FabSwingers.com forum: Why do women always go for the "too good to be true" types then wonder why they get let down ??

By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I see a lot of status updates refering to what ive said in my title , Pls help me understand why the good guys (ok slightly more boring than the other guys but most those guys who ain't biring and grab Ur attention are fake) I think the "real" guys should get more of a look in , you may find that diamond in the rough ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few guys who definitely grabbed my attention. They weren't boring and were absolutely real.

I don't understand why it's an issue. Oh wait. That's probably because I'm not real either.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

The men I've met have definitely been real. I did have to touch them, just to make sure they weren't a figment of my imagination.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Im sorry i didn't actually mean all of them im sure there's some that are actually real but the saying "if it's too good to be true then it probably isn't" bodes well on here from what I've heard

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By *eppoMan
over a year ago

London Colney

Yeah

The guys with the 'front' grab people's attention

Pretty sure most are a little out for themselves

But hey ho ..

We all live and learn ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you are targeting the wrong women

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I've not been let down...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I see a lot of status updates refering to what ive said in my title , Pls help me understand why the good guys (ok slightly more boring than the other guys but most those guys who ain't biring and grab Ur attention are fake) I think the "real" guys should get more of a look in , you may find that diamond in the rough ...."

"Women" don't. Some women do its true but most of us aren't daft and learn after having our fingers burnt once. The notion that women only go for bad guys is wrong and quite insulting to our emotional intelligence.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I met a few guys who by looking at them would seem to good to be true and they were nice to me as well. So sometimes you can get lucky.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Maybe you are targeting the wrong women

That's a valid point .. Ive met some great women on here im just pointing out that I see alot of the same updates ... I was just wondering why really

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I live by one simple rule on fab;

"if it seems too good to be true it probably is"

So I follow my gut instinct and it's never steered me wrong.

Think you'll find women just go for the guys they find attractive on some level that just may not be you OP

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wasn't really refering to bad boys as such more the "im everythin your looking for in a man " kinda guy ... The ones that manipulate themselves to fool you ..

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By *indingDeemoMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Just a case of what stands out more and peeks someone's attention.

I agree on the aspect I seen a lot of couples and women's status complaining of men/couple/women letting them down but can't always say it cause they was to good to be true cause the same way I could looks amazing to one woman in the same way I'm an ogre to the next.

Its just a case that regardless of looks the trolls or timewasters seem to stand out more and make the large impact.

But that being said those terms get thrown around so much you never know it someone is actually a timewasters or just labels cause that could keep to a meet for a legitimate reason.

All to do with perception and preference.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I live by one simple rule on fab;

"if it seems too good to be true it probably is"

So I follow my gut instinct and it's never steered me wrong.

Think you'll find women just go for the guys they find attractive on some level

that just may not be you OP"

Lol maybe your right ... Can't please everyone ..

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Wasn't really refering to bad boys as such more the "im everythin your looking for in a man " kinda guy ... The ones that manipulate themselves to fool you ..

Most women can see through that kind of behaviour. My radar is certainly finely tuned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah

The guys with the 'front' grab people's attention

Pretty sure most are a little out for themselves

But hey ho ..

We all live and learn ... "

Your comment confused me!

This is a sex/swinging site (other than those here only for chat/the forums!) - ergo we aren't (in the most part) here looking for love! So surely we're all 'out for ourselves!' ?

It's the way be go about getting what we want that matters. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a few guys who definitely grabbed my attention. They weren't boring and were absolutely real.

I don't understand why it's an issue. Oh wait. That's probably because I'm not real either. "

U know full well I'm one of the attention grabbers!

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wasn't really refering to bad boys as such more the "im everythin your looking for in a man " kinda guy ... The ones that manipulate themselves to fool you ..

Im happy to know that your switched on

means U get all the fun minus the fuckboys lol

Most women can see through that kind of behaviour. My radar is certainly finely tuned.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Wasn't really refering to bad boys as such more the "im everythin your looking for in a man " kinda guy ... The ones that manipulate themselves to fool you ..

Most of us can spot manipulation a mile off. To be honest on fab I notice men being manipulated far more than women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit confused (nothing new there). You're saying that women bypass Mr Normal to run after Mr Wonderful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason i go for exceptional ladies only.

