FabSwingers.com forum: Taking rejection badly

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some really don't take it well do they?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Some really don't take it well do they? "

Life's losers take it badly but a/successful person just brushes it off thinking I was successful in the past I will be successful in the future so today's set back is just that a small bump along the road of my seccessful life nothing more nothing less .

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Some really don't take it well do they?

I never see being turned down as rejection - it's just a fact that I might not be to that person's taste.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they?

I never see being turned down as rejection - it's just a fact that I might not be to that person's taste. "

Exactly but it seems that is considered wrong.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Some really don't take it well do they?

Correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes me cry

Tissue?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone. "

Same here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No they dont i just had my first experience of this and all i can think is what a bloody lucky escape

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"It makes me cry

Tissue?

Bless you.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Some really don't take it well do they?...

I never see being turned down as rejection - it's just a fact that I might not be to that person's taste. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No they dont i just had my first experience of this and all i can think is what a bloody lucky escape"

Too right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had it lots unfortunately. I've said a polite thanks you're not for me and I've got back varying from

Going to throw acid in your face

You're a fat bitch anyway

It was a dare

I felt sorry for you

I was doing it out of charity

It's sad...as it's been said. We can't fancy everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately some people on here don't have the maturity to accept a polite no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately some people on here don't have the maturity to accept a polite no thank you

This

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By *atie ShayTV/TS
over a year ago

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

Same here."

Yep I haven't either!

I tell a lot of men they ain't my type unfortunately but they tend to just not reply.

I get the persistent beggars lol but they are usually polite.

I fully expected some serious abuse for regecting folk too!

Could it be the rejection message fuelling fire? I always try to be as polite as possible and always thank them for messaging before turning down their offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got one yesterday that went something like " fuck you you're full of shit you bitch this is a sex site not Facebook"

I'm sorry I didn't realise I had to fuck everyone who contacts me coz it's a sex site??!

It was from a 50 year old!

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By *ilvercharmCouple
over a year ago

Our gate

"Got one yesterday that went something like " fuck you you're full of shit you bitch this is a sex site not Facebook"

I'm sorry I didn't realise I had to fuck everyone who contacts me coz it's a sex site??!

It was from a 50 year old!

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he wasn't mature at all then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they? "

Some stories make me smile.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

some times it works the other way. I sent a lady a message like we all do and she turned me down but I said thanks for the reply it takes nothing to be polite.

when I was at club I got talking to her we got on had a laugh and then she asked me to take her to room I said no thanks as you already told me im not your type,

she went mad telling me it was not her and all sorts.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I apparently upset someone's feelings when I failed to respond to his fifth identical message saying I was hotter than his boring girlfriend so much so that he has decided I am no longer hot. Which is the best outcome for all concerned really, especially as I never told him I was hot in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

Same here.

Yep I haven't either!

I tell a lot of men they ain't my type unfortunately but they tend to just not reply.

I get the persistent beggars lol but they are usually polite.

I fully expected some serious abuse for regecting folk too!

Could it be the rejection message fuelling fire? I always try to be as polite as possible and always thank them for messaging before turning down their offer

I wonder if the words people use when rejecting someone affects the abuse rate.

"Fuck off I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last man on earth!" might not get a meek response.

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

I take rejection ok say thank but still willing chat if you like ..or happy swinging as we all want different not for all.

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

"some times it works the other way. I sent a lady a message like we all do and she turned me down but I said thanks for the reply it takes nothing to be polite.

when I was at club I got talking to her we got on had a laugh and then she asked me to take her to room I said no thanks as you already told me im not your type,

she went mad telling me it was not her and all sorts."

Haha would love to have seen her face x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find its the measure of the man. I've had my fair share of rejection messages. The thanks but your not my type.

I just reply with thanks and I wish you luck on here.

But some sad tossers just loose it.

It's would be egotistical of me to assume all women want to sleep with me. I've accepted that. It's a shame others can't.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

Same here.

Yep I haven't either!

I tell a lot of men they ain't my type unfortunately but they tend to just not reply.

I get the persistent beggars lol but they are usually polite.

I fully expected some serious abuse for regecting folk too!

