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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

They from fab?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Yes..it was bloody horrible, it has put me off meeting other couples . K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were they new to that kind of thing to your knowledge?

Either shes tried to go along with it because he was really excited about meeting you and its been too much for her or... Well maybe you did have too much chemistry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They had one verification on cam.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"They had one verification on cam. "

They might not appreciate this being discussed in the forum and the speculation as to her motives that will surely follow.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have always worked on a communication basis.

We talked a lot about threesomes before we had one....and by talked we discussed it for months! Checking, double checking.

Now we are looking at having fun with a couple its the same thing and our first time will be "clinical" to begin with and see how we feel after.

Seems to me like she might not of thought it all through properly and freaked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation"

Yes had it a few times, the last couple I met the woman kicked me out their house screaming and shouting because I'd made her fella cum while sucking him off

I've had a few bad experiences with couples but being booted out of somebody's home in the early hours was the last straw, I changed my profile to straight and never met another couple again after that

It's to much like hard work, I feel like I'm treading on egg shells all the time, single guys are just so much easier

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

unless meet in a club..always a social first i pick up on the dynamic there..any signs of this or other signs on not complete agreement of what they both want, and its a no no...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They had one verification on cam.

They might not appreciate this being discussed in the forum and the speculation as to her motives that will surely follow."

They deleted their account next day..or rather she did

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation"

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"They had one verification on cam.

They might not appreciate this being discussed in the forum and the speculation as to her motives that will surely follow.

They deleted their account next day..or rather she did"

Still in touch with him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

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Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this once with a couple, picked up on it very early on and said I'd changed my mind about playing due to the dynamics.

Then we all lived happily ever after

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes in a club, made us realise that we need to ensure that everybody is happy and 100% sure what other couples ground rules are before we start playing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

"

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby "

I think it was an unfortunate experience. I only asked if you were still in touch with him because I wondered how you knew she deleted the account.

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By *eeks88Woman
over a year ago

Truro

We had a couple we met and the 2nd time we stayed at theres and had lots of fun. The woman however freaked out because her husband was having such a good time fucking me :D Haha. She left in the morning slamming the door and the husband rang her in front of us and said ' are you breaking up with me?!' To which she replied yes. He'd also whispered in my ear the night before asking if I'd meet him alone. Some people are not made for swinging!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Have a social first if they're newbies and be more selective of your meets. Not every couple is insecure or jealous of their partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil ."

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples"

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby

I think it was an unfortunate experience. I only asked if you were still in touch with him because I wondered how you knew she deleted the account."

That was one of the things she said when leaving the Travelodge and when I checked next day it was nowhere to be seen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile "

I believe it was! You're right. Probably had too much of a long day!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby

I think it was an unfortunate experience. I only asked if you were still in touch with him because I wondered how you knew she deleted the account.

That was one of the things she said when leaving the Travelodge and when I checked next day it was nowhere to be seen"

Ok I understand. It must have been an unpleasant experience for you and her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby "

this was probably the point you should have taken it no further

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby

this was probably the point you should have taken it no further"

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. We made the mistake once of ignoring warning signs from a woman in a couple, looking back we should never have met them after the initial social...lesson learned.

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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago

Stokeish...

I don't usually play with couples as many years ago myself and a FB met a lovely couple in a club, but when playing the guy went nuts with jealousy, threw the woman's clothes in her face, stormed out the club without her, leaving her with no money or phone or anything. I ended up driving her distraught around the streets of Manchester at 2am looking for him so she could get home, eventually found him and dropped them both home- never again!!

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile

I believe it was! You're right. Probably had too much of a long day!"

Sending you hugs and TLC x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry that happened. I made the decision, with katlovescum help, to only meet mmf. The whole couple dynamic seems too tricky for me to negotiate, unless it's just the lady I'm playing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile "

Glad someone got it....lol. Sorry OP. Our humour appears to be wasted on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile

I believe it was! You're right. Probably had too much of a long day!"

Ohhh, you got it too..... eventually . Feet up, wee glass of chardonnay and a nice fat cigar OP . Hugs and kisses from the clowns xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a social first if they're newbies and be more selective of your meets. Not every couple is insecure or jealous of their partner."

Couldn't agree more

Harry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this will always be a worry for us. Not that either of us would freak out since we both know the signs of being uneasy. We will always be aware that others may not be so at ease. I guess that some will just never be able to seperate love from sex. Be aware of couples with only social or web verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile

I believe it was! You're right. Probably had too much of a long day!

Sending you hugs and TLC x "

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't actually believe you're on the forum boasting about trying steal some poor insecure woman's husband you absolute she devil .

