FabSwingers.com forum: Not enough money

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure what they meant by that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Basically they said, i think you are attractive but you dont have enough money so you are unattractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

If they are attracted to money then let them move on its not your loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

Yes

You're talking to the wrong people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gold digger springs to mind. ..move on. ..next. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

The person who told you that was seriously fucked up in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you give them your banking details? Or were you looking to pay for sex? How did money get mentioned? Im just curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shallower than the shallow end of the swimming pool (let's hope whoever told you that dives in)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah moved on, i just thought it was strange really because i wouldnt consider myself poor!! Has anyone come across this before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much was she looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it says a lot about that person...

Some of the nicest people I've met haven't had a pot to piss in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No no nothing like that, basically she said we could meet in a hotel if you paid, to which i responded we should go halves. She got that I didnt have any money from that. No bank details were exchange or there wasnt any payment for sex

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By *uttercup!Man
over a year ago

stockport

I take it you are not Bernie Ecclestone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No im no Bernie Ecclestone, I wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No no nothing like that, basically she said we could meet in a hotel if you paid, to which i responded we should go halves. She got that I didnt have any money from that. No bank details were exchange or there wasnt any payment for sex"

Id say that was just an excuse to get out of meeting. But by the sounds of things your better off not meeting her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh right.

she wants you to pay for everything so you're not attractive now.

she's trying to manipulate you into paying for a hotel, ignore her bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah thanks guys, i dont understand though we were actually getting on quite well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry "

Why wouldn't you?

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

gold digger.... Move on....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this?

Yes

You're talking to the wrong people"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah thanks guys, i dont understand though we were actually getting on quite well"

when people want something from you, you will find that you get on well with them.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, she was 25. living at home with her mother and didnt have kids but i see the point if you had to pay for a sitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book "

£80

I would renegotiate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?"

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book "

But do you take into account the costs the guy may have to bear such as fuel or possibly babysitting for his kids?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?"

Attraction has nothing to do with it for me. I have in the past stayed in Hotels that the guy paid for, ones that I have gone halves on and on one momentous occasion, I paid for the weekend away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book "

Lol. Has that line ever worked? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its only fair to split the cost its a meet for mutual pleasure I also think childcare costs and such are a poor excuse I have 3 kids love them more than the world they are my responsibility and its part and parcel of being a parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry "

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book "

Who's to say whether the OP or any other man doesn't have to pay for a sitter too, we all have our crosses to bare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its only fair to split the cost its a meet for mutual pleasure I also think childcare costs and such are a poor excuse I have 3 kids love them more than the world they are my responsibility and its part and parcel of being a parent "

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I never ask for anyone to go halves for the hotel, the hotel meets i have had have involved me travelling to the area where they live and staying over.

If she or they wish to book a room in the hotel and stay over thats fine, but if they go home afterwards thats also cool.

if they were to travel to me (haha) and stay over i would expect them to book the room, but if they asked i would probably pay half, but each to their own.

i would never book a hotel room in my name for anyone else !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's fair to contribute towards costs but I've never been asked to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

Good for you. I must admit, I'm old fashioned like that, if I take a girl out I'd be embarrassed if she felt she had to put her hand in her pocket. I don't mean any offence by it I was just brought up like that I think. Although if the girl insisted on getting a round in I wouldn't protest too much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!"

I for one wouldn't ask you to pay but turning up with the attitude that you don't have to or shouldn't even offer would grate on me and turn me off rather sharpish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!

I for one wouldn't ask you to pay but turning up with the attitude that you don't have to or shouldn't even offer would grate on me and turn me off rather sharpish. "

Couldn't agree more

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By *ogloomMan
over a year ago

Levens

So you were willing and able to pay half. So you had money.

It sounds to me they didn't have the money or commitment ... So actually they were the unattractive ones.

In that scenario if you'd forked out for the full price they still had no reason to turn up as they hadn't contributed anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im saving up to be handsome

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I never ask for anyone to go halves for the hotel, the hotel meets i have had have involved me travelling to the area where they live and staying over.

If she or they wish to book a room in the hotel and stay over thats fine, but if they go home afterwards thats also cool.

if they were to travel to me (haha) and stay over i would expect them to book the room, but if they asked i would probably pay half, but each to their own.

i would never book a hotel room in my name for anyone else !"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

I guess for me it's about establishing we're equal. I make a good living and I can buy your a drink.

