FabSwingers.com forum: profile not available

By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

I'm not going to go on and on about this but what's the point of being on a swinging site if your profile isn't available? Are they just picture hunters,trolls or just psudo swingers? There should be a way of blocking our profiles from such voyeurs!

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Because I'm taking a temporary break from meeting and I don't want to be appearing in searches, getting messages or having anyone look at my profile only to find I'm not meeting at the moment.

Is that ok with you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Because they need to take a break but don't want to leave the site. That's why we do it now and again.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

As for being a voyeur

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As for being a voyeur

that made me laugh

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Because they need to take a break but don't want to leave the site. That's why we do it now and again."

Pic collecting voyeurs!

The likes of you should be banned!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If it bothers you, you can still block s hidden profile in the same way you block any other as the same menu to do so still appears

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I had mine last Christmas.... Because my mum died.

I hid mine in May... Because I had a op.

There are many reasons why people hide them.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

Maybe they aren't looking for meets at this time and don't want to delete their profile, if I ever need a break I use the facility too.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Maybe they aren't looking for meets at this time and don't want to delete their profile, if I ever need a break I use the facility too.

Rocket science, eh?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"I'm not going to go on and on about this but what's the point of being on a swinging site if your profile isn't available? Are they just picture hunters,trolls or just psudo swingers? There should be a way of blocking our profiles from such voyeurs!

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"
Huge amount of assumptions going on there op. People can and do hide their profiles for many reasons and essentially it's there's to do with as they wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hidden mine because I'm not meeting at the moment and don't think I should waste people's time messaging me. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a great idea to have the option ,better than deleting and then coming back as many do ,sorry as most do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"

I could counter argue and say because you've got no public face pics that you're also the above mentioned, but that would be ridiculous right?

See what I'm getting at? Just because a profiles hidden, it could be for a number of perfectly acceptable reasons, in the same way you have no public face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've deleted a profile and regretted it. Wish we'd just hidden it rather than losing our awesome profile name and verifications.

And being treated as noobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is hidden at the moment.

It's the school holidays and I can't meet. I do it because I don't want to waste anyone's time!!!

Plus I'm sick of all the inane messages!!!

I stay on the site to chat with friends and come on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will be lots hidden at the moment as its summer holiday season. I hide my profile from time to time when I want a time out, I hid in the days after Swingfields when it was all rather media bonkers, I've hidden it before when I've been away. Lots of reasons, none of them sinister or voyeuristic.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

People have many reasons to hide a profile. Often they are taking a break from actively meeting?

Perhaps due to being ill? On holiday or busy....but anticipate coming back to swinging.

Or they might have a few regular meets lined up and not want the hassle of an inbox full of hopefuls.

Plenty of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I'm taking a temporary break from meeting and I don't want to be appearing in searches, getting messages or having anyone look at my profile only to find I'm not meeting at the moment.

Is that ok with you?"

That seems to wrap it up honestly.

Some people only want contact on their own terms and all.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Maybe if someone has a "Profile not available" because they are legitamatly "not looking" then their facility to look at others should be removed.

After all most say "Just keeping in touch with friends" etc.

So you don't need the facility to search & ogle profiles do you?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Maybe if someone has a "Profile not available" because they are legitamatly "not looking" then their facility to look at others should be removed.

After all most say "Just keeping in touch with friends" etc.

So you don't need the facility to search & ogle profiles do you?

You do if your participating in the photo advice threads I can give people advise on their pics if I'm unable to see them.

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

"We've deleted a profile and regretted it. Wish we'd just hidden it rather than losing our awesome profile name and verifications.

And being treated as noobs

This is what would happen if you didn't have the option of hiding profile..........everyone needs time out sometimes, we all have other things going on on our lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"

Can't shed light on a hidden profile..

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

To have a break I've been on here two years and not wanted to meet consistently during that time. Sometimes like at the moment I have over 700 messages,so have enough to look at without receiving more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went on holiday and hid our profile to stop getting messages. Worked great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the above reasons & more.

Like I've said previously Fabs is a learning curve so it's good to ask questions.

What appears to be blindingly obvious to someone won't be to someone else

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

My profile is hidden.

I am neither a picture hunters,trolls or just psudo swingers!

It is hidden because I'm not meeting at the minute, not that it is any of your fucking business!!

I've been on here for 6 years, I've met 100s of people. I use the tools available on this site and one of those is the ability to hide my profile.

Maybe, just maybe others are doing the same. And if you don't want others looking at your pics, then don't put them up. The choice is yours.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. MOORLANDS & BARMOUTH.

"All the above reasons & more.

Like I've said previously Fabs is a learning curve so it's good to ask questions.

What appears to be blindingly obvious to someone won't be to someone else

Well said Roxi. ..... I always ask the most stupidest of questions. Then find post under mine saying "I was going to ask that " lol..... There is no need to get lambasted for asking a question.

Suzi

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats"

Indeed

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. MOORLANDS & BARMOUTH.

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats"

xxxxx Suzi

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I do understand the OP's point.When you check who has viewed yr profile,it is frustrating to find profile hidden.

I usually message them and sometimes they had forgot or don't realise and on occasions they have allowed me to view for 5 mins before hiding again

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I hide mine sometimes for various reasons, im not meeting, im too busy, cant be bothered with random messages when i log back on, or im feeling down and down want to chat but enjoy noseying in the forums

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats"

Then maybe they need to find a better way to ask the question in future. Ask a question in a snarky way expect to get snarky answers, as is so often said on here, you get out what you put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats

Then maybe they need to find a better way to ask the question in future. Ask a question in a snarky way expect to get snarky answers, as is so often said on here, you get out what you put in."

