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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So you know how it is, you're a bloke chatting to a few women on here but there's this one that just stands out, She's the one that you want to meet up with above all others on here.

You chat, you get on so well, on the same wavelength. There's banter, saucy innuendo, but its more than that, over time there's a real concern for each other and you share very intimate things, tell each other stuff and are there for each other.

All you both want is friends with benefits, and it wouldn't even matter if the benefits were few and far between because you both feel it and don't care.

Saying this, Its been 2 months and you still haven't met. There's been opportunities but either you cant make it due to circumstances or she's rearranged and then cancelled.

You're in touch loads of times every day by message and chat on the phone every now and then. She's saying that you make her day, you make her laugh, You know that she's meeting others and you are too but still its her that you want to meet.

As time goes on, doubts start creeping in, is she really that bothered about meeting? Are you just one of many that she seems to make feel special? Have you just missed that window of opportunity? basically, Is it or was it all just bullshit?

So what do you do? Keep on chatting and hope the time will come? Just tell her how it is and see what she says? Give up and move on? Ask her to meet you or basically fuck off?

That is the question, What would you do?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A) tell her to met tonight and do one

Or

B) keep chatting cos you like each other and real life gets in the way of mets sometimes

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

I have got news for you!

The "girl" you have been chatting to is actually a 24 stone lorry driver called Keith!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have got news for you!

The "girl" you have been chatting to is actually a 24 stone lorry driver called Keith!

"

Oh no! Not 'keef' the smooth talking artic man?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do what feels right OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're meant to meet you will do.

Personally if I had that connection with someone then nothing would stop me meeting them and if they felt the same they would move hell and high water too

Good luck with that, I understand it's hard because you believe in the connection. However, as you haven't met after a few months then is it really that strong?

Is distance a factor in the equation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just do what feels right OP"

I wish I knew what felt right! I know she's not Keith anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, could well be a fake. I entered into a long corrispondance with profiles on here like that. I opened up to them emotionally, but they would never meet, or we would decide to meet, but they would never show up and could'nt give me a phone number etc.

My advice to you is to tell them you want to meet, and set a time and place. If they say it's incovientient or something set another time and place which is convienient. If they don't turn up my suggestion is to block them and forget them since the cycle could start all over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its meant to happen it will...eventually

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op

I would keep chatting if i wanted to meet,but meet others too.

Don't limit yourself as you may be disappointed.

As others have said ,life can get in the way of meets ,but if its constant cancellations on her part i would be wary.

Good luck

Miss

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Seriously, 2 chances as above is fair, and after that, forget them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ask to chat over webcam or facetime doesnt need to be sexy i would just want to confirm they are who they say they are

If theyre fake move on if they are who they say they are id keep chatting worse case scenario you never get jiggy but you still have a freind who makes you feel good and brightens up your day whi doesnt want nore of them

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the opinions guys, Can I just say that It does sound like a scam I know but I've no doubt that she is female and is who she says she is!

Have chatted on skype, phoned, seen pictures, sent vids to each other, connected on Facebook and other social media.

Anyway, thanks again. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would ask to chat over webcam or facetime doesnt need to be sexy i would just want to confirm they are who they say they are

If theyre fake move on if they are who they say they are id keep chatting worse case scenario you never get jiggy but you still have a freind who makes you feel good and brightens up your day whi doesnt want nore of them

Mr "

OP, just ask her to meet. If the answer is no, you have the solution to your problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the opinions guys, Can I just say that It does sound like a scam I know but I've no doubt that she is female and is who she says she is!

Have chatted on skype, phoned, seen pictures, sent vids to each other, connected on Facebook and other social media.

Anyway, thanks again. X "

If you know she is genuine what have you got to lose by chatting with her and what do you have to gain by cutting contact the sex may happen it may not but if you have a freind it hasnt been a waste of time at all

Good luck

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the opinions guys, Can I just say that It does sound like a scam I know but I've no doubt that she is female and is who she says she is!

Have chatted on skype, phoned, seen pictures, sent vids to each other, connected on Facebook and other social media.

Anyway, thanks again. X "

I'd say hang on in there. For me personally, if someone has got the Facebook friendship, then I value them a lot! But that might just me. Keep trying to arrange a meet, you'll probably find that it will happen really randomly.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a bit lovey dovey to me message everyday ?? speak on the phone ?? clingy stuff sounds like you both are trying to date not swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds a bit lovey dovey to me message everyday ?? speak on the phone ?? clingy stuff sounds like you both are trying to date not swing "

And? It happens on here. It's not uncommon for two people who share a common interest to start dating.

