FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On average how often do people get let down on a meet??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we counting people who continuously postpone? Because that happens to me weekly and then after about a month or so you've still not met and the entire things was a waste.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Its always happening on here judging by the posts and status updates.

Not had it happen to us ,but we do chat a while,meet socially first etc.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I'm just wondering how many are successful compared to how many are failures?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been pretty fortunate that i've hardly been let down at all. if i have they usually let me know in advance.

definitely less than 1% for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For us about 0% we've never been let down, cancelled yes.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"On average how often do people get let down on a meet?? "

In seven years of meeting: not once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had two letdowns so far but had our doubts when setting up but if you don't turn up you will never know using clubs now to meet most and social events and make friend there which leads to more friends

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've arranged 5 meets (social drink over the course of a year and only one has been a no-show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met about 10 guys from here on my current & last profile, been cancelled on once.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Cancelled 1

No shows 0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On average since I initially joined in 2011, 70% have been no-shows or done the "Let's go for it" and then removed their profiles due to being fantasists.

For the larger part of genuine women, I think it's going to be far easier for single ladies because the males have the advantage/option of "getting their cock wet".

Following what I've read over the years, the option for bi men and bi couples and the success rate with your average Fab user is far lower. Generally because most on here are either shit scared after the fantasy crumbles and it comes to the crunch, are no shows because their partner won't let them out last minute or they've had a wank before they've left the house and too empty to perform again/self satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets 2 shows, will probably change though

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Worst when you've paid already for an expensive hotel

I can't stand for the lack of respect when your date demonstrates an eager passion to meet and not only doesn't show up, but doesn't even answer further messages and still keeps on active in Fabs ...blaming of timewasters!!!

Ok, this not a love stories site, but come on!, we are sharing one of the most intimate part of our lives. If we don't respect humanity here, so where then???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewaster goes with the territory I'm afraid - id guess men suffer the most, but I'm sure some women and couples are plagued as well .........

add into that equation, us Bisexual men go to bottom of the list lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Worst when you've paid already for an expensive hotel

Ok, this not a love stories site, but come on!, we are sharing one of the most intimate part of our lives. If we don't respect humanity here, so where then???

We all use the site differently, so I couldn't imagine spending any money/going out of my way for a meet. If I did I'd factor in timewasters and suck it up.

That said, I'd be pissed off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met about 10 guys from here on my current & last profile, been cancelled on once."
I can see why lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has this thread been commissioned by Sydney University?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"On average how often do people get let down on a meet?? "

7 years ish here... i am can count the amount of occasions on one hand....

the more due diligence you are prepared to do... the less angst and things that go wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst when you've paid already for an expensive hotel

Ok, this not a love stories site, but come on!, we are sharing one of the most intimate part of our lives. If we don't respect humanity here, so where then???

I've dated loads of birds & lost count of the times they have said matey was a minger so they jibbed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In over 10 years of swinging we've had a no show.

Guess it's a combination of not meeting very often and having a good bullshit detector.

Short notice cancellations due to unforseen circumstances, yes, but we've always been understanding about it, as we've had to do it ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a no show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In over 10 years of swinging we've had a no show.

Guess it's a combination of not meeting very often and having a good bullshit detector.

Short notice cancellations due to unforseen circumstances, yes, but we've always been understanding about it, as we've had to do it ourselves.

Oops, I meant never had a no show.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Never had a no show. I always trust my gut instinct, and it evidently hasn't steered me wrong as of yet.

I think the fact I can't meet often, so spend a lot of time chatting to build a good non sexual rapport with the person first helps also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not happened to us so far. But then mr has a strong bullshit detector

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I've had to rearrange personally but never been let down in all my 4ish years on and off here

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Dunno, We've never bleeding had one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on and off this site for a year now. Atleast 80% are timewaster !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far we have had 3 actual meets (social only) and about a dozen dreamers.

Some things are best left to clubs... if the arranged meet is a no show, there's always other people there

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Been on and off this site for a year now. Atleast 80% are timewaster !"

Or you're selection process was at fault in 80% of cases?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Been on here 6 years and never had a no-show when arranging private meets. Had someone cancel with a couple of days notice which was fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on for over a year, met lots of lovely people ......two no shows.....it's amazing how many phones get stolen on here lol

Mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on and off this site for a year now. Atleast 80% are timewaster !

Or you're selection process was at fault in 80% of cases? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst when you've paid already for an expensive hotel

Ok, this not a love stories site, but come on!, we are sharing one of the most intimate part of our lives. If we don't respect humanity here, so where then???

Yeah, because it's really sensible to book up an expensive hotel for a meet you've only exchanged a few messages with and never actually met.

Too many people moaning about timewasters when their own selection criteria is at fault.

Too many people thinking with little brain not big brain.

Remember guys, the body only has enough blood to function when it's spread evenly throughout the body.

If there's too much blood in the little brain there's not enough in the big brain, hence poor decisions when erect.....

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

Been cancelled on once for a meet and met her since.

Once for a social and haven't rearranged yet.

Never been stood up and never had a time waster.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Never had a situation where those we were meeting have stood us up. A few cancels but in all but one case we have rearranged for later. Perhaps we have been lucky

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"Worst when you've paid already for an expensive hotel

Ok, this not a love stories site, but come on!, we are sharing one of the most intimate part of our lives. If we don't respect humanity here, so where then???

Yeah, because it's really sensible to book up an expensive hotel for a meet you've only exchanged a few messages with and never actually met.

Too many people moaning about timewasters when their own selection criteria is at fault.

Too many people thinking with little brain not big brain.

Remember guys, the body only has enough blood to function when it's spread evenly throughout the body.

If there's too much blood in the little brain there's not enough in the big brain, hence poor decisions when erect....."

Thank you for your wise words. I never figured out that it could happen...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few meets cancel on me before the meet which I don't mind, I don't actually class them as time wasters if they let me know before hand in good time for me not to get ready and leave the house, people have life's, things come up I respect that

I join the site in 2008 and only had two no shows, one couple and one single guy, I don't think that's bad odd and they were both in the early days before I became better at judging who I met

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

To be honest I've never been let down on here get to no the person first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst when you've paid already for an expensive hotel

Ok, this not a love stories site, but come on!, we are sharing one of the most intimate part of our lives. If we don't respect humanity here, so where then???

Yeah, because it's really sensible to book up an expensive hotel for a meet you've only exchanged a few messages with and never actually met.

Too many people moaning about timewasters when their own selection criteria is at fault.

Too many people thinking with little brain not big brain.

Remember guys, the body only has enough blood to function when it's spread evenly throughout the body.

If there's too much blood in the little brain there's not enough in the big brain, hence poor decisions when erect.....

Thank you for your wise words. I never figured out that it could happen... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us about 0% we've never been let down, cancelled yes."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us about 0% we've never been let down, cancelled yes.

This.

Yes, this.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Been on here 8 months now and learnt some harsh lessons but we are now more careful in the way we select potential friends and things are now looking good.

Mr horny mids.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I must have been very lucky indeed, or is it being selective and taking my time that helps?

Zero no shows for either socials or meets.

I believe it to be a poor show not to show up for anything arranged (real emergency excluded)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must have been very lucky indeed, or is it being selective and taking my time that helps?

Zero no shows for either socials or meets.

I believe it to be a poor show not to show up for anything arranged (real emergency excluded)

You make your own luck with swinging.

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