Sorry? Boasting?? Not at all. I am not remotely interested in anyone's husband!!! I don't think I even stated this! I seldom meet couples

I believe the reply was an attempt at making you smile

I believe it was! You're right. Probably had too much of a long day!

Ohhh, you got it too..... eventually . Feet up, wee glass of chardonnay and a nice fat cigar OP . Hugs and kisses from the clowns xx"

That's what I am doing now! Thanks....I definitely need to lighten up ....x

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation

If she had already been agitated and made you wary, why on earth did you carry on with the meet?

I suggested a few drinks and to stop and chat which we did but then her partner and I were laughing at some joke and she then got upset saying we had too much chemistry. I am not in touch with her hubby

I think it was an unfortunate experience. I only asked if you were still in touch with him because I wondered how you knew she deleted the account.

That was one of the things she said when leaving the Travelodge and when I checked next day it was nowhere to be seen"

There's the problem! Travelodge!

You do know the Premier Inn has a good night guarantee?

Ask Lenny or a certain floor at the Xtasia hotel.

Joking aside, communication is key. As others have said. Social first and test the waters & measure the respect & relationship between them.

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By *rswithMrCouple
over a year ago

Crewe

We are relatively new to this but would never contemplate throwing someone out in the early hours. We always have a social to see if we get along. Trusting each other is a must for us. Then its all good

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Of course, having a social and getting along in that situation is no guarantee that someone who hasn't swung before isn't going to freak out when a third party is having sex with their loved one.

But if you don't have a go, you'll never know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shit happens. "

I make it happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes..it was bloody horrible, it has put me off meeting other couples . K x "
yup this is why i Dont meet couples by myself

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

The second cpl i ever met up with. Within half hour of getting there it became pretty obvious that the wife was just going along with what the hubby wanted and she really wasnt happy about what was happening.so i went to there bathroom came back five mins later said i had changed my mind and left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a complete nightmare for all concerned...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FFMs i find can make or break a MF couple. I once met a couple where i was far more drawn to the fem than the guy... But a few hours/drinks into it she got really insecure. It happens. Me and him have stayed friends, but they've split up. I don't think i was the cause of the split, but i think the threesome brought up issues they couldn't resolve. In my situation there was no way I could have guessed the fem would turn the way she did... But i've very much learned my lesson. Unless both parties are 100% into it, it's a no go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFMs i find can make or break a MF couple. I once met a couple where i was far more drawn to the fem than the guy... But a few hours/drinks into it she got really insecure. It happens. Me and him have stayed friends, but they've split up. I don't think i was the cause of the split, but i think the threesome brought up issues they couldn't resolve. In my situation there was no way I could have guessed the fem would turn the way she did... But i've very much learned my lesson. Unless both parties are 100% into it, it's a no go. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes..it was bloody horrible, it has put me off meeting other couples . K x yup this is why i Dont meet couples by myself "

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By *ark_KnightsMan
over a year ago

london

Oh dear

Bless you and him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we play with a couple it's very much a 4 way thing. We don't pair off with the others partner and solely concentrate on them only. We include everyone in our play. And I ensure that I don't exclude the other wife in any way.

This is especially important when playing in a threesome. When playing with another guy I never concentrate on him only, I am always reaching out for my partner, I always touch my partner, even if it's just holding his hand, i ensure he never feels excluded at any point.

Maybe OP the husband was focusing on you solely and not involving his wife. Maybe she sat there like a spare part when the two of you were laughing over the joke. I can't remember from your opening post whether you got to the playing bit but maybe he was all over you and she was ignored. He should have included his partner and shown her intimacy and ensure she's ok, you should have ensured you were laughing with her as much as the hubby, bringing her into the play so that it was three people playing and not just two with one watching and feeling left out.

I think people need to realise when they play with couples that all are involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also OP when the lady told you there would be no intimacy and only keep it businesslike, what she meant was that it was sex only, no handholding, no whispering in each others ears, no sitting on his lap, maybe a no kissing rule, that kind of thing.

I've seen many men playing in clubs and ignoring their partner. They've been all over the other woman like a kid with a new toy. The wives then get tainted with the jealousy brush when it's actually he acting like a prick and the other woman all over him like he was a single guy and ignoring the female partner. It may not be she's jealous but more angry and two people have been disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was told that I was only allowed to touch a man in a 'businesslike' manner, I would have no interest in having sex with that man. When I have sex, I enjoy it or else it's not worth having.

At least they realised that this lifestyle is not for them. Have to admit,we're not a great fan of partner swaps.