I won't protest of you want to buy dinner because that's what you feel you have to do. It's your thing.

But I don't see why women expect to be paid for.

You have a vagina. You're on a date because you want his cock.

It's like women think men should be grateful that they're taking her out that they have to show it through money.... I don't get it. It's embarrassing for me if a man thinks he has to pay for my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!

I for one wouldn't ask you to pay but turning up with the attitude that you don't have to or shouldn't even offer would grate on me and turn me off rather sharpish. "

That's is your own problem mate! As I have a freedom of speech! And I work my ass off to pay hotel rooms and I don't request people to meet up either!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I couldnt agree with you more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!

I for one wouldn't ask you to pay but turning up with the attitude that you don't have to or shouldn't even offer would grate on me and turn me off rather sharpish.

That's is your own problem mate! As I have a freedom of speech! And I work my ass off to pay hotel rooms and I don't request people to meet up either!"

Freedom of speech, why is that even relevant?

I'm confused...do you pay for rooms or not?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!

I for one wouldn't ask you to pay but turning up with the attitude that you don't have to or shouldn't even offer would grate on me and turn me off rather sharpish.

That's is your own problem mate! As I have a freedom of speech! And I work my ass off to pay hotel rooms and I don't request people to meet up either!"

Be sure to work your ass off for the bloke who pays for the room as is 'lucky' enough to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse."

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal."

I think it's less a big deal but more a topic for discussion.

Why can't we debate this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

I think it's less a big deal but more a topic for discussion.

Why can't we debate this?

I'm not stopping anyone from debating. I'm just saying I don't find it a big deal. Carry on

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal."

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

I guess for me it's about establishing we're equal. I make a good living and I can buy your a drink.

I won't protest of you want to buy dinner because that's what you feel you have to do. It's your thing.

But I don't see why women expect to be paid for.

You have a vagina. You're on a date because you want his cock.

Oh Kittie you are a cutie. I'd buy you dinner any time. If I felt like I had to pay for everything that would piss me off but if a girl offers to chip in then that's enough for me. There's a difference between being expected to pay and wanting to I think. It goes back to days of old when us hairy arsed men were the providers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?"

Yes that's correct. You win

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

Yes that's correct. You win

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

Yes that's correct. You win

Cheers"

Certificate is in the post.

Seriously though as I said I'm happy to contribute always have done but if someone doesn't then I'd just move on to the next. Fairs fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry

I wonder how many blokes would state they won't go halves on a hotel room lol

I don't care what the other people state or not! I am free to make my choices and speak my mind! And believe me I never been asked to pay half's!

I for one wouldn't ask you to pay but turning up with the attitude that you don't have to or shouldn't even offer would grate on me and turn me off rather sharpish.

That's is your own problem mate! As I have a freedom of speech! And I work my ass off to pay hotel rooms and I don't request people to meet up either!"

I don't follow, none of that makes sense, and I didn't say it was a problem I was just exercising my freedom of speech, whatever that's got to do with anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

I guess for me it's about establishing we're equal. I make a good living and I can buy your a drink.

I won't protest of you want to buy dinner because that's what you feel you have to do. It's your thing.

But I don't see why women expect to be paid for.

You have a vagina. You're on a date because you want his cock.

I was brought up by two fierce women.

We needed no man.

I like men but i depend on myself. It just means that when something considerate is done I am over the moon.

Get salt and vinegar on my chips because you known I love it will get more browny points than a handbag I didn't want....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

I guess for me it's about establishing we're equal. I make a good living and I can buy your a drink.

I won't protest of you want to buy dinner because that's what you feel you have to do. It's your thing.

But I don't see why women expect to be paid for.

You have a vagina. You're on a date because you want his cock.

I was brought up by two fierce women.

We needed no man.

I like men but i depend on myself. It just means that when something considerate is done I am over the moon.

Get salt and vinegar on my chips because you known I love it will get more browny points than a handbag I didn't want...."

My kind of girl, I like a girl who appreciates the little things in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't afford to splash out on a hotel room and nor would I expect a man too. I'm happerier accommodating. When i hold my socials I make sure I can pay my way although I would except a drink off a man. I've just had a guy offer to buy me a wand.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't afford to splash out on a hotel room and nor would I expect a man too. I'm happerier accommodating. When i hold my socials I make sure I can pay my way although I would except a drink off a man. I've just had a guy offer to buy me a wand.

xxx"

Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

Yes that's correct. You win

Cheers

Certificate is in the post.