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By *eppoMan
over a year ago

London Colney

"I'm a bit confused (nothing new there). You're saying that women bypass Mr Normal to run after Mr Wonderful?

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow the white rabbit pal and all will be revealed.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm a bit confused (nothing new there). You're saying that women bypass Mr Normal to run after Mr Wonderful?

Mr wonderful is all good Mr fake I guess is not

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I suspect many of the women on here know how it works and spot these sort of profiles a mile off, as many of us men spot the women's profiles that are just the same

I think the OP was referring to the frequency of threads about single men not meeting and being let down and wondering whether the people concerned are being fooled by profiles that are 'too good to be true' and turn out to be fake and postulating that maybe by casting their net they might have more success

That's not to say some of these 'too good to be true' profiles aren't real because I've met some of the female ones that would fit into that category and they definitely were real!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I suspect many of the women on here know how it works and spot these sort of profiles a mile off, as many of us men spot the women's profiles that are just the same

That's not to say some of these 'too good to be true' profiles aren't real because I've met some of the female ones that would fit into that category and they definitely were real!"

Got it!

It's definitely a case of caveat emptor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met guys who could be considered too good to be true and never been let down...they've actually been bloody marvellous and exceeded expectations!

There is one guy on here who definitely fits the OP's description though - gorgeous face, ripped body, huge cock and a string of fake veris he's charmed out of women. It's amusing to catch him out on his lies when I'm bored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You win some, you lose some.

Some people let you down for various reasons. It's all about being patient and just messaging people whose profile you have a lot in common with. Read their profile first, and if you seem to be what someone is looking for then say hello and go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most the guys I go for look too good to be true so I make sure I secure a social meet within hours or a day and exchange kik details and get them to send live pics.

Even met a dude before just because he said my profile was fake and was adamant that I was using fake pictures, I was like right I'll prove it meet me now by KFC drive through! He bought me a fully loaded box meal for my trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it doesn't work with everyone though. a lot of guys are blatant about pretending to be what i want just so they'll get a meet.

luckily this type of guy also seems to have no stamina when it comes to persuing people for a selfish fuck.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Most the guys I go for look too good to be true so I make sure I secure a social meet within hours or a day and exchange kik details and get them to send live pics.

You got a fully loaded box meal??

That's a happy ending to a story right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can, girls in here can target guys for sex they would not stand a chance of even meeting for a drink in a bar in real life, because guys are randy gits who who hump a table leg given 1/2 a chance

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Because they can, girls in here can target guys for sex they would not stand a chance of even meeting for a drink in a bar in real life, because guys are randy gits who who hump a table leg given 1/2 a chance

That's if the "profile" is real ...

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Then again a lot of girls are the same as the guys you mention, randy and will hump a table leg if given half a chance and some guys are more selective and would rather go without than have sex with just anyone.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Im that selective guy lol

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I saw a too good to be true guy in a coffee shop once, went over and chatted and he's still here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to assume the OP is talking about profiles with pics of big cocks and ripped abs. When someone messages me with those pics the first thing I do is reverse image the pics. If that gives no results I will chat to the man and see a face pic. If the conversation goes well I move onto conversation via my phone. In exactly the same way I do with average or flabby men with little dicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have called and accused me of being fake before.

Not sure how the verifications don't account for something but whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im that selective guy lol "

Are there many women here who suit your preferences?

There are loads of men who suit mine,because,contrary to what you believe,I won't hump a table leg because I'm randy,I have a diverse taste in men and don't just go for a handsome face and pecs. You kind of contradict yourself with your OP. You're telling women they shouldn't go for the attractive men,and your reasoning is they are all fakes,which they aren't. And,women should lower their standards so they don't get fooled.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"People have called and accused me of being fake before.

Not sure how the verifications don't account for something but whatever. "

Welcome back Ejay

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im ok thanks, luckily ive attracted some bloody lovely guys, im not a body fascist so ripped bodies dont come into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got a message from a woman saying that the pics I got are not mine. I take that as a compliment lol.