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

I need to let my hair down and not be worried about squabbles x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"If I was told that I was only allowed to touch a man in a 'businesslike' manner, I would have no interest in having sex with that man. When I have sex, I enjoy it or else it's not worth having.

At least they realised that this lifestyle is not for them. Have to admit,we're not a great fan of partner swaps."

Yes, that would have been a massive warning sign for us. Surprised it went any further than that, really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was told that I was only allowed to touch a man in a 'businesslike' manner, I would have no interest in having sex with that man. When I have sex, I enjoy it or else it's not worth having.

At least they realised that this lifestyle is not for them. Have to admit,we're not a great fan of partner swaps."

Business like manner to me suggests she would have been better off with a paid escort who could be asked to perform in a certain way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP when the lady told you there would be no intimacy and only keep it businesslike, what she meant was that it was sex only, no handholding, no whispering in each others ears, no sitting on his lap, maybe a no kissing rule, that kind of thing.

I've seen many men playing in clubs and ignoring their partner. They've been all over the other woman like a kid with a new toy. The wives then get tainted with the jealousy brush when it's actually he acting like a prick and the other woman all over him like he was a single guy and ignoring the female partner. It may not be she's jealous but more angry and two people have been disrespectful. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP when the lady told you there would be no intimacy and only keep it businesslike, what she meant was that it was sex only, no handholding, no whispering in each others ears, no sitting on his lap, maybe a no kissing rule, that kind of thing.

I've seen many men playing in clubs and ignoring their partner. They've been all over the other woman like a kid with a new toy. The wives then get tainted with the jealousy brush when it's actually he acting like a prick and the other woman all over him like he was a single guy and ignoring the female partner. It may not be she's jealous but more angry and two people have been disrespectful. "
im.guilty of this.. but only where the woman has treated my partner like i wasnt there and ive got pissed off at the pair of them but it is always construed as jealousy even though im more thinking.. its meant to be a 3way not a 121 x

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

It is swinging. Sure everyone has there own do's and don'ts but being attracted and lusting after someone other than your partner is part of the scene.

If they stop swinging they still have to deal with the fact that he wants this even if he can no longer act on it.

It sounds like they didn't discuss this very well before starting.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It is swinging. Sure everyone has there own do's and don'ts but being attracted and lusting after someone other than your partner is part of the scene.

If they stop swinging they still have to deal with the fact that he wants this even if he can no longer act on it.

It sounds like they didn't discuss this very well before starting.

"

Spot on!

Iconic1 makes very good points too. Businesslike is probably the wrong term but I know what they mean.

You shouldn't have to tell people in swinging, but depending on your journey, there has to be an understanding by all parties and communication is key.

It's a shame that quite a few single females have been put off by the mff experience & feel they don't want to do it again. After all, it's their fantasy/enjoyment as much as the couples.

It's just down to initial homework.

We're fortunate enough to have had many great mff experiences but it helps that Lizzie is genuinely bisexual and loves the ladies.

I always make a strong point (if possible & usually private meets) of keeping out the way for 5/10 minutes in and around the beginning, just so the girls can have a bit of time together. As long as they hit it off and both are comfortable, inclusion of me is not usually an issue.

Whilst we love 4somes and the dynamics it brings. We do enjoy a good 3some from time to time. And what I (we) personally enjoy from a 3some is that I actually get more intimate time with Lizzie in a swinging situation than I do in a couple swap when it tends to be diluted as I'm sharing with two other people. A 3some is obviously with one.

Maybe that's where it also went a bit wrong for some. I'm sure it's natural to feel pissed or jealous if it's just like watching a private show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also OP when the lady told you there would be no intimacy and only keep it businesslike, what she meant was that it was sex only, no handholding, no whispering in each others ears, no sitting on his lap, maybe a no kissing rule, that kind of thing.

I've seen many men playing in clubs and ignoring their partner. They've been all over the other woman like a kid with a new toy. The wives then get tainted with the jealousy brush when it's actually he acting like a prick and the other woman all over him like he was a single guy and ignoring the female partner. It may not be she's jealous but more angry and two people have been disrespectful. im.guilty of this.. but only where the woman has treated my partner like i wasnt there and ive got pissed off at the pair of them but it is always construed as jealousy even though im more thinking.. its meant to be a 3way not a 121 x "

He should be aware of this and make you feel involved. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They had one verification on cam.

They might not appreciate this being discussed in the forum and the speculation as to her motives that will surely follow.

They deleted their account next day..or rather she did"

Best thing too....clearly do not have the attitude/mindset required for swinging.