Seriously though as I said I'm happy to contribute always have done but if someone doesn't then I'd just move on to the next. Fairs fair.

There you go, you've actually voiced an opinion instead of the tired Fab response of "move on to the next", which although true, would mean if people actually did that and didn't ask questions, the thread cupboard would be bare.

Oh, and make that certificate gold embossed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though. "

Lol I don't even know him. I've wanked with him a few times on kik.

I'm very flattered but I had to refuse his offer. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though. "

I bet it won't pay for half your hotel tho or remember to get lots of salt and vinegar on your chips, or kiss your sore wrist better, some things still need a mans touch x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

Lol I don't even know him. I've wanked with him a few times on kik.

I'm very flattered but I had to refuse his offer. Xxx"

Part of me thinks why not but pride says no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

Yes that's correct. You win

Cheers

Certificate is in the post.

Seriously though as I said I'm happy to contribute always have done but if someone doesn't then I'd just move on to the next. Fairs fair.

Oh, and make that certificate gold embossed."

I had already expressed that opinion further up the thread. I just didn't see the need for the thread to degenerate into the usual slanging match of petty insults. Hence my saying I didn't find it a big deal.

I'll be sure your certificate is embossed on authenticated

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

I bet it won't pay for half your hotel tho or remember to get lots of salt and vinegar on your chips, or kiss your sore wrist better, some things still need a mans touch x"

It won't do those things but it also doesn't do a lot of not so good things which aren't listed above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

I bet it won't pay for half your hotel tho or remember to get lots of salt and vinegar on your chips, or kiss your sore wrist better, some things still need a mans touch x"

Only reason I need a man is for cock n that's at a push.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

Lol I don't even know him. I've wanked with him a few times on kik.

I'm very flattered but I had to refuse his offer. Xxx

Part of me thinks why not but pride says no. "

Paranoia prob but don't want a random wank having my address plus only reason I can see is to get in my knickers. I choose who gets in my knickers money n gifts don't sway me. Xxx

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

Yes that's correct. You win

Cheers

Certificate is in the post.

Seriously though as I said I'm happy to contribute always have done but if someone doesn't then I'd just move on to the next. Fairs fair.

Oh, and make that certificate gold embossed.

I'll be sure your certificate is embossed on authenticated

You know what, on checking again you did indeed express an opinion, I'll take that particular comment back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxx

Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

Lol I don't even know him. I've wanked with him a few times on kik.

I'm very flattered but I had to refuse his offer. Xxx

Part of me thinks why not but pride says no.

Paranoia prob but don't want a random wank having my address plus only reason I can see is to get in my knickers. I choose who gets in my knickers money n gifts don't sway me. Xxx"

I like you!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm I hope people are consistent in their views on this and when it comes to positive discrimination...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

Lol I don't even know him. I've wanked with him a few times on kik.

I'm very flattered but I had to refuse his offer. Xxx

Part of me thinks why not but pride says no.

Paranoia prob but don't want a random wank having my address plus only reason I can see is to get in my knickers. I choose who gets in my knickers money n gifts don't sway me. Xxx

I like you!!!!

Thank you. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse.

Move on to the next then. Everyone has a choice. It really isn't a big deal.

Big enough a deal for you to comment though, yes?

Yes that's correct. You win

Cheers

Certificate is in the post.

Seriously though as I said I'm happy to contribute always have done but if someone doesn't then I'd just move on to the next. Fairs fair.

Oh, and make that certificate gold embossed.

I'll be sure your certificate is embossed on authenticated

You know what, on checking again you did indeed express an opinion, I'll take that particular comment back."

No problem. Appreciate that

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By *iverpoolad2000Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

"
hot pics by the way

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over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

hot pics by the way "

Cheers! X

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By *iverpoolad2000Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

hot pics by the way

Cheers! X"
no problem love the accent to by the way ,what guys do you go for ?x

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over a year ago

"I'd rather pay my way. People who expect everything because they have a vagina piss me off.

Some guy wanted to buy my drinks tonight.

I bought my own.

Simply because he's used to buying girls drinks.

