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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately "

They must be crazy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as most are into the chase is better than the catch.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"I think as most are into the chase is better than the catch."

This is true for so many.

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their loss...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't stand you up omg your hot love to eat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

They must be crazy!! "

Or fake I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as most are into the chase is better than the catch.

This is true for so many.

MrsSB "
That is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think some ppl get of on it its happend to most of us i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

They must be crazy!!

Or fake I guess "

This too, are they verified guys you're arranging to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their loss..."

They obviously didn't think so or they'd have met her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of them are fantasists who think with their cocks.It seems like a good idea when they are horny. but when it comes to it, they really have no intention of showing up. Trouble with that is it ruins peoples weekends or evenings and some go to alot of trouble to arrange child care and things. all in all it's a pretty poor thing to do. happened to us twice this weekend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

They must be crazy!!

Or fake I guess

This too, are they verified guys you're arranging to meet? "

Yeah mostly, I try and stay away from unverified x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I read in a forum post earlier this week, that's why the same reliable guys get meets over and over again...they turn up and deliver

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think a lot of them are fantasists who think with their cocks.It seems like a good idea when they are horny. but when it comes to it, they really have no intention of showing up. Trouble with that is it ruins peoples weekends or evenings and some go to alot of trouble to arrange child care and things. all in all it's a pretty poor thing to do. happened to us twice this weekend "

Yeah i just find it really annoying because it's time that could have being doing something or someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happening to me too, so tempted to come off fab and join plenty of fish instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happening to me too, so tempted to come off fab and join plenty of fish instead "

Trust me it's just as bad lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just so rude.

No doubt it happens to everyone at some point, but I'd be livid.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston


"Happening to me too, so tempted to come off fab and join plenty of fish instead

Trust me it's just as bad lol"

Pof is much better and easier to arrange meets.. for some reason fab is swamped with fakes and time wasters

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately "

Do you ever chat to them on the phone? Even as single guy, I always chat to people on the phone if only to see if they are real

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, I wasn't happy. Pet peave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fang I'm local to u and it seems to be a big problem here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They must be crazy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

Do you ever chat to them on the phone? Even as single guy, I always chat to people on the phone if only to see if they are real"

Yeah sometimes I have done. Guess I just need to be even more selective

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fang I'm local to u and it seems to be a big problem here"

It's only been recently that it's been happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

They must be crazy!!

Or fake I guess

This too, are they verified guys you're arranging to meet?

Yeah mostly, I try and stay away from unverified x"

Hmmm, not sure then lovely, perhaps they just got cold feet. Doesn't excuse them not letting you know though x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

They must be crazy!!

Or fake I guess

This too, are they verified guys you're arranging to meet?

Yeah mostly, I try and stay away from unverified x

Hmmm, not sure then lovely, perhaps they just got cold feet. Doesn't excuse them not letting you know though x"

Yeah perhaps, just annoying more than anything else

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Always have a backup plan and an exit strategy.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I too have more success from pof etc, but I've met a few off here. I find a few are on both and more sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pull up sandbag and let's exchange a few stories, compare excuses and see how much we have in common on this subject!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never stand somebody up its just rude!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a no show yet. Maybe meet in a club so you still get to socialise even someone doesn't show up.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop swapping pics,don't engage in sex talk and the ones who don't want to meet get bored and bugger off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not had a no show yet. Maybe meet in a club so you still get to socialise even someone doesn't show up.

Sarah "

I'd rather be stood up at a bar than in a place full of strangers fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pof was great until they starter charging unless you wanted a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I read in a forum post earlier this week, that's why the same reliable guys get meets over and over again...they turn up and deliver "

Their man milk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of context OP, very nice lacey french knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pof was great until they starter charging unless you wanted a relationship"

Trying to make it less of a hook up site. It won't make a difference,people will pretend they want a relationship to get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of context OP, very nice lacey french knickers "

They are lovely aren't they. I like lace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately "

As someone said below op its often the thrill of the chase! Many (men and women - not just calling men!) are attached and love the IDEA of swinging but balk when it comes to the Actual meet!

I've managed to cut down on no shows by not 'feeding' guys with 'rude' pics, loads of flirty messages etc!!

Send them a current face/body pic op but leave it at that! Tell them what you're into sexually, by all means, but don't indulge in loads of 'dirty talk'!

Those who don't really meet will ask for a constant stream of pictures, videos and sexy chats - because that's all they're here for!!

Finally - try to have a plan B - whether that's a bar of chocolate and a good film, going to a local club alone (I've done that loads of times and had a great time) etc etc!

Hope this helps op! Xx

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By *onnaDaveCouple
over a year ago

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This also happened to us, guy made contact with us then said he was on his way, next thing we knew he had blocked us the cheeky sod,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lot of people saying 'they must be crazy' so I'll offer the other perspective and say 'are you trying to punch above your weight?'

Not meant in a nasty way, merely offering the suggestion that some women allow the deluge of mailings to get to their head and think they are a little more quality than they really are and only go for that level of guy. Ends up the guy goes along with it but when push comes to shove they go 'actually..nah' and block/don't show/etc.

Personally I don't play that game, if I don't find someone attractive I'd never let it get anywhere near actually meeting. I only tell people I really find attractive that I find them attractive. A lot of lads don't do that though and just go along with it even if they don't actually like them.

Just another way of looking at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finally - try to have a plan B - whether that's a bar of chocolate and a good film"

Plan B sounds great...mix that in with a plan A and that's a helluva plan A!

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not had a no show yet. Maybe meet in a club so you still get to socialise even someone doesn't show up.

Sarah

I'd rather be stood up at a bar than in a place full of strangers fucking. "

You have completely the wrong idea of a club. Play rooms are for play. The bar area in most clubs is for socialising and I've never seen anyone having sex there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of context OP, very nice lacey french knickers

They are lovely aren't they. I like lace. "

Lace us so sexy and classy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of context OP, very nice lacey french knickers

They are lovely aren't they. I like lace.

Lace us so sexy and classy "

Is*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately

They must be crazy!!

Or fake I guess "
they would have to be to not show up for a sample of your delights my dear xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why after talking to someone for a while, swap pics, arrange a meet do so many people just no show?

4 times its happened to me lately "

Maybe the wife came home earlier than expected

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By *ovice_subTV/TS
over a year ago

Warrington

I have been stood up more times than I have actually had a meet.

I might just be me but it seems like it is getting harder and harder to actually get a meet on here.

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