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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If a woman enjoys being submissive then there's no shortage of things that men will dream up to do with her, but can it work the other way?

Based on a completely unscientific sample, it seems that the average woman would get less out of being given permission to use a guy sexually than the other way around?

Probably not explaining this very well but wondered if anyone could inject any wisdom or experience to confirm or deny these suspicions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x"

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went through a "fad" so to speak where I'd call on guys for the essentials when I wanted a fix.

They would want to date me but it just wasn't on my agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...? "

Being tied up and having his arse hole plundered. Obviously a man who didn't like his bum touched,although that is the same as rape.

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By *edRapscallionMan
over a year ago

London

Of course they can A quality I'm searching for in someone and am sure I'll find one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...? "

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There a several women from the UK that i would let use me

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

They're welcome to try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent? "

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX"

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

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By *izbitMan
over a year ago

St Helens

Watch one of those channel five things or sexcetera. Failing that they can probably get free diy and maybe the ironing done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? "

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Being tied up and having his arse hole plundered. Obviously a man who didn't like his bum touched,although that is the same as rape.

"

Yes, an arse hole being plundered is probably the biggest boundary I can imagine most men have. But seriously, how many women really get off on plundering a mans bum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Being tied up and having his arse hole plundered. Obviously a man who didn't like his bum touched,although that is the same as rape.

Yes, an arse hole being plundered is probably the biggest boundary I can imagine most men have. But seriously, how many women really get off on plundering a mans bum? "

Me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about plundering their wallets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me... "

You'd be surprised at how many wouldn't be willing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants."

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? "
i dobt know what a standard swap is. Everyone has boundaries. Theres loads of normal stuff i wouldnt dream of doing in a club environent or even on a first meet

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By *BWcpl49Couple
over a year ago

Reading


"If a woman enjoys being submissive then there's no shortage of things that men will dream up to do with her, but can it work the other way?

Based on a completely unscientific sample, it seems that the average woman would get less out of being given permission to use a guy sexually than the other way around?

Probably not explaining this very well but wondered if anyone could inject any wisdom or experience to confirm or deny these suspicions? "

Most guys I know would be more than happy to be used by a women hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me... "

The ones I go for would! I'd be over the knee faster than you can say jackrabbit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected. "

I see what you mean but men don't just fuck a woman's arse without asking do they? I wouldn't stick my finger in a man's arse without asking.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Being tied up and having his arse hole plundered. Obviously a man who didn't like his bum touched,although that is the same as rape.

Yes, an arse hole being plundered is probably the biggest boundary I can imagine most men have. But seriously, how many women really get off on plundering a mans bum? "
i love fisting a guy but i wouldnt just do it to someone when it hasnt been discussed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? i dobt know what a standard swap is. Everyone has boundaries. Theres loads of normal stuff i wouldnt dream of doing in a club environent or even on a first meet"

Let's say there's a normal meet and it's going well. The guys says the woman "you can be in charge now, what would you like?" Then I would say that the most popular answers would be:

- I would like to do this position instead...

- I would like you to lick my pussy more...

- Can you massage me or kiss me here...

None of those are particularly unusual in any meet is what I'm trying to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bums out of the equation,I'm struggling to think of anything that would make me feel used. The only thing I can think is having a cock constantly shoved in my mouth,without receiving oral myself. With respect to everything else,I use men for sexual gratification,the same as they use me.

If a man gives me permission to use him in any way I want his arse would be used.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected.

I see what you mean but men don't just fuck a woman's arse without asking do they? I wouldn't stick my finger in a man's arse without asking. "

But that's my whole point. Anal with a woman requires 'additional consent' beyond the normal consent for sex because anal isn't a standard part of a meet.

Other than playing with a mans bum, I can't think of many things an average woman would want a man to do that require 'additional consent'. I've never met many women who were very interested in guys bums but that's just my unscientific sample or maybe I have a fugly bum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? i dobt know what a standard swap is. Everyone has boundaries. Theres loads of normal stuff i wouldnt dream of doing in a club environent or even on a first meet

Let's say there's a normal meet and it's going well. The guys says the woman "you can be in charge now, what would you like?" Then I would say that the most popular answers would be:

- I would like to do this position instead...

