FabSwingers.com forum: Questionable Health

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

What prompts this is this week some challenged me about my health in that he thinks if someone states or clarifies he/she is STD tested regularly , he/she must have something to hide as apposed to just being safe/careful.......

..... did that make sense ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really but regular health checks make bloody good sense if meeting multiple partners for sex even if you play safe

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

So because you get tested regularly you must have something to hide..

What a silly person to suggest that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So because you get tested regularly you must have something to hide..

What a silly person to suggest that. "

Agreed ... I ended up blocking the guy as he was doing my head in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they think you play bare regularly . But being tested regularly is spot on I tend to after I have met someone new , literally every time as I am paranoid even tho I play safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No not really but regular health checks make bloody good sense if meeting multiple partners for sex even if you play safe

totally agree - I guess in his defence.....not that I feel he deserves it...... but I am bisexual and with that goes the stigma that us Bi men are dirty men walking round sticking cocks up men bums and then jumping into bed with women........

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they think you play bare regularly . But being tested regularly is spot on I tend to after I have met someone new , literally every time as I am paranoid even tho I play safe "

Your not paranoid about it, just safe and that's what counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what you would have to hide by having a regular STI test, other than the fact that you have multiple partners. But hey this is a swingers site, so mulitiple partners is the norm. Isn't it? Some people get a bit twitchy about that!

That being said, we wouldn't discuss our sexual health on our profile. We do get tested regularly, but with regards to our sexual partners a condom is good enough for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Do you mean if you post it on your profile he feels you have something to hide, rather than the fact you get tested?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know what you would have to hide by having a regular STI test, other than the fact that you have multiple partners. But hey this is a swingers site, so mulitiple partners is the norm. Isn't it? Some people get a bit twitchy about that!

That being said, we wouldn't discuss our sexual health on our profile. We do get tested regularly, but with regards to our sexual partners a condom is good enough for us."

well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Do you mean if you post it on your profile he feels you have something to hide, rather than the fact you get tested?"

Yeah i am guessing that was his tact .... as i said above, i am openly Bi here and on sister site, so id add that perhaps he made judgments without the facts ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Do you mean if you post it on your profile he feels you have something to hide, rather than the fact you get tested?

Yeah i am guessing that was his tact .... as i said above, i am openly Bi here and on sister site, so id add that perhaps he made judgments without the facts ???

To be honest I always find it a bit odd when people post the dates of their last test on their profile

What does it prove? You could pick something up a week after testing so getting tested regular does not make you clear of sti's on the day of your meeting

I've never though it's because they have something to hide but I can see why some would see it like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pisses me off, some people are that paranoid they shouldn't even be on here.

i was talking about something in the forums, nothing to do with meets, and got asked if i used condoms... i have mentioned in appropriate topics what i do and how i work and i discuss that with meets also.

if you're worried about getting STIs (which you should be) then by all means do protect yourself but if you're paranoid about them then fucking random people probably isn't what you should be doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people act as if chlamydia causes instant death, but then don't practice safe oral... makes no sense!

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By *izbitMan
over a year ago

St Helens

Getting checked regularly shows responsible and mature behaviour in my books. As stated yes oral can spread infections to so if anything I'd be more inclined to meet those that have the sense to get checked regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Do you mean if you post it on your profile he feels you have something to hide, rather than the fact you get tested?

Yeah i am guessing that was his tact .... as i said above, i am openly Bi here and on sister site, so id add that perhaps he made judgments without the facts ???

To be honest I always find it a bit odd when people post the dates of their last test on their profile

What does it prove? You could pick something up a week after testing so getting tested regular does not make you clear of sti's on the day of your meeting

I've never though it's because they have something to hide but I can see why some would see it like that"

Because a scary number of people don't even get tested at all! They stupidly believe that condoms are the magic glass slipper of our generation and they are the biggest disease bags going!

We hear: "oh we don't get tested because we only fuck other couples!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Do you mean if you post it on your profile he feels you have something to hide, rather than the fact you get tested?

Yeah i am guessing that was his tact .... as i said above, i am openly Bi here and on sister site, so id add that perhaps he made judgments without the facts ???

To be honest I always find it a bit odd when people post the dates of their last test on their profile

What does it prove? You could pick something up a week after testing so getting tested regular does not make you clear of sti's on the day of your meeting

I've never though it's because they have something to hide but I can see why some would see it like that"

That's a good point made - but i guess it goes to show that sometime we cant right for doing wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"pisses me off, some people are that paranoid they shouldn't even be on here.

if you're worried about getting STIs (which you should be) then by all means do protect yourself but if you're paranoid about them then fucking random people probably isn't what you should be doing.

yet another excellent response - well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people act as if chlamydia causes instant death, but then don't practice safe oral... makes no sense!"

This so much lol

Testing actually doesn't even mean you're clear...It only means nothing showed up on the test result. Some STIs have an incubation period and may actually show a couple weeks after you last test. The test actually is no guarantee of anyone's 'cleaness'....