Could it be the rejection message fuelling fire? I always try to be as polite as possible and always thank them for messaging before turning down their offer

I wonder if the words people use when rejecting someone affects the abuse rate.

"Fuck off I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last man on earth!" might not get a meek response.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

Same here.

Yep I haven't either!

I tell a lot of men they ain't my type unfortunately but they tend to just not reply.

I get the persistent beggars lol but they are usually polite.

I fully expected some serious abuse for regecting folk too!

Could it be the rejection message fuelling fire? I always try to be as polite as possible and always thank them for messaging before turning down their offer

I wonder if the words people use when rejecting someone affects the abuse rate.

"Fuck off I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last man on earth!" might not get a meek response.

Ooops

[ must edit standard response ]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not being funny but being the male half of a couple I do kinda feel sorry for single guys on here a bit because it must be so god damn frustrating at times, it's bad enough at times feeling like the tag along to your female partner in the female driven world of swinging.

With that said there really isn't any excuse to be a complete and utter tool, rejection is a part of life, man up, move on and carry on or don't.

Mike

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

it was a picture she said now I seen you face to face lol I did not or will not ever insulte no one thinks it makes it worse that way. still get the odd message I just click read button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

Same here.

Yep I haven't either!

I tell a lot of men they ain't my type unfortunately but they tend to just not reply.

I get the persistent beggars lol but they are usually polite.

I fully expected some serious abuse for regecting folk too!

Could it be the rejection message fuelling fire? I always try to be as polite as possible and always thank them for messaging before turning down their offer

I wonder if the words people use when rejecting someone affects the abuse rate.

"Fuck off I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last man on earth!" might not get a meek response.

Ooops

[ must edit standard response ]"

Add the word "please" after "off".

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone.

Same here.

Yep I haven't either!

I tell a lot of men they ain't my type unfortunately but they tend to just not reply.

I get the persistent beggars lol but they are usually polite.

I fully expected some serious abuse for regecting folk too!

Could it be the rejection message fuelling fire? I always try to be as polite as possible and always thank them for messaging before turning down their offer

I wonder if the words people use when rejecting someone affects the abuse rate.

"Fuck off I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last man on earth!" might not get a meek response.

Ooops

[ must edit standard response ]

Add the word "please" after "off".

You English; you are all so polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get the offended for being not that couples cup of tea to be honest ,We couldn't careless many are not ours either .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got one yesterday that went something like " fuck you you're full of shit you bitch this is a sex site not Facebook"

I'm sorry I didn't realise I had to fuck everyone who contacts me coz it's a sex site??!

It was from a 50 year old!

I have to say the small handful of abusive messages I've received over the years have all been from the 45+ age group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it was a picture she said now I seen you face to face lol I did not or will not ever insulte no one thinks it makes it worse that way. still get the odd message I just click read button"

I will say this, this is a prime example of of what happens on here when all you have is a profile and some pictures. Fems and couples reject you outright based on a photo that maybe doesn't show you in the best light. Yet if they were to see you face to face and get to know the real you, they would maybe have a different view. Such is the nature of social networking.

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By *hrisclairefunCouple
over a year ago

Oxford

We used to try and respond to all of the messages we receive, which meant that we sent a lot of 'no thanks'. It is because of the large number who just wouldn't take no for an answer or kept asking for detailed reasons why that we just stopped. It can really take the fun out of this site for you.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

No one likes being rejected and, while not condoning it, it shouldn't be such a big surprise that some people react badly when it happens to them. In my experience, especially in the real world, woman can, and some sometimes do, react pretty badly to rejection to (I'm sure I'm not the only guy on here who's met more than one 'bunny boiler' in their life).

How people react to rejection is a good indication of how stable and self assured that person is, in a word confidence. I often think that's it's probably a good idea to reject anyone you actually fancy to see how they react. Unfortunately, whilst being a good filter for those you don't want, it can be difficult to get back those you do, so apply with caution.