He will take me out no doubt but getting to know someone it's important that we establish I'm independent and I am with you because I enjoy you.

hot pics by the way

Cheers! Xno problem love the accent to by the way ,what guys do you go for ?x"

All depends. I have a type but I'm flexible if I see something I like in a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got friends who live in million pound houses and friends that don't have 2 pence to rub together.....don't like one any more than the other.....take people as you find them and judge them on their kindness and if they can make you laugh like fuck x

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x"

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I quite agree.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

How did they know how much money you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most important thing for us in swinging is attraction ,personality and honesty don't really see where money comes in .Sounds like you had a lucky escape op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically they said, i think you are attractive but you dont have enough money so you are unattractive "

You need to stop calling the HMRC helpline, they say that to everyone.

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over a year ago

"Basically they said, i think you are attractive but you dont have enough money so you are unattractive

You need to stop calling the HMRC helpline, they say that to everyone.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

Tell 'em to do one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

It's pretty simple really lovely!

Sounds stupid - but I always used to worry about winning the lottery whilst I was single - insofar as, how will I ever know whether they love me or my money? 'Fortunately' I haven't won it yet - and I'm skint - so if anyone is daft enough to fall in love with me, at least I'll know it's just for me!

Terrific eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "

What money men does not interest me in the slightest.

Maybe she is looking for a partner

XXX

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over a year ago

"Some men are happy to pay, some women are happy to contribute or pay. No need to get insulting

And then there's the women who point blank refuse."

I point blank refuse. I don't pay for hotels,if a man can't accommodate I expect him to ignore my profile and find someone who does. If he wants to pay for a room that's up to him,but I make it absolutely clear right from the start that if we did hit it off I don't pay. Why I don't is my business; I'm not trying to get a free night in a hotel and a man. I have my own bed and plenty of men already. When I can pay for hotel rooms I'll be more than happy to pay the full amount myself; I've done it many times before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway,OP,ignore what this woman said and find someone who can pay half or who accommodates.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

I have heard a lot about this.. Some ladies on here are give us nice ladies a bad name.. Was chatting with a guy a few weeks ago who told me a lady had offered to be his sex slave for 12 months if he paid her credit card off!! WTF!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess as women alwais expects the man to pay lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh right.

she wants you to pay for everything so you're not attractive now.

she's trying to manipulate you into paying for a hotel, ignore her bullshit.

This

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By *parkle LoungeWoman
over a year ago

Cornwall

I pay my own way, I always pay half and often travel a lot further for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brad Pitt could ask me to go halves on a room and I'd have to decline. Unless I had enough in my small change jar and down the back of the sofa

She might just be really skint.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

But did she actually say you are unattractive because you wouldn't pay the bill?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess as women alwais expects the man to pay lol."

No they don't silly

I expect a man who messages me to be able to accommodate,as he's supposed to have read my profile. I have had men over at mine but I can't do that now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money doesn't maketh the man beautiful...look at Peter Beardsley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book "

The babysitting costs are your responsibility, nothing to do with any guys you meet. If you are both making use of a hotel room then you should pay half.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Yeah thanks guys, i dont understand though we were actually getting on quite well

when people want something from you, you will find that you get on well with them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No im no Bernie Ecclestone, I wish "

no don't say that he is revolting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is much of this kind of thing on fab. I have seen many profiles with requests for underwear , expecting nice hotel rooms, dining out, babysitting fees to be paid etc in exchange for sex,

I don't know whose worse really, the women who make such demands or the guys who cater to these freeloaders demands,

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

She hoped that you'd pay then leave and she could bring all her meets to the room....

Better off without her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing devils advocate here - there are times when we're all skint - man, woman or couple!

At the moment I'm skint. I don't accommodate. If a guy wants to meet me we'll meet for a drink (I can afford that). Then if we like each other we have a choice of his place if he accommodates, a club (I can afford my share of the couples fee!) or a hotel! I can't afford half of a hotel, so if he can't accommodate and is reluctant to try a club but still wants to meet - then with my current finances he'd need to pay for the hotel! I make it clear when chatting if those are my circumstances though - and also make it clear that I'd be happy with a clean, no frills hotel! I'm not on the site to use anyone - but children/household bills come before hotels! Obviously I wouldn't be offended if a guy would prefer to wait until I'm in a position to afford half the hotel bill!

Peachy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxx

Best investment I ever made! He may live to regret it though.

