FabSwingers.com forum: Loosing the plot.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mr here.

So I'm feeling a little frustrated with myself at the moment, and I don't really know what's going on or what the cause is.

I don't have any expectations of FAB, or the people on here, but recently I've become really, picky, critical, dismissive and cynical on here, whether considering approaching someone or we're being approached. Even the smallest detail that I might not like on a profile turns me off instantly, and I neither have the motivation or inclination to even pursue it, so have become very quick to dismiss any notion of a possible meet, or even getting into a conversation where my concerns might even be put to rest.

Now I'm not talking about fakes, or even time waster, it's even the ones I can see perfectly well are genuine and not time wasters.

When meeting people at a club, it's incredibly easy, and I'm not like the above at all. I'm a very easy going guy, but even Mrs is telling me I'm being irrational when so dismissive on here.

So anyone have any pearls of wisdom as to what's going on, and advice or tips, or experienced it themselves? As I'm at a bit of a loss myself and can't work it out.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't explain it BUT if the clubs thing works for you and it isn't broken, perhaps don't fix it?

The thing about meeting people face to face (or body to body!) in a club is that you can make a proper judgment about them and whether you'd get on. On here it's just pixels on a screen and typed words so you can't necessarily make an informed judgment so you become more critical in what you're looking for.

So maybe for the time being stick with looking for people in clubs because (as you know already of course) you shouldn't compromise in your search! Anyway good luck in your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club !

For the past month or so neither of us could really give a toss regarding fab .

No idea why , we've had meets and enjoyed them , but they've been spontaneous rather than organised through fab .

We used to arrange meets , chat , flirt etc... Can't be bothered now . We get a sitter , go into town , do a bit of Pokemon hunting , get a meal , and go home . Sometimes we stop off at our local dogging spot and maybe have a bit of fun , but really can't be arsed to arrange anything though .

More apathetic than we've ever been in over 5 years on fab , and don't know why .

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't think you are 'loosing the plot' at all, just disillusioned by the chore this can become.

It happens to most people, take a real break from the on-line approach and enjoy the club scene to the max

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think once you have been here a while you get to the "seen it all, done it all" type of place. Gets to us all.

I had a previous profile for about four years....when I stsrted I went off like a train....ended up with 230+ verifications from meets .... And God knows how many more that didn't verify or repeats where you don't bother to do so.

I hit the disillusioned skids.....came off, closed my profile.

Back on now and far more choosy. I've turned down way more than I've accepted this time. Sometimes because I'm being a bit picky....sometimes because I just couldn't be bothered. I think you are just being normal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys, it's really good to hear you're feedback, certainly heart lifting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm the same. i don't think people make themselves attractive enough online. they're pics are crap or their profile is or both.

i'd like to meet up offlne but pubs and clubs aren't my thing, i've tried them. i'm going to more socials though and finding new ones through the people at them.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

A lot of people go through these periods.

Hiding the profile is often a sign someone is not up to it atm.

It will probably pass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We mix between club and parties and arranging meets on here, we never arrange to meet anyone at a club or party via fab we just go and try to engage with people, when arranging meets on fab it's minimal chat and just meet at there's or a hotel, we also have some wonderful regular playmates

Relying too much on fab will make you disheartened and reading too much into profiles, conversations can easily put you off, just swap pics, if you like, arrange to meet x

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

Face it, there's only so many times you can tolerate going through the whole "Hi, how are you?" process before it gets a teensy bit boring - present company excepted, of course!!! Even at clubs, I shuffle round like that Harry Enfield old git character

recently, ive only achieved the real fire-in-my-belly, unstoppabble-sex-machine mega-buzz when fucking Ali, the whole Ali and nothing but the Ali (Ali is my gal!)

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

Unstoppable only has one b!!How will I ever show my face on the forums again??!!

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