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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When someone says

'Must be attractive'

What is that?

I wouldn't even bother as I would never call myself attractive

(Lots would agree)

Surely it would be better to state what is 'attractive' to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When someone says

'Must be attractive'

What is that?

I wouldn't even bother as I would never call myself attractive

(Lots would agree)

Surely it would be better to state what is 'attractive' to them "

Attractive to me is a lively mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone says "must be attractive", I automatically assume I probably won't be to them, and don't go there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractive to me is someone who isn't up their own arse

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By *VK_RugbyCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

"When someone says

'Must be attractive'

What is that?

I wouldn't even bother as I would never call myself attractive

(Lots would agree)

Surely it would be better to state what is 'attractive' to them "

If a profile has must be attractive we just assume they are far too fussy and will be timewasters and discount them as players

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractive is something of an ambiguous term, it's why we avoid using it. It would take too much space on our profile to list what we find attractive.

It wouldn't stop us from messaging people if they were asking for attractive people. Shy bairns get nowt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren't attractive so wouldn't message anyone with it on their profile

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Puts me off when I see this in profiles... at the end of the day who is to say the person(s) on the profile is attractive anyway.. they may think they are attractive but maybe not to others.. even though its such an open word...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would take it as they mean that they are looking for those who aren't ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does anyone class as attractive? It's different things to different people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it just means presentable e.g. well groomed. I don't think it's a personal insult to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive no idea,,however im drop dead gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it just means presentable e.g. well groomed. I don't think it's a personal insult to anyone."

of course its not,,but some folk pick on anything on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are most likely looking for someone who has confidence in themselves. If you don't see yourself as attractive then you aren't right for them. It's an excellent way of filtering imo.

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By *cprMan
over a year ago

Athy

Attraction is so subjective. What is attractive to me might not be to another. That's why boy bands and girl groups work(I hate them all musically)..appeal to a wider audience, people have a favourite one. Wouldn't be an incredibly dull works if we were all attracted to one type or one person..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it just means presentable e.g. well groomed. I don't think it's a personal insult to anyone.

of course its not,,but some folk pick on anything on here"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think they are most likely looking for someone who has confidence in themselves. If you don't see yourself as attractive then you aren't right for them. It's an excellent way of filtering imo."

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rather like adverts wanting a good sense of humour (GOSH).

I am aware that some people will find me ugly and some will find me attractive.

I always reply to adverts who want attractive people because I might be just what the advertiser is looking for. If I'm not what they are looking for, it's their fault for being so vague

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't bother either. I think they'd mean a bit of eye candy which of course is subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a persons brain and mi d the most attractive feature and a what i see as physically attractive changes as i get to know a person for example there was a post last night i read (allot of cake involved) when i looked at the lady first i thought "she is fit" after reading a few comments made all i could see is the ugly personality, there has to be an attraction but looks are only a small piece of the puzzle and by no means the most important one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never actually seen this requirement on a profile TBH...

I've seen requests for exceptional people and often wonder what that means

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am. "

Yes, you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am. "

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find a persons brain and mi d the most attractive feature and a what i see as physically attractive changes as i get to know a person for example there was a post last night i read (allot of cake involved) when i looked at the lady first i thought "she is fit" after reading a few comments made all i could see is the ugly personality, there has to be an attraction but looks are only a small piece of the puzzle and by no means the most important one "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

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That must make your partner feel pretty rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't bother either. I think they'd mean a bit of eye candy which of course is subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

That must make your partner feel pretty rubbish

Why is that my wife compliments other guys (and women) all the time she is the most beautifull women in the world in mind and body and im batting well above my average but we still find others attractive or am i missing something??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

That must make your partner feel pretty rubbish

Finding other people isnt wrong attractive, neither is complimenting them but saying they're out of your league i.e. unattainable suggests that the person you're with isn't as attractive. Well saved though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

That must make your partner feel pretty rubbish

Finding other people attractive isn't wrong...that should say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

That must make your partner feel pretty rubbish

I see what you mean id like to think im fairly eloquent but lack the filters to stop myself digging a hole

to be fair i think most women (my wife included) are out of my league confidence in myself has always been my weak point

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am.

This isnt a line your well out of my league and even if you were partially sighted and went for it too far away but you should reply your drop dead gorgeous

That must make your partner feel pretty rubbish

I see what you mean id like to think im fairly eloquent but lack the filters to stop myself digging a hole

to be fair i think most women (my wife included) are out of my league confidence in myself has always been my weak point"

You have a gorgeous wife, she's not stupid, trust in your own attractiveness

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"When someone says

'Must be attractive'

What is that?

I wouldn't even bother as I would never call myself attractive

(Lots would agree)

Surely it would be better to state what is 'attractive' to them "

Most people are looking for those they find attractive. That wouldn't bother us, as attractive is subjective.

Now if it said something like, must be exceptional, gym fit / toned and drop dead gorgeous then we would pass it by.

It would take far too much space to list what we might find attractive. We don't have a set ticklist /look that we go for. I'd imagine we're not the only ones that can't really describe what attractive means to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone whose face wouldn't scare off children and animals with a personality that is kind, witty and upbeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone whose face wouldn't scare off children and animals with a personality that is kind, witty and upbeat."