I bet it won't pay for half your hotel tho or remember to get lots of salt and vinegar on your chips, or kiss your sore wrist better, some things still need a mans touch x

It won't do those things but it also doesn't do a lot of not so good things which aren't listed above. "

What like, fart under the covers and force your head under or eat the last rolo without giving it to you, I'm sure no man in their right mind would ever do anything horrid to you Kittie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No im no Bernie Ecclestone, I wish

no don't say that he is revolting "

I look like the hairy love child of Shrek and uncle fester at least Bernie has got billions to keep him going haha

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

My wife says she married me because she thought

I was handsome and she thought I had lots of money so I say I only married her because she likes me to cum in her mouth I think we're made for each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Playing devils advocate here - there are times when we're all skint - man, woman or couple!

Peachy xx"

I can afford it, I'm just tight

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over a year ago

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book

The babysitting costs are your responsibility, nothing to do with any guys you meet. If you are both making use of a hotel room then you should pay half. "

Agreed. If you want to meet people and have to go to hotels then it's fair to pay half.

If you can't afford it like someone else has said then alternatives should be looked at which is reasonable but it's not right to just expect someone to pay for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Money doesn't maketh the man beautiful...look at Peter Beardsley

What would Peter Crouch be if he wasn't a footballer - a virgin. Source: himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always offer to go halves but I do like it when a man insists on paying. It's not so much the financial bonus for me I think it just makes me feel like they are a gentlemen treating me like a lady. I've paid for hotels before and the guy hasn't contributed anything. So I completely understand if guys didn't want to pay the full amount because it can leave you feeling a little resentful. I think it should come down to whoever is actually sleeping at the hotel to pay the most but if neither of you are staying then it should be 50/50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they have a coin slot in the side of the head for the money to go in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically they said, i think you are attractive but you dont have enough money so you are unattractive "

why are you discussing your finances with people on here?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

She was meaning something else.

There is no general expectation that any one person pays for a hotel. I would have expected her to do the booking etc, if she pushed for it. Her payment card would have secured the booking - if she was even that honest about meeting intentions.

Sharing hotel costs is common or if one party is going to stay in the room then they pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically they said, i think you are attractive but you dont have enough money so you are unattractive

why are you discussing your finances with people on here?

He wasn't. It was to do with a getting a hotel room.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!"

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x"

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men live on their own but prefer to pay for a hotel room. I don't mind not being invited into someone's home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

I scrub my pits and run a razor over my fanny. Job done

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

"I'd always offer to go halves but I do like it when a man insists on paying. It's not so much the financial bonus for me I think it just makes me feel like they are a gentlemen treating me like a lady. I've paid for hotels before and the guy hasn't contributed anything. So I completely understand if guys didn't want to pay the full amount because it can leave you feeling a little resentful. I think it should come down to whoever is actually sleeping at the hotel to pay the most but if neither of you are staying then it should be 50/50. "

I agree a gentleman will always treat a lady with the upmost respect its just the way we are

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Now I have to pay my sitter £80 for an overnight stay with the kids so I'd refuse to pay for halves to an hotel room when rooms generally cost less to book

The babysitting costs are your responsibility, nothing to do with any guys you meet. If you are both making use of a hotel room then you should pay half.

Agreed. If you want to meet people and have to go to hotels then it's fair to pay half.

If you can't afford it like someone else has said then alternatives should be looked at which is reasonable but it's not right to just expect someone to pay for it.

Which is why I tend to go to clubs as the alternative

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over a year ago

When I was a single guy, and when I first joined fab back in either 06 or 07 I was very lucky to meet quite a lot of people.

Not once did I ask for someone to pay half the hotel costs.I was mostly the one who initiated the meet and I like to think as a gentleman it is the way my personal code works.

Now in a full time long term (engaged) relationship, we would consider halves with another couple, or if inclined a single guy.

However if we where in a hotel for a weekend away for our enjoyment then we would pay the full cost as we are only inviting our guest/s into our room for a few hours of fun.

You wouldn't ask a guest to pay if you met them at your house now would you lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer to pay my way. Halves or even the whole thing. Even when im travelling a round trip of 600 miles.

Would never expect someone to pay for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a single guy, and when I first joined fab back in either 06 or 07 I was very lucky to meet quite a lot of people.

Not once did I ask for someone to pay half the hotel costs.I was mostly the one who initiated the meet and I like to think as a gentleman it is the way my personal code works.

Now in a full time long term (engaged) relationship, we would consider halves with another couple, or if inclined a single guy.

However if we where in a hotel for a weekend away for our enjoyment then we would pay the full cost as we are only inviting our guest/s into our room for a few hours of fun.

