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"Do woman like wealthy men " I don't give a toss about the financial status of a man. I think you will find that is the general opinion. Clearly, you think money will attract. That alone repels me. | |||
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"Did you ever see a billionaire with any ugly wife? " Bill Gates' wife looks homely. I wouldn't say ugly but he didn't marry a Playboy bunny. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " of course!! my god - look at every super wealthy guy and he has a hottie! No use complaining about it - its the way of the world - you might as well complain about the sky being blue | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " I don't like or dislike anyone based on the contents of their bank account. what I dislike is people who think wealth brings entitlement or make a big deal out of how much or what they have... | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men I don't like or dislike anyone based on the contents of their bank account. what I dislike is people who think wealth brings entitlement or make a big deal out of how much or what they have..." ^^  | |||
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"Some wealthy men are lovely, some not, same as those without money. It's the person I like, not their financial status. " Just to add, those that think it's important are probably on the not so lovely list  | |||
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"Wealth isn't a bad thing, wealthy people are bad "because" they're wealthy that's just as daft as saying someone is bad because they're poor. If I had the choice of two men who were equal in every respect and one was wealthy and one wasn't I would choose the wealthy one, it's common sense." That should say "aren't bad because"  | |||
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"I like to pay my own way thank you. Xxx " A man being wealthy doesn't stop you doing that. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " Wealth is irrelevant when it comes to liking someone. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men Wealth is irrelevant when it comes to liking someone." I agree, same as looks. Just recently there seems to be a real downer in the forums on beauty, success, wealth and professionals... I don't understand. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men Wealth is irrelevant when it comes to liking someone. I agree, same as looks. Just recently there seems to be a real downer in the forums on beauty, success, wealth and professionals... I don't understand." You don't understand because you're probably not a jealous person. | |||
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"I like to pay my own way thank you. Xxx A man being wealthy doesn't stop you doing that." Very true. I wouldn't be turned on by a man who flaunts his wealth in an atempt to fuck me. Xxx | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men Wealth is irrelevant when it comes to liking someone. I agree, same as looks. Just recently there seems to be a real downer in the forums on beauty, success, wealth and professionals... I don't understand. You don't understand because you're probably not a jealous person." Hmmm, funny you should say that we were discussing jealousy recently and realised that neither of us are however we make up for it by having plenty of other bad points  | |||
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"I like to pay my own way thank you. Xxx A man being wealthy doesn't stop you doing that. Very true. I wouldn't be turned on by a man who flaunts his wealth in an atempt to fuck me. Xxx" No, nor would I, in full agreement with you there X | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that." No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that. No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce "Christ, if she has curry sauce I'd expect her to swallow AND take it up the arse. Not necessarily in that order. | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that. No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce
Christ, if she has curry sauce I'd expect her to swallow AND take it up the arse. Not necessarily in that order." charmer  | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that. No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce "one used to buy me clothes, that he liked and were for him really. like leather skirt but he had a leather fetish. i just didn't get his way of thinking there.  | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that. No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce
one used to buy me clothes, that he liked and were for him really. like leather skirt but he had a leather fetish.
i just didn't get his way of thinking there. "It's difficult isn't it. If I had only just met a guy I would find that sort of thing graceless and selfish. I suppose I'm looking at it from the perspective of a long term relationship where it doesn't matter who pays because you're both equal in terms of status regardless of financial worth...well that's how it works round here and Mr N is always buying me things that turn him on | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " You say you're wealthy on your profile! | |||
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"I (Mrs) have a v well paid job, and it helps if with someone if equal salary in my opinion. If not you can end up subsidising your partner and that can lead to issues. So I believe equal = a happier relationship xx " Sorry but I don't agree with you here. My wife and I are equals in everything from money to decisions about the kids and the house. Money's nice, but it's not the end of the world. Oh and the wife is the one with the better job and it doesn't bother me or her. M | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that. No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce
one used to buy me clothes, that he liked and were for him really. like leather skirt but he had a leather fetish.
i just didn't get his way of thinking there.
