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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

So this was a new one on us:

1. Single guy with no pics on profile and no validations writes to us. Normally we ignore but for some reason on this occasion we reply asking to see face pics.

2. He sends face pics.

3. Unfortunately Mrs does not find him attractive.

4. We send a polite no thanks email saying no offence meant butnot her type.

5. He gets all abusive and accuses us of being time wasters and pic collectors!

Hmmm some people really do need to learn how to handle rejection if they want to be involved in swinging!!!!!

Anyone else got any weird and wonderful stories?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my cool sorry

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By *easerxxWoman
over a year ago

merseyside

Send the pic back, tell him you wouldn't put it in your collection,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been loads of threads on about this hun n just seems to be a part of fab some people just get nasty n abusive in the face of rejection so its a block report move on thing tbh i see it as a sign of pathetic immaturity n thank god i didnt meet em and their obviously over inflated ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win sometimes, if you reply you get abuse if you don't reply you're deamed as rude!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I lost my cool sorry "

Bad bad boy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection doesn't bother me in the slightest! If I send a message and it gets deleted - fine! If a lady does reply but says no thanks, I accept it and reply politely thanking her for messaging me, even if just to say no - I understand the ladies get bombarded with messages so therefore struggle to reply to everything!

It's all part of being on here, I just go with the flow and enjoy it - life's too short to complain about rejection!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lost my cool sorry

Bad bad boy!"

Don't start or I'll do the same to you my love

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

People should prepare themselves for it.

Employment relationships etc it does happen to every one.

A lot of people deal with it very badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People should prepare themselves for it.

Employment relationships etc it does happen to every one.

A lot of people deal with it very badly.

"

Nice profile picture cariad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lost my cool sorry "

Where does One acquire this "cool" of which you speak?

Can it be purchased at the Tesco?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lost my cool sorry

Where does One acquire this "cool" of which you speak?

Can it be purchased at the Tesco?"

If you are determined, yes you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much dummy throwing in my experience x

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I lost my cool sorry

Bad bad boy!

Don't start or I'll do the same to you my love "

That would make me very sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too much dummy throwing in my experience x"
No dummy throwing from me , I just move on to the next Hot female or couple there is plenty on here

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Major *180 after declining a coffee meet

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

No one is exempt from rejection.....just block and move on, miss one bus catch the next one.....life waits for no one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best rejections for me are when you get a reply saying thanks but no thanks. To which I'll politely reply. For a delete or block just move on. If a message remains unread I'll more than likely try once more the leave it at that.

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

Had a guy last night get abusive with us when he was told a polite no thank you, he seemed to think because and I quote 'I'm highly educated so you should read my messages and except I'm the real deal'

Told him Bugger off and blocked him

Unfortunately fab has these idiots as well as very nice people.

Just block them and move on.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a guy last night get abusive with us when he was told a polite no thank you, he seemed to think because and I quote 'I'm highly educated so you should read my messages and except I'm the real deal'

Told him Bugger off and blocked him

Unfortunately fab has these idiots as well as very nice people.

Just block them and move on.

M

"

Can't have been that highly educated if he didn't know the difference between 'accept' and 'except'!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I don't even look at my delelated messages now

If someone wants to message me they will, and I will message when I want

Though last few days I haven't been arsed to message many people dunnow why

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"So this was a new one on us:

1. Single guy with no pics on profile and no validations writes to us. Normally we ignore but for some reason on this occasion we reply asking to see face pics.

2. He sends face pics.

3. Unfortunately Mrs does not find him attractive.

4. We send a polite no thanks email saying no offence meant butnot her type.

5. He gets all abusive and accuses us of being time wasters and pic collectors!

Hmmm some people really do need to learn how to handle rejection if they want to be involved in swinging!!!!!

Anyone else got any weird and wonderful stories?"

OK here are my thoughts on why people turn nasty over rejection .

They have no life worth living in my opinion everything they are is based around a false belief in how great they are this belief is false because behind it are no facts that back it up.

So a guy believes he's good looking and a great catch but te facts don't back that up he's single not getting sex the last girl he tried to pull in the pub blow him off .

His longest real relationship was six months and that was when he was a teenager his job is boring he's been over looked for promotion three times by people he feels aren't even fit to clean his boots .

You see the fact don't back up his righteous believe that he's a great catch he has built himself up in his head as somethings he's not and the minute someone doesn't see him how he sees himself he's delusional deep down he knows he's a failure but can not admit it to himself because if he was to do that that would mean he'd have to change his fate instead of blaming others for his fate .

So he does what he always done when face with failure he blames others so it must be them not him so he tells them what's wrong with them instead of looking at himself and realizing he's just not as great as he thinks he is

Where as a person who is successful in life and in love has a great set of friends he knows his true worth and when someone else doesn't see it .

