FabSwingers.com forum: Idiots spoil it for the good guys

By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make your own luck on here in my opinion, I'm not here every day and I'm not looking to meet every day, but I do find that when I put some effort in I get results, what some idiots and time wasters do on here doesn't affect me I don't think.

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"You make your own luck on here in my opinion, I'm not here every day and I'm not looking to meet every day, but I do find that when I put some effort in I get results, what some idiots and time wasters do on here doesn't affect me I don't think."

I quite agree but have noticed a tendency for some to criticise other guys' conduct and quality of messaging, attributing that as the cause for their own lack of success on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe those people need to look at themselves, it's always easy to blame someone else for failure, plough your own furrow guys and get on with it !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have a laugh and talk to people normally. Doesn't always have to delve into smut straight off the bat!

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

When someone judges or tars anyone they dont know, never crossed paths by the shyt actions of someone else they do know or crossed paths with it says much about the someone. Male or female, a decent stable mind knows better.

Just leave them to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that the 'idiots' make the 'good guys' stand out

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

It's a line that's thrown around a lot

I think many are just in denial of their own failings and that old chestnut of a line provides adequent hustifixayion to fuel such denial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way some single guys behave on here and in clubs has made me a bit wary and cynical, but still judge on individual basis. It's affected my tolerance, but no I do not think that anybody's behaviour affects another's chances of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this? "

Agreed!

Actually I think the opposite is true!

Though I come across very few 'idiots' -,they serve only to make everyone else look great by comparison!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"I would say that the 'idiots' make the 'good guys' stand out

That's how I look at it

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's a line that's thrown around a lot

I think many are just in denial of their own failings and that old chestnut of a line provides adequent hustifixayion to fuel such denial "

* justification (bloody phone)

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"The way some single guys behave on here and in clubs has made me a bit wary and cynical, but still judge on individual basis. It's affected my tolerance, but no I do not think that anybody's behaviour affects another's chances of meeting."

Over the years I've encountered dubious behavioral antics from couples (usually one half) and single females too.

Not for a moment would anyone with any sense or control allow that to sway anything. I'm well aware there's ultimately top dollar, diamond cpls & fem out there and they know it's the same for single males.

People partial to taring someone with the actions of anyone are either daft or playing a game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say that the 'idiots' make the 'good guys' stand out

Yes. Definitely. It's like a much needed shower after a dry spell - I appreciate the interesting ones much more!

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Can someone PM when it's time for me a white knight post in this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a line that's thrown around a lot

I think many are just in denial of their own failings and that old chestnut of a line provides adequent hustifixayion to fuel such denial

* justification (bloody phone)"

God damn autocorrect

. What language are you on woman?!

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

The idiots make it easier for the good ones to stand out we think.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's a line that's thrown around a lot

I think many are just in denial of their own failings and that old chestnut of a line provides adequent hustifixayion to fuel such denial

* justification (bloody phone)

God damn autocorrect

. What language are you on woman?!"

It's supposed to be English

I think my phone may be dyslexic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say idiots make it easier for us to distinguish who is a better bet TBH ..

Fortunately there are very few idiots about but when they pop up you certainly know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Idiots" may spoil it for themselves. Maybe. Upset a few people. No effect whatsoever on me.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There folk who behave in a terrible way in the real world, I don't see the same being said about that..

I take everyone at face value and on merit, the idiots soon make themselves known and at that point I'll move on until then I'm happy to chat and hopefully meet them

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I think that we make our own luck in life but some people do get peeved with fakers and no shows etc. Swinging is a big umbrella some want to have as many notches on the bed post you'd probably think a swarm of woodpeckers have been at it. Some want quality over quantity. Some want wham bam.... next and others like me crave intimacy and getting to know my playmate. I see fab as a time filler, most are ego polishers.... There are lots of genuine people the fun is in finding them. I don't pursue people on here if they want to meet me and I'm attracted to them it's a bonus. Most people need to chill, fabs fun and another rod in the fire

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

So far all posts seem to be in broad agreement that we make our own luck on the site and can't blame the actions of others.

I'd be interested to hear from those who actually do believe that their lack of success is all down to the action of others.. to hear how that point of _iew can be justified...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"So far all posts seem to be in broad agreement that we make our own luck on the site and can't blame the actions of others.

