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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all. I have read posts on here abut men leaving lots of messages and generally being abusive.

It would seem that these men think it's perfectly ok to leave these messages.

I'm firmly in the send one message and if they reply great then send more. If they don't read it or read it and don't reply then that's it. She's not interested. Move on!

We all know it's a bit of a sausage fest on here and I'm definitely in the specialist colum.

But it's egotistical of me to assume that all women want to sleep with me.

But at what point does it get creepy and just wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only this morning had several messages in a row from.same guy.

Started off with the usual "wanna meet today" line.

Ended up with desperate begging "id do anything to get with ye" etc.

Its not attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only this morning had several messages in a row from.same guy.

Started off with the usual "wanna meet today" line.

Ended up with desperate begging "id do anything to get with ye" etc.

Its not attractive "

You get messages!!! Blimey your popular!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only this morning had several messages in a row from.same guy.

Started off with the usual "wanna meet today" line.

Ended up with desperate begging "id do anything to get with ye" etc.

Its not attractive

You get messages!!! Blimey your popular!! Lol "

Haha..was here before as a single guy,

Tumbles in my inbox !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only this morning had several messages in a row from.same guy.

Started off with the usual "wanna meet today" line.

Ended up with desperate begging "id do anything to get with ye" etc.

Its not attractive

You get messages!!! Blimey your popular!! Lol

Haha..was here before as a single guy,

Tumbles in my inbox !!!"

Lucky bugger. ... even the tumbles avoid my inbox...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only this morning had several messages in a row from.same guy.

Started off with the usual "wanna meet today" line.

Ended up with desperate begging "id do anything to get with ye" etc.

Its not attractive

You get messages!!! Blimey your popular!! Lol

Haha..was here before as a single guy,

Tumbles in my inbox !!!"

Oh what I'd do for tumbles!! It would seem even my message box is barren!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Hoover my inbox once a week. Housekeeping is very important to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I Hoover my inbox once a week. Housekeeping is very important to me. "

Lol I'm more a let it all hang out kind of guy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a message and I don't reply, it could be because I am not free at that time. I do try to reply to people who I could be interested in meeting at a later date. I don't mind getting further messages after some time has passed by, if it's someone far away or if I am really not interested I will block. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Hoover my inbox once a week. Housekeeping is very important to me.

Lol I'm more a let it all hang out kind of guy!! "
showing off with your hoover!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I get a message and I don't reply, it could be because I am not free at that time. I do try to reply to people who I could be interested in meeting at a later date. I don't mind getting further messages after some time has passed by, if it's someone far away or if I am really not interested I will block. XXX"

Hi there. This is my point. I remember messaging you. Got no reply. And I assumed you were not interested. But that's your choice. I've accepted that. Why can't other men?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

When they say can we meet on a certain day, only then they send a couple of more messages saying can i come over today or can i come in the morning before your hubby goes to work, when on my profile it says i only meet at certain times and i have told them this already. I now prefer to block men who i have said i dont want to meet so they wont message me again asking to meet except they do sometimes contact me again, there was one who kept deleting his profile then rejoining again and still contacting me. Then you get some who give other men your phone number and address as well, it has happened to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone starts to become a nuisance we block them, we already have new members filtered out, this solves an awful lot of problems. I'm by no means blaming the recipients of multiple messages from the same person but the remedy does lay in their own hands.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they say can we meet on a certain day, only then they send a couple of more messages saying can i come over today or can i come in the morning before your hubby goes to work, when on my profile it says i only meet at certain times and i have told them this already. I now prefer to block men who i have said i dont want to meet so they wont message me again asking to meet except they do sometimes contact me again, there was one who kept deleting his profile then rejoining again and still contacting me. Then you get some who give other men your phone number and address as well, it has happened to me."

I just don't get it. Do they honestly think if they pester you, you'll give in and say" oh go on then, make it quick! !"

But to me a no means no!!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

It's when they send so many messages in a small time framed I once got 10 quick one liner messages in the space of an hour once, total turn off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's when they send so many messages in a small time framed I once got 10 quick one liner messages in the space of an hour once, total turn off "

Shame he seems a keeper!!

But clearly my point. It then became a problem.

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By *organ81Man
over a year ago

ennis

I don't get why people get abusive, is it because they are behind a keyboard. They would never act that way in a bar, at least I hope they wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the trick was to spam that mother fucker until she gives up and agrees to fuck you? Am I wrong?

I should change tactics I suppose

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"Only this morning had several messages in a row from.same guy.

Started off with the usual "wanna meet today" line.

Ended up with desperate begging "id do anything to get with ye" etc.

Its not attractive "

Well you are insanely hot.

I can see why guys try their luck!

Oh to have a well trained and firm bod! On my wish list!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I don't get why people get abusive, is it because they are behind a keyboard. They would never act that way in a bar, at least I hope they wouldn't "

I've had it in a bar once the "like I wanted to shag you anyway" sort of retort when I've not been interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But at what point does it get creepy and just wrong?"

When at no point in time did I express any interest in you but you continue to pester me in chat and by mails always now asking when can they f@'k me.

I NEVER SAID I WANTED TOO!

Now that is just plain wrong and borderline creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

trouble is guys don't understand that we get 100s of messages but if we are only looking to play with one guy then that's a lot of no's, so because we say no once don't mean we will say no next time as said on our profile its a bit like a sweet shop in here and its hard to choose sometime, guys we wont meet 100% go on our block list and then guys who get pushy pissy and persistent join them.

rude or nasty messages are great as it makes our mind up str8 away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We clearly get more messages from single males that have not read our profile. These we find annoying, along with the one liners "want my BBC"

There should be some method to score or flag junk mail.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We clearly get more messages from single males that have not read our profile. These we find annoying, along with the one liners "want my BBC"

There should be some method to score or flag junk mail. "

I read them. So if I see not looking for single males I won't message you. It's easy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"trouble is guys don't understand that we get 100s of messages but if we are only looking to play with one guy then that's a lot of no's, so because we say no once don't mean we will say no next time as said on our profile its a bit like a sweet shop in here and its hard to choose sometime, guys we wont meet 100% go on our block list and then guys who get pushy pissy and persistent join them.

rude or nasty messages are great as it makes our mind up str8 away "

I like to think I'm a pineapple cluster. I look all narly and rough but im pleasant suprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you dont reply they get more and more abusive ...not all but most ...from my point of view they make the site less enjoyable .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sadly just had to put this on my profile and its not what I like at all. Some have messaged a few sporadic times and I've only seen one message. To be honest it gets you down having knob jockeys be rude when youve never even spoken to them.

And don't mail 10 times in an hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give anybody the opportunity to be an arsehole anymore. Says on my profile if I'm not interested I won't reply, I don't see the point in taking up my time, I'm not meeting and profile says that so why they think I'd respond to 'I'm in your area tonight..' I've no idea. I now just block and delete. Means they can't message again in a week or so time. I know some think that's rude, but it's my time to spend how I wish to, and I can't understand why anyone would want the message box to go yellow, just for a message to say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about other people. If they can't cope with the odd nasty message they probably shouldn't bother being on the site, and they should DEFINITELY put their filters on.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"I wouldn't worry about other people. If they can't cope with the odd nasty message they probably shouldn't bother being on the site, and they should DEFINITELY put their filters on. "

Couldnt agree more.

Its either lame threads that are more suited to 11yr olds or people begging for validation off others all the time.

Like the place suddenly filled up with hermits who cant face the outside world

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