, wales or England. Not all brits are the same.

I hate being classified as 'asian' by people without looking further than just the skin colour.

Not all brown people have the same cultures.

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen this posted in a bad tempered way before, so I'd like one to avoid that if possible

I'm interested in the specifics of this as a very biased observer

There really are a large number of posts which specifically exclude Asian men but a large number particularly interested in black men.

Are these down to specific good and bad initial experiences? Racial stereotypes about cock size? Is it experience of a particular geographical location or (deep breath) social background?

I'm just interested so don't shout at me

Surely it's down to preference and personal taste you can't compare an Asian man to a black man or vice versa

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over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop this is more true than some would like to admit

The problem is that not all asians are the same. There are Pakistanis, indians, bangladeshis etc.

It's the same way British could mean being from Ireland, scotland, wales or England. Not all brits are the same.

I hate being classified as 'asian' by people without looking further than just the skin colour.

Not all brown people have the same cultures.

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By *pal2Man
over a year ago

cumbria

a female swinger friend of mine told me that asian guys cum quickly, which only goes to proove we all have our own opinions based on out experiences of any nationality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a female swinger friend of mine told me that asian guys cum quickly, which only goes to proove we all have our own opinions based on out experiences of any nationality."

That's fair enough, but 'asian' isn't a nationality lol

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

You mean that they wouldn't make physical contact because you were of the opposite sex?

Do you think that this is typical of all Asians from all social, geographical and religious backgrounds from all parts of the country?

I was surprised because that sort of behaviour is very conservative.

However, I was just asking another question. Do you think that's typical behaviour or do you think that it's the attitude of the community or an individual local to you?

I can add a smiley face if that helps

I Can add smilies aswell, unsure what it helps tho, I answered your question , from my experience , it is typical behaviour from asians I gave been in presence of, I am not categorising all , only the ones I have been in presence of, and how they have acted.

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop this is more true than some would like to admit

The problem is that not all asians are the same. There are Pakistanis, indians, bangladeshis etc.

It's the same way British could mean being from Ireland, scotland, wales or England. Not all brits are the same.

I hate being classified as 'asian' by people without looking further than just the skin colour.

Not all brown people have the same cultures.

Surely you mean , Europeans,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a female swinger friend of mine told me that asian guys cum quickly, which only goes to proove we all have our own opinions based on out experiences of any nationality."

Chinese whisper much?

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over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop this is more true than some would like to admit

The problem is that not all asians are the same. There are Pakistanis, indians, bangladeshis etc.

It's the same way British could mean being from Ireland, scotland, wales or England. Not all brits are the same.

I hate being classified as 'asian' by people without looking further than just the skin colour.

Not all brown people have the same cultures.

Surely you mean , Europeans, "

Ah yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a citizen of the Earth!

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over a year ago

"I'm a citizen of the Earth!"

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over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

That's on am individual basis. This discussion is about a generalisation being made.

Why the assumption that I'm struggling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say I thoroughly enjoyed this thread. Thank you OP.

I go to clubs in Amsterdam it's a different attitude. It's culturally different here. From my swinging friends here, they regard indian men in the same light as BBC. Does your wife agree on this point, if she's lived in the Netherlands?

I'm particularly interested in the cultural differences within people of the same origin. There are many influences in culture. Family background, education, environment, friends and so many more. So I do wonder why a minority of people fall to generalisation. Human nature most likely.

I can give you an example. Here in the Netherlands I have some dutch friends (minority) believe the British are d*unks and want to sleep with prostitutes. I also witnessed in a club a dutch couple rejecting an English guy who was having a polite conversation because they had bad experiences with Brits. Similar scenarios, roles are different.

So don't worry too much, but keep up the discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not"

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Exactamundo.

Seems like people have misunderstood what I was trying to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Exactamundo.

Seems like people have misunderstood what I was trying to say.

No problem.

I'm still looking for my inner blue outer green eyed, blue hair, tall, busty, thin waist, peachy bum, who is mixed Latina, British and Thai. Which is my taste. But if the first one I ever meet was cold inside. I'd be put off by them all most likely.

Even unicorns can be a donkey with a stuck on horn. I'm tired already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"

There is certainly a perception of this. That it is a societal thing where culturally women are seen as lesser. My personal experience, as an observer, is that within fab this is not often the case. I've seen and been in company with some very respectful Asian guys.

I don't think TV/news etc helps as they tend to focus on extremes [ISIS etc] where women are really treated as simply property. Arranged marriages generate bad publicity. A "wife" must be pure...so do some Asian men see white women as sluts for not being so? Therefore treat them in this way?