- I would like you to lick my pussy more...

- Can you massage me or kiss me here...

None of those are particularly unusual in any meet is what I'm trying to say. "

Swap it around,what do men ask for,given permission to use a woman?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? i dobt know what a standard swap is. Everyone has boundaries. Theres loads of normal stuff i wouldnt dream of doing in a club environent or even on a first meet

Let's say there's a normal meet and it's going well. The guys says the woman "you can be in charge now, what would you like?" Then I would say that the most popular answers would be:

- I would like to do this position instead...

- I would like you to lick my pussy more...

- Can you massage me or kiss me here...

None of those are particularly unusual in any meet is what I'm trying to say. "
well know its all basic stuff and i didnt know the guy thats what id do.But if i already knew what his boundaries where then it would be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected.

I see what you mean but men don't just fuck a woman's arse without asking do they? I wouldn't stick my finger in a man's arse without asking.

But that's my whole point. Anal with a woman requires 'additional consent' beyond the normal consent for sex because anal isn't a standard part of a meet.

Other than playing with a mans bum, I can't think of many things an average woman would want a man to do that require 'additional consent'. I've never met many women who were very interested in guys bums but that's just my unscientific sample or maybe I have a fugly bum! "

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? i dobt know what a standard swap is. Everyone has boundaries. Theres loads of normal stuff i wouldnt dream of doing in a club environent or even on a first meet

Let's say there's a normal meet and it's going well. The guys says the woman "you can be in charge now, what would you like?" Then I would say that the most popular answers would be:

- I would like to do this position instead...

- I would like you to lick my pussy more...

- Can you massage me or kiss me here...

None of those are particularly unusual in any meet is what I'm trying to say.

Swap it around,what do men ask for,given permission to use a woman? "

Off the top of my head; anal, cum in mouth, spanking, deep throat, rimming...

I wouldn't assume any of those things were a standard part of a meet unless she had explicitly consented to each of them. Whilst I wouldn't feel a need to ask for consent to do a different position, kiss etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected.

I see what you mean but men don't just fuck a woman's arse without asking do they? I wouldn't stick my finger in a man's arse without asking.

But that's my whole point. Anal with a woman requires 'additional consent' beyond the normal consent for sex because anal isn't a standard part of a meet.

Other than playing with a mans bum, I can't think of many things an average woman would want a man to do that require 'additional consent'. I've never met many women who were very interested in guys bums but that's just my unscientific sample or maybe I have a fugly bum!

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

"

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap? i dobt know what a standard swap is. Everyone has boundaries. Theres loads of normal stuff i wouldnt dream of doing in a club environent or even on a first meet

Let's say there's a normal meet and it's going well. The guys says the woman "you can be in charge now, what would you like?" Then I would say that the most popular answers would be:

- I would like to do this position instead...

- I would like you to lick my pussy more...

- Can you massage me or kiss me here...

None of those are particularly unusual in any meet is what I'm trying to say. "

I can think of a few things that would maybe be out of the norm in that situation, but with anything particularly kinky there would still be a certain level consent/agreement.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

This is to difficult for me apart from in a club i already discussed boundaries so a standard meet to me is both doing what we enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected.

I see what you mean but men don't just fuck a woman's arse without asking do they? I wouldn't stick my finger in a man's arse without asking.

But that's my whole point. Anal with a woman requires 'additional consent' beyond the normal consent for sex because anal isn't a standard part of a meet.

Other than playing with a mans bum, I can't think of many things an average woman would want a man to do that require 'additional consent'. I've never met many women who were very interested in guys bums but that's just my unscientific sample or maybe I have a fugly bum!

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way) "

I'm a user

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over a year ago


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user "

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

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over a year ago

Maybe it's just the case that's there's more you can do with a nut than a bolt?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

"
think water sports is common for both sexes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just use your imagination.

Tie him up and tease and tantalise him! Deny him until he is begging for you maybe? I'm not the best advisor possibly.