Also perhaps why couples say it's so hard to meet single bi fems.....a fair few on this thread seem very wary of couples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Marjorie was playing with a woman and getting into it. It would show me that all parties are comfortable and having fun, isn't that what we are here for? I'd also find it a massive turn on!

Obviously some people aren't as ready as they think they may be...

Betty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you have had such a bad experience OP seems like the lady may have only been part of it to please her hubby.

Personally we prefer threesomes rather than couples. We find the dynamic works better all 3 people get the same amount of attention there isnt time to get jealous we are all having to much fun. I love hubby fucking another woman while he is looking me in the eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is why I don't meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation"

She sounds like a fruit loop steer clear x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a shame it happened and I was quite upset for the lady myself. We had had a few long chats on the phone beforehand and she had said it was her ultimate fantasy -she had been so enthusiastic and seemed.keener than her partner! So I don't see her being coerced into a threesome. I just feel that she may have had other issues going on I was unaware of. These things happen. I just chalked it down to experience really.

I appreciate all the replies!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry you have had such a bad experience OP seems like the lady may have only been part of it to please her hubby.

Personally we prefer threesomes rather than couples. We find the dynamic works better all 3 people get the same amount of attention there isnt time to get jealous we are all having to much fun. I love hubby fucking another woman while he is looking me in the eyes. "

I tried that with my male fb and yep it worked well! We met a few great guys who verified us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We arranged a social with a couple recently ... They were quite new

Messaged a few times

We had a meet in the meantime and she got quite upset that we had met someone else !!

Said that thinking about it swinging was not for them .. As she had got quite jealous ! WTF .. We had not met them ..

Their account went next day ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation"

Should have picked up on the warning signs and walked when you got wary

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over a year ago


"When we play with a couple it's very much a 4 way thing. We don't pair off with the others partner and solely concentrate on them only. We include everyone in our play. And I ensure that I don't exclude the other wife in any way.

This is especially important when playing in a threesome. When playing with another guy I never concentrate on him only, I am always reaching out for my partner, I always touch my partner, even if it's just holding his hand, i ensure he never feels excluded at any point.

Maybe OP the husband was focusing on you solely and not involving his wife. Maybe she sat there like a spare part when the two of you were laughing over the joke. I can't remember from your opening post whether you got to the playing bit but maybe he was all over you and she was ignored. He should have included his partner and shown her intimacy and ensure she's ok, you should have ensured you were laughing with her as much as the hubby, bringing her into the play so that it was three people playing and not just two with one watching and feeling left out.

I think people need to realise when they play with couples that all are involved. "


"Also OP when the lady told you there would be no intimacy and only keep it businesslike, what she meant was that it was sex only, no handholding, no whispering in each others ears, no sitting on his lap, maybe a no kissing rule, that kind of thing.

I've seen many men playing in clubs and ignoring their partner. They've been all over the other woman like a kid with a new toy. The wives then get tainted with the jealousy brush when it's actually he acting like a prick and the other woman all over him like he was a single guy and ignoring the female partner. It may not be she's jealous but more angry and two people have been disrespectful. "

Agree with these posts.

I see a lot of single women talking about how they need ffm meets to be all about her and what the couple can do for her, so she isn't the spare part etc etc, but never any mention of how she will do the same for them.

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By *exaddicts77Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

Everyone is different and many people are here for wrong reasons... Unfortunately quite common scenario is that the fem part of the couple is doing it to fulfill her mans fantasies which is very unfair but it can be easily picked up during social meet... Key to happy swinging is secure relationship and honesty... Since we have been on fab at least 9-10 couples (that we know of) split up!! Quite shocking really...

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"When we play with a couple it's very much a 4 way thing. We don't pair off with the others partner and solely concentrate on them only. We include everyone in our play. And I ensure that I don't exclude the other wife in any way.

This is especially important when playing in a threesome. When playing with another guy I never concentrate on him only, I am always reaching out for my partner, I always touch my partner, even if it's just holding his hand, i ensure he never feels excluded at any point.

Maybe OP the husband was focusing on you solely and not involving his wife. Maybe she sat there like a spare part when the two of you were laughing over the joke. I can't remember from your opening post whether you got to the playing bit but maybe he was all over you and she was ignored. He should have included his partner and shown her intimacy and ensure she's ok, you should have ensured you were laughing with her as much as the hubby, bringing her into the play so that it was three people playing and not just two with one watching and feeling left out.