There are all these perceptions working in the background and sub-consciousness of many people.

There...I've been brave enough to say it....hope that's ok by the OP?

It has not been my experience.....if you look through my recent verifications you will find an Asian guy that I have "tag-teamed" with on a couple of occasions. Very polite, very respectful. Do not tar all with the same brush.

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Exactamundo.

Seems like people have misunderstood what I was trying to say.

Seems like perhaps you didn't quite get the response you desired, no misunderstanding at all here, unless you posted incorrectly

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over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

There are all these perceptions working in the background and sub-consciousness of many people.

There...I've been brave enough to say it....hope that's ok by the OP?

I certainly don't think there's anything about Indian culture that sees women as less than men. An Indian person in India would probably laugh out loud if you told them British culture treated women better than Indian culture.

I mean let's look at the facts, 43% divorce rate meaning men going around knocking up women and then abandoning them to do all the hard work of raising the child alone. Very respectful!

India does have a legacy caste system which is a bit of a nasty piece of work but actually a woman from a lower caste is no better or worse than a man from that caste.

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over a year ago

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Exactamundo.

Seems like people have misunderstood what I was trying to say.

Seems like perhaps you didn't quite get the response you desired, no misunderstanding at all here, unless you posted incorrectly

Have a nice evening

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Exactamundo.

Seems like people have misunderstood what I was trying to say.

Seems like perhaps you didn't quite get the response you desired, no misunderstanding at all here, unless you posted incorrectly

Have a nice evening

You too

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over a year ago

Black men got the groovy mooves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a gorgeous Asian man on here and was seeing him for a while. He was proper sexy

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over a year ago

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

yip no need for a full repertoire of why not

Some people did admit on this thread it's due to bad experiences, which led to generalisation. Which is an interesting issue.

Most people do understand 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Exactamundo.

Seems like people have misunderstood what I was trying to say.

Seems like perhaps you didn't quite get the response you desired, no misunderstanding at all here, unless you posted incorrectly

Also my response was for the first paragraph of _male.

Your post got quoted too. I should clean up the quote. But I use my mobile

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

There are all these perceptions working in the background and sub-consciousness of many people.

There...I've been brave enough to say it....hope that's ok by the OP?

You don't need my permission

Interesting point about media coverage reinforcing negative stereotypes.

There are some very conservative and regressive views about women in certain areas, but as ever this is down to upbringing and education and is not the same everywhere. That being said there are very archaic attitudes about women in Australia, the US and Europe

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over a year ago

I'd love to meet the Buda of suburbia.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

There are all these perceptions working in the background and sub-consciousness of many people.

There...I've been brave enough to say it....hope that's ok by the OP?

I mean let's look at the facts, 43% divorce rate meaning men going around knocking up women and then abandoning them to do all the hard work of raising the child alone. Very respectful!

India does have a legacy caste system which is a bit of a nasty piece of work but actually a woman from a lower caste is no better or worse than a man from that caste. "

I'm not sure that this is quite true. Society in general has a somewhat 1950s attitude to the roles and attitudes to the sexes, with the same hypocrisy. It is changing, and it varies greatly with background.

I'm not sure how involved in childcare the average Indian man (in India) is though

My background is Sri Lankan btw, just to add confusion and controversy

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over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop

There are all these perceptions working in the background and sub-consciousness of many people.

There...I've been brave enough to say it....hope that's ok by the OP?

I mean let's look at the facts, 43% divorce rate meaning men going around knocking up women and then abandoning them to do all the hard work of raising the child alone. Very respectful!

India does have a legacy caste system which is a bit of a nasty piece of work but actually a woman from a lower caste is no better or worse than a man from that caste.

I'm not sure how involved in childcare the average Indian man (in India) is though

My background is Sri Lankan btw, just to add confusion and controversy

What I'm saying is that there are different perspectives on what is and isn't good for women. I would reject the idea than women are less than men in India based on my personal experience.

In factual terms, research by Hofstede measured Indian culture as 48/100 on the strength of 'individualism' compared to 89/100 for the UK. In other words, the UK is a very individually focused culture and not very collective/ socially orientated. So what people consider 'good' for women can vary dramatically depending on where you are in the world since what is good for the individual is not always what is good for society.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I mean let's look at the facts, 43% divorce rate meaning men going around knocking up women and then abandoning them to do all the hard work of raising the child alone. Very respectful!