At the end of the day the reality is is that there is no nice way to reject someone and, however you go about it, it's likely to feel pretty shit for the person being rejected. If they become abusive report and block but otherwise just accept that when you reject someone you're not going to make them feel good or happy about you or themselves and there is absolutely nothing you can do about that except accept it and move on.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"No one likes being rejected and, while not condoning it, it shouldn't be such a big surprise that some people react badly when it happens to them. In my experience, especially in the real world, woman can, and some sometimes do, react pretty badly to rejection to (I'm sure I'm not the only guy on here who's met more than one 'bunny boiler' in their life).

I did say sorry and then made some gravy to go along with it

OK, OK, I'll buy you two new bunnies; one as a spare for next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they don't at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they? "

One loser yesterday told me, after I turned him down, that it was fine as he had just finished walking round a golf course in Spain and that's something I would never be able to do [as I'm a wheelchair user]

Why he thought I'd ever want to, beats me

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Some really don't take it well do they?

Why he thought I'd ever want to, beats me

he said what .....

that's bang out of order hes so fucking lucky this is the internet as that comment said anywhere else would see him swinging from the nearest lamp post,

fucking twat .

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Some really don't take it well do they?

Why he thought I'd ever want to, beats me

You are a very attractive woman and if you hadn't mentioned the wheelchair, I wouldn't even have noticed it

Ignore that bum and join the tosspot slaying team

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had it lots unfortunately. I've said a polite thanks you're not for me and I've got back varying from

Going to throw acid in your face

You're a fat bitch anyway

It was a dare

I felt sorry for you

I was doing it out of charity

It's sad...as it's been said. We can't fancy everyone "

That's awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they?

Why he thought I'd ever want to, beats me

Golfing is a good walk spoilt anyway!!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I was chatting to someone, who was well aware that I wouldn't be able to meet for a while...

Turns out that my reasons weren't good enough, I'm a prick tease slut and I shouldn't be on here if I'm not going to spend more time fucking people

He then went on to say- block me already so I can get over you

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

What you don't know on a site like this is how many people may be socially inept, psychopathic, just plain rude etc.

However, it seems you can often find out after only a couple of mail exchanges.

And if you get the vitriol it would seem you've had a lucky escape...

Of course, it may not be luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting to someone, who was well aware that I wouldn't be able to meet for a while...

Turns out that my reasons weren't good enough, I'm a prick tease slut and I shouldn't be on here if I'm not going to spend more time fucking people

He then went on to say- block me already so I can get over you

I'd of purposely not blocked him and shown him what a tease I can be!!

But some men are just to damaged. Probably got a mother complex he's mommy didn't give him the attention he deserved

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"some times it works the other way. I sent a lady a message like we all do and she turned me down but I said thanks for the reply it takes nothing to be polite.

when I was at club I got talking to her we got on had a laugh and then she asked me to take her to room I said no thanks as you already told me im not your type,

she went mad telling me it was not her and all sorts."

But is that not the problem with this place?, We are expecting to find what we want from a few pictures & a bit of electronic chat, When & if people meet although they might not be the 100% perfect image we have in our heads their personality may make it alright, So she thought you were "worth a punt" if you like, once she'd met you, I see nothing wrong in that tbh & unless her first brush off was downright rude I would have gone with her. You don't say what you you thought of her personality when you met her though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women think it's a given when it's really not, obviously works both ways, end of the day move on and enjoy, plenty more fish on the FAB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most recent one i got was your not the most stunning woman on this site i thought that you would be desperate for a fck

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

I see it as a challenge.

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By *taffsfun73Man
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme

"Ive had it lots unfortunately. I've said a polite thanks you're not for me and I've got back varying from

Going to throw acid in your face

You're a fat bitch anyway

It was a dare

I felt sorry for you

I was doing it out of charity

It's sad...as it's been said. We can't fancy everyone "

Wow is it that bad i might be a little disappointed becasue i though the person i messaged would be good fit and fun but its not life and death guess there are some right knob heads out there keyboard warrior's i hooe and not genuinely dangerous

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

"I'm not being funny but being the male half of a couple I do kinda feel sorry for single guys on here a bit because it must be so god damn frustrating at times, it's bad enough at times feeling like the tag along to your female partner in the female driven world of swinging.

