FabSwingers.com forum: Soft play v Full

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is the concensus for a good meet? Do you have to fuck? Is it as much if not more fun to just tease kiss touch suck lick.... ?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Fucking is not essential...I was told by a couple of guys that I played with that our soft play was highly erotic and it works for me.

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By *urvacious_40Woman
over a year ago

Pontypool, South Wales, UK

I find the whole build up very erotic... the kissing, teasing, licking, sucking

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

not too bothered about fucking as dont always enjoy it only sometimes.

Touching, maybe kissing, cuddling, giving oral sex and using toys are all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer soft play, feeling, sucking, fingering, kissing great fun

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By *sian_coupleukCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We ideally prefer soft play with lots of touching licking and sucking, the penetration element is a bonus!

Prefer more sensual meets than hardcore porn sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We di like to fuck on meets sometimes but only each other. We only soft swap with others but I'd most certainly works for us.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Soft swap bores me.

I meet to fuck. If I am asked about a soft swap meet I politely refuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer soft swap meets

im not really a huge fan of penatrive sex so even if i do fuck i prefer not to meet guys who want to bang away for hours, i tend to avoid guys who advertise themselves as long stayers

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend

Depends on circumstance. With women and most men, I prefer soft play. Sometimes though I really just want to be fucked. If I had to choose though, it would be soft play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies so far. Like a lot of husbands on here I liked the idea of seeing my wife fucking another guy and enjoying herself. She's a bit bored with that and doesnt get as much pleasure that way. She thinks guys are only up for a meet if they can fuck. So I'm hoping to reassure her that's not the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies so far. Like a lot of husbands on here I liked the idea of seeing my wife fucking another guy and enjoying herself. She's a bit bored with that and doesnt get as much pleasure that way. She thinks guys are only up for a meet if they can fuck. So I'm hoping to reassure her that's not the case.

Some just want to fuck. Some like other activities.

We prefer oral and teasing.

You can always ask in advance and make your preferences known.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into fucking other guys it just doesn't do anything for me, I prefer to soft swap. If we meet couples it's soft swap only but for an ffm or mff it's anything goes

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

"We ideally prefer soft play with lots of touching licking and sucking, the penetration element is a bonus!

Prefer more sensual meets than hardcore porn sex!"
thats the way no doubt

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

"not too bothered about fucking as dont always enjoy it only sometimes.

Touching, maybe kissing, cuddling, giving oral sex and using toys are all good."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy the sensuality of soft play, and we've done it a few times. It can be less pressured than full swap.

However in mmf or mfmf situation I'd find it very frustrating if the other guy didn't fuck my wife. I'm even happy to take a back seat

We've even had a meet with another couple where myself and the other lady just gave each other oral to orgasm, then sat back and watched as my wife was fucked by the other guy.

Was a great meet, and we'd like to do something like that again, but we think it will be unlikely to meet other couples who feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like I killed this thread.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

You should only do what you enjoy.

We've done both.

There is no right or wrong, just what does it for you.

For now we prefer soft swapping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Soft swap bores me.

I meet to fuck. If I am asked about a soft swap meet I politely refuse."

Same here, I,m here for full sex xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I much prefer full sex, even if it is just with Mark, but I get more satisfaction from penetrate sex than outercourse.

But so far we haven't had anyone who was soft play only have a problem with full sex with your own partner. I probably wouldn't meet them if that were the case.

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By *irtyandfilthy2014Couple
over a year ago

under the apple tree

"We enjoy the sensuality of soft play, and we've done it a few times. It can be less pressured than full swap.

However in mmf or mfmf situation I'd find it very frustrating if the other guy didn't fuck my wife. I'm even happy to take a back seat

We've even had a meet with another couple where myself and the other lady just gave each other oral to orgasm, then sat back and watched as my wife was fucked by the other guy.