India does have a legacy caste system which is a bit of a nasty piece of work but actually a woman from a lower caste is no better or worse than a man from that caste.

I'm not sure how involved in childcare the average Indian man (in India) is though

My background is Sri Lankan btw, just to add confusion and controversy

What I'm saying is that there are different perspectives on what is and isn't good for women. I would reject the idea than women are less than men in India based on my personal experience.

I don't disagree. Particularly when you experience the strength and importance of the extended family that still exists in Asian culture.

However, it is not unfair to say that the different attitudes of European women, together with Hollywood cinema and pornography seem to generate some weird perceptions. I don't think that European men are immune to this either though.

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over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

That's on am individual basis. This discussion is about a generalisation being made.

Why the assumption that I'm struggling?"

I cant see where I used the word struggling. As for assumption I'm not sure how you've assumed I've said your struggling when I've not. It was actually a basic analogy. Females dont have to explain to they type of males they dont want/like or seek why they dont want/like or seek them.

As for the rest of the reply. Individual females or a mass of females it's the same. They seek what they like, what appeals to them without explanation of what something/someone might not appeal to them.

Just more of the same old same old but why, oh buy why dont you like me, why wont you meet a guy like me blah blah blah but why. It's simple some females dont seek certain guys and they have the right to choose/seek what they like. Easy fix is to focus on the females that go for a seek a guy like yourself.

Many females dont go for my type of male, i.e caucasian. Am I bothered, not really as there's others that do. Do I consider myself a victim, do a fcuk. When I aint the type of guy for a female I simply respect I'm not their type of guy, just like some fems aint my type of fem. Eitherway no explanation, justifcation is needed.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

That's on am individual basis. This discussion is about a generalisation being made.

Why the assumption that I'm struggling?

You use the word "struggle" in the very first sentence. I probably got the impression that you used the word from that.

There is no analogy here. You made a statement.

I can see how one person would not be attracted to another on an individual basis but not in a general way as far as some stereotypical behaviour is concerned. I can see that there may not be a general physical attraction.

I'm not bothered, I'm interested. Different things.

I do understand your point but it would have been nice if you put it a little less aggressively.

I am now dropping the mic

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over a year ago

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yes.. thats typical for someone attracted to another race for the first time...

think about it... what else could have said?

anything along the lines like:

"oh, i never knew i actually find (insert ethinicity) so sexy (wink wink)!"

"youre pretty handsome for an (insert ethnicity)"

etc etc

anyway you spin it... it just doesnt happen with same ethnic type people.

some people are smarter and avoid it altogether and just say "you're hot"

so it all depends on the beholder...

but... yeah, social media doesnt really sell the idea that a chinese man is sexy... but he is. he can be. of course there is bound be to sexy chinese men. it just so happens that the chinese you see on western tv - and I have to add - are produced and directed by "mainly" caucasian men who have no interest in selling this sexy chinese man idea, are 99% of the time, not very appealing to the female gender... fuck me thats a long sentence

p.s. everyone has preferences... but have you considered the alternatives? variety is the spice of life

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"My view is based on both swinging and real world dating. I would never dream if stating "no asians" etc, I'm potentially open to getting to know anybody.

And every white man has treated you like an English Rose to take home for tea with his mother?!!

Go you!

I don't feel the need to justify who I meet to fuck. If I read a profile that has exclusions and it's conveyed in a negative/nasty way I move on, even if I'm not excluded.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

Discuss

yes.. thats typical for someone attracted to another race for the first time...

think about it... what else could have said?

anything along the lines like:

"oh, i never knew i actually find (insert ethinicity) so sexy (wink wink)!"

"youre pretty handsome for an (insert ethnicity)"

etc etc

anyway you spin it... it just doesnt happen with same ethnic type people.

some people are smarter and avoid it altogether and just say "you're hot"

so it all depends on the beholder...

p.s. everyone has preferences... but have you considered the alternatives? variety is the spice of life

Can't disagree with smutty there.

I'm quite happy chatting to and meeting those who do find me attractive - within my, quite broad, sexual parameters

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting.

It's not a compliment! They have a stereotype and they get "confused" when you don't act to type.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Amazes that degree that some people apparently struggle with the concept of 'taste' 'attraction' 'preference' 'choice' or 'sexual appeal'.

Whenever a bloke approaches a female and she tells him he aint her type what does he do? Ask her for a full breakdown & explanation of why not or just leave it there as he simply aint her type ?

Surely a male can appreciate why he's not be what a female seeks be it swinging or not. It's similar to how some females might not be a males type.

