FabSwingers.com forum: Why do guys seem reluctant to meet a lady who has had a lot of social meets?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish."

Thanks....I am inclined to agree!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm its a shame really, I cant speak for all men but I'm here for the social aspect, meets are all very well and good but id like to meet people outside of my current group of friends that I can talk about something other than football and the normal mundane stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely love the social side but struggle to find ladies who feel the same. I always advertise my meets as social ones and to be fair I don't get many response to them at all

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Its wrong to receive snide comments on the lifestyle you pick.

Interms of men (or some) reluctant to meet someone with alot of social meets.. its their preference. But I guess as above post has said.. they want sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish."

Oh Feir I love how you never hold back! Yep this about sums it up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're welcome.

one thing i have learned about looking for what you want means you have to not let yourself be open to manipulation in any form, even if that means becoming ignorant or hard faced yourself.

i've also learned the internet is very attractive to men who firstly cannot be bothered to make any effort to find what they want, and secondly men - who are manipulative find it easy to do so from behind a keyboard in the comfort of a chair at home or at work.

women may also do this, idk as i don't tend to be looking for them personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the social side but have spoken to many that are totally against it saying 'fab isn't for friendship'.

Each to their own I suppose but if I saw you'd had lots of social meets id think you were a sweetie and a social butterfly so would love a drink with you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish.

Oh Feir I love how you never hold back! Yep this about sums it up..."

say it how it is is my motto, no messing about then we're all clear on what is really going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not all couples and women want socials tho ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab is for whatever you want it to be for...

it has fook all to do with anyone else how you choose to use it too...just look at the snide comments as another type of filtering, block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more than happy to meet for socials it's one of those depends who you speak to some guys are here in sure only to get their leg over others to build friendships and the sex....

Don't get me wrong I love getting down and naughty like the best of them but also happy to meet for coffee and regularly look for socials but not many local women to me seem to want too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A male friend of mine said he wouldn't meet single females who have had loads of socials because every time he has he felt that they were more interested in dating him than fabbing him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A male friend of mine said he wouldn't meet single females who have had loads of socials because every time he has he felt that they were more interested in dating him than fabbing him"

Would that necessarily be a bad thing? Speaking as a single guy I wouldn't mind dating someone I've met here, sure it would be a lot of fun

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By *nkedHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish.

Thanks....I am inclined to agree!x"

I agree also. Have had a few messages myself and choose to ignore the ignorant ones!

Nothing wrong with the social side of things at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I had a meet up recently for a social meet open to everyone for a pub quiz and I hardly got any women interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must admit I had a meet up recently for a social meet open to everyone for a pub quiz and I hardly got any women interested

Oo I love a pub quiz

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

The type of relationship P plays would take 3-4 social meets, where as L it is more instant, gratification and full on fun.

It's finding a balance that causes us problems, very good problems at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must admit I had a meet up recently for a social meet open to everyone for a pub quiz and I hardly got any women interested

Oo I love a pub quiz "

Well you're welcome to come to the next social we organise in Reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for sure... the line I get a lot but hate the most is "so do you have any girl friends that would join us for mff? Please it's my greatest fantasy bla bla"... No. I don't. If I find a girl for MFF we are more likely to ditch the M and enjoy FF!"

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish."

100% this.

OK so Fab is a swingers/sex site but there is a social side to swinging. However, many of the single men on here do not understand this and do treat a lady like a "fucking service". To them, someone who meets socially and who enjoys social as well as sexual intercourse is not what they are looking for....they don't even enjoy the thrill of the chase and chatting up or wooing a lady...they feel entitled to cum and go.

Sad. There's so much more to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must admit I had a meet up recently for a social meet open to everyone for a pub quiz and I hardly got any women interested

Oo I love a pub quiz

Well you're welcome to come to the next social we organise in Reading

I'll take you up on that offer

Friend request me and keep me posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm straight. dunno why a guy would ask me to find a mate for mff but it had (hardly) happened. especially if i've never even met him before, why would i recommend a mate to join us?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive never found this to be true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never met any man who has been reluctant to have a social, well actually I have but we came to a mutual understanding in the end.

I meet in a very specific way & if people don't like that than that's fair enough, shows imo that we wouldn't be compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men will do whatever is asked if they think it will lead to sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do some guys*

I personally don't care about veris, so whether you have 400 veris or 2 veris it will have no influence on my decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't have one without the other, social side is surely more important, if ye want to meet, fuck an leave regardless if the other person likes you or not...

Get a pro...just saying

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think it's because they would worry about being compared to the other guys the lady has met. It shows insecurity and I wouldn't meet anyone who was bothered about my veris

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Social first then sex if both agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer social myself tbh

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

never had this issue before...intimidating amount of veris, but not too many social veris...not sure what process you use to filter the guys you meet...maybe a certain type get through

hope it changes for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

It's insecurity. If you have had a lot of sex you will know what good sex is like and that freaks them out. These are the type of person who doesn't show up for a meet and wastes your time

The woman we are going to meet next is very active in the swinging community and I think it's great. Life is too short for letting small minded people ruin your mood. Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'll be more inclined to send someone a message if they have had loads of socials as it must mean they love to chat and generally get on well with people.