I'd be interested to hear from those who actually do believe that their lack of success is all down to the action of others.. to hear how that point of _iew can be justified..."

I'd hazard a guess that the people that do believe it have read the thread and realised chose not to comment likely out of embarrassment for how stupid the line is

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"So far all posts seem to be in broad agreement that we make our own luck on the site and can't blame the actions of others.

I'd be interested to hear from those who actually do believe that their lack of success is all down to the action of others.. to hear how that point of _iew can be justified...

I'd hazard a guess that the people that do believe it have read the thread and realised chose not to comment likely out of embarrassment for how stupid the line is "

I think you're right.

I continue to see the argument trotted out in forum posts though, so the next time I see it, I'll refer them to this thread....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of guys are knobs on here ..

Alot of ladies are rude on here ..

And as for couples !!! Don't get me started about couples .

But i must say I've met some wonderful ladies and Couples so I'm pretty pleased I don't tar everyone with the same brush .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can. I block men my age and older now,because of the idiots. So,it's spoiling it for the ones who aren't idiots and are missing out on messaging me. Poor things.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Yes encountered idiots and received abusive messages, but I'm still here and the good guys out number the idiots xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope that people believe that my profile is honest...

I often get told that single guys are an absolute nightmare on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do agree with the point that blaming the behaviour others isn't a mature outlook.

However, at the risk of breaking up the circle jerking here, I do feel for new members who join up and promptly get harassed by 'the idiots' and run away from the site as fast as possible. Therefore giving up on swinging. But then again that probably says something about them.

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

Have you seen a ladies attitude when she gets benched in a club?

Have you seen a couple rate a club as the worst because no one came to speak to them.

Won't even start on the couple who feel they can do whatever they wish to.

Then the single guys. I can over look our desperate attempt in clubs sometimes but can't stand those ones who stroke their cock with so much adrenaline rush some 10cm away from a lady playing with someone else rather than make eye contact or say something a bit funny to her.

I just tend to walk away so the lady don't mistake me for that loser.

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"I hope that people believe that my profile is honest...

I often get told that single guys are an absolute nightmare on here..."

Well given the number of veris you have I'm sure you will be taken at face value..

No need for you to worry therefore about those faceless single guys and their disruptive conduct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just have a laugh and talk to people normally. Doesn't always have to delve into smut straight off the bat! "

The instant smut turns me right off. Chatting is a far better way to go

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"They can. I block men my age and older now,because of the idiots. So,it's spoiling it for the ones who aren't idiots and are missing out on messaging me. Poor things. "

That doesn't really spoil it though.. I've said it often filters don't stop others seeking out those that they've filtered .. it's why I always advocate having a profile that informs interests and hopefully entices..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you seen a ladies attitude when she gets benched in a club?

Have you seen a couple rate a club as the worst because no one came to speak to them.

Won't even start on the couple who feel they can do whatever they wish to.

I just tend to walk away so the lady don't mistake me for that loser."

I turned a lady down in a Club politely and was told i was a looser and how I should consider mysel lucky to be offered by her very disgruntled Hubby

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By *ancscleanguyMan
over a year ago

Preston

Couples get their pick on here and at clubs. Good genuine guys should always do ok. The cream rises to the top.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say that the 'idiots' make the 'good guys' stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im in northern room alot upsets me when dick heads start directing and upsetting memebers where they log off, spoiling it for all

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this? "

I disagree lets look at it like this a women or a couple join a site like this their new don't know what to expect . they put a good set of tasteful pictures up write a well written and thought out profile .

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

all this is tame compared with some of the stuff that goes on but lets just use the examples above how long do you think it would take you to become pissed off with the above if it was happening to you ...?

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this? "

It's totally true. You know all those meets that you've failed at? I've been the cause of all those.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs"

that's not sucking up buddy all the above are facts about life on sites like these. I have first hand experience of the fuck witts myself from a time when I had a slutty sub who like to be restrained blindfolded and used by strangers.

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand . "

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

In the case you cite an obvious course of action would be to block single males, and do the hunting yourselves thereby choosing the guys you want using appropriate and defining search criteria inst.ead of putting up with constant abuse.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually the op may have a point!