You wouldn't ask a guest to pay if you met them at your house now would you lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

I scrub my pits and run a razor over my fanny. Job done

I'll spend £30 on a trip to the barber, £80 for a good shirt, £40 on a manicure and £50 quid on a catsitter for the evening.

Plus I'm paying rent on a house I'm not sleeping in if I go to a hotel.

Costs us blokes money to meet too doncha know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm tight as fuck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess as women alwais expects the man to pay lol.

No they don't silly

I expect a man who messages me to be able to accommodate,as he's supposed to have read my profile. I have had men over at mine but I can't do that now. "
That is a good point and yeah as they have to read the profile of what you prefer.

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over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?"

The most basic manicure is £20 (very occasionally a bit less, often a bit more) (I don't bother with them personally as don't have the time). Hair: a cut and a tint starts from £50. Makeup: look up Boots.com. Plus lingerie, stockings (they do not last) and shoes that few women will wear outside (OK, say, not buying new each time). It does add up.

Not taking sides, just replying to a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to remember it being a popular thing for girls to get rid of blokes they didn't fancy with the saying "don't touch what you can't afford"

Or maybe that was just to me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message."

Does a person have to buy a completely new set of make up each time they meet someone?

I have my hair done every 6 weeks standard, roots done to cover grey and a trim. Costs me £15 in my aunties salon (family rates!)

As for actually meeting the guy I wear what I've got, don't own any fancy pants, underwear or stockings and I'll wear whatever the weather permits. Jeans and converse and a t shirt, leggings and flip flops and a hoody, shorts and t shirt! I don't dress up and in my 6 years of meeting guys socially of which there's probably been around 400 guys, every single one of them has wanted to meet me again (whether I do is a different story) but I don't think guys are that arsed. On sex meets I've turned up at a guys house in my slippers and a onesie, I've had guys come to me when I'm just wearing my pants and a baggy t shirt, it all comes off to fuck!

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message.

Does a person have to buy a completely new set of make up each time they meet someone?

I have my hair done every 6 weeks standard, roots done to cover grey and a trim. Costs me £15 in my aunties salon (family rates!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message.

Does a person have to buy a completely new set of make up each time they meet someone?

I have my hair done every 6 weeks standard, roots done to cover grey and a trim. Costs me £15 in my aunties salon (family rates!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message.

Does a person have to buy a completely new set of make up each time they meet someone?

I have my hair done every 6 weeks standard, roots done to cover grey and a trim. Costs me £15 in my aunties salon (family rates!)

We'll said Teabags love. I love the pants and T-shirt look, it's rather sexy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

I scrub my pits and run a razor over my fanny. Job done

I'll spend £30 on a trip to the barber, £80 for a good shirt, £40 on a manicure and £50 quid on a catsitter for the evening.

Plus I'm paying rent on a house I'm not sleeping in if I go to a hotel.

Costs us blokes money to meet too doncha know.

I think I've got a shag tomorrow night so I'm going to buy new bedlinen.

Should I ask her for half the cost?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

I scrub my pits and run a razor over my fanny. Job done

I'll spend £30 on a trip to the barber, £80 for a good shirt, £40 on a manicure and £50 quid on a catsitter for the evening.

Plus I'm paying rent on a house I'm not sleeping in if I go to a hotel.

Costs us blokes money to meet too doncha know.

I think I've got a shag tomorrow night so I'm going to buy new bedlinen.

Should I ask her for half the cost?"

Only if you're gonna use it the once and then throw it away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely despise gold diggers, if you're a decent person and there's an attraction what has money got to do with it

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message."

Surely if these things are important to a woman she would be having them done regularly. Not just when she has a meet.

I have my nails done every two weeks and my hair cut every 6-8 weeks and coloured every 3 months or so. Regardless of whether I am meeting. As for lingerie it lasts for dozens of meets.

Not a reasonable argument in my opinion.

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over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message.

Surely if these things are important to a woman she would be having them done regularly. Not just when she has a meet.

I have my nails done every two weeks and my hair cut every 6-8 weeks and coloured every 3 months or so. Regardless of whether I am meeting. As for lingerie it lasts for dozens of meets.

Not a reasonable argument in my opinion.

If a meet said "I'm a bit short this month and I'd struggle to go halves on a room" I'd say fine.

It's genuinely not a problem.

"I refuse to go halves because I've had my hair done" is a wholly different posture to my mind.