Well he's fine with that because he's knows he was successful yesterday and will be again tomorrow so today's set back is like water off of a ducks back to such person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will admit rejection does make us a bit salty, but wouldn't dream of being abusive. We just take a step back from fab, do something else to take our mind of it. Then come back.

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend


" 'I'm highly educated so you should read my messages and except I'm the real deal'"

Except? Aww, bless him.

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

Its all about sex here I personally don't care whoever rejects me im kinda numb when it cums to feelings here this place is just a getaway from the everyday madness x life goes on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a Club and a lady started chatting to me . She said find Her later in one of the playrooms.

I later strayed into a play rokm and she was there with Her hubby . She thought id come to find Her and asked Me to join them . I politely declined Her advances and Hubby went ballistic saying i should feel lucky to be asked as single guys were 10 a penny . I couldn't believe it . I think He thought His wife was a supermodel.

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"I was in a Club and a lady started chatting to me . She said find Her later in one of the playrooms.

I later strayed into a play rokm and she was there with Her hubby . She thought id come to find Her and asked Me to join them . I politely declined Her advances and Hubby went ballistic saying i should feel lucky to be asked as single guys were 10 a penny . I couldn't believe it . I think He thought His wife was a supermodel."
lol.....Some couples are no different to single guys

its rather unfortunate u don't have verifications to back yourself but u showed

some class something alot of single could do with.....as well as some couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh if I'm not interested I tend not to reply as I don't want to risk any nastiness - and I'm told some people get nasty!

As I sometimes do the searching I very occasionally message guys - and a few times I've been told I'm not their type! Not a problem - I simply wish them well and find someone who does think I'm his type! Simples!

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By *pal2Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I keep plugging away....I find that for every 500 or so rejections theres always that one lady whos overdue their specsavers appointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr here

Rejection doesnt bother me at all im overweight, bald and very hairy im an aquired taste lol used to rejection its part and parcel of life id be very happy with "sorry your not my type" a little less happy with "yeah right i dont fuck fat gorillas" haha

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"Mr here

Rejection doesnt bother me at all im overweight, bald and very hairy im an aquired taste lol used to rejection its part and parcel of life id be very happy with "sorry your not my type" a little less happy with "yeah right i dont fuck fat gorillas" haha "
lol no ones perfect .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr here

Rejection doesnt bother me at all im overweight, bald and very hairy im an aquired taste lol used to rejection its part and parcel of life id be very happy with "sorry your not my type" a little less happy with "yeah right i dont fuck fat gorillas" haha lol no ones perfect ."

Too true pal for the most part people in life are cool and dont want to upset anyone you always get the odd one though theyre not worth worrying over though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a strict rule that a face pic must be included with first message if not visible on profile. We will never ask for a face pic. This way we avoid any awkwardness of chatting then having to tell them we're not interested when we see their face. I don't wish to tell someone I don't find them attractive. I'd rather just say that we're not actively looking or we're too busy for new meets. Which is true really - in actual fact we're not rejecting anyone, as we say no to everyone unless someone really catches our eye.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

What's rejection?

To me it's a great filter for not wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was in a Club and a lady started chatting to me . She said find Her later in one of the playrooms.

I later strayed into a play rokm and she was there with Her hubby . She thought id come to find Her and asked Me to join them . I politely declined Her advances and Hubby went ballistic saying i should feel lucky to be asked as single guys were 10 a penny . I couldn't believe it . I think He thought His wife was a supermodel. lol.....Some couples are no different to single guys

its rather unfortunate u don't have verifications to back yourself but u showed

some class something alot of single could do with.....as well as some couples. "

What would verifications prove?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"We have a strict rule that a face pic must be included with first message if not visible on profile. We will never ask for a face pic. This way we avoid any awkwardness of chatting then having to tell them we're not interested when we see their face. I don't wish to tell someone I don't find them attractive. I'd rather just say that we're not actively looking or we're too busy for new meets. Which is true really - in actual fact we're not rejecting anyone, as we say no to everyone unless someone really catches our eye. "

Now before I say this please don't think I'm passing judgement or anything I'm just asking a simple question and making a observation based off of my own experiences .

How can you base a judgement on whether someone has that certain something that will lead to a great fuck instead of a average mediocre one from a picture .

I for one have had the pleasure of entertaining some real stunners in my time but I didn't go back for seconds because the truth be told they had the looks and the body but not that certain something to really get under my skin and inspire me to want to go back .

Now obviously I've experienced the same thing but the other way round I lacked that certain something to make them come back .I just think that certain something has nothing to do with looks or bodies it a way of being that gels with my way of being that leads to great sex instead of average mediocre sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely get any nasty replies as I'm always polite if a guy has made the effort to send a decent message and face pic. Those that don't with one-liners or text speak I ignore.

Any abuse is like water off a duck's back to me...couldn't care less. I just ignore and block.