A lot of singles on here will openly admit to wanting something more with a like minded person.

Where better to find a potential partner into swinging than on a swingers site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds a bit lovey dovey to me message everyday ?? speak on the phone ?? clingy stuff sounds like you both are trying to date not swing

And? It happens on here. It's not uncommon for two people who share a common interest to start dating.

A lot of singles on here will openly admit to wanting something more with a like minded person.

Where better to find a potential partner into swinging than on a swingers site? "

I agree folk should do as they please please forgive me for having my say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds a bit lovey dovey to me message everyday ?? speak on the phone ?? clingy stuff sounds like you both are trying to date not swing

And? It happens on here. It's not uncommon for two people who share a common interest to start dating.

A lot of singles on here will openly admit to wanting something more with a like minded person.

Where better to find a potential partner into swinging than on a swingers site?

I agree folk should do as they please please forgive me for having my say "

You agree folk should do as they please, as long as it suits your way of thinking? How very gracious of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds a bit lovey dovey to me message everyday ?? speak on the phone ?? clingy stuff sounds like you both are trying to date not swing

And? It happens on here. It's not uncommon for two people who share a common interest to start dating.

A lot of singles on here will openly admit to wanting something more with a like minded person.

Where better to find a potential partner into swinging than on a swingers site?

I agree folk should do as they please please forgive me for having my say

You agree folk should do as they please, as long as it suits your way of thinking? How very gracious of you.

"

ok so now your telling me how I think lol im all for people doing there own thing all I said was it sounded like dating not swinging ..get over your self and go bully someone else ..mrs rasp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not here for months of chit chat, I wouldn't allow it to initially happen. If I can't arrange a meet within a short period of messaging, then I'll move on. If they/you want to meet then you would, bloody unlucky not to have time to meet within a few months. After all may not be physically attracted to them in person, so just a friend and no more.

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have got news for you!

The "girl" you have been chatting to is actually a 24 stone lorry driver called Keith!

"

I dispute that comment, no way am I 24 stone

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham


"So you know how it is, you're a bloke chatting to a few women on here but there's this one that just stands out, She's the one that you want to meet up with above all others on here.

You chat, you get on so well, on the same wavelength. There's banter, saucy innuendo, but its more than that, over time there's a real concern for each other and you share very intimate things, tell each other stuff and are there for each other.

All you both want is friends with benefits, and it wouldn't even matter if the benefits were few and far between because you both feel it and don't care.

Saying this, Its been 2 months and you still haven't met. There's been opportunities but either you cant make it due to circumstances or she's rearranged and then cancelled.

You're in touch loads of times every day by message and chat on the phone every now and then. She's saying that you make her day, you make her laugh, You know that she's meeting others and you are too but still its her that you want to meet.

As time goes on, doubts start creeping in, is she really that bothered about meeting? Are you just one of many that she seems to make feel special? Have you just missed that window of opportunity? basically, Is it or was it all just bullshit?

So what do you do? Keep on chatting and hope the time will come? Just tell her how it is and see what she says? Give up and move on? Ask her to meet you or basically fuck off?

That is the question, What would you do?

"

Would see if she's real and suggest a face to face cam chat. This is also a good way to make sure it's the same person in the picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lost me at so you know how it is........ I can't be doing with moaning feel sorry for me threads....... I did read through the above said DROSS tho and at first thought to my self the OP needs to get some MAN UP PILLS. I then thought well he has obviously been talking to a bloke who has in turn been talking to a shadow with no photos........ Don't feel bad mate im sure it happens to every one from time to time. I once got strung along in here by a woman who turned out to be an ice cream man called Derek from Preston....... I am still seing him tho as I get free choc ices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've had some guys take a year to meet me, they were far away but i really liked them so felt they were worth waiting for.

if you're still contacting each other regularly tht's a good sign, imo AND so long as they're genuine, coz they haven't lost interest and neither have you.

never keep your eggs in one basket on here though. make sure you're planning stuff with loads of people, or as many as possible, because so many people can let you down at the last minute or not want what you want and you don't wanna be that desperate that take any option that isn't right for you.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"So you know how it is, you're a bloke chatting to a few women on here but there's this one that just stands out, She's the one that you want to meet up with above all others on here.

You chat, you get on so well, on the same wavelength. There's banter, saucy innuendo, but its more than that, over time there's a real concern for each other and you share very intimate things, tell each other stuff and are there for each other.

All you both want is friends with benefits, and it wouldn't even matter if the benefits were few and far between because you both feel it and don't care.