Just been stood up on a social so doubt I'll arrange any more private meets! I'll probably stick to clubs and parties in future!

That means I can't really meet guys who don't want to go to clubs - which, sadly, is a lot of nice guys!!

Still in the pub drinking my lime and soda and feeling like a total lemon!

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

I tend to find if you make an effort and be yourself you eventually get the rewards. Been on here 12 months, feel I've done very well as a single guy. Met some lovely people and made some great friends.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective"

Which I did do buddy and you know what you'd be shocked by how many guys profiles read like there not fuck witts but the minute they think you need them they become absolute fucking morons showing absolutely no respect in the process .

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

Can we take as read that there are fuckwits, morons, cretins, call them what you will on the site and move on.

The point is that their moronic and disrespectful actions, lamentable as they are, have no impact on my prospects on the site,...or yours.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The good guys don't make it easier

The idiots don't make it harder.

I make my own journey in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i spoiled it for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope that people believe that my profile is honest...

I often get told that single guys are an absolute nightmare on here..."

They are only a nightmare if you have that mindset. I've allowed (cos I'm special) men to message me over the last few days. I've been busy declining polite messages and talking to people I like. No nightmare,I don't expect Mr Perfect to message me when I let my filters down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If every man called Dave let me down I'd block anyone called Dave. Just in case.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"If every man called Dave let me down I'd block anyone called Dave. Just in case. "

Dave I'm going to castrate you for all the other Dave's out there even though I'm a john and currently we are in their clear or I hope we are .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

Can we take as read that there are fuckwits, morons, cretins, call them what you will on the site and move on.

The point is that their moronic and disrespectful actions, lamentable as they are, have no impact on my prospects on the site,...or yours."

I agree with _andsonjohn. The disrespectful fuckwits do have an effect on people. Ask any woman that has had rude messages from such men/ couples. It gets boring very quickly.

So we go looking... The nice guys start off great, then out come the degrading comments.

Big sigh... mail some new guys. Same thing happens.

Hide profile take a break. Get horny and think yeah give it another go. Same results.

Sure the 'good guys' stand out in comparison to the "fuckwits". But how many 'good guys' are there...

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over a year ago

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

My main point still stands.

Other people don't hinder my prospects on the site.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this? "

I agree. However, I'd be lying if I said the action of some didn't make me reevaluate who/where I met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My main point still stands.

Other people don't hinder my prospects on the site."

It would if you were blocked from messaging women you were interested in. How would you let them know you are interested in the first place?

Other than that,you're correct,your profile reflects you and your behaviour. Other men's behaviour won't affect people's opinions of you when they look at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

Can we take as read that there are fuckwits, morons, cretins, call them what you will on the site and move on.

The point is that their moronic and disrespectful actions, lamentable as they are, have no impact on my prospects on the site,...or yours.

I agree with _andsonjohn. The disrespectful fuckwits do have an effect on people. Ask any woman that has had rude messages from such men/ couples. It gets boring very quickly.

So we go looking... The nice guys start off great, then out come the degrading comments.

Big sigh... mail some new guys. Same thing happens.

Hide profile take a break. Get horny and think yeah give it another go. Same results.

Sure the 'good guys' stand out in comparison to the "fuckwits". But how many 'good guys' are there...

And how do we find the 'good guys'? After all the promises that aren't fulfilled,the no shows from well verified men,the lying about age/height etc,how do we know who the good ones are? We either have to grow a thick skin and have patience,or pack up and leave. Although,some women have a moan about it and don't do anything.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

Can we take as read that there are fuckwits, morons, cretins, call them what you will on the site and move on.

The point is that their moronic and disrespectful actions, lamentable as they are, have no impact on my prospects on the site,...or yours.

I agree with _andsonjohn. The disrespectful fuckwits do have an effect on people. Ask any woman that has had rude messages from such men/ couples. It gets boring very quickly.

So we go looking... The nice guys start off great, then out come the degrading comments.

Big sigh... mail some new guys. Same thing happens.

Hide profile take a break. Get horny and think yeah give it another go. Same results.

Sure the 'good guys' stand out in comparison to the "fuckwits". But how many 'good guys' are there...

42... The answer is always 42..

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

Can we take as read that there are fuckwits, morons, cretins, call them what you will on the site and move on.