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over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

Not taking sides, just replying to a message.

Surely if these things are important to a woman she would be having them done regularly. Not just when she has a meet.

I have my nails done every two weeks and my hair cut every 6-8 weeks and coloured every 3 months or so. Regardless of whether I am meeting. As for lingerie it lasts for dozens of meets.

Not a reasonable argument in my opinion.

If a meet said "I'm a bit short this month and I'd struggle to go halves on a room" I'd say fine.

It's genuinely not a problem.

"I refuse to go halves because I've had my hair done" is a wholly different posture to my mind.

My sentiments exactly

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over a year ago

I'll share something now that will make you all think I'm acabbier than a leper. When I met a guy from my fitness forum (3rd time) I went up to London for a long weekend, I bought my train ticket and said I'd go in halves for the hotel he was like just give me 100 quid for it (the hotel for 3 nights was 600!) He bought loads of towels, hospital gowns, those hospital sheets you put on the bed, loads of medical equipment, when the time came to come home most of the stuff went in a bin bag and he went to put the towels in there that's he'd bough, I was like I'll take them home and wash them, they were Egyptian cotton and we're talking like 3 bath sheets big towels! Still have them now they came out lovely the pee and the spunk washed out!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'll share something now that will make you all think I'm acabbier than a leper. When I met a guy from my fitness forum (3rd time) I went up to London for a long weekend, I bought my train ticket and said I'd go in halves for the hotel he was like just give me 100 quid for it (the hotel for 3 nights was 600!) He bought loads of towels, hospital gowns, those hospital sheets you put on the bed, loads of medical equipment, when the time came to come home most of the stuff went in a bin bag and he went to put the towels in there that's he'd bough, I was like I'll take them home and wash them, they were Egyptian cotton and we're talking like 3 bath sheets big towels! Still have them now they came out lovely the pee and the spunk washed out! "

It's not scabby - towels are not disposable items in my world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told today that i wasnt attractive because i dont have enough money. I really dont get some people. Any views on this? "
blimy I must be dead ugly thenc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What were you meeting him for Teabags, sex or a hernia operation.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

Know what you mean.

Mrs N may and, will at times buy a new dress, new shoes, new underwear that will be worn again or possibly for the first time on a meet and makes a real effort for her meets just likes she does when we go out, it's part of the excitement of a meet. Never though would we calculate this cost which is our choice into a meet, absoluteley not, never, a bit tasteless in our opinion. We ALWAYS pay half to hotel meets as the experience is equally for both parties, wouldn't have it any other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No im no Bernie Ecclestone, I wish "

If you were he, you wouldn't be in FAB and even though you look your age and are generally ugly, you would have a beautiful lass 50 years junior on your arm.... nothing about influence of money of course!!

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over a year ago

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

Literaly WTF.......

This place boggles my mind sometimes.

Know what you mean.

I really have no problem stumping up for a hotel, dinner, drinks, whatever, perhaps I'm a bit old fashioned like that.

It's nice when a woman offers to split the tab, I don't expect, ask and I certainly don't demand it.

It's been offered before and I've politely declined.

But to flat out suggest that having your hair done and buying some new knickers means you're not going to pay a penny towards the evening is taking the piss.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?"

I don't need to spend £50 to look good

. That was a joke I probably do really,but I'm not going to or can't more to the point.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

I don't need to spend £50 to look good

. That was a joke I probably do really,but I'm not going to or can't more to the point."

true ..... you look good anyway .... think i would need £500 to make me look good .... or a face transplant ...

(ps i have no soul so cant give you mine)

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over a year ago

I am sorry to say that I don't pay half in the hotel!Isn't because I am materialistic .sorry "

I don't either. I can't pay hotel cost in any way and make it clear before I meet that this is the case

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?

I don't need to spend £50 to look good

. That was a joke I probably do really,but I'm not going to or can't more to the point.

true ..... you look good anyway .... think i would need £500 to make me look good .... or a face transplant ...

(ps i have no soul so cant give you mine)"

Ps I don't either that's why I need someone else's

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"But would you consider someone unattractive for mentioning going halves on a hotel?

No I wouldn't! But before a meeting I make sure my hair,nails ,and makeup is done!I would say I spend at least £50 to look good and I don't plan to spend more.x

£50?!! Sod that,if everytime it cost me that just to look good enough to meet I wouldn't!