It's difficult isn't it. If I had only just met a guy I would find that sort of thing graceless and selfish. I suppose I'm looking at it from the perspective of a long term relationship where it doesn't matter who pays because you're both equal in terms of status regardless of financial worth..."Yes, that's how I think of it too, in any relationship. I probably earned more than my ex but we didn't ever count, it just went into one account and I always let him go to the bar or get the bill. | |||
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"I (Mrs) have a v well paid job, and it helps if with someone if equal salary in my opinion. If not you can end up subsidising your partner and that can lead to issues. So I believe equal = a happier relationship xx Sorry but I don't agree with you here. My wife and I are equals in everything from money to decisions about the kids and the house. Money's nice, but it's not the end of the world. Oh and the wife is the one with the better job and it doesn't bother me or her. M" I agree, since we had a family we agreed that one of us would stay home with the children and the other work, we've had no problems because of this, we both play our role within the family and it suits us just fine, money is far from the be all in our relationship | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men I don't like or dislike anyone based on the contents of their bank account. what I dislike is people who think wealth brings entitlement or make a big deal out of how much or what they have..." This. It's the person who is important not the amount of money they have. The mention on a profile of being wealthy would put me off. Nita | |||
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"My internationally accepted American millionaire friend always has a new age-inappropriate, psyco-bitch in tow. The latest one seems nice..." Dur! It's a well known tactic of getting under the radar
You wait.....once she's 'in' and trusted.... | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " Would you rather be rich and unhappy or poor and happy ,yooouuu decide lol | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that. No, nor would I. However a man who thinks you owe him sex will think that if all he's done is buy you a bag of chips and given you the option of curry sauce
one used to buy me clothes, that he liked and were for him really. like leather skirt but he had a leather fetish.
i just didn't get his way of thinking there.
It's difficult isn't it. If I had only just met a guy I would find that sort of thing graceless and selfish. I suppose I'm looking at it from the perspective of a long term relationship where it doesn't matter who pays because you're both equal in terms of status regardless of financial worth...well that's how it works round here and Mr N is always buying me things that turn him on "i didnt have much money then, and was very young as well. he just used to buy things that were for himself and then act like i owed him something. now i pay for my fellas if i want to, love having enough money to do that. | |||
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"My internationally accepted American millionaire friend always has a new age-inappropriate, psyco-bitch in tow. The latest one seems nice..." what the hell does internationally accepted mean | |||
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"My internationally accepted American millionaire friend always has a new age-inappropriate, psyco-bitch in tow. The latest one seems nice...what the hell does internationally accepted mean" FFS!  have you never been to Calais?! | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men Would you rather be rich and unhappy or poor and happy ,yooouuu decide lol "i was quite miserable being poor. worrying about whether you csn put the heating on or going without food doesn't make me happy. being finacially secure makes me happy. i also can go shopping and not have to count pennies and can buy what i want. life is 0% stressful now, i'm a lot happier. | |||
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"i've had relationships with some but tbh they think they can pay for you. like if they buy something but you refuse them sex coz they have made no effort with you to make sure you're in the mood for that then they're rude and 'but i bought...' obviously it'd be great to be with someone financially secure, maybe someone who even genuinely likes to spoil me for no reason at all (i'm happy with 99p jewellery off ebay btw lol) but to be bought and controlled by money i would not like that." | |||
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"My internationally accepted American millionaire friend always has a new age-inappropriate, psyco-bitch in tow. The latest one seems nice...what the hell does internationally accepted mean FFS! have you never been to Calais?!"well i know what i think it means but ive seen him put it before but cant understand why he has to keep putting it | |||
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"My internationally accepted American millionaire friend always has a new age-inappropriate, psyco-bitch in tow. The latest one seems nice..." Oh dear | |||
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"I like to pay my own way thank you. Xxx " This is me too. | |||
