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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Following from a different thread. We are here to have fun but do you just go with it or has are we being too cynical seeing the bad before we see the good x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

being cynical or being a realist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being cynical or being a realist."

Experience leads us to be cynical

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I haven't seen the previous thread (not been on the forums today), but I find even I get a bit cynical at times.

I think the one that makes me raise an eye brow are the profiles come on the site, start with "not sure what looking for.. please don't rush me to meet" or words to that effect... then a few short months later "found what am looking for, now part of a couple, not looking to meet" .. or words to that effect.

I see those and think "Its Fabswingers ... not Match.com"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm cynical in real life and extremely suspicious of people and their motivations. It would be weird if I wasn't similarly cynical and suspicious on here. I can't be arsed with giving people the benefit of the doubt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I haven't seen the previous thread (not been on the forums today), but I find even I get a bit cynical at times.

I think the one that makes me raise an eye brow are the profiles come on the site, start with "not sure what looking for.. please don't rush me to meet" or words to that effect... then a few short months later "found what am looking for, now part of a couple, not looking to meet" .. or words to that effect.

I see those and think "Its Fabswingers ... not Match.com""

Hey _habs long time no see x

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I usually takes things as they come, but sometimes there are too many things that don't add up that makes me seriously doubt some people, I suppose its because I've been at the receiving end too many times now, I just don't take everything everyone says as the truth anymore.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Cynical is my middle name.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I'm cynical in real life and extremely suspicious of people and their motivations. It would be weird if I wasn't similarly cynical and suspicious on here. I can't be arsed with giving people the benefit of the doubt. "

Good for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cynical or cautious?

I've always been suspicious of people, and being on here has made me 10 times worse...

'if it looks too good to be true, it usually is' is my mantra..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're both extremely cynical in real life, but on here we're a bit more open minded. We've found that treating every person we get in contact with as a potential fake/timewaster is counter productive.

A combination of optimism and realism. Be friendly but don't get our hopes up and don't compromise ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm cynical in general, so would be odd if I wasn't on here.

Get told I'm gorgeous, that makes me go so much I'm suprised my eyeballs ain't stuck in the back of my head. I'm not, I know I'm not, trying to blow smoke up my are ain't going to work.

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By *isalovezTV/TS
over a year ago

Paris

I still believe in goodness in most things i'd hate to end up bitter and twisted.

Just saying x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm cynical in real life and extremely suspicious of people and their motivations. It would be weird if I wasn't similarly cynical and suspicious on here. I can't be arsed with giving people the benefit of the doubt. "

Ditto. 7bn people in the world, why bother giving people the benefit of the doubt. Block and move on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have been described as cynical but in reality I just have an excellent bull shit detector.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have formed a very realistic _iew of the behaviours of people on here. My gut is usually correct.

I am by nature a very happy person and I live my life to the positive. Swinging is reeked with superficiality and the exploitation of people, both genders.

Be the player, not the played.

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By *ent57Man
over a year ago

... where the streets have no name!

I do try and give people the benefit of the doubt on here - but sometimes the ignorant behaviour of others does make you wonder.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No im not really cynical but im not stupid

If something doesnt seem right then thats it. Bit annoyed for not making a quick enough judgement call on something on here But it only led to slight annoyance so no harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What filters we all have

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I have formed a very realistic _iew of the behaviours of people on here. My gut is usually correct.

I am by nature a very happy person and I live my life to the positive. Swinging is reeked with superficiality and the exploitation of people, both genders.

Be the player, not the played."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I still believe in goodness in most things i'd hate to end up bitter and twisted.

Just saying x"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I still believe in goodness in most things i'd hate to end up bitter and twisted.

Just saying x

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Me too but I also don't want to end up with mug written all over me.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I still believe in goodness in most things i'd hate to end up bitter and twisted.

Just saying x

Me too but I also don't want to end up with mug written all over me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was probably too naive when I joined this site....I've never really experienced fake people in my real life and thought of you were nice and genuine people would be the same back....in here it's not always the case x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have formed a very realistic _iew of the behaviours of people on here. My gut is usually correct.

I am by nature a very happy person and I live my life to the positive. Swinging is reeked with superficiality and the exploitation of people, both genders.

Be the player, not the played."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm more of a realist than a cynic. I don't actively seek the bad out in people but I've learnt to tread carefully with the people that look too good to be true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still believe in goodness in most things i'd hate to end up bitter and twisted.

Just saying x"

This.

However I understand the underlying cynicism on here. It wasn't that long ago that kids used to play out in the woods and fields with little concern. Now its a rare sight, and some of that is due to so much media coverage from everywhere that we assume all the bad things happen in our own neighbourhood. There is a lot of disproportionate thinking even here on fab as we hear of everyone else's bad and negative experiences. We rarely hear of all the good ones as often it's seen as boasting. The BBC say 'for every one negative _iewers comment they get there are 100 positive ones not sent in'. We need to hear alot more of the positive meets that go on every day and every night here on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is just for the moment for us .

We don't look for anything more than the buzz of a meet .

We make this very clear , and it works for us . So no time at all for cynicism or negativity in this lifestyle

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