There are ladies on here that will have definite ideas of what they would like to do to a fella that is willing to be totally submissive and completely dominates though. Maybe send some messages for advice to a few.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes"

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose. "
well obviously if someone i didnt know just said use me how am i supposed to know what they mean. Communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose. well obviously if someone i didnt know just said use me how am i supposed to know what they mean. Communication is the key "

But from a mans perspective, if a woman said that to me then I'd be like "great, here's the safe word" and in 5 seconds I'd have about 3 hours worth of debauchery planned out...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose. well obviously if someone i didnt know just said use me how am i supposed to know what they mean. Communication is the key

But from a mans perspective, if a woman said that to me then I'd be like "great, here's the safe word" and in 5 seconds I'd have about 3 hours worth of debauchery planned out... "
do many people go into blind meets saying that if they havent spoken about it before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose. well obviously if someone i didnt know just said use me how am i supposed to know what they mean. Communication is the key

But from a mans perspective, if a woman said that to me then I'd be like "great, here's the safe word" and in 5 seconds I'd have about 3 hours worth of debauchery planned out... do many people go into blind meets saying that if they havent spoken about it before"

No!! But I'm not talking about blind meets here, I was thinking of people that know each other reasonably well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my hubby all the time... makes me cum loads, ride his cock etc, then I just fuck him off without him coming lol

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over a year ago

I think that a woman can "use" a guy just as much as a man can "use" a woman. If I am reading your question correctly, that is.

So far anal and watersports have been singled out, but I can think of quite a few things I could do to a guy if I wanted to "use" him. I could tie him up and continually bring him to the brink of orgasm but not let him cum. I could make him watch me masturbate while not letting him touch me. His wife (if he has one) and I could do all manner of stuff to each other and him while he is tied up and only able to watch, but not touch.

I could use my strap on on him (this obviously falls into the anal category). I could humiliate or degrade him. I could think of a few more things, too. Not all of them are things I am personally interested in, but some women are.

And yes, maybe guys would gladly do these things anyway, but I would hope that the same would go for any woman who is being "used." That is to say, you would never go further than someone's limits anyway....whether that be while you are "using" someone or not.

Does that answer your question, OP?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose. well obviously if someone i didnt know just said use me how am i supposed to know what they mean. Communication is the key

But from a mans perspective, if a woman said that to me then I'd be like "great, here's the safe word" and in 5 seconds I'd have about 3 hours worth of debauchery planned out... do many people go into blind meets saying that if they havent spoken about it before

No!! But I'm not talking about blind meets here, I was thinking of people that know each other reasonably well "
well in that case you already know boundaries. I thought you where talking about people you didnt know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think that a woman can "use" a guy just as much as a man can "use" a woman. If I am reading your question correctly, that is.

So far anal and watersports have been singled out, but I can think of quite a few things I could do to a guy if I wanted to "use" him. I could tie him up and continually bring him to the brink of orgasm but not let him cum. I could make him watch me masturbate while not letting him touch me. His wife (if he has one) and I could do all manner of stuff to each other and him while he is tied up and only able to watch, but not touch.

I could use my strap on on him (this obviously falls into the anal category). I could humiliate or degrade him. I could think of a few more things, too. Not all of them are things I am personally interested in, but some women are.

And yes, maybe guys would gladly do these things anyway, but I would hope that the same would go for any woman who is being "used." That is to say, you would never go further than someone's limits anyway....whether that be while you are "using" someone or not.

Does that answer your question, OP?"

As you say, it's not so much a lack of possibilities but perhaps more of a lack of widespread interest from the fairer sex.

My question was really about whether there's a real difference in the attractiveness of being about to 'use' someone between men and women. I feel that there is.

Some lovely ladies on the thread have shared their experience and proven that some dominant ladies certainly exist, but I'm drawn to the conclusion that there are just a lot more dominant men than women. Maybe there are just more ways a man can get pleasure from a woman than vice versa?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Pumping his ass with my strap on, walking in my heels over him, candle play, making him beg and kiss my feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Femdom

Plenty of events.... ive been and observed (guy ... not my thing but previous partner etc)

You need to check out the site that deals with Fetish Life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

How about lay down so they can piss in their face while they are sitting on it?