On the few occasions I've been told I'm not a guy's type I've simply moved on

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can't see how that could have possibly happened because your profile ("hotel") clearly states 'no timewasters'

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"We have a strict rule that a face pic must be included with first message if not visible on profile. We will never ask for a face pic. This way we avoid any awkwardness of chatting then having to tell them we're not interested when we see their face. I don't wish to tell someone I don't find them attractive. I'd rather just say that we're not actively looking or we're too busy for new meets. Which is true really - in actual fact we're not rejecting anyone, as we say no to everyone unless someone really catches our eye.

Now before I say this please don't think I'm passing judgement or anything I'm just asking a simple question and making a observation based off of my own experiences .

How can you base a judgement on whether someone has that certain something that will lead to a great fuck instead of a average mediocre one from a picture .

I for one have had the pleasure of entertaining some real stunners in my time but I didn't go back for seconds because the truth be told they had the looks and the body but not that certain something to really get under my skin and inspire me to want to go back .

Now obviously I've experienced the same thing but the other way round I lacked that certain something to make them come back .I just think that certain something has nothing to do with looks or bodies it a way of being that gels with my way of being that leads to great sex instead of average mediocre sex .

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rejection doesn't bother me in the slightest! If I send a message and it gets deleted - fine! If a lady does reply but says no thanks, I accept it and reply politely thanking her for messaging me, even if just to say no - I understand the ladies get bombarded with messages so therefore struggle to reply to everything!

It's all part of being on here, I just go with the flow and enjoy it - life's too short to complain about rejection! "
. I'm with you on this one I'm sure some ladies and couples get rejected by guys too .So we all live with and be nice about it .We will all eventually find some one or ones for chats drinks and fun

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"I was in a Club and a lady started chatting to me . She said find Her later in one of the playrooms.

I later strayed into a play rokm and she was there with Her hubby . She thought id come to find Her and asked Me to join them . I politely declined Her advances and Hubby went ballistic saying i should feel lucky to be asked as single guys were 10 a penny . I couldn't believe it . I think He thought His wife was a supermodel. lol.....Some couples are no different to single guys

its rather unfortunate u don't have verifications to back yourself but u showed

some class something alot of single could do with.....as well as some couples. ...verifications can simply prove that not all single guys are as desperate as they probably think....im not really into couples tho iv met a few who are the real deal....I prefer single women x

What would verifications prove?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a strict rule that a face pic must be included with first message if not visible on profile. We will never ask for a face pic. This way we avoid any awkwardness of chatting then having to tell them we're not interested when we see their face. I don't wish to tell someone I don't find them attractive. I'd rather just say that we're not actively looking or we're too busy for new meets. Which is true really - in actual fact we're not rejecting anyone, as we say no to everyone unless someone really catches our eye.

Now before I say this please don't think I'm passing judgement or anything I'm just asking a simple question and making a observation based off of my own experiences .

How can you base a judgement on whether someone has that certain something that will lead to a great fuck instead of a average mediocre one from a picture .

I for one have had the pleasure of entertaining some real stunners in my time but I didn't go back for seconds because the truth be told they had the looks and the body but not that certain something to really get under my skin and inspire me to want to go back .

Now obviously I've experienced the same thing but the other way round I lacked that certain something to make them come back .I just think that certain something has nothing to do with looks or bodies it a way of being that gels with my way of being that leads to great sex instead of average mediocre sex .

"

I dont base a judgement on a picture. But I have to know what a man looks like before I consider any other factor. I won't follow anything up unless I feel a spark. That spark is caused by a number of factors, and it's that spark that causes exciting sex. I could probably have great sex with many others, and we'll never know, because we don't have time to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was in a Club and a lady started chatting to me . She said find Her later in one of the playrooms.

I later strayed into a play rokm and she was there with Her hubby . She thought id come to find Her and asked Me to join them . I politely declined Her advances and Hubby went ballistic saying i should feel lucky to be asked as single guys were 10 a penny . I couldn't believe it . I think He thought His wife was a supermodel. lol.....Some couples are no different to single guys

its rather unfortunate u don't have verifications to back yourself but u showed

some class something alot of single could do with.....as well as some couples. "

I've alot of verifications but don't feel the need to show them . What difference would it make anyway

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"I was in a Club and a lady started chatting to me . She said find Her later in one of the playrooms.

I later strayed into a play rokm and she was there with Her hubby . She thought id come to find Her and asked Me to join them . I politely declined Her advances and Hubby went ballistic saying i should feel lucky to be asked as single guys were 10 a penny . I couldn't believe it . I think He thought His wife was a supermodel. lol.....Some couples are no different to single guys

its rather unfortunate u don't have verifications to back yourself but u showed

some class something alot of single could do with.....as well as some couples. each to their own.....no one is obliged .

I've alot of verifications but don't feel the need to show them . What difference would it make anyway "

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