Saying this, Its been 2 months and you still haven't met. There's been opportunities but either you cant make it due to circumstances or she's rearranged and then cancelled.

You're in touch loads of times every day by message and chat on the phone every now and then. She's saying that you make her day, you make her laugh, You know that she's meeting others and you are too but still its her that you want to meet.

As time goes on, doubts start creeping in, is she really that bothered about meeting? Are you just one of many that she seems to make feel special? Have you just missed that window of opportunity? basically, Is it or was it all just bullshit?

So what do you do? Keep on chatting and hope the time will come? Just tell her how it is and see what she says? Give up and move on? Ask her to meet you or basically fuck off?

That is the question, What would you do?

"

Your over thinking in my opinion the woman in question makes you feel good just relax and go with the flow I'm assuming she genuine by that I mean she verified as so you have spoken on the phone .

If that's the case your over complicating things due to your feelings the trick the very hard trick is to except your feelings except you may never meet her and except if you do all it will most likely be is a beautiful heady meeting of two people who really enjoy each other as human beings and because of that fact have great sex when they meet .

you must also be mindful that each meet maybe the last and because of that fact give each meet and her everything you can leaving nothing on the table on each meet.

And on the day it ends if it ends you must grieve but remember your life was and still is all the richer for having known her even if it was only for a brief time .

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If you are happy to be friendzoned just keep going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You lost me at so you know how it is........ I can't be doing with moaning feel sorry for me threads....... I did read through the above said DROSS tho and at first thought to my self the OP needs to get some MAN UP PILLS. I then thought well he has obviously been talking to a bloke who has in turn been talking to a shadow with no photos........ Don't feel bad mate im sure it happens to every one from time to time. I once got strung along in here by a woman who turned out to be an ice cream man called Derek from Preston....... I am still seing him tho as I get free choc ices "

No one forced you to read it, then again, no one forces you to be a complete c@nt either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lost me at so you know how it is........ I can't be doing with moaning feel sorry for me threads....... I did read through the above said DROSS tho and at first thought to my self the OP needs to get some MAN UP PILLS. I then thought well he has obviously been talking to a bloke who has in turn been talking to a shadow with no photos........ Don't feel bad mate im sure it happens to every one from time to time. I once got strung along in here by a woman who turned out to be an ice cream man called Derek from Preston....... I am still seing him tho as I get free choc ices

No one forced you to read it, then again, no one forces you to be a complete c@nt either."

Ooo ooh you are grumpy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be a few things:

1) she realised that you get on and is scared that if she met you and the sexual attraction is also there - it could lead to something more serious and she doesn't want to enter into any sort of relationship with commitment.

2) she isn't sexually attracted to you but gets in well as a friend on here but doesn't know how to let you down without hurting your feelings

3) she has confidence issues and perhaps thinks that you think she is something she isn't ie. Pics can be deceptive and she would rather let you keep the current image of her in your mind than meet and you see what she is really like in çase that changes your opinion of her

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"It could be a few things:

1) she realised that you get on and is scared that if she met you and the sexual attraction is also there - it could lead to something more serious and she doesn't want to enter into any sort of relationship with commitment.

2) she isn't sexually attracted to you but gets in well as a friend on here but doesn't know how to let you down without hurting your feelings

3) she has confidence issues and perhaps thinks that you think she is something she isn't ie. Pics can be deceptive and she would rather let you keep the current image of her in your mind than meet and you see what she is really like in çase that changes your opinion of her"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 2 lengthy cyber affairs from this lifestyle. Intoxicating, frustrating. These men were real because we did meet them eventually. The first one I never understood what his problem was, why he made it so difficult to meet, and it was left as one of life's unresolved enigmas. The second was, I did know what the problem was, so I did get closure. It's very easy to get sucked into the fantasy, but it's fun. Can't advise what's best for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lost me at so you know how it is........ I can't be doing with moaning feel sorry for me threads....... I did read through the above said DROSS tho and at first thought to my self the OP needs to get some MAN UP PILLS. I then thought well he has obviously been talking to a bloke who has in turn been talking to a shadow with no photos........ Don't feel bad mate im sure it happens to every one from time to time. I once got strung along in here by a woman who turned out to be an ice cream man called Derek from Preston....... I am still seing him tho as I get free choc ices

No one forced you to read it, then again, no one forces you to be a complete c@nt either."

Ooooooooooow, you really are a grumpy old shadow arnt you...... Maybe that could be why you have not met this said person in question as yet, but then again if you can`t read my comment with the banter it was meant then hey who gives a shit, go and be a big cry baby some were else...... Toodle oooooow

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