Yeah that's another good example, but again, I've never been asked for that by a woman and I have had sex with over 4 different women

(That's a joke from friends by the way)

I'm a user

Well we've got 2 examples which is progress (bum plundering and watersports) but I could probably come up with 20 examples that I think 80% of men would like to do to a man whilst I'm not convinced that bum plundering and watersports would appeal to 80% of women.

Is it the case that there are just more options for what a man can do to a woman than the reverse?

think water sports is common for both sexes

I suppose if anal plundering (sorry, I love that phrase!) and watersports are the key things that an average woman would choose when given permission to use a guy, then it probably just be easier to ask her if likes plundering anus or watersports than asking if she wants to use a guy.

I've had some awkward experiences in the past with suggesting a girl 'use' me only to be followed by about ten minutes of awkward, dumbfounded silence while she tries to understand the invitation. When they follow it up with "so what do you want me to do?" Then that sort of defeats the purpose. well obviously if someone i didnt know just said use me how am i supposed to know what they mean. Communication is the key

But from a mans perspective, if a woman said that to me then I'd be like "great, here's the safe word" and in 5 seconds I'd have about 3 hours worth of debauchery planned out... do many people go into blind meets saying that if they havent spoken about it before

No!! But I'm not talking about blind meets here, I was thinking of people that know each other reasonably well well in that case you already know boundaries. I thought you where talking about people you didnt know"

No, I'm more talking about expanding boundaries with people you already know. It's just a bit awkward if you put yourself out there and say "I'd like to expand my boundaries to anywhere that you'd like" and they say "nah they are fine where they are thanks"!

I feel like a woman saying that to a man has about a 0.1% probability of rejection whilst a man saying it to a woman is more like 50%. Hence the question to test my assumptions...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pumping his ass with my strap on, walking in my heels over him, candle play, making him beg and kiss my feet."

Thanks for posting. Not to try and put you on the spot but would you be doing those things because they legitimately give you pleasure or because you sensed that that's what the man wanted you to do as he wanted to be used?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I love it...just glad I can

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Femdom

Plenty of events.... ive been and observed (guy ... not my thing but previous partner etc)

You need to check out the site that deals with Fetish Life"

We have been on there but found it a bit rubbish for actually meeting people. It seems to be designed for chat...

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I had no idea if he would get pleasure from it, I just knew I wanted to

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me... "

I would not that is not my thing just the thought makes my skin crawl I can not abide being the receiver I have to be the giver.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

I would not that is not my thing just the thought makes my skin crawl I can not abide being the receiver I have to be the giver."

Receiver of what exactly?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

The ones I go for would! I'd be over the knee faster than you can say jackrabbit!"

I hope you giggle as your pulled across their lap

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

I would not that is not my thing just the thought makes my skin crawl I can not abide being the receiver I have to be the giver.

Receiver of what exactly? "

Of any passive sexual act so offering me a blow job is a turn off giving me consent to face fuck you turn on .

Offering to ride cock turn off giving me consent to ride you turn on .

The only passive sexual activity I find a turn on is when I'm instructing a consenting sub to fuck in a particular way position herself in a particular way to move or grind in a particular way and rhythm

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over a year ago

I think you are expressing a fairly narrow viewpoint on what you consider are the boundaries for the "average" man and woman. In my experience women are every bit as kinky as men and more than capable of dreaming up plenty of interesting ways to use a man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you are expressing a fairly narrow viewpoint on what you consider are the boundaries for the "average" man and woman. In my experience women are every bit as kinky as men and more than capable of dreaming up plenty of interesting ways to use a man."

Quite possibly, in my defence, I did say it was a "completely unscientific sample".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

I would not that is not my thing just the thought makes my skin crawl I can not abide being the receiver I have to be the giver.

Receiver of what exactly?

Of any passive sexual act so offering me a blow job is a turn off giving me consent to face fuck you turn on .

Offering to ride cock turn off giving me consent to ride you turn on .

The only passive sexual activity I find a turn on is when I'm instructing a consenting sub to fuck in a particular way position herself in a particular way to move or grind in a particular way and rhythm "

Got it! Makes sense. Not a fan of blow jobs myself because I'd rather be doing something she enjoyed.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

I would not that is not my thing just the thought makes my skin crawl I can not abide being the receiver I have to be the giver.