On a point raised earlier implying getting tested means something to hide.... just because I take malaria tablets it doesn't mean I have malaria...If i take hep B it doesn't mean I have hepatitis....if I go for a physical MOT at the docs it doesn't mean I have a heart condition.....All it means is that person is being responsible in looking after their own body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting checked regularly shows responsible and mature behaviour in my books. As stated yes oral can spread infections to so if anything I'd be more inclined to meet those that have the sense to get checked regularly "

There's no downside to getting tested and plenty of downside to not getting tested.

The fact that a test can't prove what's happened since the test or people may lie is irrelevant.

There are so many ridiculous statements on this thread from people who would frankly rather feel good about being ignorant. If you're happy with the risk, that's fine. But come up with one logical reason why no test is better than a test?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no downside to getting tested and plenty of downside to not getting tested.

The fact that a test can't prove what's happened since the test or people may lie is irrelevant.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Because a scary number of people don't even get tested at all! They stupidly believe that condoms are the magic glass slipper of our generation and they are the biggest disease bags going!

We hear: "oh we don't get tested because we only fuck other couples!" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finally, the cavalry of common sense have arrived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finally, the cavalry of common sense have arrived. "

Ignorance can create a storm in a teacup if it is perpetuated.

Sometimes there is the 'reply to a post but it's unrelated except it's my crusade' syndrome which is often on the forums. It's not hard to see those who have a chip or crusade about something.... just look at the bi threads and you'll see it every where on both sides of the argument's too.

It's a shame people have to make things personal....a good debate can be heated and clever without personalising it and it's great to read and be involved but then there are the others....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finally, the cavalry of common sense have arrived.

Ignorance can create a storm in a teacup if it is perpetuated.

It's a shame people have to make things personal....a good debate can be heated and clever without personalising it and it's great to read and be involved but then there are the others....

Well I would say that I do have a chip on my shoulder about testing. It's something we ask any potential meet and probably a third of people get the huff when we ask, and communication ends. I think that's a toxic attitude to have in a community that is higher risk and we watch people's verifications accordingly.

But logic is logic whether someone is saying it because they have a chip on their shoulder or just for the hell of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Does your friend think that people that would volunteer to take a polygraph are more likely to be lying and have something to hide?

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By *akeyousmile30Man
over a year ago

greenwich

I so agree with you!!!

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By *akeyousmile30Man
over a year ago

greenwich

"Some people act as if chlamydia causes instant death, but then don't practice safe oral... makes no sense!"

I so agree with you!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Thing is how would people even know if you got regularly tested.

I dont get a text they woulf ring me if anything was wrong and i know where my son goes you only get a texf if something is wrong.

So for all anyone knows ive never even been for a test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finally, the cavalry of common sense have arrived.

Ignorance can create a storm in a teacup if it is perpetuated.

It's a shame people have to make things personal....a good debate can be heated and clever without personalising it and it's great to read and be involved but then there are the others....

But logic is logic whether someone is saying it because they have a chip on their shoulder or just for the hell of it. "

I wouldn't worry about it. If you ask them and they decline to answer then move on ...simple. There are things I request and if they decline I just move on. There are thousands of people on here. Some will fit your bill.....many won't.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

Does your friend think that people that would volunteer to take a polygraph are more likely to be lying and have something to hide? "

Everytime the polygraph operative asks you a question imagine you are jumping off a cliff. They will realise you have been taught to defeat the machine and will turn you over to someone with a rubber hose.

Spitting in their eye might give them your diseases. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

Is that you saying that "you can't educate pork"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

I think by the very fact of the subjects popularity and in some cases apparent understanding of the subject it reflects an underlying lack of trust in these circles. I wouldn't meet anyone who if asked declined to reassure me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

I have a txt messages to show them....I'd expect the same. One uses various forms of filters. I don't do parties or socials/ group meets. Mine are one to one and very few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

My Sexual Health is Questioned All the time by too many people? Yet the people who Question My Sexual Health should Question their own Sexual Healths! I Don't care about their Sexual Healths and I'm Only Sexually active with My Fiancé

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

so whose asking then if your not meeting for sex. i swear in ten years i dont recall anyone asking how often i go for checkups

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

I have a txt messages to show them....I'd expect the same. One uses various forms of filters. I don't do parties or socials/ group meets. Mine are one to one and very few."
well id be buggered then if people started asking for text messages as i dont get them plus they would then need proof i havent had sex since my last test which noone can proove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or to put it another way - have you ever been questioned about your current health status ?????