Simple really

You'd think so wouldn't you!

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

And every white man has treated you like an English Rose to take home for tea with his mother?!!

Go you!

I don't feel the need to justify who I meet to fuck. If I read a profile that has exclusions and it's conveyed in a negative/nasty way I move on, even if I'm not excluded.

Another poster did point out that it does make it easier to skip those who aren't going to be interested

Most of the exclusion terms are perfectly polite and I'm not at all offended.

The very, very few times I've been insulted are from replies from profiles where no preference has been stated

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"Can't disagree with smutty there.

I'm quite happy chatting to and meeting those who do find me attractive - within my, quite broad, sexual parameters

Not smutty, anything. Not sure how autospell took me there

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"

You're going with the wrong lads love

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"I personally think Asian men themselves do themselves no favours ... I know a lot so I won't say all but most are crude and think that's sexy but it isn't. It is off putting.

It's not a compliment! They have a stereotype and they get "confused" when you don't act to type. "

Yes I agree with you.

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

This is boring now,

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over a year ago

"This is boring now,

I know right? Yawn

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over a year ago

"This is boring now,

I know right? Yawn

I'd rather be having fun.

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over a year ago

"This is boring now,

I know right? Yawn

I'd rather be having fun."

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Off fab and in personal experience... alot has to do with the attitude and behaviour some asian men portray.. as said above a small minority spoil it for everyone.

Peoples own personal experience can then also dictate what they will do or not do in future. A bad experience can put one off..

Asian men like other race will be for some.. not for others and for some couldnt care less of race, creed, or ethnicity.

Yes I do agree that there are alot of profile quoting asians.. ultimately it is what it is"

This got me thinking a bit.... I know in clubs that I have been to there is often a quite high proportion of Asian men around later at night who tend to letch and not want to take no for an answer - generally they've not been impolite towards me, just mithering and it's off putting tbh. I've even had some say 'is it because I am asian' if I have said no thanks.... Erm no, it's cause I've had enough right now, don't fancy you, find you cringeworthy, what I saw you doing earlier put me off etc etc - nowt to do with the colour of your skin!

There are numpties out there of every colour and creed, but sadly a lot that have pestered in clubs have been Asian - in my experience.

Although when my profile is active it doesn't state that I rule anyone out unless they are shorter than me..... Im size-ist not racist

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

My experience of Asian men, both in swinging and regular life has been far from positive. The men I have encountered have all thought it was ok to treat women poorly. They have been sexist, chauvinist idiots and sometimes even bullies.

Now as someone else said, cunts come in all colours. But, sadly the Asian men I have had dealings with professionally, socially and in swinging have all fallen into the category of cunt.

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Here some home truth

Asain men don't usually share Asain women..

They have black White mixed race on the side but never their wife girlfriend etc...

And they are known or proven that their women don't mix..IyA their religion

They must cover up legs etc

So it's a divided society

I'm not saying all but 90% im my opinion

I'm a black guy so I'm not racist just giving you my opinion or what ive learnt and seen over the years...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is definitely generalising all asians in one category as I think (sorry if I'm misquoting) muslim men are not supposed to touch another woman according to their religion- hence the possibly reason for that. I am Sikh and that is not something that exists in my religion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here some home truth

Asain men don't usually share Asain women..

They have black White mixed race on the side but never their wife girlfriend etc...

And they are known or proven that their women don't mix..IyA their religion

They must cover up legs etc

So it's a divided society

I'm not saying all but 90% im my opinion

I'm a black guy so I'm not racist just giving you my opinion or what ive learnt and seen over the years...

Again another generalisation of Asians- this is not true for my religion - I wear skirts all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lumping Asian men into one box.

Classy.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

So here's the thing; does everyone consider the French the same as the English, or the Germans the same as the Polish?

If not, then why would everyone consider Tamils from South India the same as Pakistanis of Kenyan Asians the same as Sri Lankans?

This is actually the same generalisation being made overlaid with the differences in education and social class both from the country of origin and the UK.

Something to consider.

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over a year ago

"Here some home truth

Asain men don't usually share Asain women..

They have black White mixed race on the side but never their wife girlfriend etc...

And they are known or proven that their women don't mix..IyA their religion

They must cover up legs etc

So it's a divided society

I'm not saying all but 90% im my opinion

I'm a black guy so I'm not racist just giving you my opinion or what ive learnt and seen over the years...

Excuse me.... Because you are Black you cannot be a racist??? Seriously ???