Receiver of what exactly?

Of any passive sexual act so offering me a blow job is a turn off giving me consent to face fuck you turn on .

Offering to ride cock turn off giving me consent to ride you turn on .

The only passive sexual activity I find a turn on is when I'm instructing a consenting sub to fuck in a particular way position herself in a particular way to move or grind in a particular way and rhythm

Got it! Makes sense. Not a fan of blow jobs myself because I'd rather be doing something she enjoyed. "

I get that I'd rather see how long a girl could last under the pressure of my roving tongue that sit there and have a blow job to.

I'm a giver who loves to have the control because receiving doesn't turn me on I get turn in by giving pleasure not receiving it that's why I work so well as a dominant to a submissive .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that a woman can "use" a guy just as much as a man can "use" a woman. If I am reading your question correctly, that is.

So far anal and watersports have been singled out, but I can think of quite a few things I could do to a guy if I wanted to "use" him. I could tie him up and continually bring him to the brink of orgasm but not let him cum. I could make him watch me masturbate while not letting him touch me. His wife (if he has one) and I could do all manner of stuff to each other and him while he is tied up and only able to watch, but not touch.

I could use my strap on on him (this obviously falls into the anal category). I could humiliate or degrade him. I could think of a few more things, too. Not all of them are things I am personally interested in, but some women are.

And yes, maybe guys would gladly do these things anyway, but I would hope that the same would go for any woman who is being "used." That is to say, you would never go further than someone's limits anyway....whether that be while you are "using" someone or not.

Does that answer your question, OP?

As you say, it's not so much a lack of possibilities but perhaps more of a lack of widespread interest from the fairer sex.

My question was really about whether there's a real difference in the attractiveness of being about to 'use' someone between men and women. I feel that there is.

Some lovely ladies on the thread have shared their experience and proven that some dominant ladies certainly exist, but I'm drawn to the conclusion that there are just a lot more dominant men than women. Maybe there are just more ways a man can get pleasure from a woman than vice versa? "

See, I do think there are more dominant men than there are dominant women, and more submissive women than there are submissive men. But you lose me on the connection between that and, as you put it, "more ways a man can get pleasure from a woman." I think there are plenty of ways....the means are there, its the desire that may be lacking.

I can think of plenty of things I COULD do to Marc, for example, but I wouldn't WANT to do them, and he wouldn't WANT them done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think that a woman can "use" a guy just as much as a man can "use" a woman. If I am reading your question correctly, that is.

So far anal and watersports have been singled out, but I can think of quite a few things I could do to a guy if I wanted to "use" him. I could tie him up and continually bring him to the brink of orgasm but not let him cum. I could make him watch me masturbate while not letting him touch me. His wife (if he has one) and I could do all manner of stuff to each other and him while he is tied up and only able to watch, but not touch.

I could use my strap on on him (this obviously falls into the anal category). I could humiliate or degrade him. I could think of a few more things, too. Not all of them are things I am personally interested in, but some women are.

And yes, maybe guys would gladly do these things anyway, but I would hope that the same would go for any woman who is being "used." That is to say, you would never go further than someone's limits anyway....whether that be while you are "using" someone or not.

Does that answer your question, OP?

As you say, it's not so much a lack of possibilities but perhaps more of a lack of widespread interest from the fairer sex.

My question was really about whether there's a real difference in the attractiveness of being about to 'use' someone between men and women. I feel that there is.

Some lovely ladies on the thread have shared their experience and proven that some dominant ladies certainly exist, but I'm drawn to the conclusion that there are just a lot more dominant men than women. Maybe there are just more ways a man can get pleasure from a woman than vice versa?

See, I do think there are more dominant men than there are dominant women, and more submissive women than there are submissive men. But you lose me on the connection between that and, as you put it, "more ways a man can get pleasure from a woman." I think there are plenty of ways....the means are there, its the desire that may be lacking.

I can think of plenty of things I COULD do to Marc, for example, but I wouldn't WANT to do them, and he wouldn't WANT them done. "

Yeah that makes sense and supports the hypothesis. It just confirms that I'm a lesbian born in a man's body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just telling a guy what not to do or can do, taking the lead, tease him especially if he goes along with it and respects that what you says goes and doesn't take over. Its them letting their macho maleness go and the girl demand whats to be done.