..... did that make sense ???

so whose asking then if your not meeting for sex. i swear in ten years i dont recall anyone asking how often i go for checkups"

Damn knowsy people who all need to mind their own businesses!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well theres only one person i ever question about their sexual health and thats my son and thats how i found out not everywhere sends text if everything is clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

I have a txt messages to show them....I'd expect the same. One uses various forms of filters. I don't do parties or socials/ group meets. Mine are one to one and very few.well id be buggered then if people started asking for text messages as i dont get them plus they would then need proof i havent had sex since my last test which noone can proove"

Nothing is fool proof nothing is risk less. The ones I meet have no issue with it and never have. As I said there's all manner of filters use on here. Some say Athletic when they mean... I watch it from the couch. When you ask for a pic maybe they used a wide and Lelense up close. Others say bbw but in reality it's just their perception of themselves.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

Mine does.... now I know people will jump in and say ...but how do you know they didn't just have a gangbang just afterwards.... lol. Well that's not they type I'd be chatting to in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people seem to think that just because you can't eliminate risk, then there's no point trying to mitigate it.

A lot of people clearly post without reading the thread too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't need to be a gangbang, could just be one person!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

Mine does.... now I know people will jump in and say ...but how do you know they didn't just have a gangbang just afterwards.... lol. Well that's not they type I'd be chatting to in the first place. "
but they dont have to have had a gangbang only takes one meet from date of test to when you meet that person. I understand what your saying but can you see why some people dont take any notice. If i took my summary down noone would have a bloody clue. Well they wouldnt have a clue anyway as thats only people ive been verified by.

Its a site for casual sex noone really has a clue what anyone is to apart from the ones that broadcast it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I wouldn't have even responded to the message in the first place. There is no point getting into these kind of exchanges

Mine does.... now I know people will jump in and say ...but how do you know they didn't just have a gangbang just afterwards.... lol. Well that's not they type I'd be chatting to in the first place. but they dont have to have had a gangbang only takes one meet from date of test to when you meet that person. I understand what your saying but can you see why some people dont take any notice. If i took my summary down noone would have a bloody clue. Well they wouldnt have a clue anyway as thats only people ive been verified by.

Its a site for casual sex noone really has a clue what anyone is to apart from the ones that broadcast it"

Even a test only shows your clear...not that anything is lurking. Some STIs can be dormant for 4 or 5 weeks. Hense a need for regular tests for ones own personal health too.

As I said it's only a filtering system ...One of many.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"A lot of people seem to think that just because you can't eliminate risk, then there's no point trying to mitigate it.

A lot of people clearly post without reading the thread too. "
of cause there is a point i look after myself the best i can but that isnt by relying on someones elses word for it. Im not going to protect myself any differently if i did have evidence they where 100% clear anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of people seem to think that just because you can't eliminate risk, then there's no point trying to mitigate it.

A lot of people clearly post without reading the thread too. of cause there is a point i look after myself the best i can but that isnt by relying on someones elses word for it. Im not going to protect myself any differently if i did have evidence they where 100% clear anyway"

Who said anything about relying on it?

It's a simple question about whether people who get tested regularly are higher or lower risk than people who don't. Since a lot of STIs won't show symptoms and a quarter of HIV carriers are unaware, then you need a pretty dim view of humanity to think people doing a test aren't lower risk (i.e they know they have something but they are happy to spread it anyway). It's also illegal not to inform a partner that you have HIV too.

If they are lower risk then it's a simple filter than in turn, reduces the probability you will catch something.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"A lot of people seem to think that just because you can't eliminate risk, then there's no point trying to mitigate it.

Who said anything about relying on it?

If they are lower risk then it's a simple filter than in turn, reduces the probability you will catch something. "
my answer has nothing to do with being tested. Now i like to think i meet people who take there health setiously i dont need a yes or know answer.

Now if i was someone who didnt get tested im sure i could easily con people into thinking i did. Now the guy further up who was saying about text messages thats fine but what if your clinic diesnt send text messages.

All we can do and know ,100% is im looking after myself. This is a site where generally people are looking for a variety of sex with different people. If your going to be waiting for test results to come back everytime you have sex then your not going to be having nuch sex

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Anyway im going to leave the thread cause i thought i was posting to a similar thread but with a different op thats why i kept going on about taking peoples word for it as thst was actually what the other thread was about.

Apologises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of people seem to think that just because you can't eliminate risk, then there's no point trying to mitigate it.

Who said anything about relying on it?

If they are lower risk then it's a simple filter than in turn, reduces the probability you will catch something. my answer has nothing to do with being tested. Now i like to think i meet people who take there health setiously i dont need a yes or know answer.

The guy further up wouldn't meet if he felt the need to ask and one couldn't provide so that solves the issue. Quite simple. I guess if they really wanted to meet then they'd find a way....like in every situation on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of people seem to think that just because you can't eliminate risk, then there's no point trying to mitigate it.

Who said anything about relying on it?

If they are lower risk then it's a simple filter than in turn, reduces the probability you will catch something. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am so glad my topic as raised a subject worth chatting about

But simple truth is, is not better to "safer" wherever you can and YES to the forum police, I accept tested today, does not necessarily mean your safe tomorrow - but surly it adds some confidence that your taking life of a swinger serious

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

It makes sense to get tested regularly and I'd rather meet someone who does rather than one who finds that suspicious!

However dating that I'm put off meeting singles with lots of bb pics regardless of whether they get tested regularly or not. If I'm honest all you pics look bare OP - could that be what was driving the question from the person?

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