I think people need to realise when they play with couples that all are involved. "

Good post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a couple we met and the 2nd time we stayed at theres and had lots of fun. The woman however freaked out because her husband was having such a good time fucking me :D Haha. She left in the morning slamming the door and the husband rang her in front of us and said ' are you breaking up with me?!' To which she replied yes. He'd also whispered in my ear the night before asking if I'd meet him alone. Some people are not made for swinging! "

That's horrible....poor woman x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"We had a couple we met and the 2nd time we stayed at theres and had lots of fun. The woman however freaked out because her husband was having such a good time fucking me :D Haha. She left in the morning slamming the door and the husband rang her in front of us and said ' are you breaking up with me?!' To which she replied yes. He'd also whispered in my ear the night before asking if I'd meet him alone. Some people are not made for swinging!

That's horrible....poor woman x"

With friends like that who needs enemies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Agree with these posts.

I see a lot of single women talking about how they need ffm meets to be all about her and what the couple can do for her, so she isn't the spare part etc etc, but never any mention of how she will do the same for them.

"

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

I see a lot of single women talking about how they need ffm meets to be all about her and what the couple can do for her, so she isn't the spare part etc etc, but never any mention of how she will do the same for them.

"

I think what they are getting at, is it needs to be a 3 way thing, all getting equal attention and fun. The problems come when one person feels left out for whatever reason, or the woman is there for a show.

Some women will have had bad experiences with couples and might be cautious in future. That's why the good couples who can play well in a three need to make sure they can show that a very, very good time can be had in that scenario x

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By *eeks88Woman
over a year ago

Truro


"We had a couple we met and the 2nd time we stayed at theres and had lots of fun. The woman however freaked out because her husband was having such a good time fucking me :D Haha. She left in the morning slamming the door and the husband rang her in front of us and said ' are you breaking up with me?!' To which she replied yes. He'd also whispered in my ear the night before asking if I'd meet him alone. Some people are not made for swinging!

That's horrible....poor woman x"

I know was pretty bad. She obviously wasn't as ready for it as she thought she was and he was clearly after much more.

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over a year ago


"Met a couple and things were going well when out of the blue the lady went off on one and ran put of Travelodge crying saying her partner and I were "getting too intimate" and "freezing me out". She had became agitated earlier saying I wasn't allowed to touch her husband in an "intimate way " but make it "businesslike". I was therefore very wary. Anyway she started crying and accusing her partner and me of having "too much chemistry" which she couldn't cope with. Exit one stressed out guy and a few cheeky messages to my phone.

Anyone.else been in this situation"

Exactly the same apart from the guy got jealous, said the same thing, and it was an IBIS lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I see a lot of single women talking about how they need ffm meets to be all about her and what the couple can do for her, so she isn't the spare part etc etc, but never any mention of how she will do the same for them.

I think what they are getting at, is it needs to be a 3 way thing, all getting equal attention and fun. The problems come when one person feels left out for whatever reason, or the woman is there for a show.

Some women will have had bad experiences with couples and might be cautious in future. That's why the good couples who can play well in a three need to make sure they can show that a very, very good time can be had in that scenario x"

I know that but when you see people saying things like a woman was upset because her husband was having such a good time fucking the single woman, and then adding haha and a it makes you wonder why she meeting a couple and not a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was told that I was only allowed to touch a man in a 'businesslike' manner, I would have no interest in having sex with that man. When I have sex, I enjoy it or else it's not worth having.

At least they realised that this lifestyle is not for them. Have to admit,we're not a great fan of partner swaps.

Business like manner to me suggests she would have been better off with a paid escort who could be asked to perform in a certain way.

"

Exactly!

Yes we've had a bad experience with a husband.

We don't meet newbies as a result.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Last two posts - despite people saying veri's are their own business etc, I think think they are really useful for spotting this kind of thing, forum posts too, then obviously the impression you get from chatting by mail and in person beforehand.

All can give an impression of a good meet or a potential to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry you have had such a bad experience OP seems like the lady may have only been part of it to please her hubby.

Personally we prefer threesomes rather than couples. We find the dynamic works better all 3 people get the same amount of attention there isnt time to get jealous we are all having to much fun. I love hubby fucking another woman while he is looking me in the eyes. "
i like kissing my partner and maybe the other lady while she is being fucked... or being in a 69 with the lady xx

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By *sCompanyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"We had a couple we met and the 2nd time we stayed at theres and had lots of fun. The woman however freaked out because her husband was having such a good time fucking me :D Haha. She left in the morning slamming the door and the husband rang her in front of us and said ' are you breaking up with me?!' To which she replied yes. He'd also whispered in my ear the night before asking if I'd meet him alone. Some people are not made for swinging! "

So her gut was doing it’s job correctly then

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