I was going to mention that - what exactly is costing £50? Is she laminating herself with gold leaf or something?"

Actually thats cheap! For mr, a trip to the hairdressers plus beauty salon for manicure and pedicure would cost me about £200.

HOWEVER I don't do that everytime I meet someone. That is just usual maintenance every few weeks or so.

In between, I do my own hair etc...

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

Nice to read people's opinions on such issues and respect to those who always make an effort to contribute as its fun for both parties not one.

Although I personally won't let a lady I fancy contribute on the first night, but her asking might just mean we're in for another hotel meet just because she understands that it's a 2-way thing rather than her doing me a favour.

Not sure if it's okay to add your personal expenses (cloth, nails, make up, hair) as your own contribution because you can't be too sure what nail colour I like, hair style I fancy or even my preferred dress colour.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't think my personal costs incurred from getting ready eg hair, nails etc..are relevant because that is personal to the woman. I certainly don't think it should be taken into consideration at all.

The only situation where it might be relevant is if a man has expressed a wish for her to wear something very specific that has caused her to spend quite a bit of money to oblige him? That might be different. However I would never consider that for a first meet with anyone anyway. Different situation.

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over a year ago

"Nice to read people's opinions on such issues and respect to those who always make an effort to contribute as its fun for both parties not one.

Its not ok. Would you add in the price of petrol or your trip to the barbers? Of course not. Well I hope not lol

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Nice to read people's opinions on such issues and respect to those who always make an effort to contribute as its fun for both parties not one.

Its not ok. Would you add in the price of petrol or your trip to the barbers? Of course not. Well I hope not lol"

LOL! !!!!! This is all starting to sound like something it shouldn't be!!!!!!

I dress for myself. If and when I know a man a while and IF I like him, I MIGHT consider the 'dressing to please' routine but that is a long way down the road! I always make an effort with my appearance wherever I go and whatever I do so a FAB meet is no exception.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

If we all started calculating how much money we spend on hair and nails etc. .clothes and make up....to get ready or freeing our evening up by getting a baby sitter or the petrol or train ticket to get to the meeting place or indeed any other 'expenses' then we are heading into the world of something rather different!

Ludicrous lol!!!!

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

"Nice to read people's opinions on such issues and respect to those who always make an effort to contribute as its fun for both parties not one.

Its not ok. Would you add in the price of petrol or your trip to the barbers? Of course not. Well I hope not lol"

I think I might just lose my dignity if I added any of those lol.

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

"Nice to read people's opinions on such issues and respect to those who always make an effort to contribute as its fun for both parties not one.

Its not ok. Would you add in the price of petrol or your trip to the barbers? Of course not. Well I hope not lol

LOL! !!!!! This is all starting to sound like something it shouldn't be!!!!!!

Well said ????????

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim

But what if neither of you are sleeping at the hotel, but you are both staying there?

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over a year ago

I can understand that some single parent families can struggle to 'splash the cash' and there are so many things that can mount up cash wise for an evening out, but as long as I believe the sentiment is there.... It doesn't really bother me. I guess I'm a pretty good judge of character can gauge a person's motives.

I've come across many of 'gold diggers'.. But more so on dating sites

I've been lucky in the past on fab (left due to overseas work) (back now). I'm old fashioned.... and even though this is Fab.... I will in future, like I have always done in the past, treat a lady, like a lady. I'll open doors, pay for meals, pick up, drop off, buy flowers ect, that's just me

( obviously for the flowers- she has to be special, hahaha, sorry only joking)

I hate talking about the money side of a meet/hotel/evening out and as I said earlier... I've been lucky, the ladies I have met on here have all be exceptional, honest, open and offered to help pay... Even without mention,

Bravo ladies xx

I guess there would have to be a point where you'd have to say 'I'd love to meet up, but can't afford ......... At the moment, how about a coffee..? "

A nice little social will help you get a feel for the person your chatting to, plus it doesn't need to be sex, sex, sex... Most genuine ladies would love a social... Before you try to seduce her or get into here knickers.... Lol... Most I said

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over a year ago

Swinging is a hobby and like most hobbies it does cost money, club entry, sexy outfits not suitable for the vanilla world, an abundance of stockings etc, If golf was your hobby of choice you wouldn't expect someone else to buy your clubs or pay your golf club membership would you.

My philosophy is if you can't afford the costs involved then don't swing.

As for the having to get nails and hair done etc, then this is the women's costs to bear,

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