FabSwingers.com forum: Stood Up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he slept in as he was up late?

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By *ohnyorkMan
over a year ago

york

Maybe it was nerves

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Report him for starters! Obviously if he's not died a death since you spoke to him he's probably a coward or just full of bull. I'm sure it's flipping annoying!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Sorry to hear this op,

On my old single profile i was stood up ,i think he did it out of spite as i had to rearrange once when,my dad was ill.

I can't say why he did it,but it sadly happens on here.

Please report to admin and don't let it put you off.

Miss xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No one will ever know. People cancel for all sorts of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

Yep. Just laugh it off ,report block and move on. I go for a social first as it's not as bad if they don't show up you can do something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one will ever know. People cancel for all sorts of reasons. "

There is a huge difference between cancelling and standing up without a word

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

maybe his wife needed to go for the messages at the supermarket

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It could be any of those things you mentioned OP. Frustrating isn't it?? Block the pillock and move on x

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

You can report people to admin for them not showing up?

Not sure why all ladies dont do this?

Would cut out all the losers and fantasists and leave us 'real' people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one will ever know. People cancel for all sorts of reasons. "

This is not cancelling. This is ignorance.

Just let the person know. Quite simple really. Unless you have no character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll have to ask him why, but i reckon he won't answer you anyway so you'll never know.

Yeah i had the same recently and had met the guy and he was still into me until 2 days before our next planned meet.

I've just put it down to he was full of shit and doesn't actually give a fuck about me.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

Maybe he just liked the thrill of the chase?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies do it too, I was stood up, no message or communication to explain.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

I read a study somewhere that asked a hundred sex site users about being stood up .

The study found you were 5 times more likely to be stood up for a meet and fuck meet than you were for a meet for a coffee or drink meet.

So the answer to not being stood up seems to be to keep things low key no expectation after all things can always progress from there .

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

May be just may be his alarm clock did not work!!!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ?

I read a study somewhere that asked a hundred sex site users about being stood up .

The study found you were 5 times more likely to be stood up for a meet and fuck meet than you were for a meet for a coffee or drink meet.

So the answer to not being stood up seems to be to keep things low key no expectation after all things can always progress from there ."

I got stood up for 4 socials in a row!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was stood up 2 weeks ago after chatting for a few weeks

Not very nice feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was stood up 2 weeks ago after chatting for a few weeks

Not very nice feeling."

Exactly this if people bottle meets at least have the decency to let the other person know had this happen to me a few months ago I did eventually find out why and what a pathetic reason he gave me !!

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By *edRapscallionMan
over a year ago

London

I read a study somewhere that asked a hundred sex site users about being stood up .

The study found you were 5 times more likely to be stood up for a meet and fuck meet than you were for a meet for a coffee or drink meet.

So the answer to not being stood up seems to be to keep things low key no expectation after all things can always progress from there ."

Where did you find this study? I'd love to read it.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Sometimes, just sometimes, things happen in people's lives that come way above their sex life.

It's possible that a family illness or something similar happened and cancelling the meet was the last thing on his mind.

Or, he's a total fuckwit

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

I did on my single profile. Two different men, in two weeks. Pathetic excuse given by one. no excuse from the other blocked and reported

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got stood up today too, call 10 mins after i drove to the meeting point. Ho hum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 times so far. I wouldn't mind if they had seen me then did a runner, but just didn't show up or text to cancel.

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ?

Yep. Just laugh it off ,report block and move on. I go for a social first as it's not as bad if they don't show up you can do something else

Sorry but I'm new here. If you report it what will it achieve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on Tuesday morning! We spoke for a couple of weeks via Internet and phone, he has verifications so never doubted him not turning up.

Spoke at 10am he was getting the train at 12 arriving at my home town for 1-30ish.

Then the next news I got a text at 1pm saying I've fallen asleep I'm about to get in the cold bath I run earlier!

Really? Haha so I said don't bother I've made other plans

Always have plan b in the pipeline

They aint worth getting rajjed about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really annoys me when there's so many guys that let the side down, if you can't commit don't lie

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Really annoys me when there's so many guys that let the side down, if you can't commit don't lie "

Don't be rediculous. If we start telling the truth the birth rate will fall to zero.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I was stood up back when the World Cup was on and it was the opening game. Guy was supposed to come to mine I bought sticky chicken skewers, garlic mushrooms in breadcrumbs, wedges, even got him one of those woo woo frozen cocktails actually that's still in my freezer! Time came and went for him to show up, no message, nothing just a very hungover apology half way through the next day. I did meet him the following week and didn't fancy him in the flesh anyway so I got upset for nothing. Hate the feeling of being stood up, makes me feel anxious and horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I was stood up back when the World Cup was on and it was the opening game. Guy was supposed to come to mine I bought sticky chicken skewers, garlic mushrooms in breadcrumbs, wedges, even got him one of those woo woo frozen cocktails actually that's still in my freezer! Time came and went for him to show up, no message, nothing just a very hungover apology half way through the next day. I did meet him the following week and didn't fancy him in the flesh anyway so I got upset for nothing. Hate the feeling of being stood up, makes me feel anxious and horrible. "

I'm feeling a bit hungry. Fancy a meet teabags?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

Don't take it personally, lots of fakes online, very easy to muck people around if they have no intention of meeting. We had a meet arranged, as soon as I said we had booked (and paid for a hotel) he couldn't make it due to a broken leg!! Hmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling a bit hungry. Fancy a meet teabags?"

Come on over I've got penguins, digestives, mint clubs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG! Who would be stupid enough to stand you up!!!

