FabSwingers.com forum: No shows!

By *ifestylers OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

FAB really needs to allow some sort of verification for no shows who then hide their profile when you've gone to a lot of trouble to get ready for your mutually agreed meet. Rant rant rant......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would that work? Far too many bitter immature people on here that would abuse it I fear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FAB really needs to allow some sort of verification for no shows who then hide their profile when you've gone to a lot of trouble to get ready for your mutually agreed meet. Rant rant rant......"

Fab really needs to allow some sort of verification for people who arrange a meet with obvious no shows?

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By *penky745Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

Happens all the time it's a joke

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"Happens all the time it's a joke "

If it happens all the time, then look a little closer to home, after all your meets have one thing in common. You.

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By *ifestylers OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

But it's not on, the effort people go to to arrange a mutual meet and not even a sorry. Just a hidden profile. Yes it would get abused I understand that but I'm just annoyed. Gives genuine FABs a bad name. End of rant sorry xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How would that work? Far too many bitter immature people on here that would abuse it I fear. "

Dito

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it's not on, the effort people go to to arrange a mutual meet and not even a sorry. Just a hidden profile. Yes it would get abused I understand that but I'm just annoyed. Gives genuine FABs a bad name. End of rant sorry xx"

But it doesn't give genuine people a bad name, it does the opposite in fact, it makes them stand out more. Your success or otherwise on here is not affected by anyone else's behaviour.

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By *ifestylers OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

But it doesn't give genuine people a bad name, it does the opposite in fact, it makes them stand out more. Your success or otherwise on here is not affected by anyone else's behaviour. "

It doesn't make them stand out more as nobody knows what they do. Sorry, just annoyed tonight. Thanks for support x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it doesn't give genuine people a bad name, it does the opposite in fact, it makes them stand out more. Your success or otherwise on here is not affected by anyone else's behaviour.

It doesn't make them stand out more as nobody knows what they do. Sorry, just annoyed tonight. Thanks for support x"

Genuine people meet! Hope you have more luck next time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a plan b so your evening isn't a waste. Go to a club or grab a last minute meet today. Letting a time waster ruin an evening/free time/whatever is just daft.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op,it would be too open to abuse from people ,so i don't think it could work.I hope you have reported and blocked them.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to arrange something where it doesn't matter if they don't turn up ie coffee in town when you're there , that way you've not wasted time and money. I've been caught out a couple of times at night which is why I try to avoid it now.

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By *ifestylers OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Have a plan b so your evening isn't a waste. Go to a club or grab a last minute meet today. Letting a time waster ruin an evening/free time/whatever is just daft."

Thanks, Hubby came to the rescue. Hope Xtasia will be fun on Saturday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this-i wait and if the person doesnt show i then message them and let them know that i will get another meet. If they are running late they will respond. If not i block them.

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By *uckmenow123Woman
over a year ago

newbury

You are so right bbz but there is so many off them now and they would lose to much money x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Have a plan b so your evening isn't a waste. Go to a club or grab a last minute meet today. Letting a time waster ruin an evening/free time/whatever is just daft."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to their profile page, use the REPORT PROFILE facility on the left hand menu, click the reason for 'No Show', and send report.

Simples!

Yes, even on a blocked or hidden profile YOU can still report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens all the time it's a joke

If it happens all the time, then look a little closer to home, after all your meets have one thing in common. You. "

No need to be like that to him, if people aren't interested they should say it from the start, not lead them on and waste time, this happens to both genders aswel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to their profile page, use the REPORT PROFILE facility on the left hand menu, click the reason for 'No Show', and send report.

Simples!

Yes, even on a blocked or hidden profile YOU can still report them."

Only thing you can do. Then block and move on

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By *atie ShayTV/TS
over a year ago

Never managed a successful meet yet - four no shows so far.

The last cost me quite a bit of money, a days holiday from work and traveled halfway across the country.

Gullible...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never managed a successful meet yet - four no shows so far.

The last cost me quite a bit of money, a days holiday from work and traveled halfway across the country.

Gullible...

Ouch!!! This is why I work meets around my lifestyle and don't take days off etc and I won't travel too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few cancel but they at least had the decency to let me know beforehand which i suppose isnt too bad and had one or two no shows which is a bit of a pain but unfortunately it comes with the territory.

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By *hiterabbit6Couple
over a year ago

Sexytown, Moray

"Try to arrange something where it doesn't matter if they don't turn up ie coffee in town when you're there , that way you've not wasted time and money. I've been caught out a couple of times at night which is why I try to avoid it now. "

Ditto

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Exactly what I do and in seven years not had one no show.

I think *SOME* people invest so much time and effort in swinging they lose perspective.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Never managed a successful meet yet - four no shows so far.

The last cost me quite a bit of money, a days holiday from work and traveled halfway across the country.

Gullible...

We all meet differently but I'd never do this. I can't imagine doing that.

My initial meet is always a social during the day. Coffee at lunchtime in the coffee shop 100m from my desk where I'd be anyway or after work at the station, 15 minutes before my train so I can catch it should they not turn up.

On the rare occasion I meet at weekends it's nearby so I can do my shopping should they not turn up.

Flexi days are used for play meets. I'd be at home anyway so no loss should they not turn up. Works for me.

Hope you find a way that works for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can report to admin with evidence of meet arrangements - if the same person keeps doing this then action will be taken apparently

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By *atie ShayTV/TS
over a year ago

"Never managed a successful meet yet - four no shows so far.

The last cost me quite a bit of money, a days holiday from work and traveled halfway across the country.

Gullible...

We all meet differently but I'd never do this. I can't imagine doing that.

On the rare occasion I meet at weekends it's nearby so I can do my shopping should they not turn up.

Flexi days are used for play meets. I'd be at home anyway so no loss should they not turn up. Works for me.

Hope you find a way that works for you. "

Thanks for your advice!

I wouldn't have normally gone to such lengths for a meet but it was a well known gorgeous couple off FAB who have many many varifications and we'd been speaking for several weeks before hand.

They arranged to meet me in a club (which again made the meet seem genuine) but never showed up. I paid train travel, taxis, club membership and entrance fee.

I wasn't the only person there they had done it to, there were others in the club expecting them there. We suspect they did it to get folk through the club doors

I would have normally asked for a social meet first but they seemed so genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fed up of them. Block and move on. End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always have a plan b , and if that doesn't work out either we have each other .

Anyone who agrees to a meet and doesn't turn up gets an instant block .

Furthermore are people so daft that they don't think people chat ? Word soon gets round regarding the scourge of the site , and genuine swingers soon filter out the idiots who ruin it .

But we all get to experience it and it sucks ... Big time .

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

"Have a plan b so your evening isn't a waste. Go to a club or grab a last minute meet today. Letting a time waster ruin an evening/free time/whatever is just daft."

This is exactly what we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loath to post it, (now it will happen) but never had a no show yet, can't fit the life of me think why we haven't, but we haven't....

Anyone flaky in conversation, unorganised, wishy washy or just cant answer a straight question with a straight answer we just give up on and move on, seems to have worked for us.

As for a way for fabswingers to do something about it mmmm they are not here to hold our hands and naming & shaming is so open to abuse xx

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