FabSwingers.com forum: why cant i find anyone to meet birmingham?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have been on here for a little while now and not had any luck. i take it there are just far to many men on this site. i am very genuine and in some need of some good sex. any tips or anyone in birmingham free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be on here quite a while lomger

Good Luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

birmingham socials do go on i was at one last night

keep an eye on the forums for meets and socials and go in the chatrooms and chat to people

have fun and relax

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

birmingham is full of swingers! just a tip tho ,having no avatar pic does put people off ,my personal opinion only,but it hardly means you stand out xx

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

sorry I just read your profile .it seems nice and friendly ,good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and will depend on the pic he puts on as sometimes the shadow black person is better than some pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hmmm i thought i had one up on my profile nothing dirty just a face pic. ive had more luck on other sites which arnt ment to meet people for sex. i wanna join chams but little unsire been to mens saunas around the area and love them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's something about a man who willingly ticks the "curvy" box that really really puts me off. Might not be the right view, but it's my view.

Also your profile is just "meh". it just doesn't say anything. It's not bad, it's not good. It's just... well, do read it, if you read it would you say "wow, I have to meet this guy!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and quite importantly, you have said you are straight and that you are only looking for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmm i thought i had one up on my profile nothing dirty just a face pic. ive had more luck on other sites which arnt ment to meet people for sex. i wanna join chams but little unsire been to mens saunas around the area and love them. "

so are you straight or bi

as on the profile it says straight

this is a sex site yes but just as it is doesn't mean all women/men/couples will sleep with anything that moves

respect

boundaries

and have fun

thats the best i can suggest

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

chams is a great place,you are maybe better off hooking up with a fem to go as a couple tho,as they may have a waiting list for single men.I would email the club to check.also get your name down at a few socials.I think chams have one in a couple weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's something about a man who willingly ticks the "curvy" box that really really puts me off. Might not be the right view, but it's my view.

Also your profile is just "meh". it just doesn't say anything. It's not bad, it's not good. It's just... well, do read it, if you read it would you say "wow, I have to meet this guy!""

but curvy could mean anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im bi did not know it said straight either looks like i need to do something to my profile. try spice it up a bit. im not saying i will get to fuck everyone on the site but maybe one would be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's something about a man who willingly ticks the "curvy" box that really really puts me off. Might not be the right view, but it's my view.

Also your profile is just "meh". it just doesn't say anything. It's not bad, it's not good. It's just... well, do read it, if you read it would you say "wow, I have to meet this guy!"

but curvy could mean anything

It could, I just find it very offputting. Like an man describing himself as pretty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im bi did not know it said straight either looks like i need to do something to my profile. try spice it up a bit. im not saying i will get to fuck everyone on the site but maybe one would be nice

This is the problem. It shows you've not even bothered to look at your own profile as you can't see the mistakes.

If you won't make the effort, why would anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is where it gets confusing

if you are happy with the profile leave it as it is. as people are looking for you to be you not faking it or pepping yourself up to be something you arent.

( not that i'm saying u would)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's something about a man who willingly ticks the "curvy" box that really really puts me off. Might not be the right view, but it's my view.

Also your profile is just "meh". it just doesn't say anything. It's not bad, it's not good. It's just... well, do read it, if you read it would you say "wow, I have to meet this guy!"

but curvy could mean anything

It could, I just find it very offputting. Like an man describing himself as pretty. "

if a man calls him pretty makes me think how long does he take to get ready lol

profiles are hard ive decided lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ive just read it and cant see that much wrong with it to be honest. i dont want to write an essay as im sure no one wants to read one! just need that lady or couple to come meet me see what im all about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but u didnt ask about your profile to be fair

but like i say there is people who meet and have fun in Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hehe im sure your one of them brummie jaq

i think its easier for women because of them women to men ratio. if only i was a couple of years older x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't assume that women have the easy ride on here as we are women

i very rarely meet anyone who messages me, i like to read profiles and message people who i know who will meet my criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not change your profile if you dont want to - its yours, not other peoples. If one person has said they dont like the word curvy,but you like it then tough on them isnt it, do not change it for one person. If a guy wants to describe himself as pretty again, good, they should do it, you see a theme here. Some people offering "suggestions" on your profile wouldnt play with you anyway. If theres something that irritates me the most its fellow swingers telling others how to enjoy their own personal swinging experience.

The Birmingham thing, well you just have to keep at it, not getting a response from others is very common. The people you have messaged just dont want to meet. Its not personal, there is nothing wrong with you, you are just not right for them.

Trying to hook up with another female to go to Chams with, dont bank on this, its very unlikely, theres hundreds of guys wanting the same thing, put your energy into buying a lottery ticket, better odds there.

Do ring up Chams and see if there how long the waiting list for single guys is. If they accept you, then go there, alone, and see what happens. You may have a chance to play, you may not. Nothing here is certain, for any of us.

Socials are a good way to get yourself known, look out for them on the meets and events section, that to me is the more likely place you will get to meet some nice people and perhaps fulfil your fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about standing in the Bull Ring with a sandwich board advertising your profile. Starkers should get ya noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree with Iconic, you're struggling to get meets and asking why. If someone says to you well, your profile says straight but you're only looking for men, but you're also looking for any type of woman, then clearly there's confusion there and that may be putting people off...it would me.

If you don't want to clarify who/what you're looking for, then good, but please - spare us coming and posting about your lack of meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive just read it and cant see that much wrong with it to be honest. i dont want to write an essay as im sure no one wants to read one! just need that lady or couple to come meet me see what im all about x"

If you want to meet ladies you really should select that option on your 'Looking for' section on your profile.

Seeing as you are bi then you can show multiple interests such as Men, Women, Couples (FF, MF, MM).

Also, lose the straight bit... if you are bi you should really say so. You'll be pleasantly surprised with the response. There are lots of couples on here looking for a bi guy... If you don't change it, they'll just keep passing you by.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah definitely click the correct boxes as you wont get what you're looking for will you. Its like me clicking the "interested in" box for sheep, having a whole farmyard turn up and then being annoyed that I didnt get Brad Pitt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh yeah definitely click the correct boxes as you wont get what you're looking for will you. Its like me clicking the "interested in" box for sheep, having a whole farmyard turn up and then being annoyed that I didnt get Brad Pitt. "

There's a box for sheep? Oooohhh.... missed that one

Is there one for blow up dolls?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

okay... look at it this way...

what does your profile ACTUALLY say... what i mean by that is this...

take out all the bland buzz words that everyone thinks makes there own profile sound good... if you were looking at that profile how would they know you were talking to them.... tall/short/fat/thin/black/white/bi/straight/singles/couples ect ect ect...

your whole profiles is a lot but says nothing about you... and nothing about the person you are after....

so now you know that.... hand on heart.. would YOU answer your own profile?

and as for swinging in brum, what have you done to help yourself...

there was a social last night... did you go?

there are various clubs on your doorstep... do you go??

if you don't help yourself to help yourself so to speak... then why should any others?????

you can be reactive... or you can be proactive...... up to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't easier for women. I haven't had a sexual meet with anyone from the site for 9 months. You can't make it happen. It just will when the timings right. Meets are out there waiting to happen. Its fate. Good luck and have fun along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a box for sheep? Oooohhh.... missed that one

Only for people with welsh in their usernames or with welsh descendants, as I do

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