The point is that their moronic and disrespectful actions, lamentable as they are, have no impact on my prospects on the site,...or yours.

I agree with _andsonjohn. The disrespectful fuckwits do have an effect on people. Ask any woman that has had rude messages from such men/ couples. It gets boring very quickly.

So we go looking... The nice guys start off great, then out come the degrading comments.

Big sigh... mail some new guys. Same thing happens.

Hide profile take a break. Get horny and think yeah give it another go. Same results.

Sure the 'good guys' stand out in comparison to the "fuckwits". But how many 'good guys' are there...

I could flip that around and say the same about couples or single ladies, however one lady or one couple doesn't spoil it for the rest.. .. like I said in an earlier post I take everyone at face value until it's shown otherwise, then I move on

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i've always said that blaming others is too easy an excuse because it takes the focus off what you do and places it all on others....

its a kop out.....

I'd hate to be in a place where i thought whatever i did, it had not bearing on what i get out of swinging....

unfortunately for others... i don't feel that way....

I make my own success and it is based on what i do.... and part of that is being pragmatic and introspective and working out what i can do better and how I can stand out in a way that is positive for me....

the idiots don't hinder me... they help me!!! i can show the best of me... and who knows me better than me!!!!

I can work out how to stand out from others and do that in a positive way.. from going to clubs and going to socials people can see whats i am like as an actual human being (or run away!!!)

at the end of the day... the only person who influences me is me... its a great power so why let someone else take it!!!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this? "
correct.

those that think idiots spoil it for good people dont give enough credit to those, observing such people. they think those reading what they say, are idiots themselves that they cant make a clear discernment, on whats bullshit and whats not...i dont think people on here are as stupid, as some people believe them to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often read this on the forums but personally don't believe that what anyone else does has any bearing on my actions on the site.

Any _iews on this?

they are then inundated with messages so out of politeness they message back everyone even the people their not interested in.

then the abuse starts from those their turning down then they start getting stood up fro socials and sex meets.

and if you do become pissed off with it all how long before that would start to effect the way you go about looking for fun or make you decided you know what its just not worth the hassle and leave .

as guys on these sorts of sites we have it easy because we get very little shit thrown our way compared to your average woman or couple on here .

in fact because of the shit woman and couple go through on these types of sites from time to time I wouldn't swap places with them for all the tea in china .

Jesus stop sucking up .

Oh I understand what your all going through !!! Lol

Theres a block button ffs

some of the messages we received would leave me wishing I could get my hands on then with a pair of bolt cutters in the other hand .

Nobody is denying that there are some cretins on the site, not for one minute.

That doesn't affect me, but makes selection for you. easier and more effective

Can we take as read that there are fuckwits, morons, cretins, call them what you will on the site and move on.

The point is that their moronic and disrespectful actions, lamentable as they are, have no impact on my prospects on the site,...or yours.

I agree with _andsonjohn. The disrespectful fuckwits do have an effect on people. Ask any woman that has had rude messages from such men/ couples. It gets boring very quickly.

So we go looking... The nice guys start off great, then out come the degrading comments.

Big sigh... mail some new guys. Same thing happens.

Hide profile take a break. Get horny and think yeah give it another go. Same results.

Sure the 'good guys' stand out in comparison to the "fuckwits". But how many 'good guys' are there...

Patience is key.

Off to find the 42 good ones....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had one guy made it clear safe sex always no exceptions slipped his condom off and slipped it in the mrs it ended then with him straight off let him finnish by wanking over her so were more cautious now than ever

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"We had one guy made it clear safe sex always no exceptions slipped his condom off and slipped it in the mrs it ended then with him straight off let him finnish by wanking over her so were more cautious now than ever

That's terrible behaviour

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Agree with you OP, the "idiots" tend to make the real guys (real = good messages, turn up when they say they will etc)stand out by a country mile.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

He did what and you let him what I'd have snapped myself and so would have his cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always see it through as to not continue would be a waste of our time so we got what we wanted then chucked him out lol

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"We always see it through as to not continue would be a waste of our time so we got what we wanted then chucked him out lol"

Your a nicer person than me that's for sure I put great value in my own boundaries and those of others so I'd have snapped if someone over stepped .

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