There are plenty of Black, Asian (all kinds), and of course White racists!

A ridiculous comment.

Now, with regard to Asian (all types) men, Pakistani, Arab, etc etc... From experience with ladies I have taken to clubs Asian men behave badly, struggle with a 'polite no' and are as a rule rude & pushy!

Treat women with no respect! Even had a Pakistani Taxi driver who picked up my partner & me from a well known Sheffield club made disgusting comments about her as if she were a prostitute!! Asked me if he could have a go!! FFS

Resulted in a tirade of abuse from me!!

A generalisation but sadly my experiences!

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over a year ago

"So here's the thing; does everyone consider the French the same as the English, or the Germans the same as the Polish?

If not, then why would everyone consider Tamils from South India the same as Pakistanis of Kenyan Asians the same as Sri Lankans?

This is actually the same generalisation being made overlaid with the differences in education and social class both from the country of origin and the UK.

Something to consider."

It's easier for the racists.

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over a year ago

"My view is based on both swinging and real world dating. I would never dream if stating "no asians" etc, I'm potentially open to getting to know anybody.

And every white man has treated you like an English Rose to take home for tea with his mother?!!

Go you!

I don't feel the need to justify who I meet to fuck. If I read a profile that has exclusions and it's conveyed in a negative/nasty way I move on, even if I'm not excluded.

Did i say that? No. I didn't mention white men, I wrote a non offensive post about my own personal experiences, of which you know nothing about. So keep your sarky comments to yourself

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So here's the thing; does everyone consider the French the same as the English, or the Germans the same as the Polish?

If not, then why would everyone consider Tamils from South India the same as Pakistanis of Kenyan Asians the same as Sri Lankans?

This is actually the same generalisation being made overlaid with the differences in education and social class both from the country of origin and the UK.

Something to consider."

Do you think "Asians" are unique?

Every black person on the planet is Jamaican!

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"So here's the thing; does everyone consider the French the same as the English, or the Germans the same as the Polish?

If not, then why would everyone consider Tamils from South India the same as Pakistanis of Kenyan Asians the same as Sri Lankans?

This is actually the same generalisation being made overlaid with the differences in education and social class both from the country of origin and the UK.

Something to consider.

Do you think "Asians" are unique?

Every black person on the planet is Jamaican!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think social background.

nobody promotes asians as sexy anywhere, except chinese women and even they are stereotyped in a poor light from a female perspective.

also a lot tend to be religious and are very much against being sexual or objectified, catholic nuns have been sexualised somewhat but no other religion has.

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/women-think-irish-men-are-the-sexiest-survey-finds-10227149.html

Pakistani men ranked 3rd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im asian n i dnt even like asian men ...

The majority dnt k ow how to treat women full stop"

You can't paint a painting with the same brush, can you?

Not all Asian men are alike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's all a bit Irish now as my Mam used to say.

Love one another.

Cue plinky plonky whale music and a cup of green tea.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Here some home truth

Asain men don't usually share Asain women..

They have black White mixed race on the side but never their wife girlfriend etc...

And they are known or proven that their women don't mix..IyA their religion

They must cover up legs etc

So it's a divided society

I'm not saying all but 90% im my opinion

I'm a black guy so I'm not racist just giving you my opinion or what ive learnt and seen over the years...

Excuse me.... Because you are Black you cannot be a racist??? Seriously ???

There are plenty of Black, Asian (all kinds), and of course White racists!

A ridiculous comment.

Resulted in a tirade of abuse from me!!

A generalisation but sadly my experiences! "

The biggest racist I know are blacks...against other blacks! There's no love lost between West Indians and Africans for example. I have two colleagues from Ghana who loathe each other because they're from warring tribes!

My mother-in-law, at family gatherings used to ask me to help make run down, a Jamaican stew made with coconuts. I hated grating coconut, my sister-in-law didn't mind but my mother-in-law didn't want her touching her food, because she was Barbadon, and they were "funny small islanders!"

Black people not being racist?!!

Yeah...right!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't judge anyone's attraction on their race it's about features and that certain something . There are good looking people in every race /culture and assholes in every race /culture too.

I will say that if anyone messages us and feels they need to mention their race in order to 'promote' themselves then it's an immediate delete "

Same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So here's the thing; does everyone consider the French the same as the English, or the Germans the same as the Polish?

If not, then why would everyone consider Tamils from South India the same as Pakistanis of Kenyan Asians the same as Sri Lankans?

This is actually the same generalisation being made overlaid with the differences in education and social class both from the country of origin and the UK.