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"I (Mrs) have a v well paid job, and it helps if with someone if equal salary in my opinion. If not you can end up subsidising your partner and that can lead to issues. So I believe equal = a happier relationship xx Sorry but I don't agree with you here. My wife and I are equals in everything from money to decisions about the kids and the house. Money's nice, but it's not the end of the world. Oh and the wife is the one with the better job and it doesn't bother me or her. Sounds like it works for you ... It just didn't for us. He'd get frustrated as he couldn't 'treat me' or pay his way, and I'd have to do things 'on the cheap' rather than the thing I really wanted/could afford to do. i.e Really cheap holidays and restaurants, not going to the theatre, even hiding clothes I'd bought. I owned the house and he moved in with me therefore I chose the decor, the furniture etc as I paid for all of it. It was a total nightmare after a while as he felt he couldn't have 'his say'. He said it was like living with his parents! (Probably was to be fair) but I was paying for everything. Xx M" | |||
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"Never met a wealthy guy to my knowledge!! Any one who would like to let me experience it feel free to message! Bored of chatting to guys who can't afford their half of the hotel bill!" Yeah I've met a few of those I'm happy to pay for a hotel if that's my choice, I've met many guys who have traveled a long way so I feel it fair that I pay for the hotel if they have paid for a train ticket or put petrol in the car and spent a few hours getting to me, you can share the costs in other ways too, one pay for lunch, one pay for drinks etc everything don't have to be split 50/50 But I've met some guys where when you meet them they out right tell you they can't afford to contribute towards the meet and that pisses me off because it makes you feel taken for granted | |||
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"I (Mrs) have a v well paid job, and it helps if with someone if equal salary in my opinion. If not you can end up subsidising your partner and that can lead to issues. So I believe equal = a happier relationship xx Sorry but I don't agree with you here. My wife and I are equals in everything from money to decisions about the kids and the house. Money's nice, but it's not the end of the world. Oh and the wife is the one with the better job and it doesn't bother me or her. M I agree, since we had a family we agreed that one of us would stay home with the children and the other work, we've had no problems because of this, we both play our role within the family and it suits us just fine, money is far from the be all in our relationship" I think the difference was my ex was in debt. And he used to get stressy (very) about his debts, overdraft and credit cards etc. And it effected us badly. So to be fair it wasn't that he eared 50% less than I did it was that he was bad with money. He'd spend/waste it on rubbish and then ask me to bale him out for stuff like new tyes or MOT etc which I resented. He was super person and it was a shame xx | |||
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"Never met a wealthy guy to my knowledge!! Any one who would like to let me experience it feel free to message! Bored of chatting to guys who can't afford their half of the hotel bill!" A lot of the really rich guys are probably going to be over 38. That's probably why you're not finding them.  | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " Wealthy how? Coffins are all pretty much the same. Great leveller, death. | |||
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"Never met a wealthy guy to my knowledge!! Any one who would like to let me experience it feel free to message! Bored of chatting to guys who can't afford their half of the hotel bill! A lot of the really rich guys are probably going to be over 38. That's probably why you're not finding them. "Yes probably very true! Don't even need rich just as long as they can pay their half...or even afford a coffee or a drink! | |||
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"Never met a wealthy guy to my knowledge!! Any one who would like to let me experience it feel free to message! Bored of chatting to guys who can't afford their half of the hotel bill! A lot of the really rich guys are probably going to be over 38. That's probably why you're not finding them.
Yes probably very true! Don't even need rich just as long as they can pay their half...or even afford a coffee or a drink! "I'm pretty sure I'd be able to manage to pay for at least one coffee, possibly even one each. might even really push the boat out and stretch the finances to a room to. . LOL | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men Wealthy how? Coffins are all pretty much the same. Great leveller, death." FFS, I want to get laid not laid in ground. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men I don't like Donald trump "Is that because his eyes aren't blue enough? | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men I don't like Donald trump
Is that because his eyes aren't blue enough?"haha doubt it...maybe this is a personal joke though? 
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"Do woman like wealthy men I don't like Donald trump
Is that because his eyes aren't blue enough?
haha doubt it...maybe this is a personal joke though?
lol, i liked the video of a woman doing a donald trump makeover and she used cheesy wotsits to do his skin colour."I think that's grossly unfair to cheesy wotsits. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men I don't like Donald trump
Is that because his eyes aren't blue enough?
haha doubt it...maybe this is a personal joke though?
lol, i liked the video of a woman doing a donald trump makeover and she used cheesy wotsits to do his skin colour.