From what I have seen though not a lot of people tend to care about social meets these days.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I was always under the impression that women that have endless socials, have them to receive smoke live and direct up their arses. Look at me, but in person.

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

I'm shocked, people on a swingers site looking for sex!! What ever next???

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Most men will do whatever is asked if they think it will lead to sex!! "

I won't suck cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahahaha !!....spot on ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also love the social side

a lot of guys think just because a woman is on fab then they are just wanting to get it on

and i often get abuse if i surgest a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm straight. dunno why a guy would ask me to find a mate for mff but it had (hardly) happened. especially if i've never even met him before, why would i recommend a mate to join us?"

I have been asked several times by men I have already met if I have a friend who can join us. One bloke suggested I ask the girl next door to join us!! I think a lot of men are obsessed with the idea of mff x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

I'm shocked, people on a swingers site looking for sex!! What ever next???"

Yep of course sex is primarily what the site is about but isn't it wise to meet socially first and take it from there? I have had several meets with sex involved over a period of time but they are seldom verified through my choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as the male side of a couple on here,we wouldn't be worried about the amount of veris someone had,maybe even to the point that it shows someone who is actually quite secure and happy in knowing what they want.Our search is for a particular niche on here that we wouldn't find anywhere in 'normal life', so we are more than comfortable meeting socially first.And thats all part of the 'allure' of the chase surely?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Yes, this is a swingers site. And swinging has always had a social side. This is not "instashag".

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By *aster n subCouple
over a year ago

pickering

Personally i like to get to know someone before anything else to me friendship is part of the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's people innit.

Like all things I don't think there is a general rule and there will be a mix of reasons. Some people are complete arseholes. Some are extraordinary in all sorts of ways. Many posts up here touch on valid and "correct" answers to the original question. Some blokes will find it intimidating as it shows the woman has a lot of experience and despite all their swagger, even us chaps have some insecurities.

There will also be a bunch of guys for whom the irony of thinking a woman with lots of meets "is a bit of a slag" will be lost on them as they go from meet to meet getting, or expecting to get, shagged. Amusing and sad all at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't underst the attitude of some guys. It's like they have a self-destruct button!

But hey....they get deleted and blocked. It clears the path for the decent guys!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

My veris are all social veris because I prefer not to display play veris.

However this doesn't mean that I only ever meet for coffee and want to date, I simply don't like the "made her gush like niagra" veris.

As a result I've had people turn me down. Then a few days later they're often back asking me for coffee and telling me about the other person who messed them about

If someone has plenty of veris it means they actually get off their backside and meet where and when they arranged to. So they want a coffee and a let's check each other out meet, at least they'll be there!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Does it, perhaps, boil down to some mem simply not knowing how to talk with women?

I could offer a clue. Women are humam beings

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

While the social side is important to you and many others (us included, more often than not), it isn't for everyone.

You're just not compatible with each other. No one is wrong and no one is wrong.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've said it often if I'm not comfortable with the other person(s) in a social setting it's going to be drammed awkward if we get naked.

Delete and move on Op..

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

They want bedroom meets not social meets, they might consider you a time waster. Their loss, your gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I absolutely love the social side but struggle to find ladies who feel the same. I always advertise my meets as social ones and to be fair I don't get many response to them at all "

You would if you were nearer to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

While the social side is important to you and many others (us included, more often than not), it isn't for everyone.

You're just not compatible with each other. No one is wrong and no one is wrong.

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By *iccii69Man
over a year ago

Surrey

The social side is equally important to me if I am being honest. Granted not everyone wants to meet the same person time and time again, but they shouldn't discriminate, or hold that against those who do.

Besides, isn't is true that stimulation is just as much from the mental side than the social side?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My veris are all social veris because I prefer not to display play veris.

However this doesn't mean that I only ever meet for coffee and want to date, I simply don't like the "made her gush like niagra" veris.

As a result I've had people turn me down. Then a few days later they're often back asking me for coffee and telling me about the other person who messed them about

Couldn't have put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

While the social side is important to you and many others (us included, more often than not), it isn't for everyone.

You're just not compatible with each other. No one is wrong and no one is wrong.

Actually I have.met a few knowing beforehand it won't go any further and it was simply nice to meet and have a chat when I have had free time to. I don't go on all meets with my hopes raised that it will end up on the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??"

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

With the greatest of respect, its somewhat unrealistic to expect other site users to conform to your expectations of how they should act. You like the social aspect, others don't. Somewhat tangential to this topic is profiles stating that they're very selective about who they want to see or sleep with. Would such an approach also bother you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally we do like the social side, in fact i cant ever see us playing with a couple we hadnt had a degree of social meet with before. Could be as simple as a few hours in the pub first before we went back to the bedroom but there would always need to be that first.

All that having been said, if we saw a profile with 10+ verifications and not one of them involved any sort of play, it would be a huge red flag for us. Not because there is anything wrong with what shes doing per say, but because ultimately our time is limited, and we dont generally have enough of it to go out of our way for "Just a social". We would happily have one at a club we were attending anyway, but our focus is on someone we can also play with.