Playing with him whilst he asleep n riding a hard cock didn't seem to count as rape judging by the surprised smile when he woke up, but it was still me taking control!

Never got around to the tie up n blindfold but would love to do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants."

I've 'used' a man but it was with mutual consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected. "

Do you mean like slowing things right down.. or even stopping....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely women can, there are incredibly strong women around who are very comfortable and feeding purely desires x

Maybe I lack imagination, but I struggle to imagine things that a woman would want to use a guy for that he wouldn't typically consent to anyway...?

Are you saying that men use women for things without their consent?

No.

Let's say that we arrange a typical meet with another couple on fab. The default assumption is that the woman isn't going to do anal, you shouldn't just cum in her mouth, you shouldn't just smack her ass and assume she likes it. In my head, of these things (and others) require an additional level of consent beyond 'normal' full swap.

These are all fairly standard things a man would probably like to do if consent was forthcoming.

What I can't really picture are the equivalent things a woman would want to do with a man that aren't just standard parts of a normal full swap?

There are many men that aren't into unusual acts, as is the same for women.

I would never perform anything on anyone without prior consent.

Let's say for example i desire a man to dress as a woman and watch him clean for sexual gratification.

Oh yes they are out there but it's not what every guy wants.

I understand about consent but once you have consented to sex, you don't need seperate consent to go from missionary to spoons or from spoons to cowgirl. If you start gentle, you don't need additional consent to speed things up a bit!

I know I'm not expressing myself well but I can't really find the words. I'm trying to say that I feel like if you asked the average woman what she wanted then the answer would usually fall within the bounds of things that don't require additional consent. If thats correct then logically, giving her permission to 'use' a guy is unlikely to result in any additional behaviour that wouldn't otherwise be expected.

Do you mean like slowing things right down.. or even stopping....? "

Normally when I say "tell me what you really want" they reply with "your wife"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Femdom

Plenty of events.... ive been and observed (guy ... not my thing but previous partner etc)

You need to check out the site that deals with Fetish Life

We have been on there but found it a bit rubbish for actually meeting people. It seems to be designed for chat... "

Yes we found that.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes they can.

There is equality of the sexes in being used.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes they can.

There is equality of the sexes in being used."

But is the frequency of occurrence equal?

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

I would love to be used

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Yes they can.

There is equality of the sexes in being used.

But is the frequency of occurrence equal? "

It is in my house, but that wasn't the question was it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they can.

There is equality of the sexes in being used."

Maybe it's our lack of imagination, but with my wife, or other women using, it's a struggle to come up with ideas.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes they can.

There is equality of the sexes in being used.

But is the frequency of occurrence equal?

It is in my house, but that wasn't the question was it? "

No but it's a good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX"

Give me a shout, I'm game if you are lol xx

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me... "

No no no no no no

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"This I would like to do, tie him up, blindfold him, spank him and do whatever I want to him, within pre agreed boundaries of course XXX

But is the average guy really likely to object to being blindfolded and tied up? Seems unlikely to me...

You'd be surprised at how many wouldn't be willing "

20% would not and 90% would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're insinuating that women don't enjoy what men do with them,or to them; and that the men are taking it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many women object to being tied up and used?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're insinuating that women don't enjoy what men do with them,or to them; and that the men are taking it. "

I'm still a bit confused OP sorry. Is it more the sub/ Domme thing? Perhaps it's just as has been said, that more women are submissive than men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're insinuating that women don't enjoy what men do with them,or to them; and that the men are taking it.

I'm still a bit confused OP sorry. Is it more the sub/ Domme thing? Perhaps it's just as has been said, that more women are submissive than men?"

Yes, it seems more women have the desire to be submissive, not so many have the desire to be dominant compared to men. Based on a scientific study conducted via this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have sexually used guys where they got nothing in return.

It makes a nice change but i tend to get pleasure from both people being satisfied by the whole experience.

I've also exploited some people just because they fancied me and could offer me stuff i wanted, they got nothing they wanted from me at all, except for false hope that i didn't even encourage.

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