Maybe paraphrasing isn't their strong point.

Written word can be taken different ways, without the addition of expressions it's hard to work out someone's intent.

I tend to give the benefit of the doubt & post accordingly.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats

Then maybe they need to find a better way to ask the question in future. Ask a question in a snarky way expect to get snarky answers, as is so often said on here, you get out what you put in."

It wasn't asked in any 'snarky way' as far as I can read. Maybe some people read things differently

Anyway, to the OP. I sometimes hide my profile for a few weeks if I am not in the mood or something else is happening in my life which means that I don't have the time to meet or to reply to messages

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats"

They did so in rather an accusatory manner though.

My profile is hidden so I'm a voyeur and I should be prevented from seeing anyone's profile to curb my snooping?

That's not quite just asking a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats

They did so in rather an accusatory manner though.

My profile is hidden so I'm a voyeur and I should be prevented from seeing anyone's profile to curb my snooping?

That's not quite just asking a question."

Pretty much somes it up!!

If it were just a question about hidden profiles, fair enough. But to go on to say these people shouldn't be able to do this or that and name calling isn't good.

The tools on this site are there to use as you see fit.

If your going to put up a profile on a public site then you have got to expect that people are gonna look at it!! Silly to expect anything else.

If you don't like it block everyone who is hidden. Or maybe blocking people shouldn't be possible either? Maybe people who block should be banned?

Did you know op that people on here set their age limit very high so they can't be contacted but can contact you?

shock horror!!!

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

Photo wankers ?

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

When I'm fed up of messages and wanna just read the forums, when I have a psycho bitch stalking me and screen shotting my pics, when I'm not looking to meet but still wanna browse forums and updates.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"

I chose to have mine hidden presently, as I'm not meeting at the moment, because I'm focusing on my education and don't want to waste anyone's time.

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

I didnt look at it like that! Am i getting too suspicious of people because of the many fake profiles and wanna be's? Of. Ourse it makes perfe t sense really. We've taken a break recently from meeting as my parents are very ill, wejust stopped going onn fab. i didn't think of using the facility and found myself having to repeat that were not meeting when we did have a peek.

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile? Huge amount of assumptions going on there op. People can and do hide their profiles for many reasons and essentially it's there's to do with as they wish

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you're right, i was making assumptions, guess i got a bit synical. Obviouse really, was a bit of a knee jerk reaction

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

"My profile is hidden.

I am neither a picture hunters,trolls or just psudo swingers!

It is hidden because I'm not meeting at the minute, not that it is any of your fucking business!!

I've been on here for 6 years, I've met 100s of people. I use the tools available on this site and one of those is the ability to hide my profile.

Maybe, just maybe others are doing the same. And if you don't want others looking at your pics, then don't put them up. The choice is yours."
having a bad day dear?

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"
lots of angry swingers mind! Which is great that they out themselves. Thanks to those that elequently explained why they hide their profiles from time to time and thanks to the angry pitch fork mob, youre much easier to spot and avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I'm taking a temporary break from meeting and I don't want to be appearing in searches, getting messages or having anyone look at my profile only to find I'm not meeting at the moment.

Is that ok with you?"

Yep that's why I hide mine, I make it available if I'm on the forums but otherwise I hide it if I'm not meeting as its pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"

I'm Engaged and I Respect My Fiancé and I Don't want anyone else looking at My Profile expecting to meet Me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hide ours when we aren't actively looking for a meet and taking a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they aren't looking for meets at this time and don't want to delete their profile, if I ever need a break I use the facility too.

Thats one reason i tend to hide mine from public view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone shed light on why someone would have a hidden profile?"

I agree if there are taking a break then the persons profile should stay active but say holiday and they should be a option to turn of function for hidden profiles to view you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do kind of agree that if your profiles hidden you shouldn't be able to view others profile either but hey ho that's out of our hands

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Agreed!

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

"All the above reasons & more.

Like I've said previously Fabs is a learning curve so it's good to ask questions.

What appears to be blindingly obvious to someone won't be to someone else

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By *hor Thumb OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

"Bl**dy 'ell; they only asked a question and all of the FabS ' intelligencia ' jumped on their throats

They did so in rather an accusatory manner though.

My profile is hidden so I'm a voyeur and I should be prevented from seeing anyone's profile to curb my snooping?

That's not quite just asking a question.

ok i deserve a bit of patronising but in doing so you are no less guilty than me! I was being 1 sided yes and "assuming" that people had something to hide (which they have) i just thought it for more devious reasons than what has been made (and should have been to me) blindingly obvious! Appologies for offending and a little name calling but thats just added flavour and wasnt meant to cause hurt.

Pretty much somes it up!!

If it were just a question about hidden profiles, fair enough. But to go on to say these people shouldn't be able to do this or that and name calling isn't good.

The tools on this site are there to use as you see fit.

If your going to put up a profile on a public site then you have got to expect that people are gonna look at it!! Silly to expect anything else.

If you don't like it block everyone who is hidden. Or maybe blocking people shouldn't be possible either? Maybe people who block should be banned?

Did you know op that people on here set their age limit very high so they can't be contacted but can contact you?

shock horror!!! "

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