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"if you have to ask on here then its not for you" Why isn't it? I'm open to try new things. | |||
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"if you have to ask on here then its not for you Why isn't it? I'm open to try new things. " If what she said is lost on you then sadly you may not be the right sort of guy for her . Sorry for saying that OP but if the fun she's after is not in your sexual make up your not going to be able to deliver a sexual experience you will enjoy let alone her . | |||
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"if you have to ask on here then its not for you Why isn't it? I'm open to try new things. If what she said is lost on you then sadly you may not be the right sort of guy for her . Sorry for saying that OP but if the fun she's after is not in your sexual make up your not going to be able to deliver a sexual experience you will enjoy let alone her ." | |||
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"if you have to ask on here then its not for you" I agree! | |||
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"A lady friend wants to be a "good submissive" for me but I'm not totally understanding what that means exactly, never read 50 Shades. Any advice?" My advice would be to sit down with her and find out what she feels a good submissive is, if you feel its the kind of thing that you would enjoy and take it from there. Try some erotic novels have a look on Amazon for them, have a look at some of the stories written on various web sites, discuss fantasies etc. There isn't a set way of going about this kind of thing only the way that's right for the two of you, the things to bear in mind are respect for each other and communication. We stopped asking other people for advice long ago because although one or two were happy to chat and be helpful loads were exclusive and arrogant in their responses so we decided to find our own way. Good luck to the two of you, I hope you both find what you're after. | |||
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"She needs to find herself a Dom she trusts. If you're asking this question then I very much doubt that it's you. Being in a Ds relationship is about so much more than someone saying that they want you to dominate them. It takes time to build trust together, and to give yourself to someone is a huge thing, as is being owned. By all means take control in the bedroom, but don't confuse that with a Ds relationship. H." | |||
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"if you have to ask on here then its not for you Why isn't it? I'm open to try new things. If what she said is lost on you then sadly you may not be the right sort of guy for her . Sorry for saying that OP but if the fun she's after is not in your sexual make up your not going to be able to deliver a sexual experience you will enjoy let alone her ." | |||
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"Well I might have known those would happen, ask for advise and get told what I'm asking isn't for me. Everyone had to start somewhere. Thanks for the genuine suggestions, those who said its not for me and my friend thanks for nothing. " you will always get the experts when such questions are asked who think they where born knowing everything. Take no notice of them and concentrate on the good advice given. You may find it most definetly is you and you become a natural. | |||
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"She needs to find herself a Dom she trusts. If you're asking this question then I very much doubt that it's you. Being in a Ds relationship is about so much more than someone saying that they want you to dominate them. It takes time to build trust together, and to give yourself to someone is a huge thing, as is being owned. By all means take control in the bedroom, but don't confuse that with a Ds relationship. " | |||
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"dont bother reading 50 shades " The obvious best advice! | |||
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"dont bother reading 50 shades The obvious best advice!" yes - im not into the d/s scene as such but chatted to enough folk about it to know the book barely scratches the surface | |||
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"Most of the people on here who are telling you its not for you presumably started somewhere with no experience , pity they couldnt give you the advice you sought as opposed to playing the "youll never be like us " card Dive in and enjoy . Cant give any advice ourselves dont get that scene at all" they amuse me | |||
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"Well I might have known those would happen, ask for advise and get told what I'm asking isn't for me. Everyone had to start somewhere. Thanks for the genuine suggestions, those who said its not for me and my friend thanks for nothing. you will always get the experts when such questions are asked who think they where born knowing everything. Take no notice of them and concentrate on the good advice given. You may find it most definetly is you and you become a natural. " | |||
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"She needs to find herself a Dom she trusts. If you're asking this question then I very much doubt that it's you. Being in a Ds relationship is about so much more than someone saying that they want you to dominate them. It takes time to build trust together, and to give yourself to someone is a huge thing, as is being owned. By all means take control in the bedroom, but don't confuse that with a Ds relationship. H. " this is so so true the sub dom lifestyle is not one to be toyed with by the inexperienced time trust experience | |||
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"May I suggest you try After Dark or Embargo, both fetish events at Liberty Elite. No membership required and the folk there are more than willing to chat to you and you can watch the interactions between couples. It's a very inclusive atmosphere. " both exelent venues | |||
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"Most of the people on here who are telling you its not for you presumably started somewhere with no experience , pity they couldnt give you the advice you sought as opposed to playing the "youll never be like us " card Dive in and enjoy . Cant give any advice ourselves dont get that scene at all" I can only speak for myself but yes I did start somewhere it was the day I lost my virginity . I had heard how great it was from my older male friends how I would not last past about three minutes how the girl would be disappointed. Imagine my surprise when I was left thinking is that it after my first time . no orgasm for me lots of pleasure but ultimately a let down for me the young girl involved thought I was the bees knees because I lasted for ever and was very attentive to what she seemed to like .but for me it was all a case of is that it . Studies has proven that something like a shoe fetish can come about when a baby boy gets a erection at a very early age and sees a pair of shoes this forms a link between the pleasure of a erection with the image of shoes . Its easy to see where a lot of preferences come from when you realise such a thing is possible . As for submissive and dominates I think its ether in you or its nit because that would explain my own experiences on the day I lost my virginity. | |||
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