Something to consider.

Do you think "Asians" are unique?

Every black person on the planet is Jamaican!

Sorry was there something in my comment that said asians were unique or all black ppl are Jamaican??? I think not!

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/women-think-irish-men-are-the-sexiest-survey-finds-10227149.html

Pakistani men ranked 3rd."

Unexpected. I wonder what the demographic of the women surveyed was. Pakistani, again, incredibly specific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I have met many sout Asian guys (not from this site) and they have been lovely. I have a thing for their traditional dress too

What I have found though, is that in clubs, some Asian guys have quite poor hygiene and have been rather pushy, but then again I've had that experience with a few Caucasian guys.

You come across as a lovely, intelligent guy, I like your profile too and it looks like you've had some good meets. Long may it continue

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

"OP, I have met many sout Asian guys (not from this site) and they have been lovely. I have a thing for their traditional dress too

What I have found though, is that in clubs, some Asian guys have quite poor hygiene and have been rather pushy, but then again I've had that experience with a few Caucasian guys.

You come across as a lovely, intelligent guy, I like your profile too and it looks like you've had some good meets. Long may it continue

Flatterer

I'm happy for people not to be attracted to me as it appears that there are some who do. I just prefer it if they don't like me for a specific reason not a lazy, generalised one

I don't actually care, I was being facetious before anybody gets overexcited

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So here's the thing; does everyone consider the French the same as the English, or the Germans the same as the Polish?

If not, then why would everyone consider Tamils from South India the same as Pakistanis of Kenyan Asians the same as Sri Lankans?

This is actually the same generalisation being made overlaid with the differences in education and social class both from the country of origin and the UK.

Something to consider.

Do you think "Asians" are unique?

Every black person on the planet is Jamaican!

Sorry was there something in my comment that said asians were unique or all black ppl are Jamaican??? I think not! "

I was referring to the op who seems to think only Asians are lumped together, and he's responded with a

in acknowledgement.

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By *asyuk OP Man
over a year ago

West London

I was referring to the op who seems to think only Asians are lumped together, and he's responded with a

in acknowledgement."

My original post did indicate that I had seen "no Asians" quite frequently whereas the opposite desire for BBC was frequently posted.

I don't doubt that "black" people are lumped into the same group as Asians despite their diversity. I didn't intend to imply that they were, but as I'm Asian and being personally very narcissistic wanted this thread to be all about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a black guy so I'm not racist just giving you my opinion or what ive learnt and seen over the years...

This type of comment gets my back up, it doesn't matter what colour you are racism is racism. I've witnessed racism from all sides

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

"OP, I have met many sout Asian guys (not from this site) and they have been lovely. I have a thing for their traditional dress too

What I have found though, is that in clubs, some Asian guys have quite poor hygiene and have been rather pushy, but then again I've had that experience with a few Caucasian guys.

You come across as a lovely, intelligent guy, I like your profile too and it looks like you've had some good meets. Long may it continue

Flatterer

I'm happy for people not to be attracted to me as it appears that there are some who do. I just prefer it if they don't like me for a specific reason not a lazy, generalised one

I don't actually care, I was being facetious before anybody gets overexcited

Guessing then, that so long as you agree with what ever the reason be that someone wasn't interested in you that then it would be OK, but if you don't agree then you have been generalised, duh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

racism implies superiority.

discrimination is like preferences: everyone has them due to their own experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"racism implies superiority."

No it doesn't. This is just a nonsense definition invented by people that want to use it to claim black people can't be racist.

Racism just means you make a negative judgement on someone else using their race without other contextual factors, it's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"racism implies superiority.

No it doesn't. This is just a nonsense definition invented by people that want to use it to claim black people can't be racist.

Racism just means you make a negative judgement on someone else using their race without other contextual factors, it's that simple. "

surely in order to make any sort of negative remark about anyone means you feel superior to that person?

but i could be wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lot still arguing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"racism implies superiority.

No it doesn't. This is just a nonsense definition invented by people that want to use it to claim black people can't be racist.

Racism just means you make a negative judgement on someone else using their race without other contextual factors, it's that simple.

surely in order to make any sort of negative remark about anyone means you feel superior to that person?

but i could be wrong"

Imagine you were a poor white person, unemployed and frustrated. Someone told you that the reason you were unemployed was that the Jews were hoarding all the wealth and not sharing it. They say we should go around and beat up some Jews and it sounds like a good idea.

It's racist. You don't feel superior to them, you're just angry.

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