Mike "

I've said a few times that the whole industry exists solely to fulfill women's fantasies and if us guys are really lucky, occasionally we're asked to help out with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they? "
I think if not done in a nasty way its ok. As we cant like everyone or wish to play with everyone here.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

yes it was when I started going to clubs when I joined I met 1 for a drink then started with clubs and within 1 year had 16 meets and met a lady so getting out there is better

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

the only reason I turned her down was the reply I got off her to start with, I always send a polite message to start with and her reply was this

fuck off I only go for big body men so your not my fuck type now piss off prick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only reason I turned her down was the reply I got off her to start with, I always send a polite message to start with and her reply was this

fuck off I only go for big body men so your not my fuck type now piss off prick"

What a coarse rude woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only reason I turned her down was the reply I got off her to start with, I always send a polite message to start with and her reply was this

fuck off I only go for big body men so your not my fuck type now piss off prick"

That's tame. I've had "shave that thing of your face and cut your hair and you might look okish!!" Lol

Also. I've had. "You shouldn't be on this site! You should be on a site for mingers!!"

That made me laugh.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"some times it works the other way. I sent a lady a message like we all do and she turned me down but I said thanks for the reply it takes nothing to be polite.

when I was at club I got talking to her we got on had a laugh and then she asked me to take her to room I said no thanks as you already told me im not your type,

she went mad telling me it was not her and all sorts.

this is only my opinion from reading the OPs post.

his rejection of her was more about getting even in my opinion that about any attraction he had or didn't have for her . he knew who he was approaching before he approached her from his own admission in the post he may have even known she was going to be at that club from her stasis update or profile .

so he saw her in the club approached her no doubt he laid on the charm super thick flirted outrageously just so he could get even and then he moans about how she could handle his playing of her.

sometime she never did to him on site during there first exchange when she rejected him based off of a photo and no doubt a short message .

then to cap it off he drags it in the forum to reinforce his feeling of superiority over her .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We used to belong to an exhibitionist and voyeur site, one man posted for all to see "who would want to fuck a ginger pensioner" and various similar witty notes on all my pictures

. I wouldn't have minded but I wasn't drawing my pension at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only reason I turned her down was the reply I got off her to start with, I always send a polite message to start with and her reply was this

fuck off I only go for big body men so your not my fuck type now piss off prick"
I would never wish to meet a person who chat like that to others so you had a lucky escape.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"the only reason I turned her down was the reply I got off her to start with, I always send a polite message to start with and her reply was this

fuck off I only go for big body men so your not my fuck type now piss off prick"

Wouldn't have given her the time of day then tbh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one this morning.

Squaddie asking for a meet and was told he was too young. After asking why he was politely told that we had a daughter his age and it was just our preference and it didnt sit right.

To which the reply was " yeah, i bet your daughter is a fucking dirty slut just like her mother and i hope she sees your pics plastered all over the internet"

Blocked.... Loser

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Some really don't take it well do they? "

We haven't had that much bother with people getting rude/abusive when we've politely said no thanks. Most either just delete it or reply with a thanks for getting back to us, best wishes type message.

Maybe they weren't that fussed about meeting us in the first place.

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By *atie ShayTV/TS
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they?

Why he thought I'd ever want to, beats me

he said what .....

that's bang out of order hes so fucking lucky this is the internet as that comment said anywhere else would see him swinging from the nearest lamp post,

fucking twat . "

I couldn't agree more! Touched a nerve with me this...

(Father suffers MS)

Wish I knew who it was, I'd set a meeting up and castrate him!

It's because of knobs like him single women are so cautious of men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am yet to receive a hate message for rejecting someone. "

Looks like u haven't checked ur inbox correctly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some really don't take it well do they? "
Premature rejeculation is a cross we single blokes have to bare!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a club and a lady in a hot tub asked me to joinh Her in a private room . I declined as she was nice just not for me . Next thing Her hubby is over saying i should feel honoured to be asked by Her . Next thing he's all around His cluque as most couples are in clubs and i was getting stared and pointed at ..

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I did not go to her she come to me

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I said it on the forum because it is one and the subject come up god some people.

this is a forum for chat I have named no one so whats the harm

up to now we have all had a good talk about things but some one has to put the boot in at some point

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