Was a great meet, and we'd like to do something like that again, but we think it will be unlikely to meet other couples who feel the same way. "

Wish there were couples like you closer to us. Mrs here. I love to see my man fucking another woman but prefer soft play myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have penetration with eachother, but when we have meets its soft play only

touching teaseing licking then we love to finish with a 3 way wank

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By *ehind closed curtainsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

We liked soft swap but found it often came to a point in the play where there was a pause point where it needed that bit more & either stopped or we swapped back to own partners for penetration. Having said that full swap can go to full penetration a bit too quickly at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We liked soft swap but found it often came to a point in the play where there was a pause point where it needed that bit more & either stopped or we swapped back to own partners for penetration. Having said that full swap can go to full penetration a bit too quickly at times"

That's a good point, we generally prefer full swap but we've often thought 'what's the rush?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Penetration doesn't have to be a fuck. It can be sensual with lots of kissing too. I don't find soft play more fun than penetrative sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are soft only with couples, but L can do whatever she likes with other girls

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think it's time for us to explore sift play with couples.... thanks for the points of view...

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

No rules foreplay then slow deep penetration and more foreplay and penetration and lots of kissing all night long until your tummy muscles ache.

Lovely

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Personally speaking (Mr G here) I'm happy with soft play only, and find I get more out of it that way. That's not to say I don't enjoy full swap and have done so in the past, but haven't generally found it as satisfying as when it's been soft play only for me.

That said I also suffer from performance anxiety when it comes to full swap so that's possibly part of the reason.

Mr G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

soft swappers and those happy to soft swap or full swap (go with the flow) are more fun, more imaginative and better lovers in our opinion/experience, we soft swap or full swap ie go with the flow too and we've never insisted on full swap and found those that do insist are generally not so good to play with....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

soft swap is ok if i am playing as part of a couple..not on my own though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truth be told, in my entire life I have definitely cum more through non penetrative sex. (This is the husband by the way). But what I can tell you about the wife is that yes she can cum through penetration but stimulation seems to make her explode. Shhhh, don't tell her I told you, I'll be punished, again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like play be it soft or full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally speaking (Mr G here) I'm happy with soft play only, and find I get more out of it that way. That's not to say I don't enjoy full swap and have done so in the past, but haven't generally found it as satisfying as when it's been soft play only for me.

That said I also suffer from performance anxiety when it comes to full swap so that's possibly part of the reason.

Mr G"

Yep I'm pretty much the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find the whole build up very erotic... the kissing, teasing, licking, sucking

Oh yes...!!! It's an ESSENTIAL part of the whole experience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either for us. Depends on the mood and the situation.

Sometimes you get to that moment where you just want to fuck each other silly after lots of foreplay.

We'll full swap if everyone playing feels they want to, or it doesn't happen.

Any meet we have, we just don't have any expectations and go with the flow and what feels right at the time and like to meet people who feel the same way.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

We have had just as much fun with soft swap as with fun swap.....the main thing is that everyone is happy and feels comfortable....no pressure....no point in full swapping if one isn't happy...the fun just doesn't work the same... and there is always another time if the spark is there initially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading all the comments here, I find it very odd that, my fwb, whose very much a long term swinger with couples just as much as singles, dosnt know what "soft swap" means,,, yet I'm the newbie lol....had to explain to him by using Google lol,, I'd much rather soft swap and have a giggle first with the other couple, no pressure to fuck, once I'd gotten to know the other couple and by just soft swapping first, then full if everyone is agreeable,the next time, but my fwb says if u meet a couple it's a waste of time being on fab if you're not going to full swap??? Straight off???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fucking is not essential...I was told by a couple of guys that I played with that our soft play was highly erotic and it works for me."

It's helps your rude, vile, abusive and called people drug addicts ...

Touch with barge pole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good meet is one that leaves me smiling. So it could be a great social even.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading all the comments here, I find it very odd that, my fwb, whose very much a long term swinger with couples just as much as singles, dosnt know what "soft swap" means,,, yet I'm the newbie lol....had to explain to him by using Google lol,, I'd much rather soft swap and have a giggle first with the other couple, no pressure to fuck, once I'd gotten to know the other couple and by just soft swapping first, then full if everyone is agreeable,the next time, but my fwb says if u meet a couple it's a waste of time being on fab if you're not going to full swap??? Straight off??? "

If people don't want to meet soft swappers that's fair enough. But to say they're wasting their time on fab? That attitude stinks.

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We prefer the full experience

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We don't feel we've wasted our time.

Maybe it's his way of ensuring you comply with what he wants rather than what you want.

A waste of my time would be meeting someone who does not match our preferences as it would not be a very successful meet.

So maybe his point is that it would be a waste of his time as full swap is his only interest.

We have done, full swap, soft swap, I've watched her and not joined in, she has watched me and not joined in.

All good fun and not a wasted minute.

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