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By *edRapscallionMan
over a year ago

London

I'm feeling a bit hungry. Fancy a meet teabags?

Come on over I've got penguins, digestives, mint clubs!"

Mint clubs? Someone's fancy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling a bit hungry. Fancy a meet teabags?

Come on over I've got penguins, digestives, mint clubs!"

Don't joke! I'm heading to south wales tomorrow, so you should hide the digestives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had that once and then I got a message from his girlfriend (of five years; yes she made a point of that) a week later.

I simply replied 'oh hello (name)'s girlfriend I didn't know you would be joining us' to which I got no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a lady but I got stood up once on the day of the meet. We even chatted that day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a lady but I got stood up once on the day of the meet. We even chatted that day..."

I told u I'm sorry .... I just had a better offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a lady but I got stood up once on the day of the meet. We even chatted that day...

I told u I'm sorry .... I just had a better offer

Oh, this was another time, with a proper hottie too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a lady but I got stood up once on the day of the meet. We even chatted that day...

I told u I'm sorry .... I just had a better offer

Oh, this was another time, with a proper hottie too!"

Ha!! Looks like you need to re-evaluate things... Getting stood up by proper hotties and then not proper hotties (me)

not really going great is it

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

The worst is when they message you a few weeks later as though nothing happened! Deny all knowledge of ever arranging a meet. These are the ones that are just in it for the chase I would say. Once they have you hooked and have arranged the meet they get bored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling a bit hungry. Fancy a meet teabags?

Come on over I've got penguins, digestives, mint clubs!

Don't joke! I'm heading to south wales tomorrow, so you should hide the digestives

Where you going to be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

His loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brazil vs Croatia..wasn't even a great game. What a fool.

Wedges everytime....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brazil vs Croatia..wasn't even a great game. What a fool.

Wedges everytime....

Wales' opening game obvs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm. Makes it a closer call...but the wedges and sticky chicken edge it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

No disrespect to you but join the f***ing club, happens to almost everyone, only thing you can do in all reality is move on from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ? "

Never been stop up, I have a sixth sense about these things. I have even rung up hotels in two occasions, where the guy has claimed to book - lies!

Also, confirmation in the morning of the meets tends to rule out those who won't turn up, ie they don't confirm. So my six years at Fab is not yet marred

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I've had this, all talk then quiet like they had dropped off the earth.

At the time I was gutted, angry and felt vulnerable- was it me?

Got a message a few days later explaining why etc.

Now- I feel glad he didn't turn up and I'm back to loving fab for the splendid people, not the few dicks who blindside us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he woke up and thought, na she's not for me so sacked you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he woke up and thought, na she's not for me so sacked you off "

Yes,which is fine.

But. Just. Let. Her. Know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he woke up and thought, na she's not for me so sacked you off

Yes,which is fine.

But. Just. Let. Her. Know.

Aye OK sir galahad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened to me last week, a guy who'd been asking to meet for weeks, and we'd been messaging up to 2 hours before he was due to turn up. And then nothing, silence. I messaged him the next day asking for an explanation, and got an unconvincing reply about a family emergency. No apology or friendliness.

I figured he either just bottled it, or was cheating on someone and grew a conscience. Either way, I don't do second chances. If he'd messaged to let me know, or apologised because of a genuine reason, then fair enough. I wouldn't stand someone up in real life so I wouldn't do it to someone off here either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im glad to say i have never been stood up since being on here. Ok ive never actually got a meet but still good so far lol

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

When I was a single girl on here I got stood up too. Made my way to a local pub. Sat and waited. Had a drink. Left. Text the guy. No answer. Then he told me 'family came round and he couldn't get away' Next day he had a new veri from a couple. A couple who I later found out gave him warts. Lol. Karma is a bitch, bitch! But we have been stood up. We had 15 meets over a month cancel or not turn up. It's sucks. Miss C. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only been stood up once, we'd chatted to a couple for a few days, they looked great on their pics, too good really. We said at the time they look too good to be true and we suspected they were fakes, but thought we'd go to the pub as arranged anyway.

If they turned up then bonus, if not we'd have a drink then back home to make our own fun.

Of course they didn't turn up, and ignored our messages on fab. We tried the phone number they gave and it was a man who denied all knowledge!!

It's probably not as bad for couples, disappointing but we can still enjoy our "meet" together

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Maybe he woke up and thought, na she's not for me so sacked you off "

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"OK ladies have any of you ever been stood up like I was this morning ? No message, nothing

Three weeks of naughty and normal chat and it was him pushing for the meet.

We were even online together till 2am last night talking about today's meet ! Uuurgh

So what's your thoughts.... has this been a fake profile and pics all along (He has been on a year and verified) or did he just not have the guts to meet ?

I read a study somewhere that asked a hundred sex site users about being stood up .

The study found you were 5 times more likely to be stood up for a meet and fuck meet than you were for a meet for a coffee or drink meet.

So the answer to not being stood up seems to be to keep things low key no expectation after all things can always progress from there .

I got stood up for 4 socials in a row!

Were they male or female that stood you up is the question I'm wondering after reading your profile .

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I find this post and the responses fascinating you see in 8 years I've never once been stood up .

I've had people cancel the day before even on the morning of a arranged meet but in every case they had a valid reason and have always offered me a alternative meeting day .

Am I just lucky 8 years of luck seems a bit much if you asked me maybe its the fact I don't ask for a meet until I'm sure I want to meet and just as important that I'm sure they want to meet me.

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