I think that's grossly unfair to cheesy wotsits. "lol, yeah maybe it is but the shade did match. | |||
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"Not fond of bank robbers or CEOs of companies that screw the consumer to make them rich. Some wealthy men are ok I suppose. " A strange analogy . Bank robbers are tbieves stealing from hard working people . The renumeration of CEOs must be approved by share holders and CEOs will have exceptional skills in addition to having worked very hard for their money. | |||
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"Did you ever see a billionaire with any ugly wife? " all I'm going to say is .... Donald Trump hahaha | |||
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"There was a study done a while back which found that women were more aroused by images of men who they believed were wealthy than those they believed were of average means. It is an engrained fact that women are more attracted to wealthy men, good luck getting most of them to admit it though, like a lot of things it falls into their cognitive black hole, much like their "I want a really nice guy, why do I keep ending up in bed with drug dealers" thing. " They actually want a guy with money who is a bit of a bad boy when it suits | |||
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"I dislike people who use others for money. So I just tend to wear rather normal clothing and pretend I'm poor most of the time "Erm.. yeah.. yeah, that's what I do to. I don't let others know that I'm in fact the prince of Zamunda. | |||
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"There was a study done a while back which found that women were more aroused by images of men who they believed were wealthy than those they believed were of average means. It is an engrained fact that women are more attracted to wealthy men, good luck getting most of them to admit it though, like a lot of things it falls into their cognitive black hole, much like their "I want a really nice guy, why do I keep ending up in bed with drug dealers" thing. " Interviewer: "what would you be if you weren't a footballer?" Peter Crouch: "a virgin" So true | |||
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"There was a study done a while back which found that women were more aroused by images of men who they believed were wealthy than those they believed were of average means. It is an engrained fact that women are more attracted to wealthy men, good luck getting most of them to admit it though, like a lot of things it falls into their cognitive black hole, much like their "I want a really nice guy, why do I keep ending up in bed with drug dealers" thing. Interviewer: "what would you be if you weren't a footballer?" Peter Crouch: "a virgin" So true " Bang on. Love that quote, there's something endearing about a man who knows his weaknesses and accepts them. Wish I could be a little more like that sometimes | |||
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"There was a study done a while back which found that women were more aroused by images of men who they believed were wealthy than those they believed were of average means. It is an engrained fact that women are more attracted to wealthy men, good luck getting most of them to admit it though, like a lot of things it falls into their cognitive black hole, much like their "I want a really nice guy, why do I keep ending up in bed with drug dealers" thing. Interviewer: "what would you be if you weren't a footballer?" Peter Crouch: "a virgin" So true Bang on. Love that quote, there's something endearing about a man who knows his weaknesses and accepts them. Wish I could be a little more like that sometimes " Most people don't even understand that their preferences are a combination of conscious and subconscious biases, with the latter carrying more weight. You can pretty much get the conscious to believe whatever you want with enough social pressure. So as you say, such matters disappear into a cognitive black hole. Although it's worth pointing out that since millionaire footballers all seem to have conventionally attractive wives, perhaps that also means the men aren't entirely making their choices based on personality either. | |||
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"There was a study done a while back which found that women were more aroused by images of men who they believed were wealthy than those they believed were of average means. It is an engrained fact that women are more attracted to wealthy men, good luck getting most of them to admit it though, like a lot of things it falls into their cognitive black hole, much like their "I want a really nice guy, why do I keep ending up in bed with drug dealers" thing. Interviewer: "what would you be if you weren't a footballer?" Peter Crouch: "a virgin" So true Bang on. Love that quote, there's something endearing about a man who knows his weaknesses and accepts them. Wish I could be a little more like that sometimes Most people don't even understand that their preferences are a combination of conscious and subconscious biases, with the latter carrying more weight. You can pretty much get the conscious to believe whatever you want with enough social pressure. So as you say, such matters disappear into a cognitive black hole. Although it's worth pointing out that since millionaire footballers all seem to have conventionally attractive wives, perhaps that also means the men aren't entirely making their choices based on personality either. " Oh men definitely aren't. Personality does go a long way for men, no doubt about that, but its a foolhardy man who attempts to deny that we are physically driven. It's just a fact. As you say, we are all at the mercy of our subconscious desires far more than our rational conscious thought processes. People often refuse to accept this, but there is a very good little thought experiment that shows up the difference in power between the two. Take a spider, in the UK. You know from the conscious and rational portion of your mind that this spider is of no threat to you. It cannot harm you in any meaningful way. You also know that spiders are apex predators of the insect world and actually bring significant benefit by their presence since they prey on many other more harmful insects which can act as pests, infect your food with disease etc. So, the rational part of you should welcome the little helper into your home. Put it down a few fruitflies and set it a place by the hearth. What is our actual reaction? KILL IT!!! KILL IT WITH FIRE!! Once you understand that the conscious is a slave to the unconscious, and not only that but the unconscious can create rationalisation to make its desires FEEL like rational decisions, you begin to understand human nature. | |||