Ultimately, someone who purports to be there for play, but the veris show no evidence of it actually coming to pass suggest a fantasist element that they arent actually what they are presenting themselves as. And thats unattractive no matter which way you slice it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee. "

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always do a social meet first. Photos can be deceiving plus we want to click and have that spark before we take it further....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish."

VERY TRUE WHY I'M ONLY MEETING WOMEN NOW

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The bad men again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The bad men again

Yep, hang your head in shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they only want sex AND feel entitled to that.

fuck them. you can do whatever you want and are allowed to ask for what you want without being a fucking service provider to shitty men who are selfish.

VERY TRUE WHY I'M ONLY MEETING WOMEN NOW

Are women not selfish then??

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

Not sure I agree that FAB is here as a social meeting media, Maybe after 10 years I have it all wrong, but FAB is a swingers site, it's an opening for peeps who share the same interest, I understand some people are nervous about meeting strangers and choose to have a social first, though in my experience if your open and honest with people and invite them to your home we all know why we are meeting

Or maybe you think FAB members should get a discount at Costa's !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

Because some of us are shallow, judgemental, insecure arseholes perhaps?

All men want to marry a virgin remember!

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Ok it's odd but I would think that's great as she shows up is veried and well must have a few guys after her so she can't be a troll or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined! "

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?"

What's your problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?

What's your problem?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?

What's your problem?"

What is yours?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?

What's your problem?

What is yours? "
hey boys, come play nicely...you both have lunchboxes, where and how you eat doesnt matter

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over a year ago

I've walked along the river, been to a museum, sat on a park bench, been to coffee places, been to pubs all on social meets.

Don't really think it's anyone else's business what me and the person I've arranged to meet on here do.

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

I like meeting socially so it wouldn't put me off, quite the opposite x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?

What's your problem?

What is yours? "

My dads bigger than yours!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

Slightly random question but do you pay or go halves on your 'social' meets??

I do a lot of walking and many of them are just walks with no cost involved. Perhaps an odd coffee.

Realy, a lot of your verifications mention lunch

Yeah correct....takeaway sarnies....so!!? Hardly wined and dined!

So, just to recap? You meet people for a social on a sex site,the go for a walk and have a pack lunch?"

I work in the outdoor sector and am fairly sporty so a lot of the time I do. I spend a lot of my day outside but hey, What's the problem? I have had. a few lunches and drinks inside.but not many. Each to their own

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I usually have social meets in a pub, but a nice walk sounds lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im very keen to enjoy the social side of things for sure, initially in all honesty as a newbie you don't get the whole understanding of what the site is all about, you think its just "sex" but the more you get into it you realise the social aspect is great and its definately something i enjoy,

I have a meet arranged for next week with someone ive already spoke to and had "fun" with its just a drink and a chat.

Socials are good and i enjoy them

Only problem is that im here for "fun" also and id hate to lose the kink aspect with someone and replace it with friendship! Id still want to sleep with her lol xxx

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I like the social side ..... and if I decide your not for me .... then I wont meet you again .... I will not have sex with just anyone ..... I am not a piece of meat ..... I have standards and stick to them .....

There are lots of nice guys on here to meet ...... fab is about having fun ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the social side ..... and if I decide your not for me .... then I wont meet you again .... I will not have sex with just anyone ..... I am not a piece of meat ..... I have standards and stick to them .....

There are lots of nice guys on here to meet ...... fab is about having fun ....

Preach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me a social meets are great fun i had a 9 hour one recently

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

"Personally we do like the social side, in fact i cant ever see us playing with a couple we hadnt had a degree of social meet with before. Could be as simple as a few hours in the pub first before we went back to the bedroom but there would always need to be that first.

Very good point well made. That is the way we see it.

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

"Hmm its a shame really, I cant speak for all men but I'm here for the social aspect, meets are all very well and good but id like to meet people outside of my current group of friends that I can talk about something other than football and the normal mundane stuff "

Looks like he had a social got married and left the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men must be so judgemental. I never judge anyone I had a social meet yesterday, I very much hope it goes a lot further but if not I have just made a friend for life. I will meet any lady or ladies, how many meets they have had before me or after me is no business of mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this."

I don't think there is any surely about it

People use the site as they choose, not everybody likes social meets, I don't think you can assum people should want them

I don't do socials, I like to meet for a drink and get down to business that night if we get on, personally I see no point in meeting for a drink and going home without sex if we get along, if I meet a guy and there is obviously chemistry between us I want him NOW not a week on Wednesday

You just have to find people compatible to your likes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

I don't think there is any surely about it

People use the site as they choose, not everybody likes social meets, I don't think you can assum people should want them

You just have to find people compatible to your likes

Massive thumbs up, especially to your last sentence!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few snide comments about this yet surely fab should be about social side as well as sex!

I don't get it.

For me the social side is important. Yet I have had to block a few who have been rude regarding this.

I don't think there is any surely about it

People use the site as they choose, not everybody likes social meets, I don't think you can assum people should want them

You just have to find people compatible to your likes

Massive thumbs up, especially to your last sentence!!!

Defintely!!

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