I read this all wrong and got confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up on second guessing whether the folks that put up lists of what you must be for them are going to be worth the effort on my part to get to know them... Oh god! Has this place jaded me so already?!!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"If someone says "must be attractive", I automatically assume I probably won't be to them, and don't go there. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never actually seen this requirement on a profile TBH...

I've seen requests for exceptional people and often wonder what that means

There's loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When someone says

'Must be attractive'

What is that?

I wouldn't even bother as I would never call myself attractive

(Lots would agree)

Surely it would be better to state what is 'attractive' to them "

I notice this too! I see a profile of a lady I like the look of and start reading.....must be tall - damn it! Continues reading.....must be attractive - damn it! Must be able to accommodate.....aww come on! Well, 0 out of 3 isn't bad.....it's bloody terrible!!!

I suppose it's individual preference OP. If I was to get a meet, I admit there would have to be at least a bit of physical attraction there otherwise I don't feel I would enjoy the encounter.

However I wouldn't state "must be attractive" on my profile as it gives off an "up own arse" kind of vibe which would probably put a lady off, and it could also possibly cross the line into making a lady feel a bit insecure about her looks, and to me, that's just an awful thing to do.

The whole "must be attractive" thing prevents me from wanting to message someone as I don't consider myself to be attractive, so statements like that on a profile are a barrier to me.

But.....each to their own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see a profile demanding "attractive" people I run a mile! Find it very off putting and arrogant. Ive never considered myself attractive so certainly never think that the sort of people who are so specific about it would want me anyway! Lol. people looking for others who are "gym fit" is another that I instantly click away from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I see a profile demanding "attractive" people I run a mile! Find it very off putting and arrogant. Ive never considered myself attractive so certainly never think that the sort of people who are so specific about it would want me anyway! Lol. people looking for others who are "gym fit" is another that I instantly click away from

Neither have I so I agree it's off putting - but you are stunning!!

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Id never say someone has to be attractive just that if need to be attracted to them. Attractive is too variable to each person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never actually seen this requirement on a profile TBH...

I've seen requests for exceptional people and often wonder what that means

There's loads "

probably on female profiles then but you don't see any on male ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can make me laugh then I'll find you attractive.

If you happen to be utterly filthy and funny as hell?

Then I'll think you're stunning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When someone says

'Must be attractive'

What is that?

I wouldn't even bother as I would never call myself attractive

(Lots would agree)

Surely it would be better to state what is 'attractive' to them "

Absolutely baffles me to. Beauty, eyes, beholder etc.

I think lots of people are attractive where friends laugh at me and vice versa. Media, has tried to dictate what beautiful is for many years. 'Do you like it' that's what should matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can make me laugh then I'll find you attractive.

If you happen to be utterly filthy and funny as hell?

Then I'll think you're stunning!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never actually seen this requirement on a profile TBH...

I've seen requests for exceptional people and often wonder what that means

There's loads

probably on female profiles then but you don't see any on male ones

As s single guy

Fair to assume I was talking about female profiles

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By *ornyCouple-SWCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

What someone finds attractive in a person is different for everyone, for some it is personality or physical attributes, or confidence. I've heard a guy say he found a girl attractive because of the scent of her hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see must be attractive then I have to pass them by as I'm fucking gorgeous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can make me laugh then I'll find you attractive.

If you happen to be utterly filthy and funny as hell?

Then I'll think you're stunning!

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love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely make first contact on here .

So if we get a message we figure the sender must find us attractive .

While they find us appealing , there are plenty that don't which is fine .

If we do approach people we have no expectations at all . If they fancy us great , if not there are plenty who will .

Fab isn't a good place for those with fragile egos .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We rarely make first contact on here .

So if we get a message we figure the sender must find us attractive .

While they find us appealing , there are plenty that don't which is fine .

If we do approach people we have no expectations at all . If they fancy us great , if not there are plenty who will .

Fab isn't a good place for those with fragile egos ."

Contact gloswingers

Must have ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While it's subjective and everyone fancies different things blah blah blah, most have an awareness of whether or not they are generally attractive.

I would never reply to someone looking for exceptional or something similarly superlative, but attractive, yeah I am. "

I'd agree with this!

If someone wants stunning I'm out - if they want attractive I'm in with a chance - as long as they like old farts who are currently a bit cuddlier than they'd like to be! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We rarely make first contact on here .

So if we get a message we figure the sender must find us attractive .

While they find us appealing , there are plenty that don't which is fine .

If we do approach people we have no expectations at all . If they fancy us great , if not there are plenty who will .

Fab isn't a good place for those with fragile egos .

Contact gloswingers

Must have ego "

Contact gloswingers .

Mustn't have a sense of entitlement or a fragile ego

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The good thing with fabs is all tastes are catered for.

Attractiveness is all in the eye of the beholder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fab terms if your a women your all attractive. Thats what I read on most bbw threads.

Its only guys who can be or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fab terms if your a women your all attractive. Thats what I read on most bbw threads.

Its only guys who can be or not

Yes I think there is an element of truth in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractiveness is wholly subjective. Our brains all respond to stimulation in different ways.

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