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" Once you understand that the conscious is a slave to the unconscious, and not only that but the unconscious can create rationalisation to make its desires FEEL like rational decisions, you begin to understand human nature. " Kahneman and Tversky did a study where they asked people, who were about to start dating, what characteristics they were looking for. Then they followed up 6 months later to see what their partners were like. The result? When asked what they liked about their current partners, people fed a bunch of clap trap that made little sense and had no relation to the answers given 6 months ago about their preferences; which most people had completely forgotten their answers to. I'm stealing that phrase "cognitive black hole" | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan. "Don't sent up a direct debit, use a standing order. | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan. "Ask him for a copy of any legal binding contract he asked you to enter into before you dated..lol His fault for showing off his wealth and splashing out. | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan. "sorry, this made me laugh ...but what the actual fuck? | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan. " sorry to laugh. I really hope you sent him an invoice for "services rendered" and offset it against his outlay. | |||
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"Different women are attracted to different things for different reasons. I wouldn't turn a wealthy guy down just because he was wealthy but if he felt the need to mention that wealth in order to win me over then I'd avoid him at all costs." I'd still go Dutch. | |||
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"Did you ever see a billionaire with any ugly wife? " Yes | |||
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"Something I do hate is men who go out with a pocket full of notes. I've seen women crowd them all night,cadging drinks. I know a few men like that and won't take a drink from them unless they take one from me first. " I saw a guy do this recently. He had the notes in a clip. I gotta say I thought it looked pretty gangsta and straight out an Al Pacino film. I was considering getting one myself but maybe I won't now | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " Do all women like all wealthy guys? No. Are women in general attracted to a range of attributes? Yes. For some women is wealth itself one of those attributes? Maybe. For all women? No. Does wealth correlate to other attributes which some women may be attracted to (confidence, security, access to nice things)? Yes. | |||
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"Do woman like wealthy men " What is your definition of wealth?. The truely wealthy would probably attempt to hide the issue in order to ensure that people would not just be associating with them for their money. Modesty has it virtues. | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan.
Don't sent up a direct debit, use a standing order." | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan.
Don't sent up a direct debit, use a standing order."I told him to go fuck himself | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan.
Ask him for a copy of any legal binding contract he asked you to enter into before you dated..lol His fault for showing off his wealth and splashing out. "Oh well he'd tell me that he can afford to hire a good solicitor and I can't. I'm not the only girlfriend he's done this to x | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan.
sorry, this made me laugh ...but what the actual fuck? "I know, my response exactly...most of our relationship was wtf to be honest x | |||
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"Well I didnt get my meets through my looks did I.... "Your look is the exact reason why I'd want to meet you. Distance however isn't my thing  . | |||
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"Did you ever see a billionaire with any ugly wife? " Apart from prince Charles ,No | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan.
sorry, this made me laugh ...but what the actual fuck?
I know, my response exactly...most of our relationship was wtf to be honest x"bet it was easier to get over him when he did that though. | |||
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"I've just come out of a relationship with a semi-wealthy man who did like to mention the fact on meets -to impress presumably. I always found that quite cringy. I was brought up to be modest and not to brag, ironic considering we weren't in the position to brag about our material possessions. But presumably he thought he made a good impression. He was as generous to me financially as I let him, I didn't want to be seen as a freeloader/gold digger. When we split up, he gave me a tally of what he'd spent on me and texted me with a repayment plan.
sorry, this made me laugh ...but what the actual fuck?
I know, my response exactly...most of our relationship was wtf to be honest x
bet it was easier to get over him when he did that though."You would think. But it turned out he was a classic narcissist, so he had already done a good job on me, planting seeds of confusion and self doubt. A very toxic person to be around emotionally x | |||
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