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By *iverpoolad2000Man
over a year ago

liverpool

People seem to think am fake just because am picky about who I meet as I won't meet anyone who am not attracted to ,just to get my dick wet like some men will just fuck anyone

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

op easy to spot a fake...photo taken in the bathroom mirror..lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too naive, dewy-eyed and always look for the best in people and I believe in them far too quickly - then get let down!!!!! I'm relatively new to this world though, and my first experience on here was very upsetting as I genuinely really liked the person and he didn't turn out to be who I thought/hoped he was!!! ..Sadly, I'm sure I'll get more cynical as time goes by - lesson learned - I walk a much more cautious path now!!!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"I'm too naive, dewy-eyed and always look for the best in people and I believe in them far too quickly - then get let down!!!!! I'm relatively new to this world though, and my first experience on here was very upsetting as I genuinely really liked the person and he didn't turn out to be who I thought/hoped he was!!! ..Sadly, I'm sure I'll get more cynical as time goes by - lesson learned - I walk a much more cautious path now!!!

Jasmine how about a week in the sun to get over your bad experience ..connie x

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over a year ago

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

This is what I meant when i wrote my post .... I hope things go better in future for U x

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over a year ago

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Maybe you are targeting the wrong women

That's a valid point .. Ive met some great women on here im just pointing out that I see alot of the same updates ... I was just wondering why really

Because there are lots more men than women on here. It's just greater odds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what I meant when i wrote my post .... I hope things go better in future for U x"

Thank you.. I actually meant everything I said to him and I would have been fully committed - Ironically, I ended up feeling fully 'Committable'!!!!

It was a very hard lesson and despite my friends, family and even his ex FB telling me he wasn't what I believed him to be - I still found it hard to accept he had used me so badly!!! I felt so foolish - still do!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jasmine how about a week in the sun to get over your bad experience ..connie x

Wow perfect, I'm on my way!!!

Dammit, there I go again - bet you're in Bognor really?!

xxx

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

sun in bognor..lol..don't think so..enjoy your time on fab..if its sounds to good to be true it is..beach later when it cools off..28 indoors..connie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like all kinds of men...have never been let down by any of the ones I thought looked too good to wanna come n see me... but plenty of the others... still thought they were too attractive to be interested in me but most would probably class em fairly normal/average I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sun in bognor..lol..don't think so..enjoy your time on fab..if its sounds to good to be true it is..beach later when it cools off..28 indoors..connie x

Haha, yes very true to Bognor and the 'Too Good To Be True'!!!!

Sounds lovely, I'm very jealous and if I do decide to venture your way I'll give you a shout.. I've always fancied Corfu!!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

the sad part of your post caught my eye and the bdsm part on your profile ..connie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a sensitive Kinkster

The sad thing is, I'm always try and be 'open and honest' ..I think therein lies my problem - I expect the same in return!

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I like all kinds of men...have never been let down by any of the ones I thought looked too good to wanna come n see me... but plenty of the others... still thought they were too attractive to be interested in me but most would probably class em fairly normal/average I guess

Great reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my long time being on fab the reason is quite simply because women on FAB can afford to be picky on this site, with a ridiculously high ratio of men to women, why would they settle for less? granted some women do have "delusions of grandeur" because the reality is that many wouldn't give them a second look walking down the street, but the same goes for the guy.

You need to be able to bring something new to the table, I cant compete with the ripped adonis type on here, but whats the point in looking at something pretty when some their performances are shocking? fortunately i'm lucky when it comes to meets, as i know what I'm doing between the sheets, but i by no means take that for granted to think I am entitled to meet every woman I chat to. Each to their own as the saying goes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works the other way too..

My fb who is 60 met a gorgeous 22 year old Latvian lady and booked a hotel room as she wanted wined and dined....unsurprisingly and to his dismay she then requested a £100 in the bedroom before sex, saying it was to pay her babysitter for her kids. He did give her money as he was scared she had a minder, and after a quick 2min sex session she was off. I did warn him but his cock ruled his head!

So if someone is too good to be true it usually is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem. I don't see any guy as to good to be true...I either fancy him or I don't. I don't put any bugger on a pedestal.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Never had a problem. I don't see any guy as to good to be true...I either fancy him or I don't. I don't put any bugger on a pedestal."

Then no ones fooling you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos they like cake and want to have it and eat it

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Never had a problem. I don't see any guy as to good to be true...I either fancy him or I don't. I don't put any bugger on a pedestal."

Nobodys that good are they.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

hi, we meet two couples this year where the wife / partner was unaware he was trying to get her into swinging..obviously both did not end well..funny thing men..connie

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